FabSwingers.com forum: Dating apps

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I'm back onto the dating apps again,what ones do you use and are they still the same as years gone by or have they changed ?!?

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

I miss the days of going out on the piss with your mates and striking lucky! Or unlucky. Depending on your perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're all shit these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I checked Badoo a couple of months a ago. I havent been on there since 2019 and i was amazed to see all the same faces

That got me wondering why?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah totally, people over here find it hard to even say hello in the street these days,how the frig are ya going try and chat someone up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They're all shit these days"

Hmmm back to the drawing board then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tinder and hinge are reliable. Feeld is best though for people on fab I expect

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I checked Badoo a couple of months a ago. I havent been on there since 2019 and i was amazed to see all the same faces

That got me wondering why?"

They are strange to say the least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're all rubbish, although it entirely depends where you live. In Norfolk they're awful because the people round here are not my kind of people.

It seems that the balance between exercise/eating is all off kilter. If you know what I mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few nice dates via Feeld

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a few nice dates via Feeld "

Same here, Feeld is much better than Fab. That said, Feeld isn't really a dating app - it's more of a hook up app in truth.

I'd say things like Tinder, Bumble & Hinge are dating apps. Feeld is very much catering for sex/kink.

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By *rooperRedMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

Can't get anywhere with Feeld without paying. It goes on distance so once you hit London you're sat swiping through a bazillion profiles.

Other than, it's about as effective as here... "You rich?X -"No." -"Then piss off."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't get anywhere with Feeld without paying. It goes on distance so once you hit London you're sat swiping through a bazillion profiles.

Other than, it's about as effective as here... "You rich?X -"No." -"Then piss off.""

I disagree - although you have hit on another important point. If you're using any of these apps free, you'll get nowhere.

If you want something good out of them, you have to pay. I 100% assure you Feeld is great if you pay for it.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"I miss the days of going out on the piss with your mates and striking lucky! Or unlucky. Depending on your perspective.

That's what organised fab socials are for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a few nice dates via Feeld

Same here, Feeld is much better than Fab. That said, Feeld isn't really a dating app - it's more of a hook up app in truth.

I'd say things like Tinder, Bumble & Hinge are dating apps. Feeld is very much catering for sex/kink."

I'd agree with that to be honest. But as with everything depends on what you're looking for. I can at least get women to speak to me on Feeld though... I've as much luck with that on Fab, as most of the guys from what I've read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a few nice dates via Feeld

Same here, Feeld is much better than Fab. That said, Feeld isn't really a dating app - it's more of a hook up app in truth.

I'd say things like Tinder, Bumble & Hinge are dating apps. Feeld is very much catering for sex/kink.

Yeah, but even Feeld is changing. When I was first on it a few years ago when it came out, it was much better. It's slowly being picked up by the willy wavers, time wasters, and bullshitters.

Give it time and it'll be ruined like Fab has been.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm back on the apps, but getting zero luck. Match, chat really great for a day then radio silence. Haven't been on a date in years!

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Tinder and hinge are reliable. Feeld is best though for people on fab I expect"

I have t tried Feeld but Tinder and Bumble work great for me. Tinder you mostly do the work, Bumble the women do the chasing so you get a different experience depending on how much effort you want to put in.

Overall I get more sex, dates & interest on Tinder & here still but on bumble it’s a very high hit rate, no time wasting

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I've had a few nice dates via Feeld

Same here, Feeld is much better than Fab. That said, Feeld isn't really a dating app - it's more of a hook up app in truth.

I'd say things like Tinder, Bumble & Hinge are dating apps. Feeld is very much catering for sex/kink."

I think it’s more based on what you put in your profile and the initial conversations. I wouldn’t generalise at all by app , same as fab, all kinds of people looking for all kinds of things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a few nice dates via Feeld

Same here, Feeld is much better than Fab. That said, Feeld isn't really a dating app - it's more of a hook up app in truth.

I'd say things like Tinder, Bumble & Hinge are dating apps. Feeld is very much catering for sex/kink.

I think it’s more based on what you put in your profile and the initial conversations. I wouldn’t generalise at all by app , same as fab, all kinds of people looking for all kinds of things "

Feeld was/is/has been designed for people into kink/poly. It was never meant to be a dating app like Tinder.

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By *rooperRedMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

I honestly gave up on them, and dating in general. Went on a pile of dates before I realised that I'm not what people want. I'm quite unconventional in my hobbies, and after a few years of struggling financially I'm renting. Women don't want that when they can get the guy with the house and the travel and nice car. At my age it's all about what you can provide. This place is much the same, there's always better. So I manage on my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a few nice dates via Feeld

Same here, Feeld is much better than Fab. That said, Feeld isn't really a dating app - it's more of a hook up app in truth.

I'd say things like Tinder, Bumble & Hinge are dating apps. Feeld is very much catering for sex/kink.

I think it’s more based on what you put in your profile and the initial conversations. I wouldn’t generalise at all by app , same as fab, all kinds of people looking for all kinds of things

Feeld was/is/has been designed for people into kink/poly. It was never meant to be a dating app like Tinder."

But those apps are trying to keep interest from the growing ENM/ poly community by introducing the option to add that you’re non monogamous- a useless feature because it doesn’t let you filter out monogamous people.

Tbf even on feeld I wish there was a feature where I could filter monogamous people out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a few nice dates via Feeld

Same here, Feeld is much better than Fab. That said, Feeld isn't really a dating app - it's more of a hook up app in truth.

