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"sex. How important is sex to you? The feeling of being desired? Are there positive/negative effects on your general wellbeing/mood because of it? Are your sexual needs being met currently or do you feel a bit sexually lacking? The sun has me thinking about libido, clearly! :D " Sex is very important as it's something I greatly enjoy and am frankly pretty good at. I don't think I could be in a relationship with someone that wouldn't at least match my appetite stride for stride. That being said, I have gone for long periods without with no real detrimental effects on my mental well being or mood. I will say I'm a bit more cheery if I get it regularly (endorphins have that effect). My needs are more than met when we're together. The periods in between make sure the sexual collision on reuniting is more intense | |||
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"Sex is definitely important to me but sex doesn't make me feel desired, intimacy does especially with the Mr. We are lucky I guess we still grope and compliment each other as we did when we 1st met, those little ass grabs,cuddles talking random shite, laughing before we nod off, collapsing into each others arms and falling asleep after sex those little things make me feel more desired then sex does. Mrs" Yeah i think it's different when you have sex on tap...sometimes, due to circumstances, you can't have it, no matter how much you want it, so it has to get compartmentalised or you'd just spontaneously combust | |||
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"Sex is really important to both of us. Think we both had partners where we didn't click sexually. And now we found someone we are and we cherish it. And to me, it's not just about the act of sex itself, it's everything that is associated with it. The flirting and looks of desire. And to be honest I just enjoy it all, it makes me feel good. " This is pretty much exactly what I wanted to say. The energy and excitement when you just click with someone sexually is such a powerful potion! | |||
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"sex. How important is sex to you? The feeling of being desired? Are there positive/negative effects on your general wellbeing/mood because of it? Are your sexual needs being met currently or do you feel a bit sexually lacking? The sun has me thinking about libido, clearly! :D " obviously being desired for sex is different to being desired for you, i can live without sex but i love it so I'm not giving it up just yet | |||
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"sex. How important is sex to you? The feeling of being desired? Are there positive/negative effects on your general wellbeing/mood because of it? " I like feeling sexy, I like sex (with the right person) and it does make me feel good. Do I feel bad without it? No, but it bothered me that my youth(yes! I’m still young) is going to disappear and I’ll look back at and think of a lot of ‘what ifs!’ Those fantasies and desires will just be broken dreams. " Are your sexual needs being met currently or do you feel a bit sexually lacking? " not even close. The sunshine brings out the best in me too. Fancy a drink in a couple of week Meli? | |||
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"sex. How important is sex to you? The feeling of being desired? Are there positive/negative effects on your general wellbeing/mood because of it? Are your sexual needs being met currently or do you feel a bit sexually lacking? The sun has me thinking about libido, clearly! :D " More important than Prince Andrew | |||
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"Can I have cheese instead? " Find someone with poor personal hygiene and you can have both!!! | |||
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" I enjoy sex it can be a lot of fun and can bring you closer to someone in a way nothing else can,the depth of emotions and sensations is amazing at times. In saying that though sex is not one of the most important things in my life,it's a good bit down any list I may have. I went without it for years because I got fed up of mediocre sex that was all about the other people's pleasure. So while yes now I enjoy great sex it's still not a major factor in my life much as I enjoy it when it happens. I would actually hate to have it on my mind all the time I think it would be annoying as hell and make me annoying as well to other people if it was such a big deal. Bo." Oh there's definitely something to be said for not settling for mediocre sex and going without rather than putting up with that. There's a marked difference between enjoying great sex and having it on your mind all the time. I think it would be rather annoying as well. And kind of draining. | |||
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"Sex is really important to both of us. Think we both had partners where we didn't click sexually. And now we found someone we are and we cherish it. And to me, it's not just about the act of sex itself, it's everything that is associated with it. The flirting and looks of desire. And to be honest I just enjoy it all, it makes me feel good. " That's enough though, isn't it? Enjoying it because it makes you feel good, rather than some deep meaning. I think there's something to be said for enjoying things simply because they make you feel good. And sex is great! I like the energy people have after really great sex - I can tell when a couple of my close friends are buzzing from it. It's lovely. | |||
