FabSwingers.com forum: Pushy guys

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am a single mum and only play when there at there dads ( not often ) . I chat to single guys on here and tell them this from the start . But more and more often I am finding guys are getting really pushy on here . If I tell them I can't meet for a few weeks they get arise and say get a sitter and we can fuck in the car or ask can they come over after the kids are in bed . If I say no they call me a prick teases or fake account . My life isn't ruled by sex !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't tar us all with the same brush please

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

why not block all guys and browse profiles and select the ones who you are interested in. Craft a message stating what you are looking for, your time restrictions and take it from there.

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been called this too, just because I say I can't meet fur to the fact I'm recovering from an operation. I get blocked for this as well.

Stuff em!!! It really is their loss, not mine or yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

due*

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't tar us all with the same brush please"

I didn't say all men did I ! I said its happening more and more often. And I am starting to lose heart in this site !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stuff em!!! It really is their loss, not mine or yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe this should be called "pushy peeps"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex is a recreational activity that I enjoy from time to time, and I only meet on average once a month at the most.

I have a monthly "play" budget to cover a hotel room, petrol, a film and a meal out, and when that is exhausted I don't play or go out.

Hence I plan my meets well in advance, could be as much as a couple of months ahead.

I would normally inform any gent that is interested in meeting about the waiting time well in advance. If he is interested, he would stay in touch, otherwise, the messages will die off.

No skin off my nose if they decide they would go and look for easier picks, as I ain't changing the way I operate for anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a single mum and only play when there at there dads ( not often ) . I chat to single guys on here and tell them this from the start . But more and more often I am finding guys are getting really pushy on here . If I tell them I can't meet for a few weeks they get arise and say get a sitter and we can fuck in the car or ask can they come over after the kids are in bed . If I say no they call me a prick teases or fake account . My life isn't ruled by sex !!! "
not worth bothering with ! Dickheads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't tar us all with the same brush please

I didn't say all men did I ! I said its happening more and more often. And I am starting to lose heart in this site ! "

Yeah I know, just fed up off women moaning about us men , some are very genuine and get nowhere cause of idiots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why not block all guys and browse profiles and select the ones who you are interested in. Craft a message stating what you are looking for, your time restrictions and take it from there.

good luck"

I do this, I have no hassle at all. Actually I just don't have anything ticked in the 'looking for' bit so I don't show up on searches.

When I get some free time I go looking....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have one guy persistently messaging me pushing for a meet, ended up telling him last night that I find him pushy and he's to wait until I post a meet me and hope I choose him, which not going to happen when there's more respectful guys that are happy to wait until time can be made.

Some guys on this site need to realise people have lives, kids, work, friends, this site is just a bit of fun as and when it can be fitted in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Again, it's not just the guys that do this!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"why not block all guys and browse profiles and select the ones who you are interested in. Craft a message stating what you are looking for, your time restrictions and take it from there.

good luck"

I don't want to block all guy I like chatting to some . My point is why is it more and more guys are getting rude and pushy ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Again, it's not just the guys that do this!!!!"

Sorry x ok why is it more and more people are getting rude and pushy ? Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Again, it's not just the guys that do this!!!!"

Sorry x ok why is it more and more people are getting rude and pushy ? Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Again, it's not just the guys that do this!!!!"

Sorry x ok why is it more and more people are getting rude and pushy ? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The minute someone does something that you perceive to be pushy or disrespectful just delete and block and don't get in to a discussion about it. If they can;t respect your circumstances then why on earth would you still consider meeting them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why not block all guys and browse profiles and select the ones who you are interested in. Craft a message stating what you are looking for, your time restrictions and take it from there.

good luck

I don't want to block all guy I like chatting to some . My point is why is it more and more guys are getting rude and pushy ?"

They aren't, its just the ones mailing you. I chat to loads of really nice, respectful men. I never get rude pushy ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Again, it's not just the guys that do this!!!!

Sorry x ok why is it more and more people are getting rude and pushy ? Xx"

Is your button stuck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't tar us all with the same brush please"

She didn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never asked for a meet on this or any other site. I'm almost always available, so I always, always leave it to the other person to suggest a time and place. Always.

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Forget about the pushy ones and concentrate on the ones youve met or the non pushy ones

The minority always spoil it for the majority

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

these pushy "peeps"

have you noticed whether they are new members? i'm just asking as the ones that get like this with me tend to be fairly new and young as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Again, it's not just the guys that do this!!!!"

