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"No it’s not. People feel uncomfortable because we’ve almost expressively associated it with bad things. It’s funny men always respond to women calling themselves fat with ‘you’re beautiful’ but like you can be both… Anyway, OP, fat isn’t a bad word and it’s nice that you love your body " I do think it can be used in bad/ harmful ways. And maybe always has been like that. But we reclaiming words and shit now these days. | |||
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"No it’s not. People feel uncomfortable because we’ve almost expressively associated it with bad things. It’s funny men always respond to women calling themselves fat with ‘you’re beautiful’ but like you can be both… Anyway, OP, fat isn’t a bad word and it’s nice that you love your body " Yes exactly this!! | |||
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"For some it is. I think you should be able to use your own language to describe your own body without some bloke thinking he knows better. Especially if it was very clear from your tone that you're comfortable in your skin." Yeah I completely agree with you. And the others who have said about the intent of the word. | |||
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"I've no issue with using fat, and fat being used, as a descriptor. I'm fat in the same way that I'm blonde. That changes however if the intent is to cause hurt or to shame. That's unacceptable. " True true true! | |||
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"I just described myself as fat to a guy on here and he went to great lengths to tell me that I am not fat and that I look great and what I am is curvy etc etc... Thing is, I was not degrading myself by saying that. I was saying what I am. I was stating a fact. I wasn't looking for him to tell me that I am not! I love my FAT body. I know I look great! So question is, is the word fat a purely bad word? " Personally I see it as a genuine description of myself. Yes I'm curvy, soft, squishy etc...however these things are because I'm fat lol. I don't see it as a bad word, but that's because I now give a lot less fucks about stuff than I used to lol Mrs | |||
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"I just described myself as fat to a guy on here and he went to great lengths to tell me that I am not fat and that I look great and what I am is curvy etc etc... Thing is, I was not degrading myself by saying that. I was saying what I am. I was stating a fact. I wasn't looking for him to tell me that I am not! I love my FAT body. I know I look great! So question is, is the word fat a purely bad word? " No FAT isn't a bad word. YOu think you are fat - he doesn't. Just accept that he doesn't. | |||
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"If someone can see me or pics of me I don't understand the need for me to use any adjectives to describe myself " | |||
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"Context and intent. Like everything else really. Maybe he was pandering OP? That does happen here, occasionally. " That is everything that happens here. Compliments from out of nowhere are always with ulterior motive. | |||
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"You're right fat is fat. But fat in appearance is subjective. Some people would say a 5ft4 size 14-16 is fat , some wouldn't. Of course it's your right to identify as fat. You just can't expect everyone to agree. But yeah idle flattery is never a good thing." Ps... what you mentioned is always gonna be fat. | |||
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"You're right fat is fat. But fat in appearance is subjective. Some people would say a 5ft4 size 14-16 is fat , some wouldn't. Of course it's your right to identify as fat. You just can't expect everyone to agree. But yeah idle flattery is never a good thing. Ps... what you mentioned is always gonna be fat. " I think I'll just give this one up | |||
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"Context and intent. Like everything else really. Maybe he was pandering OP? That does happen here, occasionally. That is everything that happens here. Compliments from out of nowhere are always with ulterior motive. " Listen, sugar tits, that just isn't true. For the longest of times, I've yearned, dreamt a dream, of your touch. Always beyond my grasp, betwixt dawn and dusk, drifting between the ephemeral and real. There are no ulterior motives, only an opportunity, a chance, the gift of the universe aligning in your shadow for the opportunity of your gaze. To be seen and acknowledged. Or something like that. I dunno. | |||
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"I think its ok for you to call yourself it but not for others to judge you by it " eye roll | |||
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"I just described myself as fat to a guy on here and he went to great lengths to tell me that I am not fat and that I look great and what I am is curvy etc etc... Thing is, I was not degrading myself by saying that. I was saying what I am. I was stating a fact. I wasn't looking for him to tell me that I am not! I love my FAT body. I know I look great! So question is, is the word fat a purely bad word? " I’m going to have to say yes fat is an insulting word used to degrade someone to mentally hurt someone but the word curvy is a much better word or even PAWG (Phat Ass White Girl) which interprets someone with a sexy round ass which is sexy | |||
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"I have a reasonable layer of subcutaneous fat. This is a fact. " Boobs are a sack of fat. I boobs | |||
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"I just described myself as fat to a guy on here and he went to great lengths to tell me that I am not fat and that I look great and what I am is curvy etc etc... Thing is, I was not degrading myself by saying that. I was saying what I am. I was stating a fact. I wasn't looking for him to tell me that I am not! I love my FAT body. I know I look great! So question is, is the word fat a purely bad word? " I agree with you fat is not a bad word, I guess it can be used in a derogatory way but it’s not a bad word In my opinion | |||
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"It's the intent behind a word that really counts. If someone happily describes themselves a certain way I feel it's patronising to tell them they're wrong. I often refer to myself as old, nine out of ten times people will say "you're not". Why? " I agree 100 per cent. I think it’s that old and fat are considered negative, demeaning words. Used by you to describe yourself it’s a whole different deal… gorgeous you are… x | |||
