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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

Whether it's a social, a date, a "meet" or a gangbang.

Do you prefer to let the other person do the planning? Do you find you tend to do the planning?

Are you an excitable sort of person when it comes to having things in the diary or are you a bit more composed and cool?

What are you looking forward to in the next couple of weeks?

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By *.R.MMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

50/50 as it can come across as demanding but I like to know what I’m doing and when. That said I have nothing much on for the next few weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re in the early stages of arranging a small group of guys to join me in pleasuring Dora.

Hotels are our normal thing but because it’s a group this time we’re thinking Air BnB.

Verified and local?

Drop us a line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a planner because I love having things to look forward to.

I also have a very busy life!

Its lovely when others do that for me too though.

And really you can't beat a spontaneous road trip either x

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I usually have to do the planning because they're coming to me, and men (some, not all) seem incapable of organising anything.

Not really got anything exciting in the diary until July now.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

What could possibly have prompted this Meli?

Boing, boing, boing...

Boing

I had to delete - my phone changed one of my boings to a boring. How rude!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

6 of one, half a dozen of the other.

Usually it's pretty easy, turn up, be awesome and everything else just happens by itself.

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By *aui.Man
over a year ago

around here

It usually ends up like this..

Where do you want to meet?

It's up to you.

No, it's up to you.

I don't mind, honestly anywhere you fancy.

And so on....

We get there in the end though. Its not that I wont/can't pick somewhere. It's just generally I want them to feel comfortable and not have to travel too far out of their way. Plus I'm not to blame if the place is terrible!

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON

"Whether it's a social, a date, a "meet" or a gangbang.

Do you prefer to let the other person do the planning? Do you find you tend to do the planning?

Are you an excitable sort of person when it comes to having things in the diary or are you a bit more composed and cool?

What are you looking forward to in the next couple of weeks?"

I am composed and cool but plan at the same time and have things in a diary

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By *ayleePhoenixTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I usually have to do all the planning.

Then, often, a time waster or fantasist will let me down and I have to rearrange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm planning to tidy the garage..

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I usually end up suggesting day, time, place. Otherwise it turns into a constant round of "where do you want to meet?"

"I can meet anywhere, what works for you?"

"I can also meet anywhere, what works for you?"

"Happy to meet wherever you'd like"

"I'm also happy to meet wherever *you'd* like"

It takes so long to actually figure out where to meet I end up getting irritated and don't then really want to meet up anyway.

There are exceptions and when that happens it's wonderful, but for the most part I end up making the decisions and sorting any arrangements that need to be made.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"50/50 as it can come across as demanding but I like to know what I’m doing and when. That said I have nothing much on for the next few weeks

Yeah, navigating that fine line between appearing demanding and liking to plan can be a tricky one. You should do something in the next few weeks! Or someone.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I need them to fit into my busy life, so I plan and invite for adventures, plus I like being in control

Saying that actually, I did let one plan a London adventure for me

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"We’re in the early stages of arranging a small group of guys to join me in pleasuring Dora.

Hotels are our normal thing but because it’s a group this time we’re thinking Air BnB.

Verified and local?

Drop us a line. "

Oh I hope it goes well for you! I'm sure it will. x

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I'm a bit useless at planning to be honest and tend to go with what others suggest.

I do get excited but also not as I always have in the back of my mind it may get cancelled and I don't want to feel disappointed.

I shall be at MLS this weekend but if I can't sit down or walk properly just pretend you don't notice

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"I'm a bit useless at planning to be honest and tend to go with what others suggest.

I do get excited but also not as I always have in the back of my mind it may get cancelled and I don't want to feel disappointed.

I shall be at MLS this weekend but if I can't sit down or walk properly just pretend you don't notice

This is so exciting!

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Yes. I like “take charge but not in an overbearing way” types.

I don’t go out much to restaurants etc so don’t know that many places to go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like suprises, so if someone does the planning, great.

I also like to plan, because I like a bit of control.

Looking forward the the Lounge Social MLS on Saturday, that will be awesome.

Also getting a little excited about a weekend coming up…could be something..could be something else! Which in itself is something to look forward to, the not knowing and the anticipation.

I plan on having a good time, it’s the best I’ve got.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I'm a planner because I love having things to look forward to.

I also have a very busy life!

Its lovely when others do that for me too though.

And really you can't beat a spontaneous road trip either x"

Hard same. Things to look forward to are wonderful aren't they?

I find myself boinging about and trying really hard to not talk about stuff.

It is lovely when others take the time - I'm very much the planner and when someone makes that effort to plan things (it doesn't happen oft) it means a lot.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

"I'm a bit useless at planning to be honest and tend to go with what others suggest.

I do get excited but also not as I always have in the back of my mind it may get cancelled and I don't want to feel disappointed.

I shall be at MLS this weekend but if I can't sit down or walk properly just pretend you don't notice

This is so exciting!