Never said all guys, said some guys, slight difference between the two

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By *imal75Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I hope I never come across as a pushy guy. lol getting an e-mail from a lady would be nice...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never asked for a meet on this or any other site. I'm almost always available, so I always, always leave it to the other person to suggest a time and place. Always."

....how often?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The minute someone does something that you perceive to be pushy or disrespectful just delete and block and don't get in to a discussion about it. If they can;t respect your circumstances then why on earth would you still consider meeting them?

I don't believe she said she would consider meeting them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why not block all guys and browse profiles and select the ones who you are interested in. Craft a message stating what you are looking for, your time restrictions and take it from there.

good luck"

Because some people still like an inbox full of messages even if they don't like what's written in them.

It's a popularity thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Again, it's not just the guys that do this!!!!

Never said all guys, said some guys, slight difference between the two"

errr, I know you never said all guys, I never said you did. I simply said it's not JUST guys, slight difference dont you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

y not just use ur preference's and just tick box not looking for single males then at least u can look for the one's u feel av a good profile & been verified ,and if u pick a few who in turn start to get pushy u just block them and start all over again ,

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

I suppose theres that fine line.

If you dont show eager they assume your not interested. Show that tad too much eagerness and youre pushy.

Everyones different some people like a dominant man to take control and plan everything.

It only works when both/all parties talk agree and listen to each other

Happy non pushy swinging everyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"why not block all guys and browse profiles and select the ones who you are interested in. Craft a message stating what you are looking for, your time restrictions and take it from there.

good luck

Because some people still like an inbox full of messages even if they don't like what's written in them.

It's a popularity thing."

It not because I want to feel popular . I don't block all single men because some of them are nice guys and have lead to a few very good meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never asked for a meet on this or any other site. I'm almost always available, so I always, always leave it to the other person to suggest a time and place. Always.

....how often?

Well, on another site it worked very well

true, some women can't grasp the concept of the ball being in their court, and others don't have the ability to admit they're not interested, but most are switched on enough to understand the concept of a man who's 'almost always free'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why not block all guys and browse profiles and select the ones who you are interested in. Craft a message stating what you are looking for, your time restrictions and take it from there.

good luck

Because some people still like an inbox full of messages even if they don't like what's written in them.

It's a popularity thing.

It not because I want to feel popular . I don't block all single men because some of them are nice guys and have lead to a few very good meets "

Yes, I know, but some people don't block single guys because they love having a full inbox.

One has to accept that obnoxious people are as much a part of this scene as the genuine swingers. Sites like these attract people like magnets who don't have any social graces at all and think that women on sex sites are fair game and up for it whenever they want them. They don't take too kindly to rejection either and use abuse as a parting shot to piss you off as much as you've pissed them off by rejecting them. It's a childish thing to do but some people just never grew up. Block them and forget them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why not block all guys and browse profiles and select the ones who you are interested in. Craft a message stating what you are looking for, your time restrictions and take it from there.

good luck

I don't want to block all guy I like chatting to some . My point is why is it more and more guys are getting rude and pushy ?

They aren't, its just the ones mailing you. I chat to loads of really nice, respectful men. I never get rude pushy ones."

Sorry OP I just re-read my comment and wanted to clarify- I didn't mean you are doing something to attract the nutters. You're probably just unlucky at the moment.

If someone is rude to me I am polite but if they persist then I block them. Neither you, I, nor anyone on here deserves abuse. Don't let them get to you. There's nice people on here too. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it is a catch 22 for some guys too though

I like using my time on the site to get meets and fun

I end up forgetting some ive been chatting with, as I dont persistently chat

of course its good to know theres a window..and to be honest..its not that hard to say no, I cant meet RIGHT now..and that should be accepted of course.

however if I sat back and waited on every meet putting up a meettoday/meetssection bit...I'd never get the meets I want

so I prioritize on who can give me definite on dates/times, not a 'stick around till I decide when' - nope...I value my time also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get It all the time. Especially does my head in when they get the horn and wanna chat but I am washing up or changing my sons nappy or somethin totally normal. They dont like it lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some guy told me to day he had has cock in his had and I should tell him what I had on so he could think about me as he wanked . 2 pairs of socks , long Johns ,jeans, vest tucked in my nickers , 2 tops , jumper , coat , hat , scaff , gloves , wellys . Was not what he wanted to hear . Well I was sledging with my kids lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some guy told me to day he had has cock in his had and I should tell him what I had on so he could think about me as he wanked . 2 pairs of socks , long Johns ,jeans, vest tucked in my nickers , 2 tops , jumper , coat , hat , scaff , gloves , wellys . Was not what he wanted to hear . Well I was sledging with my kids lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people do not take rejection lightly, and some people do not know how to say no easily.

