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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’ve had a terrible experience today when out with my family. And it was bad in and of itself but it was also super triggering. I’m currently about to spend some time sitting in my feelings and maybe writing. Trying to avoid Lots of anger.

What do you do to overcome triggering experiences or just really horrible ones?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Did you clock my meme reference in the title?

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

I did clock it and its very much appreciated

I dont really have any advice as im terrible with emotions but i hope you can get through it

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I cuddle my dogs and word vomit it out. The mutts haven't got much input on situations in general, but sometimes hearing it aloud really helps me straighten out some of the chaos.

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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago

The dot in the i

The only thing I personally found to help when I get like that is to distract myself by studying myself, if that makes sense

For recourses I use MITocw because it’s free and comprehensive

Sort of sitting with myself and figuring out how I feel, why, what caused it and how I can get beck to myself again

But who likes orange soda?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had a terrible experience today when out with my family. And it was bad in and of itself but it was also super triggering. I’m currently about to spend some time sitting in my feelings and maybe writing. Trying to avoid Lots of anger.

What do you do to overcome triggering experiences or just really horrible ones?

I feel you. So much.

I've done nothing but cry for days. So I'm not much use to be fair. But I feel it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I did clock it and its very much appreciated

I dont really have any advice as im terrible with emotions but i hope you can get through it "

I’m so glad you’re in these forums man. Finally someone that gets me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I cuddle my dogs and word vomit it out. The mutts haven't got much input on situations in general, but sometimes hearing it aloud really helps me straighten out some of the chaos."
I don’t have dogs but maybe I’ll either write it down or tell my cat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you do to overcome triggering experiences or just really horrible ones?

Those triggering moments are exhausting as they rob one of energy! Quite frankly it's precious time that could be put to good use elsewhere. For me and family over the years, I've had to create boundaries! We're meant to be happy in this lifetime. Some people will never know the art of people skills especially respect. Drama is debilitating and useless and many times it's perpetuating family traumas. The buck stops with us! Good luck OP x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The only thing I personally found to help when I get like that is to distract myself by studying myself, if that makes sense

For recourses I use MITocw because it’s free and comprehensive

Sort of sitting with myself and figuring out how I feel, why, what caused it and how I can get beck to myself again

But who likes orange soda?!!

This is powerful. That’s what I want. To have some healthy coping mechanisms.

By the way

KEL LOVES ORANGE SODA

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

"I did clock it and its very much appreciated

I dont really have any advice as im terrible with emotions but i hope you can get through it

I’m so glad you’re in these forums man. Finally someone that gets me

Of course, love a good meme

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By *astandFeistyCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Take your anger out on the person who triggered you. Alternatively, brush it off and remember that whoever that person is, is a dickhead and doesn't deserve a second thought.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

What do you do to overcome triggering experiences or just really horrible ones?

I hate that this has happened. I’m so sorry for your experience and the cruelty of it cascading beyond the immediate experience too. Ground yourself, and yea process the feelings. Know that you are very much loved. I cry. I reflect and feel strongly, even anger if it’s there. I turn to my friends and loved ones to remind me of all that I cherish. I reach out to make someone else feel good as that shifts things on for me. I think about what I can do to make a difference. And I forgive, for my sanity not because I’m negating what’s happened - it’s entirely selfish but may not be appropriate for your situation.

Here if I can do anything. Love you

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"The only thing I personally found to help when I get like that is to distract myself by studying myself, if that makes sense

For recourses I use MITocw because it’s free and comprehensive

Sort of sitting with myself and figuring out how I feel, why, what caused it and how I can get beck to myself again

But who likes orange soda?!!

Kel loves orange soda

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Mr Pickle, we're sad to hear about your bad experience today. We find talking to each other and "putting the world to rights" is at least cathartic. It's even worse when your kids witness or are party to bad experiences, we know that too, so depending on age, it might be worth talking through with them, in as rational and objective a way as you can. It's horrible for children to learn that not every person in the world is nice

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I suppose I'm lucky that I don't get triggered easily.

If I did I'd talk to myself in my head, as if I'm talking to someone else.

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Speak to friends buddy.

Safe to say we clash on here, but never like seeing people down.

It’s a gorgeous day, get yourself a pina colada, perhaps a bit of cake and tell yourself “fuck ‘em”!