Isn't it

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I usually have to do the planning because they're coming to me, and men (some, not all) seem incapable of organising anything.

Not really got anything exciting in the diary until July now. "

Eurgh. I'm sorry men can be incapable of organising anything with you. It's nice when someone plans isn't it?

I hope July is a brilliant time for you!

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"What could possibly have prompted this Meli?

Boing, boing, boing...

Boing

I had to delete - my phone changed one of my boings to a boring. How rude! "

Boing boing boing Julie! Watch me boing everywhere. Are you excited? Do you love planning?

What prompted this thread? A myriad of things. This weekend. A dear friend and possibly seeing him (providing he's not a plonker

). A date with a lovely person who is... deviant in the very best of ways. A potential threesome. A club visit potentially - somewhere I've wanted to go for a long time with someone I've been talking to for years. Lots of things. This morning I've had a few messages asking about things, suggesting and...

I'm just boinging around currently, hoping there's not a crash soon.

But two sleeps! Yaaaay!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"We’re in the early stages of arranging a small group of guys to join me in pleasuring Dora.

Hotels are our normal thing but because it’s a group this time we’re thinking Air BnB.

Verified and local?

Drop us a line. "

I’m definitely verified, but I’ve work to do on the ‘local’ part…..

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"6 of one, half a dozen of the other.

Usually it's pretty easy, turn up, be awesome and everything else just happens by itself.

Love this energy Dennis.

Yeah, I guess when you naturally have a high level of brilliance things easily fall into place don't they? You don't have to think too much because that sheer brilliance sees you through and people are in awe of your presence.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Whether it's a social, a date, a "meet" or a gangbang.

Do you prefer to let the other person do the planning? Do you find you tend to do the planning?

Are you an excitable sort of person when it comes to having things in the diary or are you a bit more composed and cool?

What are you looking forward to in the next couple of weeks?"

I’m never pushy to arrange meets, but I will let the other person/couple know I am keen to do so. After that, it’s a case of aligning diaries, so it’s a 50/50 deal in reality?

I have my first ever bj-only meet lined up very soon, so I’m looking forward to that, then meeting my hotwife couple again in a couple of weeks…..

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I'm a bit useless at planning to be honest and tend to go with what others suggest.

I do get excited but also not as I always have in the back of my mind it may get cancelled and I don't want to feel disappointed.

I shall be at MLS this weekend but if I can't sit down or walk properly just pretend you don't notice

I can't say I will do that. I will tease you a lot.

I have everything crossed you're doing a proper John Wayne walk - looking forward to seeing your adorable face again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally let them plan it as I'm quite flexible and happy to work around them. As far as what I'm looking forward to, this Saturday should be a good time as there's a group social and someone I'm looking forward to seeing at the same time

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

I'm pretty lucky as I get to chat to all you lovely people and the Mr takes care of all the planning.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"What could possibly have prompted this Meli?

Boing, boing, boing...

Boing

I had to delete - my phone changed one of my boings to a boring. How rude!

Boing boing boing Julie! Watch me boing everywhere. Are you excited? Do you love planning?

What prompted this thread? A myriad of things. This weekend. A dear friend and possibly seeing him (providing he's not a plonker

I'm just boinging around currently, hoping there's not a crash soon.

But two sleeps! Yaaaay!"

I've not answered your question. If anything I get so caught up in planning and anticipation that the reality disappoints. So I actually try not to Tigger too much even though I enjoy it.

We've not actually arranged a meet through Fab yet - it's been spontaneous fun at clubs. It's part of the reason I'm looking forward to Saturday - to see if we click with anyone in person.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I hate planning and responsibilities. I hate having to worry about things going wrong and making contingencies and that horrendous overthinking I do that mean I can't actually look forward and enjoy something, just stress about all the ways I could fail to make it happen.

Luckily certain of my favourite people are happy to take care of that side of things

Um, I apparently have a lot coming up, the social, Play Club, Placebo gig and Townhouse are all in the next 10 days.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Planning? What is this planning thing?

No, I've had parts of my life where I was forced to become the responsible one. It was generally like trying to herd cats, and then I'd pick up all the flack when things went tits up. Now that I'm basically on my own, I just don't want the aggravation of having to organise anyone else, I'd rather not even organise myself. One reason why I don't want to fly anywhere any more; if I want to travel I'm happy to jump in the car and drive to the opposite end of the country, but I do it on my terms, my schedule.

If there was anybody that would make plans that included myself, I'd probably welcome the chance to just follow along for a few days at least, but I'm done with the days of having to be the adult in the room. Polly xxx

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"It usually ends up like this..

Where do you want to meet?

It's up to you.

No, it's up to you.

I don't mind, honestly anywhere you fancy.

And so on....

Oh I hate those sorts of conversations, I think I'm a bit sensitive and tend to think they're not that keen. It's normally when I step in and say okay, let's do this, then.

But it's a good idea to make sure the person is comfortable with wherever they're going.

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