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"I miss it but where i was once a bit like a kid in a vagina shop im not into just sex for the sake of having it without that animal desire to just take someones mind and body and turn them to a shaking exhausted heap of a woman and do it again i dont really think much about it anymore i miss just talking to people i like much much more i think i dunno maybe i grew up or maybe i just got dull in my old age" I don't think that makes you dull - far from it. Like you, I don't want sex just for the sake of having sex. It's great, it really is. But those days of hopping on any cock because I'm insatiable are long behind me. Maybe it's not about growing up or becoming dull. Maybe it's more about being comfortable and recognising what it is you want. | |||
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"Can I have cheese instead? " If that's what you really want? Go for it. Have all the cheese. | |||
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"sex. How important is sex to you? The feeling of being desired? Are there positive/negative effects on your general wellbeing/mood because of it? Are your sexual needs being met currently or do you feel a bit sexually lacking? The sun has me thinking about libido, clearly! :D " Bear in mind that my answers are taken within the context of a 24 year relationship which is my first and only long term relationship. Sex itself is quite important but I've always happy to look after myself. Feeling desired within our relationship is really important. We went through a really rough patch where we were both wrongly convinced the other was no longer attracted. There was sex in that time but it wasn't great. How can you have good sex when you don't feel desired. We have worked hard to resolve things and are still working hard to keep our relationship strong. So yes, there are definitely negative effects for me to not feeling desired within a relationship. I have no idea how to answer the same question without that framing. In the same way, feeling desired definitely puts a smile on your face and a spring in your step. Yes, my needs are being met at the moment J | |||
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"sex. How important is sex to you? The feeling of being desired? Are there positive/negative effects on your general wellbeing/mood because of it? Are your sexual needs being met currently or do you feel a bit sexually lacking? The sun has me thinking about libido, clearly! :D " When I have sex, I want it so much more regularly. Would love a regular fwb. There’s always the little bit of a low the day after | |||
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"It's very important to me. My Fab life, which complements the friendships and the fora interactions, is intrinsic with my yearning for sex, tactile fulfilment and being fervently desired. Are my sexual needs being met? Yes, but not often enough, which leaves me pining, frustrated and sexually tormented. Sometimes I'm even irascible with myself if my libido is high." Fora. Ah I can be a bit of a mardy arse if I've not had enough sex lately. Try and not inflict it on others. Feeling frustrated is understandable - after sex you can feel so much better in yourself. Like an itch has been deliciously scratched and you can relax a bit more. | |||
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"It's very important to me. My Fab life, which complements the friendships and the fora interactions, is intrinsic with my yearning for sex, tactile fulfilment and being fervently desired. Are my sexual needs being met? Yes, but not often enough, which leaves me pining, frustrated and sexually tormented. Sometimes I'm even irascible with myself if my libido is high. Fora. Ah I can be a bit of a mardy arse if I've not had enough sex lately. Try and not inflict it on others. Feeling frustrated is understandable - after sex you can feel so much better in yourself. Like an itch has been deliciously scratched and you can relax a bit more." Correct me if I'm wrong Meli, didn't you say in another thread not long ago that you hadn't had sex in 5 years | |||
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"It's very important to me. My Fab life, which complements the friendships and the fora interactions, is intrinsic with my yearning for sex, tactile fulfilment and being fervently desired. Are my sexual needs being met? Yes, but not often enough, which leaves me pining, frustrated and sexually tormented. Sometimes I'm even irascible with myself if my libido is high. Fora. Ah I can be a bit of a mardy arse if I've not had enough sex lately. Try and not inflict it on others. Feeling frustrated is understandable - after sex you can feel so much better in yourself. Like an itch has been deliciously scratched and you can relax a bit more. Correct me if I'm wrong Meli, didn't you say in another thread not long ago that you hadn't had sex in 5 years " Ha! I'm going to reply to this post quickly because I'm flattered someone remembers my forum posts. I can't quite take some things seriously on here - so occasionally I'm a tad daft. It's not been five years. It's not been five months, five weeks or... You get the idea. In a slightly weird way - the more I have great sex the more I want it. Sometimes it's good for me to not have sex for a couple of weeks so I don't become an insatiable wench, fucking everything constantly. | |||