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"I just described myself as fat to a guy on here and he went to great lengths to tell me that I am not fat and that I look great and what I am is curvy etc etc... Thing is, I was not degrading myself by saying that. I was saying what I am. I was stating a fact. I wasn't looking for him to tell me that I am not! I love my FAT body. I know I look great! So question is, is the word fat a purely bad word? Personally I see it as a genuine description of myself. Yes I'm curvy, soft, squishy etc...however these things are because I'm fat lol. I don't see it as a bad word, but that's because I now give a lot less fucks about stuff than I used to lol Mrs" Yes, yes, yes! This was my entire point. | |||
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"I describe myself as fat, all the time... I am... I don't say it because I think I'm ugly, or I'm down on myself and I don't need lying to, to make me feel better about it... I certainly don't want women that aren't fat, insulted to make me being fat ok, either... I also don't want to be fetishised because of it... I am either attractive or I'm not... I don't really care either way, anymore. Being fat is just what I am at the moment, nothing more and that's fine. " Yes babe! | |||
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"Context is everything. "I'm a fat cunt" *laughs at self. "You're a fat cunt!!!!!" *said with disgust. "You're not fat, you're beautiful!!!!! *wants to get dick wet. " "You're not fat, you're just tall" kid trying to not hurt your feelings | |||
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"When a man says your not fat 99 out of 100 will say anything to get sex,if you describe yourself as fat then your fat..your whatever you want to describe yourself as x" sales pictch,say anything to seal the deal. Behaviour in people is very strange,not all words matter look at real actions. | |||
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"I just described myself as fat to a guy on here and he went to great lengths to tell me that I am not fat and that I look great and what I am is curvy etc etc... Thing is, I was not degrading myself by saying that. I was saying what I am. I was stating a fact. I wasn't looking for him to tell me that I am not! I love my FAT body. I know I look great! So question is, is the word fat a purely bad word? " Apart from looks visualy. Do actions and personality count. I have obsearved over many years now. One can or may have good looks yet a wrotten heart and Devlish. Another not so good looking,but angelic. Looks are merely a shell and cover on the surface. Look a little deeper the contents and action of people then you see the real them. | |||
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"Depends on the intent behind it's use" Completely agree,. | |||
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"Context and intent. Like everything else really. Maybe he was pandering OP? That does happen here, occasionally. That is everything that happens here. Compliments from out of nowhere are always with ulterior motive. " words are words without real actions. All posted pics of people we really dont and wont know. | |||
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"You're not "fat" you have "fat" and that's different. You are a beautiful woman first and always. It's not a bad word, but don't use it as a word to describe yourself.. x" I have lots of fat on my body which makes me look fat. The fat (noun) makes me look fat (adjective). | |||
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"I am fat. Dress it up with placatory words if you want to, but I am what I am. I'm also a lot of other things." Indeedy. On paper and on the CV we often write much. But at the interview,or at the Dragon's den dress down. All gets revealed. I think many are shying away from some real face to face engagements,due to past truama. So the comfort of the keyboard and screen provides just that. Everything to gain,nothing to lose. Its life! | |||
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"People like to dress it up to make themselves feel better. Own your fat not your “curves”. " Can we not own both? | |||
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"I have a reasonable layer of subcutaneous fat. This is a fact. Boobs are a sack of fat. I boobs " There's other things in boobs too, but yes. Some boobs have more fat than others also | |||
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"I just described myself as fat to a guy on here and he went to great lengths to tell me that I am not fat and that I look great and what I am is curvy etc etc... Thing is, I was not degrading myself by saying that. I was saying what I am. I was stating a fact. I wasn't looking for him to tell me that I am not! I love my FAT body. I know I look great! So question is, is the word fat a purely bad word? " I think over time our use of language changes, for differing reasons. I'd include words like bastard, retard and spastic. Fat is a similar term in that its perceived as derogatory and a gendered slur. | |||
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"My fat rolls have fat rolls. " But I think that you're lush! | |||
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"My fat rolls have fat rolls. But I think that you're lush!" | |||
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"I have a reasonable layer of subcutaneous fat. This is a fact. Boobs are a sack of fat. I boobs There's other things in boobs too, but yes. Some boobs have more fat than others also " Oh. Womansplain it to us | |||
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"I have a reasonable layer of subcutaneous fat. This is a fact. Boobs are a sack of fat. I boobs There's other things in boobs too, but yes. Some boobs have more fat than others also Oh. Womansplain it to us " I just did | |||
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"I just described myself as fat to a guy on here and he went to great lengths to tell me that I am not fat and that I look great and what I am is curvy etc etc... Thing is, I was not degrading myself by saying that. I was saying what I am. I was stating a fact. I wasn't looking for him to tell me that I am not! I love my FAT body. I know I look great! So question is, is the word fat a purely bad word? " There are no bad words just easily offended people | |||
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