I'd say things like Tinder, Bumble & Hinge are dating apps. Feeld is very much catering for sex/kink.

I think it’s more based on what you put in your profile and the initial conversations. I wouldn’t generalise at all by app , same as fab, all kinds of people looking for all kinds of things

Feeld was/is/has been designed for people into kink/poly. It was never meant to be a dating app like Tinder.

Tbf even on feeld I wish there was a feature where I could filter monogamous people out. "

I've not seen a single profile on Feeld from anyone who was monogamous, and I've been using it for about 4 years.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Pof is much same as here x

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By *rooperRedMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

Funny Feeld should get a mention... I did actually manage to get in touch with someone on there. And it was going good. Both quite busy at the weekend so just a few messages here and there, and a longer chat on Sunday night. Was going really well I thought. Being a bit cynical about the whole dating thing I thought that maybe this had a chance. I've had a lot of bad experiences with it over the last few years, and really have come to conclusion that I'll never be "good enough" for anyone. There's always better. But this one I really thought maybe.

Woke up this morning and she'd "disconnected". Oops, here comes reality. Catch yourself on, there's always better...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m on Bumble and Hinge, honestly though I’ve had more socials on here than dates from those two combined, I’m still trying though, I’m very trying

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I’m also on Bumble and Hinge, I match with someone send the first message and I’m yet to have a reply back

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By *akedMMan
over a year ago

Witney

I have just joined Bumble, tried match for six months not one date

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By *ackdaw52Man
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Bumble and Tinder.

Little success with either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tinder has worked well for me in the past and I had a 6 year relationship from there so it can work but it can be a bit of a mad house with fake ages and decades old pictures.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"So I'm back onto the dating apps again,what ones do you use and are they still the same as years gone by or have they changed ?!?"

Now why would you do that to yourself? Lol!

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"I miss the days of going out on the piss with your mates and striking lucky! Or unlucky. Depending on your perspective.

I still do that....in a swingers club. Lol! Much easier..and I don't have to worry about getting banned for doing naughty things in the pub toilet next door.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m also on Bumble and Hinge, I match with someone send the first message and I’m yet to have a reply back "
please say it's more than just "hi, how's your day?"

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"Funny Feeld should get a mention... I did actually manage to get in touch with someone on there. And it was going good. Both quite busy at the weekend so just a few messages here and there, and a longer chat on Sunday night. Was going really well I thought. Being a bit cynical about the whole dating thing I thought that maybe this had a chance. I've had a lot of bad experiences with it over the last few years, and really have come to conclusion that I'll never be "good enough" for anyone. There's always better. But this one I really thought maybe.

Woke up this morning and she'd "disconnected". Oops, here comes reality. Catch yourself on, there's always better..."

Bloody hell mate what does "good enough" mean.

Yeah f. that.

I'm me. I come with good points and bad points. I work too hard on my relationships because I care too much. If people don't want to compromise, work together, communicate effectively, take expert advice, cooperate and commit, it's not my fault. It's a reflection on their own personal development..or lack thereof. I was married before and I went to numerous couples counselling and couples therapy session with my ex. Somehow he managed to lie, manipulate and keep secrets from the therapists ( we had a female one and then a male one). That's when I considered that he had serious dysfunctional thinking as well as behaviour and then he physically assaulted me and that was the end of that. He ignored everyone's advice and ending up being arrested and carted off to jail by the police. The neighbours called the cops. I'm not a saint but I would call the cops on myself before I ended up in such a downward spiral and I definitely listen to my doctors.

You are probably fine as you are unless you have some maladaptive, unhealthy, dysfunctional tendencies. In that case, I say see a professional. I see a professional for my unhealthy, dysfunctional, maladaptive traits to keep them in check. It's not the job of anyone else but me and the clinical staff. Not even my partner.

I never understood where this "always better" "not good enough" stuff comes from ( apart from maybe unresolved trauma). I always focus on the person I'm with...even in swinging...I'm not always looking for the"better" sex partner. All of my sex partners/playmates are unique and special in their own way and that's why I like them. The one thing they all have in common is that they are all gentlemen and they make me feel safe and secure. I definitely do not compare them on who is better at something or physical attributes.

I dunno if it's a special male trait or if everything is a competition for some people so they are always looking for the next best thing. The grass is green where you water it. The world would be a better place if people spent more time watering their own grass than looking over the fence at their neighbours' grass.

Don't get me started on social media comparison. I've sat in a mental health group with young people who never knew what life was like before Instagram etc. and now they can't switch off and it's ruining their mental health....amongst other things natural stressors in life.

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

"I’m also on Bumble and Hinge, I match with someone send the first message and I’m yet to have a reply back please say it's more than just "hi, how's your day?""

Deffo not that, usually something humorous or take something from their profile…. But like here really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a few nice dates via Feeld

Same here, Feeld is much better than Fab. That said, Feeld isn't really a dating app - it's more of a hook up app in truth.

I'd say things like Tinder, Bumble & Hinge are dating apps. Feeld is very much catering for sex/kink.

I think it’s more based on what you put in your profile and the initial conversations. I wouldn’t generalise at all by app , same as fab, all kinds of people looking for all kinds of things

Feeld was/is/has been designed for people into kink/poly. It was never meant to be a dating app like Tinder.

Tbf even on feeld I wish there was a feature where I could filter monogamous people out.

I've not seen a single profile on Feeld from anyone who was monogamous, and I've been using it for about 4 years."

I’ve seen plenty - and others that are harder to tell say they’re just looking for fwbs but when asked they’re monogamous just looking for a casual situation.

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