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"It's very important to me. My Fab life, which complements the friendships and the fora interactions, is intrinsic with my yearning for sex, tactile fulfilment and being fervently desired. Are my sexual needs being met? Yes, but not often enough, which leaves me pining, frustrated and sexually tormented. Sometimes I'm even irascible with myself if my libido is high. Fora. Ah I can be a bit of a mardy arse if I've not had enough sex lately. Try and not inflict it on others. Feeling frustrated is understandable - after sex you can feel so much better in yourself. Like an itch has been deliciously scratched and you can relax a bit more. Correct me if I'm wrong Meli, didn't you say in another thread not long ago that you hadn't had sex in 5 years Ha! I'm going to reply to this post quickly because I'm flattered someone remembers my forum posts. I can't quite take some things seriously on here - so occasionally I'm a tad daft. It's not been five years. It's not been five months, five weeks or... You get the idea. In a slightly weird way - the more I have great sex the more I want it. Sometimes it's good for me to not have sex for a couple of weeks so I don't become an insatiable wench, fucking everything constantly. " • In other words: She was fucked 5 days ago. She was bonked 5 weeks ago. She was made love to 5 years ago. | |||
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"I used to think it wasn't important but that wasn't me thinking that, I was made to feel that way. After a long time of feeling unwanted, undesired and pretty shitty about myself, this lifestyle awakened what I needed. Its very important to me now as I never want to feel like that again. " Don't take this in a patronising way (fuck knows I can be/can come across as patronising) I understand that completely. For a good couple of years I was made to feel very undesirable. Like I had no sexual value, no one would want to have sex with me because of how I look. I am. That crap is really damaging. Embracing who you are? All of you, including that sexual side is so important. I hope you never feel like that again, x | |||
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"It's very important to me. My Fab life, which complements the friendships and the fora interactions, is intrinsic with my yearning for sex, tactile fulfilment and being fervently desired. Are my sexual needs being met? Yes, but not often enough, which leaves me pining, frustrated and sexually tormented. Sometimes I'm even irascible with myself if my libido is high. Fora. Ah I can be a bit of a mardy arse if I've not had enough sex lately. Try and not inflict it on others. Feeling frustrated is understandable - after sex you can feel so much better in yourself. Like an itch has been deliciously scratched and you can relax a bit more. Correct me if I'm wrong Meli, didn't you say in another thread not long ago that you hadn't had sex in 5 years Ha! I'm going to reply to this post quickly because I'm flattered someone remembers my forum posts. I can't quite take some things seriously on here - so occasionally I'm a tad daft. It's not been five years. It's not been five months, five weeks or... You get the idea. In a slightly weird way - the more I have great sex the more I want it. Sometimes it's good for me to not have sex for a couple of weeks so I don't become an insatiable wench, fucking everything constantly. " And that's how you confuse a dickhead namely me | |||
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"Ah I can be a bit of a mardy arse if I've not had enough sex lately. Try and not inflict it on others. Feeling frustrated is understandable - after sex you can feel so much better in yourself. Like an itch has been deliciously scratched and you can relax a bit more. Correct me if I'm wrong Meli, didn't you say in another thread not long ago that you hadn't had sex in 5 years Ha! I'm going to reply to this post quickly because I'm flattered someone remembers my forum posts. I can't quite take some things seriously on here - so occasionally I'm a tad daft. It's not been five years. It's not been five months, five weeks or... You get the idea. In a slightly weird way - the more I have great sex the more I want it. Sometimes it's good for me to not have sex for a couple of weeks so I don't become an insatiable wench, fucking everything constantly. And that's how you confuse a dickhead namely me " Ah you're not a dickhead! Far from it. I'm a bit of a twunt who doesn't take this place seriously all the time. It's just dawned on me - I think I met you a couple of weekends ago. Yeah, you're not a dickhead. Although I might be if I didn't meet you and am thinking of someone else. | |||
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"Ah I can be a bit of a mardy arse if I've not had enough sex lately. Try and not inflict it on others. Feeling frustrated is understandable - after sex you can feel so much better in yourself. Like an itch has been deliciously scratched and you can relax a bit more. Correct me if I'm wrong Meli, didn't you say in another thread not long ago that you hadn't had sex in 5 years Ha! I'm going to reply to this post quickly because I'm flattered someone remembers my forum posts. I can't quite take some things seriously on here - so occasionally I'm a tad daft. It's not been five years. It's not been five months, five weeks or... You get the idea. In a slightly weird way - the more I have great sex the more I want it. Sometimes it's good for me to not have sex for a couple of weeks so I don't become an insatiable wench, fucking everything constantly. And that's how you confuse a dickhead namely me Ah you're not a dickhead! Far from it. I'm a bit of a twunt who doesn't take this place seriously all the time. It's just dawned on me - I think I met you a couple of weekends ago. Yeah, you're not a dickhead. Although I might be if I didn't meet you and am thinking of someone else. " You met me at UTB Meli, albeit very briefly | |||
