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Novelty / Familiarity

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does your prefer the novelty effect that a new sexual partner can provide ?

Do your sexual desire and arousal increase with a new partner or do you prefer the familiarity with all it entails that a regular partner can provide ?

Both can be compatible, it is not one way or the other. I was just wondering where people position themselves on that spectrum.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Familiarity but the first time with someone is exciting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Familiarity enjoys breeding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone enjoys NRE (new relationship energy) but the deeper pleasures come from knowing a person and delving into each other.

Whether we realise it or not, NRE is one of the reasons we all do this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone enjoys NRE (new relationship energy) but the deeper pleasures come from knowing a person and delving into each other.

Whether we realise it or not, NRE is one of the reasons we all do this."

Totally agree.

By this, you mean swinging ?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Familiarity sounds rather dreary a term when applied to a person doesn't it?

I love those butterflies I experience when I'm meeting someone new. That stage of excitedly talking and discovering new things, the voicenotes of waffle and joy. That rush of the first kiss, the way someone's body, their responses is oh so very new to me. It's very much new relationship energy and I'm here for that. Slightly addicted to NRE to be honest.

Equally, I love the deeper bonds that come about in time. The ability to relax and enjoy intimacy, learning new things, exploring kinks and desires that I've not had a chance to or have been inspired by the other person.

I'd say I lean more towards to knowing someone, a deeper relationship. I do love the rush of NRE though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone enjoys NRE (new relationship energy) but the deeper pleasures come from knowing a person and delving into each other.

Whether we realise it or not, NRE is one of the reasons we all do this.

Totally agree.

By this, you mean swinging ? "

Swinging is one way of putting it. Personally I don't class myself as a swinger as it feels like such an old outdated term these days. But essentially, yes - recreational sex, poly, open, whatever you want to call it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Familiarity sounds rather dreary a term when applied to a person doesn't it?

I love those butterflies I experience when I'm meeting someone new. That stage of excitedly talking and discovering new things, the voicenotes of waffle and joy. That rush of the first kiss, the way someone's body, their responses is oh so very new to me. It's very much new relationship energy and I'm here for that. Slightly addicted to NRE to be honest.

Equally, I love the deeper bonds that come about in time. The ability to relax and enjoy intimacy, learning new things, exploring kinks and desires that I've not had a chance to or have been inspired by the other person.

I'd say I lean more towards to knowing someone, a deeper relationship. I do love the rush of NRE though."

Would regularity fits better in that context ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone enjoys NRE (new relationship energy) but the deeper pleasures come from knowing a person and delving into each other.

Whether we realise it or not, NRE is one of the reasons we all do this.

Totally agree.

By this, you mean swinging ?

Swinging is one way of putting it. Personally I don't class myself as a swinger as it feels like such an old outdated term these days. But essentially, yes - recreational sex, poly, open, whatever you want to call it "

Adding that to your private notes mister

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone enjoys NRE (new relationship energy) but the deeper pleasures come from knowing a person and delving into each other.

Whether we realise it or not, NRE is one of the reasons we all do this.

Totally agree.

By this, you mean swinging ?

Swinging is one way of putting it. Personally I don't class myself as a swinger as it feels like such an old outdated term these days. But essentially, yes - recreational sex, poly, open, whatever you want to call it

Adding that to your private notes mister "

Just how long are my private notes now?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone enjoys NRE (new relationship energy) but the deeper pleasures come from knowing a person and delving into each other.

Whether we realise it or not, NRE is one of the reasons we all do this.

Totally agree.

By this, you mean swinging ?

Swinging is one way of putting it. Personally I don't class myself as a swinger as it feels like such an old outdated term these days. But essentially, yes - recreational sex, poly, open, whatever you want to call it

Adding that to your private notes mister

Just how long are my private notes now?! "

As long as your cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve only ever had sex with someone I’ve had sex with before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i only ever really meet new people, rather than agree to repeat meets.

i enjoy that far more, the heightened energy and atmosphere, sparks flying, insane sexual tension... just does it for me.

Px

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone enjoys NRE (new relationship energy) but the deeper pleasures come from knowing a person and delving into each other.

Whether we realise it or not, NRE is one of the reasons we all do this.

Totally agree.

By this, you mean swinging ?

Swinging is one way of putting it. Personally I don't class myself as a swinger as it feels like such an old outdated term these days. But essentially, yes - recreational sex, poly, open, whatever you want to call it

Adding that to your private notes mister

Just how long are my private notes now?!

