FabSwingers.com forum: Being blocked

By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

I know it's stated that being ignored is not to be taken badly...but wouldn't it be nice to be just told thanks but no thanks?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

how many blocks have you had?

how much better would you feel if you had that many 'thanks but no thanks'?

is personal rejection easier to take than just a block?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

confused, are you talking about no replys or being blocked?

Either way, according to site rules, a unreplied message is too be taken as a no thanks, and some people also block to prevent that person re-contacting, thus saving time all round

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know it's stated that being ignored is not to be taken badly...but wouldn't it be nice to be just told thanks but no thanks? "
I simply do not have the time or the inclination to answer every single message i get, some i do, but some i do not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chock-a- Block

Logging off!

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

My mistake I meant a no reply rather than block!

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By *ornyelginMan
over a year ago

Elgin

y does someone send u a message and then when u go to reply ur blocked wtf

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

Not everyone ignores. I usually reply, even when its someone I am obviously not compatable with, its when they think they can move my goalposts that i ignore.

Dont let it bother you, there are lots of lovely people on here x

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

It all seems a bit rude to say I can't be arsed

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"I know it's stated that being ignored is not to be taken badly...but wouldn't it be nice to be just told thanks but no thanks? "

lol go into chat and you will get a lot more blocks. I don't get why anyone would get upset when a random stranger they have not met blocks them. Blocking people just stops them from contacting you again if you are not interested.

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

Who's getting upset about it?

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Who's getting upset about it? "

Well i didn't mean you personally but now you mention it you have made a forum post about it. So it must have upset you a bit.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Who's getting upset about it? "

^^^^^^^^^^ that. *sigh*

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

Not at all.

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

Big sigh there

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"how many blocks have you had?

how much better would you feel if you had that many 'thanks but no thanks'?

is personal rejection easier to take than just a block?"

these questions still stand for messages not being answered

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

"I know it's stated that being ignored is not to be taken badly...but wouldn't it be nice to be just told thanks but no thanks? "

I think some people have given up on doing the polite 'thanks but no thanks' due to some members coming back with abuse etc.

Im not suggesting that you would, just saying that some members have experienced it and that has put them off replying.

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

Is it less difficult to go through the blocking process than to say thanks but no?

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

I do believe there is a lot of unpleasant people but to generalise is unfair

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Is it less difficult to go through the blocking process than to say thanks but no? "

yes....click to block

one click to go to a message box, 13 clicks to write the message then another click to send the message.

after that yo have to block the sender ad delete the message

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

I've not had many blocks and yes a block to me is less pleasant than a thanks but no

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

Hard work then!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Hard work then! "

didnt say it was hard work, you asked if it was easier....and it is.

not really sure what the point of this thread is. people arent going to sop blocking just because you dont agree with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Considering your username it surprises me that being blocked 'gets to you' Just accept it and move on. x

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

Just getting other _iews on it, does there have to be an outcome? I'm realise I won't change anything,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just been told by someone who contacted me and didn't meet my requirements (way too young)that I should have just ignored them instead of replying politely 'no thank you' as I had just wasted HIS time.

Can't win!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well out of well over half the messages I say no thanks to I either get abuse, called a time waster, or the "come on I'm worth a chance", or "what's wrong with me", "ill make it worth your while" blah blah etc. so now I don't bother, as others have said deleting n blocking is easier than the hassle that follows n let's face it still means no either way, just move on

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

Maybe I just need to get use to people who don't say please and thank you any more!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I have no problem with it, it just makes me laugh. I have all the same messages you have had (maybe the same guys) lol I certainly don't let it get to me after all I don't even know them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it less difficult to go through the blocking process than to say thanks but no? "

Easier and quicker to block.

Easier to ignore, no grief or pleading why not me etc

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Maybe I just need to get use to people who don't say please and thank you any more!!!!"

as with anything in life you shouldnt expect people to have the same values or principles as yo or you end up disappointed.

you still havent answered the questions i asked by the way.

how many messages go unreplied? how would it make you feel getting that many thanks but no thanks messages?

either way they dont want to meet you, why waste anymore thought on them?

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By *ntelligent Gent.Man
over a year ago

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all depends on your block policy

i.e. if messages get excessive and not welcomes, or there's absolutely no chance, e.g. X ain't your type, or X (e.g. in my case don't like those of Asian extraction) - I've blocked tonnes that way.....keeps me busy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe I just need to get use to people who don't say please and thank you any more!!!!"

If you read the site rules, I think you will find that ignoring or not replying to a message is not deemed as rude.

Maybe, one of you guy could try opening a females account, see how you cope with number messages received, maybe then you will understand why messages get ignored

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

"Oh I have no problem with it, it just makes me laugh. I have all the same messages you have had (maybe the same guys) lol I certainly don't let it get to me after all I don't even know them. "
I can't get upset by people I don't know either. Its just manners. I guess ignorant people have spoilt that.

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

"Maybe I just need to get use to people who don't say please and thank you any more!!!!

If you read the site rules, I think you will find that ignoring or not replying to a message is not deemed as rude.