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"sex. How important is sex to you? The feeling of being desired? Are there positive/negative effects on your general wellbeing/mood because of it? Are your sexual needs being met currently or do you feel a bit sexually lacking? The sun has me thinking about libido, clearly! :D Sex is very important as it's something I greatly enjoy and am frankly pretty good at. I don't think I could be in a relationship with someone that wouldn't at least match my appetite stride for stride. That being said, I have gone for long periods without with no real detrimental effects on my mental well being or mood. I will say I'm a bit more cheery if I get it regularly (endorphins have that effect). My needs are more than met when we're together. The periods in between make sure the sexual collision on reuniting is more intense " Oh Chill. You adorable man. It's quite rare, well on the forums at least, for someone to say they're pretty good at sex. I like it. When it comes to relationships; sex is such an important part. It helps build that closeness and love. Well I think so anyway. Like you I couldn't be in a relationship if it wasn't matched. Forget surpassed, I don't think that will ever happen. | |||
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"Sex enhances the feeling of being desired, loved, needed... It adds to the connection " Exactly this | |||
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"It's very important to me. My Fab life, which complements the friendships and the fora interactions, is intrinsic with my yearning for sex, tactile fulfilment and being fervently desired. Are my sexual needs being met? Yes, but not often enough, which leaves me pining, frustrated and sexually tormented. Sometimes I'm even irascible with myself if my libido is high. Fora. Ah I can be a bit of a mardy arse if I've not had enough sex lately. Try and not inflict it on others. Feeling frustrated is understandable - after sex you can feel so much better in yourself. Like an itch has been deliciously scratched and you can relax a bit more. Correct me if I'm wrong Meli, didn't you say in another thread not long ago that you hadn't had sex in 5 years Ha! I'm going to reply to this post quickly because I'm flattered someone remembers my forum posts. I can't quite take some things seriously on here - so occasionally I'm a tad daft. It's not been five years. It's not been five months, five weeks or... You get the idea. In a slightly weird way - the more I have great sex the more I want it. Sometimes it's good for me to not have sex for a couple of weeks so I don't become an insatiable wench, fucking everything constantly. • In other words: She was fucked 5 days ago. She was bonked 5 weeks ago. She was made love to 5 years ago. " Not all hero's wear capes | |||
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"...In other words: She was fucked 5 days ago. She was bonked 5 weeks ago. She was made love to 5 years ago. · Not all hero's wear capes " • Some wear velvetine green dinner jackets. Especially the obsequious ones. | |||
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"Sex is definitely important to me but sex doesn't make me feel desired, intimacy does especially with the Mr. We are lucky I guess we still grope and compliment each other as we did when we 1st met, those little ass grabs,cuddles talking random shite, laughing before we nod off, collapsing into each others arms and falling asleep after sex those little things make me feel more desired then sex does. Mrs Yeah i think it's different when you have sex on tap...sometimes, due to circumstances, you can't have it, no matter how much you want it, so it has to get compartmentalised or you'd just spontaneously combust " 3 months now and no sex, it's not always on tap. I generally miss the affection and intimacy more than sex. Mrs | |||
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"...In other words: She was fucked 5 days ago. She was bonked 5 weeks ago. She was made love to 5 years ago. · Not all hero's wear capes • Some wear velvetine green dinner jackets. Especially the obsequious ones." Servility is a beautiful trait to carry. | |||
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"Sex is definitely important to me but sex doesn't make me feel desired, intimacy does especially with the Mr. We are lucky I guess we still grope and compliment each other as we did when we 1st met, those little ass grabs,cuddles talking random shite, laughing before we nod off, collapsing into each others arms and falling asleep after sex those little things make me feel more desired then sex does. Mrs" Intimacy! I think I'd kind of forgotten about that when I was typing the op. Yes; it's those little moments that make you feel special. Groping and compliments are lovely (from someone you want that from) - I can kind of tell when a relationship is done (for me at least) because those little compliments, that shared intimacy kind of stops. For all his occasional grumpiness, your Mr is a sweetheart. | |||