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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago

The dot in the i

"The only thing I personally found to help when I get like that is to distract myself by studying myself, if that makes sense

For recourses I use MITocw because it’s free and comprehensive

Sort of sitting with myself and figuring out how I feel, why, what caused it and how I can get beck to myself again

But who likes orange soda?!!

This is powerful. That’s what I want. To have some healthy coping mechanisms.

By the way

KEL LOVES ORANGE SODA

It’s the only thing I found to help, it’s something I do bang on about probably too much but it’s such a useful tool not many seem to know about and I firmly believe everyone should have access resources without preamble which it seems to offer

ill stop rambling now

Awwwe! Here goes!

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

I'm so sorry something horrible has happened. I have no great advice Mr P but sending a great big hug.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

Hit the punch bag till my hands hurt

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

When I get tiggered I like to sing this song:

The wonderful thing about tiggers

Is tiggers are wonderful things!

Their tops are made out of rubber

Their bottoms are made out of springs!

They're bouncy, trouncy, flouncy, pouncy

Fun, fun, fun, fun, fun!

But the most wonderful thing about tiggers is

I'm the only one

Tiggers are cuddly fellas

Tiggers are awfully sweet

Ev'ryone el-us is jealous

That's why I repeat... and repeat

The wonderful thing about tiggers

Is tiggers are marvelous claps!

They're loaded with vim and vigor

They love to leap in your laps!

They're jumpy, bumpy, clumpy, thumpy

Fun, fun, fun, fun, fun!

But the most wonderful thing about tiggers is

I'm the only one

I-I-I'm, the only... oof!

Ouch!

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

On reflection, maybe I do have something. Not advice as such, more an observation. Anger is usually hiding an underlying emotion - frustration, grief, helplessness, fear. It can help to try to understand what is driving the anger.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I don't really have many healthy coping mechanisms...

I'll have an anxiety attack

Cry

Stress clean

Eat all the cake/chocolate

Take a nap

Cuddle a cat

Just sit in the garden

Put some depressing music on

Big hugs little pickle

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I don't know what triggering is. I use it in the correct way in a sentence. I know what someone means when they say they are triggered or something triggers them and they feel a reaction coming on. Other than that , it doesn't happen to me.

I don't bear the burden for what others do and say. They are not my conscience.

Hope you find ways to avoid the negativity of others O.P. This way comes but once. Don't waste it in hate. Theirs or yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's literally the power of distraction for me.

distract myself until i forget about it. Px

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends Op, if it’s purely anger! I tend to get in the garage and take it out on my punchbag. If I feel d sad but need to let off steam - axe throwing works, it’s the satisfying noise when it sinks into the wood… Think!!

Or if I need to think things through a long walk with my dog Gully

Hope you’re ok Mr pickle

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

"KEL LOVES ORANGE SODA

I do I do I do oooooh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you do to overcome triggering experiences or just really horrible ones?

I obviously don’t know the specifics but I’ve recently experienced some very triggering traumatic stuff around my mum and Dad and finally decided 45 was old enough to say that’s it no more x I will only see them when I feel it’s safe emotionally for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

CJ. I spent far too much of my life taking him to the gym and making him backflip off mountains to forget his lost famous quote.

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

A good gooosefrabah works too.

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By *weetCherryWoman
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah Pickles.

I'm so sorry. I hope you spending time writing and facing your feelings takes the edge off how shitty you must feel.

*sends you a hug*

People are shite, but there's so much good in the world. I completely understand it's not easy to focus on the positives sometimes.

I usually have a good cry when I'm triggered. I feel a bit better after that.

Do you want to play GTA?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Love you guys

It’s been an emotional 24 hours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

San Andreas mate.

With custom textures.

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By *zael ElohimMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a rant, I cry, I write my feelings down to get them out of my head because it's so overwhelming. I've got pages and pages of the stuff. It only helps up to a point though x

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By *zael ElohimMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

What do you do to overcome triggering experiences or just really horrible ones?

I just try to remember that they are going to die soon and let it wash over me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you do to overcome triggering experiences or just really horrible ones?

I just try to remember that they are going to die soon and let it wash over me."

That's very extreme

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so sorry to hear about that and hope it wasn't too much for you and you feel better soon. I can't help with any advice but I can only offer kind words and support that things will get better

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By *oco_marsWoman
over a year ago

Stockport

I try and have a few quiet moments to myself, maybe walk around the garden and distract myself. I hope you're okay!

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