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"So what is the right thing to do??? Pics of the mrs / now ex mrs… I to this day still play over them. They are fucking amazing. But now we have split up so I delete them or is it ok to keep them?? " -Why are you asking anyone else? | |||
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"Delete mate. Not healthy." This move on with your life! | |||
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"So what is the right thing to do??? Pics of the mrs / now ex mrs… I to this day still play over them. They are fucking amazing. But now we have split up so I delete them or is it ok to keep them?? " Have you asked her? A | |||
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"So long as strictly for you then completely your choice. Personally I’d advise deleting as only prolonging the hurt. Should caveat that by saying if she’s requests you delete all nudes & the like, then respect her choice, but she doesn’t haven’t the right to ask you to delete “normal” pics. " Yep - very much this. If she asks you to delete adult material, don't be a dick and keep it. Just delete that and move on. | |||
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"So what is the right thing to do??? Pics of the mrs / now ex mrs… I to this day still play over them. They are fucking amazing. But now we have split up so I delete them or is it ok to keep them?? " Your asking others opinions on this, the only opinion that should inform this decision, is what you feel around it. And in turn how think around it. These ppl will tell you x y and z in regards what to do. Ultimately its up to you. | |||
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"So what is the right thing to do??? Pics of the mrs / now ex mrs… I to this day still play over them. They are fucking amazing. But now we have split up so I delete them or is it ok to keep them?? " its ok and next time shes in contact have sex with her too i mean it was a great aspect of your now defunct relationship | |||
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"I think it’s entirely up to you too. If you decide to keep them though, please make sure you won’t share them with anyone, you owe it to your ex. " Agreed 100% .. also delete if ex has asked you to of course | |||
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"Delete, that's really creepy." I’d be totally creeped out if I learned that my ex-wife was wanking over old photos of my cock. | |||
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"Delete, that's really creepy. I’d be totally creeped out if I learned that my ex-wife was wanking over photos of my old cock. " Your cock doesn’t look that old | |||
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"Keep them " memories are so beautiful and yet | |||
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"Your cock doesn’t look that old" I see what you did there. | |||
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"So what is the right thing to do??? Pics of the mrs / now ex mrs… I to this day still play over them. They are fucking amazing. But now we have split up so I delete them or is it ok to keep them?? " Delete. Move on. | |||
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"So what is the right thing to do??? Pics of the mrs / now ex mrs… I to this day still play over them. They are fucking amazing. But now we have split up so I delete them or is it ok to keep them?? " Keep them, it's a Kodak moment. | |||
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"What do you think your ex would say if you were to ask her what she thinks? If I split up with my partner, amicably, then I wouldn't have an issue if he wanted to keep them. As long as they were kept for his use only. I've spent a long time with my partner and he's seen me at my best and worst, so as long as we were on good terms I genuinely wouldn't mind. I think the best option is to ask for her consent. If you can't do that, delete them. " LBC, I want to butter your cupcakes! | |||
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"What do you think your ex would say if you were to ask her what she thinks? If I split up with my partner, amicably, then I wouldn't have an issue if he wanted to keep them. As long as they were kept for his use only. I've spent a long time with my partner and he's seen me at my best and worst, so as long as we were on good terms I genuinely wouldn't mind. I think the best option is to ask for her consent. If you can't do that, delete them. LBC, I want to butter your cupcakes!" Aweeee I feel like I've not seen you in ages!! I'm glad you're still around. | |||
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"What do you think your ex would say if you were to ask her what she thinks? If I split up with my partner, amicably, then I wouldn't have an issue if he wanted to keep them. As long as they were kept for his use only. I've spent a long time with my partner and he's seen me at my best and worst, so as long as we were on good terms I genuinely wouldn't mind. I think the best option is to ask for her consent. If you can't do that, delete them. LBC, I want to butter your cupcakes! Aweeee I feel like I've not seen you in ages!! I'm glad you're still around. " People keep saying this and I feel like a fossil now | |||
