FabSwingers.com forum: Missing people

By *ixed Mister OP Man
over a year ago

London

I'm a sucker for missing things about certain people, and also a stubborn fucker for not wanting to admit it and making contact. So this thread is all about sending that person you miss the most a message to say hi in the hope you can reconnect. Take the plunge, what's the worse that cab happen!!??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably just a bad idea… well has been in my experience but support the fuck it just do it message haha

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

I can't allow myself to miss someone thats gone, thats in the past

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By *oungAtHeartCurvyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I'm a sucker for missing things about certain people, and also a stubborn fucker for not wanting to admit it and making contact. So this thread is all about sending that person you miss the most a message to say hi in the hope you can reconnect. Take the plunge, what's the worse that cab happen!!??"

There must be a reason they are not in your life regarding how much you miss them they couldn't have been that important in the first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In here or from here, every time just another girl/elf/raven (*or whatever name she decides on) leaves, I know I’ll drop my shoulders a bit, so I know I miss her. Never make it to her friends list though…. Pft. I think I need to grow a few inches…

Funny how people can make an impact on you just from knowing their online presence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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There must be a reason they are not in your life regarding how much you miss them they couldn't have been that important in the first place "

Yes but also no.

That’s why you miss them, there’s that bit inside you that won’t let go. You want to see them again and do all the things you did in the past…. They just do t think the same as you. They are happy with it all in the past.

Of course you can miss someone that doesn’t miss you.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

If they are important Ill have stated in touch. Relationships / Friendships take effort, if you’re gonna do this do it quickly, say sorry and promise not to be crap again. Otherwise let them go.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I haven't had any contact with my brother for over six years but I'm meeting him today for the sake of my mum.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

I’ve tried going back and it doesn’t work for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't wait until someone is out of your life to tell them what they mean to you.

I try really hard to live by that.

However I do think it's a lovely idea OP.

Sadly I get the occasional "miss you" massage from someone who really doesn't, he just tries it to reel me back in and hurt me.

So if you're doing it, be genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He'll yell at me, abuse me and gaslight me again. Lol.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

I really miss someone... but he's moved on ...so....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No don't wait and live your life with regret...clean sheet, start again, just tell them how much they mean to you

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I only miss my family that are no longer with me.

Relationships? Well if they work you stick together, and if they don’t it ends. That’s just how it is.

But the permanence of taking away those you love and weren’t quite ready to lose, no matter their age, well that sticks with you forever really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't had any contact with my brother for over six years but I'm meeting him today for the sake of my mum. "

I've not spoken to one of my sisters for year's, she doesn't want to know, it's hard when it's family,

I hope things go OK for you and maybe you can put the past behind you, good luck and big hugs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The more time passes, the harder it is to reach out. But for me letting go is an art. I think time often prompts us to forget the reasons why some people aren't in our life anymore, softens the rock of hurt or indifference and let us focus on the good bits we had together. It's good to put it on a little scale in our beads and decide whether reason we are apart is more important than what we miss. And you can still miss someone and know that they are okay and but give them respectful distance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*heads not beads

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I feel it takes two to keep in touch but I’m quite good at keeping in touch with those that reciprocate and that I enjoy interacting with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here I don't think it's ever a good thing to try to reconnect. There's normally a reason why you're no longer in touch, I've been there a couple of times and found that you end up back where you are and probably feeling a bit worse about it. Let sleeping dogs lie is my advice. Having said that I'm currently tempted to get my fingers burnt for a third time... so I may not follow my own advice

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I think it's fine to miss people, the times you shared together and the relationship (whatever meaning of that word) you had.

I also think the majority of the time you just leave it at that. If people really want to be in your life, they'll make an effort to. It's enough to know they're happy, from a distance.

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By *ixed Mister OP Man
over a year ago

London

Is it bad that I don't even remember creating this?

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By *ixieAndHerKingCouple
over a year ago

Debauchery

There's an awful lot of people I miss from all walks of life. I miss the closeness of friendships past made on here, I miss the laughs and tears with old work colleagues from back home down south, I miss my offspring desperately everyday. But I'm also aware that the happiness I have right now would not exist if I hadn't moved on.

