FabSwingers.com forum: Bdsm kink

By *ore4fundevon OP Couple
over a year ago

West Devon

So, we watched the 'Adults Only' episode of BDSM the other night which has always been an interest of Mrs More's. We've dabbled in the past with blindfolds, restraint and spanking which she enjoyed.

On the other hand it's not something that does a great deal for me. The most satisfaction I get out of it is seeing her have a good time. But of course did partake for her sake.

Having watched the Adults Only episode I think it reopened some desire within for her. She especially liked the idea of the dungeon hotel on there. She's mentioned finding a couple or single (male or female) to dominate/tease her while I join or watch.

She mostly likes the blindfold and restraint scenario with sensual play.

So initially we'd like to talk to people with experience of this. Long term to meet and act this all out perhaps in a club where they have a lot of the equipment. Obviously we're not just looking for people who want to turn up and spank a bit and get an easy fuck.

Hope to hear from some of you.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Been in the BDSM scene as a Dom / Top for over 25 years, so I've certainly done my share of restraint and impact play alongside the more sensual stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding someone who is naturally wired that way is quite difficult.

There are many that will do it for someone else's pleasure.

But in my personal opinion the experience needs someone who is wired that way naturally. It makes a huge difference. Acting out something for someone is not the same as doing what you desire. There will be a lot of things missing.

Choose wisely!

And of course it goes without saying that it needs a good discussion and safety and consent is paramount.

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By *eacupsbearCouple
over a year ago

York

First thing you might want to do is join FL.

If you haven't already.

I'd put the sites full name up, but Fab sometimes stops it.

My advice too would be to attend an actual event at a dungeon, see it first hand in the flesh. I'm sure the TV show or whatever was good, but! Actually being there. Talking to and watching both Dom's and subs will give you far greater insight. Plus most people will be more than happy to help, advise and let you have a go without trying to get a cheap fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a new club night focused on sharing kink - i think its Birmingham way, sorry i can't remember the club name, but the username is 'ropes +red'.. Check the club section or meets section

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is a new club night focused on sharing kink - i think its Birmingham way, sorry i can't remember the club name, but the username is 'ropes +red'.. Check the club section or meets section "

Event is called Entice and is on at Xtasia on 10th June

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By *ore4fundevon OP Couple
over a year ago

West Devon

Thanks everyone, some good information there.

It goes without saying great care will be taken in choosing a person or persons to proceed with this.

It's mostly a fact finding mission at this point but having said that we'd also talk seriously to anyone interested in joining or helping.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks everyone, some good information there.

It goes without saying great care will be taken in choosing a person or persons to proceed with this.

It's mostly a fact finding mission at this point but having said that we'd also talk seriously to anyone interested in joining or helping."

Good luck with your adventures and asking questions is a good way to go about it

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By *r Mind CandyMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Thanks everyone, some good information there.

It goes without saying great care will be taken in choosing a person or persons to proceed with this.

It's mostly a fact finding mission at this point but having said that we'd also talk seriously to anyone interested in joining or helping."

I have many years in the BDSM scene and a mind boggling amount of toys and equipment at home. And would always be happy to give advice or gentle introductions to the wonderful world of kink

Feel free to have a look at my profile and verifications.

Have fun out there and play safe x

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By *reo DreamMan
over a year ago

Berkshire

I have been into BDSM from the age of 19. Happy to guide and give advice.

ODx

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By *iercedItMan
over a year ago

Mcr

I've been in the body modification scene since I was 15, it was very much a subversive culture, and being pierced, implanted, tattooed, modified had a good cross over into BDSM from Nullo to a little spanking.

No matter how silly your question is, ask it, the more you know, the better your experience.

Just remember, my kink isn't your kink.

I'm always happy to talk kink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been submissive leaning in D/s relationships for a few years, and finding someone who is naturally the kinky way you wish.

Experienced people are better to engage with to begin with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been in the lifestyle 20 plus years and have only ever mentored someone once and will never do it again.

Read the literature. Do the research.

But ultimately this is your journey.

Mentors are meant to, as mentoring in anything, offer words of advice, help you, but I have seen so many use this position to express their likes as a way of leading a new submissive.

Munches are an excellent way to start and continue to mix with like minded people

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

Find you local fetish munch (social) go along and make friends .you will generally find kink folk to be a friendly bunch happy to welcome new people into the fold and share info on events kit and experiances .good place to look is on the well known FETish LIFEstyle site

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By *oJo pornstarMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

A lot of singers clubs have a Munch or Kage night once a month or so, go along to one, people there are usually very friendly and will chat all night and give advice, there's usually not a great deal of sex go's on in these events, but there great to observe, learn, chat and interact. I actually find they are way more chatty, social and interaction between strangers on Munch nights compared to the normal swinging nights

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By *ore4fundevon OP Couple
over a year ago

West Devon

Thanks for the info everyone. Much appreciated. We've signed Mrs More upto the suggested site (yet to set up the profile properly) and have had a look about and as pointed out have noticed that a lot of the venues we know as swingers clubs near us also do kink/fetish nights so may well go along to one of those.

She's on there with the same user name as we are on here so feel free to look her up. We both have access but I'm taking a back seat and supportive role. I believe in encouraging her even if I don't feel I can emotionally invest. Plus you never know I may learn to enjoy it as we go along.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the info everyone. Much appreciated. We've signed Mrs More upto the suggested site (yet to set up the profile properly) and have had a look about and as pointed out have noticed that a lot of the venues we know as swingers clubs near us also do kink/fetish nights so may well go along to one of those.

Good luck

Bear in mind that site can seem a bit confusing at first but worth sticking with. Try and find local groups to find munches and events in your area

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By *nigmaschild300Man
over a year ago

dunfermline

Been in to bdsm since my early 20's it was more difficult before the Internet but since then I've had no issues finding partners , I do get a lot of kink tourists which can be frustrating but its a lifestyle that brings a whole other connection to sex. But it's certainly not for everyone.

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