Maybe, one of you guy could try opening a females account, see how you cope with number messages received, maybe then you will understand why messages get ignored

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

"Maybe I just need to get use to people who don't say please and thank you any more!!!!

If you read the site rules, I think you will find that ignoring or not replying to a message is not deemed as rude.

Maybe, one of you guy could try opening a females account, see how

you cope with number messages received, maybe then you will understand why messages get ignored

I'm sure women get way more than men, especially men my age. Perhaps I'm unaware just how many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i get a thanks but no thanks which is rare i block them not because i am sulking but so as i do not inadvertently message again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I nearly always reply to any messages and must say I haven't had any abuse back. If anything I get thanked for letting them know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When a guy contacts me I don't have the time or inclination to check that he meets my requirements, so I reply, only then do I get told the usual excuses. THEN I may read and usually block or ignore. But the contact has already been made so the guy now thinks that I am the time waster for no replying to his ridiculous plea's.

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

"When a guy contacts me I don't have the time or inclination to check that he meets my requirements, so I reply, only then do I get told the usual excuses. THEN I may read and usually block or ignore. But the contact has already been made so the guy now thinks that I am the time waster for no replying to his ridiculous plea's."
so what you're saying is lots of guys get aggressive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I nearly always reply to any messages and must say I haven't had any abuse back. If anything I get thanked for letting them know. "

Lucky you!!!!!

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

"I nearly always reply to any messages and must say I haven't had any abuse back. If anything I get thanked for letting them know. "
thats encouraging

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i wonder if my questions are being ignored because it means the OP would have to admit that i have a point?

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By *uriousBristolCplCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Not everyone ignores. I usually reply, even when its someone I am obviously not compatable with, its when they think they can move my goalposts that i ignore.

Dont let it bother you, there are lots of lovely people on here x"

Oh you so need to move South

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When a guy contacts me I don't have the time or inclination to check that he meets my requirements, so I reply, only then do I get told the usual excuses. THEN I may read and usually block or ignore. But the contact has already been made so the guy now thinks that I am the time waster for no replying to his ridiculous plea's. so what you're saying is lots of guys get aggressive? "

You'd be surprised at how many guys react like this very few are nice bout it in my experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its easier to just not reply if not interested.

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

"When a guy contacts me I don't have the time or inclination to check that he meets my requirements, so I reply, only then do I get told the usual excuses. THEN I may read and usually block or ignore. But the contact has already been made so the guy now thinks that I am the time waster for no replying to his ridiculous plea's. so what you're saying is lots of guys get aggressive?

You'd be surprised at how many guys react like this very few are nice bout it in my experience"
then that is sad!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Oh I have no problem with it, it just makes me laugh. I have all the same messages you have had (maybe the same guys) lol I certainly don't let it get to me after all I don't even know them. I can't get upset by people I don't know either. Its just manners. I guess ignorant people have spoilt that. "

You have had plenty of input as to why people don't reply/block. It is simply not ignorant or rude to do so but quite rude of you to insinuate this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just take it for what it was. no interest

reply or no reply the end results the same fella

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

never ever worry about being blocked

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

"Its easier to just not reply if not interested."
lots of things in life are easier ignored, that doesn't make it right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i wonder if my questions are being ignored because it means the OP would have to admit that i have a point?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When a guy contacts me I don't have the time or inclination to check that he meets my requirements, so I reply, only then do I get told the usual excuses. THEN I may read and usually block or ignore. But the contact has already been made so the guy now thinks that I am the time waster for no replying to his ridiculous plea's. so what you're saying is lots of guys get aggressive?

You'd be surprised at how many guys react like this very few are nice bout it in my experiencethen that is sad! "

I agree it is they spoil it for the guys than can take the polite thanks but no thanks on the chin n move on

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

"Oh I have no problem with it, it just makes me laugh. I have all the same messages you have had (maybe the same guys) lol I certainly don't let it get to me after all I don't even know them. I can't get upset by people I don't know either. Its just manners. I guess ignorant people have spoilt that.

You have had plenty of input as to why people don't reply/block. It is simply not ignorant or rude to do so but quite rude of you to insinuate this. "
there must be plenty who don't agree with you, surely?

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

"i wonder if my questions are being ignored because it means the OP would have to admit that i have a point?

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I answered them way back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they do. I don't think it is my 'job' to check every profile of every guy who decides to contact me when they clearly don't meet my profile requirements. In future I shall just ignore then block if they continue to try to make me move goalposts.

My profile is VERY clear on what I like and prefer, I have to assume that each guy that contacts me actually does meet my needs or I will spend most of my time reading profiles of guys that I have no interest in. I have a life outside of swinging and have better things to do with my time. Like playing with lots of the lovely genuine sexy guys I have met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we get a message saying we love your profile ect ect and they clearly are not what we are looking for we BLOCK with out replying so we dont get any more messages from them.If they havnt bothered to read ALL our profile WHY should we reply No thanks

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

That is a fair comment. Why would one contact someone who will never be interested? Search me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

let the women get in touch with you instead

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"i wonder if my questions are being ignored because it means the OP would have to admit that i have a point?