I don't get sad at missing people, I find comfort in memories and know that missing them means that I'll always have them snuggled in my heart

Cherry x

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By *ixieAndHerKingCouple
over a year ago

Debauchery

"Is it bad that I don't even remember creating this?

Was it the wine MM?.....

Cherry x

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

I have been known to miss people that I've never met. They've captivated me enough in their presence, their persona or in their written prose and unconventional ramblings.

I reminisce but I never reach out to them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I only miss two people.

One is our son who lives a fair distance away but I do message him regularly.

The other us my mum and the only way I could message her would be via a ouija board

Neither is sad missing though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it bad that I don't even remember creating this?

Nostalgia isn't bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This sounds a bit like wanting to message an Ex.

They’re an ex for a reason.

Unless you’re feeling a bit stalky leave them be.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Funny how people can make an impact on you just from knowing their online presence.

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I agree and I know she is hiding in the shadows not wanting to show herself but, I do miss Raven and her new name which I will not say and just incase she is reading this, I'm sorry your wine was not up to standard on Friday, come back and block me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry….I thought this was a post about actual missing people

And was waiting for the…..”it’s all over the news remark”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I ….

I also think the majority of the time you just leave it at that. If people really want to be in your life, they'll make an effort to. It's enough to know they're happy, from a distance."

Sometimes it’s not enough. That can make things harder for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny how people can make an impact on you just from knowing their online presence.

I agree and I know she is hiding in the shadows not wanting to show herself but, I do miss Raven and her new name which I will not say and just incase she is reading this, I'm sorry your wine was not up to standard on Friday, come back and block me

Haha. Is she? Go figure.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I haven't had any contact with my brother for over six years but I'm meeting him today for the sake of my mum.

I've not spoken to one of my sisters for year's, she doesn't want to know, it's hard when it's family,

I hope things go OK for you and maybe you can put the past behind you, good luck and big hugs x"

My parents and I were sitting in the garden and heard him coming down the street singing "The Green Green Grass of Home". He gave me a hug and said "I love you". It was very emotional.

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

"I haven't had any contact with my brother for over six years but I'm meeting him today for the sake of my mum.

I've not spoken to one of my sisters for year's, she doesn't want to know, it's hard when it's family,

I hope things go OK for you and maybe you can put the past behind you, good luck and big hugs x

My parents and I were sitting in the garden and heard him coming down the street singing "The Green Green Grass of Home". He gave me a hug and said "I love you". It was very emotional. "

That's amazing. Better times ahead, I hope.

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman
over a year ago

In the clouds

If you're in my past, stay there.. you aren't meant to be in my present

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By *ixed Mister OP Man
over a year ago

London

Just for clarity, this thinking wasn't to do with an ex or anyone I'd like to get romantically involved with. It came off the back of a d*unken discussion about family members and friends, that you were once close to be drifted apart.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Sorry….I thought this was a post about actual missing people

And was waiting for the…..”it’s all over the news remark”

I missed you...

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Funny how people can make an impact on you just from knowing their online presence.

Haha. Is she? Go figure. "
Some nice black and white photos as well she has uploaded.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

I wish i could but im no longer important enough for it to matter now thats the price you pay for giving a toss about anyone but yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't had any contact with my brother for over six years but I'm meeting him today for the sake of my mum.

I've not spoken to one of my sisters for year's, she doesn't want to know, it's hard when it's family,

I hope things go OK for you and maybe you can put the past behind you, good luck and big hugs x

My parents and I were sitting in the garden and heard him coming down the street singing "The Green Green Grass of Home". He gave me a hug and said "I love you". It was very emotional. "

I wanted to message you privately, but I can't.

I'm so pleased for you, life's to short to not speak,I hope you'll always have each other in your lives for ever, xx

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I wanted to message you privately, but I can't.

I'm so pleased for you, life's to short to not speak,I hope you'll always have each other in your lives for ever, xx"

Thank you for this lovely message

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