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"So when you start chatting to someone new, when do you know when theres no chemisty or its not clicking or even they are just gonna waste your time? For me within 2 to 3 messages and i can sus if im into them or not or even if they arent feeling me." same within a couple of messages mostly . if meeting at as social I generally know within the first 1minute if its going to be a waste of time ultimately . you just vibe almost instantly with the right people | |||
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"Just before the first message…" Theres always one, congrats on it being you. | |||
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"Very quickly. If the messages are generic or plunge straight into filth I am outta there. " Yesss generic messages are the worst! Wha is tha about | |||
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"Just before the first message… Theres always one, congrats on it being you. " Why always me? | |||
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"I find the messages flow really well. then it kinda fizzles out. If I like the person I'll send a follow up message in a few days to see how they are but if nothing I leave them alone" Tha is a respectful way of doing things | |||
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"When they keep giving me dead one sentence replies I’m out" I thought that’s how people communicated here. It’s all I get, even when someone initiates contact. | |||
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"When they keep giving me dead one sentence replies I’m out I thought that’s how people communicated here. It’s all I get, even when someone initiates contact. " One sentence replies are clear signifiers of no interest to me. | |||
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"When they keep giving me dead one sentence replies I’m out I thought that’s how people communicated here. It’s all I get, even when someone initiates contact. One sentence replies are clear signifiers of no interest to me. " As you would expect, but it seems to be the pattern that I get a message or a wink then it goes all monosyllabic on their side | |||
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"I never really know until I've met someone in person, got on great with people online, but it's been a massive no in real life, and vice versa." Also this. I stand by the view that nothing counts or is real until you are sat opposite each other over coffee. And even then, thats only slightly more tangible. Things can still go off the boil at the next stage. | |||
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"Just before the first message…" I'm the same. If they reply I'm shocked | |||
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"So when you start chatting to someone new, when do you know when theres no chemisty or its not clicking or even they are just gonna waste your time? For me within 2 to 3 messages and i can sus if im into them or not or even if they arent feeling me." If there’s never going to be chemistry between us I know immediately. There will be something about their profile or messages that puts me off (or vice versa). Otherwise it usually takes me a while to work someone out and establish whether we’re ever going to meet. And then it can go either way - socials are an opportunity to discover someone’s true personality. On meeting someone, I know immediately whether or not I fancy them. But they can still be boring as hell! | |||
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"Usually pretty quickly, some faster than others, it’s just whenever they objectify rather then speak like I’m as human as they are, when it all becomes sex and innuendo and stops being any kind of actual conversation I get it, this is a swinger site but it’s a human swinger site, humans, not holes to poke " Totally agree. I get we are here to swing and ideally have sex but minute I feel like I am just a pussy and some tits then I lose interest. And especially when people are pushing to meet in first few messages. | |||
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"So when you start chatting to someone new, when do you know when theres no chemisty or its not clicking or even they are just gonna waste your time? For me within 2 to 3 messages and i can sus if im into them or not or even if they arent feeling me." How can you tell?? What are the tell ,tell signs? Or wording? | |||
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"Just before the first message… I'm the same. If they reply I'm shocked " I become flustered and lose all frail of thoughts….it’s like being on the receiving end of a miracle | |||
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"When they keep giving me dead one sentence replies I’m out I thought that’s how people communicated here. It’s all I get, even when someone initiates contact. " Lol about to say just that. Its a total minefield. Tbh | |||
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"When they treat you more like a confessional/pillow to cry on/boost of the day, than an object of desire. T" thought object of desire. Was just cattle meat!! I messaged one on here. I asked what do you bring to the table? Me!! Followed by a X. I then replyed is that all. WTF. | |||
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"I never really know until I've met someone in person, got on great with people online, but it's been a massive no in real life, and vice versa. Also this. I stand by the view that nothing counts or is real until you are sat opposite each other over coffee. And even then, thats only slightly more tangible. Things can still go off the boil at the next stage." 110% online is a fantasy show. | |||
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"Usually pretty quickly, some faster than others, it’s just whenever they objectify rather then speak like I’m as human as they are, when it all becomes sex and innuendo and stops being any kind of actual conversation I get it, this is a swinger site but it’s a human swinger site, humans, not holes to poke Totally agree. I get we are here to swing and ideally have sex but minute I feel like I am just a pussy and some tits then I lose interest. And especially when people are pushing to meet in first few messages. " Absolutely! Their rush is a great filter for me | |||
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"Usually pretty quickly, some faster than others, it’s just whenever they objectify rather then speak like I’m as human as they are, when it all becomes sex and innuendo and stops being any kind of actual conversation I get it, this is a swinger site but it’s a human swinger site, humans, not holes to poke " | |||
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"When they treat you more like a confessional/pillow to cry on/boost of the day, than an object of desire. T thought object of desire. Was just cattle meat!! I messaged one on here. I asked what do you bring to the table? Me!! Followed by a X. I then replyed is that all. WTF. " I think th reply to your "what do you bring to the table?" was pretty funny. I would definitely have carried on the banter after that. | |||
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"When they treat you more like a confessional/pillow to cry on/boost of the day, than an object of desire. T thought object of desire. Was just cattle meat!! I messaged one on here. I asked what do you bring to the table? Me!! Followed by a X. I then replyed is that all. WTF. I think th reply to your "what do you bring to the table?" was pretty funny. I would definitely have carried on the banter after that. " Have you had that, ?? | |||
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"Pretty much from the first message or reply. If the profile is basic, dick pics and/or message is just basic, then it’s not going to go anywhere. One word replies, not asking questions to carry on conversations are like pulling teeth. When the conversation flows, answers are thought through and the level stays high, that’s when it’s exciting… A good conversation is seemingly a dying art…so when it happens, it’s fantastic. K" Its dead and buried in my opnion! We had to have game gift of the gab flow and style with words,flirt or your " dry or lame " Like if you could not dance! My thoughts and opinion anyway. | |||
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