I answered them way back "

no you didnt

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Over the last 48 hours I've been messaged to meet in a layby, invited for a hotel meet as they'd love to fuck my black pussy, asked if I wear stockings...I could go on.

My profile is hidden, which means I'm not meeting. Now op, you tell me, if you were me would you waste a nano second replying?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"never ever worry about being blocked"

yep, nor about rejection..

it happens..

move on..

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

"Over the last 48 hours I've been messaged to meet in a layby, invited for a hotel meet as they'd love to fuck my black pussy, asked if I wear stockings...I could go on.

My profile is hidden, which means I'm not meeting. Now op, you tell me, if you were me would you waste a nano second replying? "
as I said, maybe I'm not aware how many contacts women get...

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

"i wonder if my questions are being ignored because it means the OP would have to admit that i have a point?

I answered them way back

no you didnt

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you seem sure so no point me arguing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Over the last 48 hours I've been messaged to meet in a layby, invited for a hotel meet as they'd love to fuck my black pussy, asked if I wear stockings...I could go on.

My profile is hidden, which means I'm not meeting. Now op, you tell me, if you were me would you waste a nano second replying? as I said, maybe I'm not aware how many contacts women get..."

Maybe if searched forums for daily similar posts on same subject, you would see pretty much same answers as you have received to today's daily thread of messages being ignored/blocked

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"i wonder if my questions are being ignored because it means the OP would have to admit that i have a point?

I answered them way back

no you didnt

you seem sure so no point me arguing."

i'm sure because i'm right lol read the thread back

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

"i wonder if my questions are being ignored because it means the OP would have to admit that i have a point?

I answered them way back

no you didnt

you seem sure so no point me arguing.

i'm sure because i'm right lol read the thread back

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I have

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By *nnie2009Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

i was blocked by someone i had never spoken to lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i wonder if my questions are being ignored because it means the OP would have to admit that i have a point?

I answered them way back

no you didnt

you seem sure so no point me arguing.

i'm sure because i'm right lol read the thread back

He answered 2 of the 3 questions around 7/8 posts from start of thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've not had many blocks and yes a block to me is less pleasant than a thanks but no "

Here's the answers he gave

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I've not had many blocks and yes a block to me is less pleasant than a thanks but no

Here's the answers he gave"

i stand corrected and duely appologise

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

"I've not had many blocks and yes a block to me is less pleasant than a thanks but no

Here's the answers he gave

i stand corrected and duely appologise

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no problem

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

"I've not had many blocks and yes a block to me is less pleasant than a thanks but no

Here's the answers he gave

i stand corrected and duely appologise

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no problem

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

with the greatest of respect, short of someone saying "way to go champ!!!" some people will get offended regardless of what way people say no...

whether that be no.. or no reply.. or block....

is one really less ego crushing for some people than another???

sometimes I do wonder how "fragile" some people really are......

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By *tressfree OP Man
over a year ago

Northampton

"with the greatest of respect, short of someone saying "way to go champ!!!" some people will get offended regardless of what way people say no...

whether that be no.. or no reply.. or block....

is one really less ego crushing for some people than another???

sometimes I do wonder how "fragile" some people really are......"
I think the assumption of ones fragility is misleading.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"i was blocked by someone i had never spoken to lol"

That happens all the time of you use chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I am feeling generous and the first message is more than a handful of words, then I may say "No, thanks." before blocking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block for many reasons, too many to list here. I rarely ignore unless its a message that's just from an asshat who should know better!

Dont take it personally, just move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll get over it. If it wasn't for a reason, it's just fools saving you from finding out they're either horrible, arrogant or so extremely fussy that you are better off not bothering with them. It doesn't put points against you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I nearly always reply to any messages and must say I haven't had any abuse back. If anything I get thanked for letting them know. "

I reply to all the messages I get. Can't remember an abusive one.

OP yes it would be nice if people would just say no thank you. But as you have read with many of the replies to this thread... some people won't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to all the messages I get. Can't remember an abusive one.

OP yes it would be nice if people would just say no thank you. But as you have read with many of the replies to this thread... some people won't."

We also have to remember where we are. How many different women scour the net for sex? It's nor all going to be plain sailing and the opposite of batshit crazy motherfuckers looking to degrade themselves or others...

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By *ea and SugarCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"I know it's stated that being ignored is not to be taken badly...but wouldn't it be nice to be just told thanks but no thanks? I simply do not have the time or the inclination to answer every single message i get, some i do, but some i do not."

How selfish and ignorant of you not taking on a PA, to deal with your messages in the polite and correct manner!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'm thinking Mr Stressfree ought to take a chill pill....

or change his usermane..no offence here mr..and no need to go blocking me either lol..

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

"Maybe I just need to get use to people who don't say please and thank you any more!!!!"

There's quite a few of us that have manners but for everyone of us that does, there's probably at least 10 that dont have the manners to read the profile of the person they are emailing.

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