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"Are we talking just normal everyday pics or nude/sexy pics?" Both, so best to specify if you have anopinion think. I don't think this is a broadly moralistic matter in the way some people seem to it - certainly for non-nudes and even for nudes at lot of the time. I recently uploaded part of an ex's image, I think only for only the second time ever. I'm not going to feel bad about it - you can't identify her and she wouldn't care either. Do what feels right for you. Only you will know if it's exploitation or not! I'm pretty good on ethical issues and think it's fine. And she's hardly the focus of the image anyway. I'm certainly not going to totally delete the thing that's for sure! I never get why people have to ask others this kind of stuff tbh, other than to be funny or perverse in their thread I guess. How will anyone else know?? I'm certainly not going to guide my life according to the broader morals of an online forum and I doubt anyone else will either! Pretty much all of us will do exactly what we feel like *at the time* re these type of private matters,whatever we tell others to do imo. Not everyone needs to delete all the pics to actually 'move on' that's for sure. Clearly a lot here do, but that is just them. pt | |||
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"I don't think this is a broadly moralistic matter in the way some people seem to it - certainly for non-nudes and even for nudes at lot of the time. I recently uploaded part of an ex's image, I think only for only the second time ever. I'm not going to feel bad about it - you can't identify her and she wouldn't care either. Do what feels right for you. Only you will know if it's exploitation or not! I'm pretty good on ethical issues and think it's fine. And she's hardly the focus of the image anyway. I'm certainly not going to totally delete the thing that's for sure!" So your ex wouldn’t mind you posting a pic of her face as she’s rimming you and using her image to entice other play friends for you? What an understanding ex you have… Asking yourself if you’re pretty good on ethical issues and saying it’s fine, doesn’t mean it’s fine! You’re hardly going to say no it’s not fine, since you posted a pic of your ex on a sex site! I’ll guarantee that if 99% of people knew that their pics would be used on a sex site, by their ex, without their permission, they wouldn’t be fine…they’d be less than fine! K | |||
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"I still have pics and videos of ex partners and lovers in my phone, both intimate and regular ones. I’ve looked at them occasionally, had a couple of wanks watching some footage remembering better times. They will equally have photos and videos of me. As long as they’re not sharing them, I don’t care that they still have them. Deleting the pic/video doesn’t delete the memory or make it so it didn’t happen so I don’t think it makes much difference tbh. I think carefully about who I take pics/videos with because I always have in mind that they last forever. " --That last bit especially is a really good point I think. I understand people feeling protective of their (and others) images, but I really don't get the level of moralising (our own relationships are known only to ourselves obviously, and 'weird' seems entirely the wrong word to me too). It is human nature though I think to 'universalise' the subjective, ie to make-appropriate for others what we'd basically want for ourselves (or would *like to think* we'd do ourselves sometimes imo) - but of course that stems from the personal. Hence even when navels were labelled by most fabbers as unattractive - a thread that made me chuckle recently because I know in the trade how much certain types of navels are used to sell so many things! I think that some of us sometimes 'subjectify' matters that are meant to be objective, on lots of levels. And we do the opposite too. I read a thread the other day asking very-critically "what would our parents say?" about trans people. (Ok it was a bit of a trollish thread). But can we ask that question about being on Fabswingers too I wondered? Of course sometimes we objectify things and ignore what we do ourselves completely! But the whole internet's known for being on the judgemental side, and probably Fab isn't really any different to anywhere else - why would it be I guess. We are all sexual creatures, and especially on here surely. pt | |||
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"I don't think this is a broadly moralistic matter in the way some people seem to it - certainly for non-nudes and even for nudes at lot of the time. I recently uploaded part of an ex's image, I think only for only the second time ever. I'm not going to feel bad about it - you can't identify her and she wouldn't care either. Do what feels right for you. Only you will know if it's exploitation or not! I'm pretty good on ethical issues and think it's fine. And she's hardly the focus of the image anyway. I'm certainly not going to totally delete the thing that's for sure! So your ex wouldn’t mind you posting a pic of her face as she’s rimming you and using her image to entice other play friends for you? What an understanding ex you have… Asking yourself if you’re pretty good on ethical issues and saying it’s fine, doesn’t mean it’s fine! You’re hardly going to say no it’s not fine, since you posted a pic of your ex on a sex site! I’ll guarantee that if 99% of people knew that their pics would be used on a sex site, by their ex, without their permission, they wouldn’t be fine…they’d be less than fine! K " As I seem to be blocked every now and again as a 'profile of no interest' on FS I think (which is entirely fair enough imo lol), I thought I better add here you can't really see (or certainly identify) my ex's face (she is sort-of rimming me) - and that is all you can see. I wouldn't go further than that, and the focus is on me or my side anyway. And I'd also add too that no she wouldn't mind. She was bisexual and really into sex, just like me. I'll actually be sending her some face pics soon of her smiling (ie entirely at me), which she can use in places like Ok cupid if she wants to. And I expect she will too, as photography is something I'm quite good at and she looks fab in them. We probably took thousands between us over a year or so. People's lives are so personal, these things are up to us no? I honestly don't forget everyone too. Partners in my life do somehow remain part of my life. pt | |||
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