As long as your cock "

You can see it from there?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone enjoys NRE (new relationship energy) but the deeper pleasures come from knowing a person and delving into each other.

Whether we realise it or not, NRE is one of the reasons we all do this.

Totally agree.

By this, you mean swinging ?

Swinging is one way of putting it. Personally I don't class myself as a swinger as it feels like such an old outdated term these days. But essentially, yes - recreational sex, poly, open, whatever you want to call it

Adding that to your private notes mister

Just how long are my private notes now?!

As long as your cock

You can see it from there?!"

You’ve sent me a picture the other day, haven’t you ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone enjoys NRE (new relationship energy) but the deeper pleasures come from knowing a person and delving into each other.

Whether we realise it or not, NRE is one of the reasons we all do this.

Totally agree.

By this, you mean swinging ?

Swinging is one way of putting it. Personally I don't class myself as a swinger as it feels like such an old outdated term these days. But essentially, yes - recreational sex, poly, open, whatever you want to call it

Adding that to your private notes mister

Just how long are my private notes now?!

As long as your cock

You can see it from there?!

You’ve sent me a picture the other day, haven’t you ? "

Yuh, I was just teasing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone enjoys NRE (new relationship energy) but the deeper pleasures come from knowing a person and delving into each other.

Whether we realise it or not, NRE is one of the reasons we all do this.

Totally agree.

By this, you mean swinging ?

Swinging is one way of putting it. Personally I don't class myself as a swinger as it feels like such an old outdated term these days. But essentially, yes - recreational sex, poly, open, whatever you want to call it

Adding that to your private notes mister

Just how long are my private notes now?!

As long as your cock

You can see it from there?!

You’ve sent me a picture the other day, haven’t you ?

Yuh, I was just teasing "

It was a rather long tease

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

No I like the known factor more, disappointment amd sexually incompatibility is a big chance with newbies, but known repeats are just right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone enjoys NRE (new relationship energy) but the deeper pleasures come from knowing a person and delving into each other.

Whether we realise it or not, NRE is one of the reasons we all do this.

Totally agree.

By this, you mean swinging ?

Swinging is one way of putting it. Personally I don't class myself as a swinger as it feels like such an old outdated term these days. But essentially, yes - recreational sex, poly, open, whatever you want to call it

Adding that to your private notes mister

Just how long are my private notes now?!

As long as your cock

You can see it from there?!

You’ve sent me a picture the other day, haven’t you ?

Yuh, I was just teasing

It was a rather long tease "

What's a girl to do...

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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It a heady experience, the first meet, that exciting build but I adore the familiarity as you grow to know someone better and mutually discover each others wants and needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like familiarity. The more you know someone the more comfortable you become around them, you can really let yourself relax.

The thrill of meeting someone new is so exciting. All the build up to towards actually meeting them, the sexual tension and finding out things about them, The first kiss is just an unmatched feeling!.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Familiarity sounds rather dreary a term when applied to a person doesn't it?

I love those butterflies I experience when I'm meeting someone new. That stage of excitedly talking and discovering new things, the voicenotes of waffle and joy. That rush of the first kiss, the way someone's body, their responses is oh so very new to me. It's very much new relationship energy and I'm here for that. Slightly addicted to NRE to be honest.

Equally, I love the deeper bonds that come about in time. The ability to relax and enjoy intimacy, learning new things, exploring kinks and desires that I've not had a chance to or have been inspired by the other person.

I'd say I lean more towards to knowing someone, a deeper relationship. I do love the rush of NRE though.

Would regularity fits better in that context ? "

I think so. Possibly. Regular could mean that you see them a few times a year though! It's quite nuanced and hard to explain.

I just know familiarity is in the same category as the word meet for me.

If either was used by a lover or partner I'd probably leave Fab.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"Does your prefer the novelty effect that a new sexual partner can provide ?

Do your sexual desire and arousal increase with a new partner or do you prefer the familiarity with all it entails that a regular partner can provide ?

Both can be compatible, it is not one way or the other. I was just wondering where people position themselves on that spectrum. "

Had fwbs for 7yrs and 4.5yrs and a few others for a decent amount of time - for the most we were shagging both inventively and enthusiastically every time we saw each other.

New people are just that, new people. You meet as you have interest in each other, with luck there's a spark whether you return or not

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Novelty, my ADHD brain likes the excitement of new and it enhances the whole experience a lot. Familiar can end up feeling very routine and I just completely lose interest.

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