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"It’s been our main hobby since 1994. Yeah… it’s fairly important " Wait, scratch that. You hussies. | |||
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"At the moment I'm losing the desire to look for new men, in the category I usually look. I think, perhaps, I'm starting to act my age. " So shall I give up then…? | |||
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"sex. How important is sex to you? The feeling of being desired? Are there positive/negative effects on your general wellbeing/mood because of it? Are your sexual needs being met currently or do you feel a bit sexually lacking? The sun has me thinking about libido, clearly! :D " The self esteem boost from being wanted, the sharing of something so primal, carnal and intimate with another. The trust, the privilege. There’s lots of reasons that it’s essential to us as humans. Especially those of us with a higher than average drive, and boundaries that have been pushed beyond the vanilla. Plus it feels good | |||
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"Can I have cheese instead? " A full cheeseboard together with a fine port - sex can wait until I’ve finished. | |||
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"My sex drive has dipped in recent years which I hate but my want for affection and desire is higher than ever. I just don’t think you can beat kissing, flirting and cuddles " you can't fer sure its life a bit of affection | |||
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"At the moment I'm losing the desire to look for new men, in the category I usually look. I think, perhaps, I'm starting to act my age. So shall I give up then…?" Oh no, I'm not quite there yet. Can you paint? | |||
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"I think I've got to the point in life where I want great sex and anything less is just not going to cut it." • I think this is a fair and honest assessment. | |||
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"It's importance has waned over the years I think I had too much in my 30' & 40's and it kinda holds few surprises or anything new for me I mean we all do much pretty much the same thing, some just do it more your way than others Bearing in mind I have sex largely on tap, we maybe have sex say once a fortnight and even then it's kind of a lazy affair and then in the shower before breakfast & work I'm just not into making 'special time' for it - it always seems too scripted that way I also think I used sex - and perhaps, more importantly, numerous partners to validate me Looking back, I met them because I enjoyed the chase and it also made me feel better about myself and feel better looking / sexier than I felt I was Now I am out of the other side, I realise it was a sticking plaster for the real fulfilment that I needed So, all in all, my relationship with sex is a little skewed If I have love, sex becomes something of an incidental triviality Probably not the best confession to make on a swingers site " No, I like that you shared that. Fuck what you should say. I'm not a swinger anyway. Yes, that seeking validation through sex thing isn't healthy is it? It's just a temporary solution to a bigger issue. I'm happy you're in a better place with regards to how you feel about it - you don't have to be doing All The Sex, all the time anyway. There are a lot of important things in life - if sex is one, great. If not, that's fine as well. | |||
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"Sex is definitely important to me but sex doesn't make me feel desired, intimacy does especially with the Mr. We are lucky I guess we still grope and compliment each other as we did when we 1st met, those little ass grabs,cuddles talking random shite, laughing before we nod off, collapsing into each others arms and falling asleep after sex those little things make me feel more desired then sex does. Mrs Intimacy! I think I'd kind of forgotten about that when I was typing the op. Yes; it's those little moments that make you feel special. Groping and compliments are lovely (from someone you want that from) - I can kind of tell when a relationship is done (for me at least) because those little compliments, that shared intimacy kind of stops. For all his occasional grumpiness, your Mr is a sweetheart. " He really is, don't let him see you type that though it's a secret. Mrs | |||
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"I could actually take or leave the sex part I think (although I love it and would rather not) For me, I need affection, touch, the feeling of being desired. To be wanted. The mutual desire with someone. I need to be kissed often, by someone who knows how. I think in the past I've probably used sex as a way to get those other needs met. I could go months without sex but I struggle without the rest. Sometimes it comes in other forms; conversation, flirtation or the outright I want you from someone who is genuinely meaning it. I need that to bridge the gaps I suppose. I'm writing this and wondering if I'm actually quite needy " The way my sexuality manifests, the absence of those elements, especially felt mutual desire, would likely cause me to withdraw. The closing of the gap is what makes it a personal and shared experience. I've no desire to build a bridge over that. | |||
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