Put them in the same room and they'll have a swell time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha ha ha at least I am not the only one lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

no they call me a prick teases or fake

account . My life isn't ruled by sex !!!

Block them instantly! If they are that ignorant and unaware and have so little consideration, what do you think you'll get from them sexually? Not much, methinks. Find men who are more concerned for what you get out of it than what they might. Guys are two a penny on here, so you can afford to be picky and choose wisely.

Leave the dross to float away on the river of disappointment....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Again, it's not just the guys that do this!!!!

Never said all guys, said some guys, slight difference between the two

errr, I know you never said all guys, I never said you did. I simply said it's not JUST guys, slight difference dont you think?"

Not really, for me it is just Guys, as its guys I get messages off, not couples or single females.

For you it's likely to be women/couples and not guys.

So no, no slight difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Again, it's not just the guys that do this!!!!

Never said all guys, said some guys, slight difference between the two

errr, I know you never said all guys, I never said you did. I simply said it's not JUST guys, slight difference dont you think?

Not really, for me it is just Guys, as its guys I get messages off, not couples or single females.

For you it's likely to be women/couples and not guys.

So no, no slight difference"

well, just so you know. you won't be getting any from me. something we will both be exceedingly happy about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And you won't be getting any from me either, so yes we will both be happy

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Always good to see people happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always good to see people happy

I'm very happy Ryan, are you

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"Always good to see people happy

I'm very happy Ryan, are you

Oh I'm tickety-boo ta

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always good to see people happy

I'm very happy Ryan, are you

Oh I'm tickety-boo ta

Tickety boo is a good place to be

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By *eal_Dick_TurpinMan
over a year ago

Exeter

"They aren't, its just the ones mailing you. I chat to loads of really nice, respectful men. I never get rude pushy ones."

This...

Anyone can walk in to a bar and start a fight.

There are a lot of rude, demanding and frankly up their own ass people on the planet, and they are quite prepared to split the rest of the planet into two groups.

The group that they think may be of some use to them, and they are nice to these.

The group that they have no interest in, and they are rude and condescending to them.

For example, I have no interest in a single guy, but I regularly get offers.

I could sit here and say all these single guys are rude and pushy and nasty and where are all the bloody teen virgin females that I prefer...

... or I can reply to all saying thanks but no thanks, after all, they are paying me a compliment.

I do the latter, always have, and as a result never find any shortage of people who want to bounce up and down on my cock, despite being on here as a single guy, despite being outside a metropolis, despite not being 29 or whatever the ideal age is to get laid this week.

I have only ever had one person be rude to me on here, it was single woman, and she initiated contact with me, and a week later she was on the forums whining about rude men... go figure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They aren't, its just the ones mailing you. I chat to loads of really nice, respectful men. I never get rude pushy ones.

This...

Anyone can walk in to a bar and start a fight.

There are a lot of rude, demanding and frankly up their own ass people on the planet, and they are quite prepared to split the rest of the planet into two groups.

The group that they think may be of some use to them, and they are nice to these.

The group that they have no interest in, and they are rude and condescending to them.

For example, I have no interest in a single guy, but I regularly get offers.

I could sit here and say all these single guys are rude and pushy and nasty and where are all the bloody teen virgin females that I prefer...

... or I can reply to all saying thanks but no thanks, after all, they are paying me a compliment.

I have only ever had one person be rude to me on here, it was single woman, and she initiated contact with me, and a week later she was on the forums whining about rude men... go figure"

I do the latter too, 99% can accept the no thanks message gracefully, but every now and again 1% can't, and start hurling abuse, these I just block.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Again, it's not just the guys that do this!!!!

Never said all guys, said some guys, slight difference between the two

errr, I know you never said all guys, I never said you did. I simply said it's not JUST guys, slight difference dont you think?

Not really, for me it is just Guys, as its guys I get messages off, not couples or single females.

For you it's likely to be women/couples and not guys.

So no, no slight difference

well, just so you know. you won't be getting any from me. something we will both be exceedingly happy about."

Hey mate, that didn't sound very nice! Let's not get off the OP's topic....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why not block all guys and browse profiles and select the ones who you are interested in. Craft a message stating what you are looking for, your time restrictions and take it from there.

good luck"

I agree with _iew, really good advice.

I'm sorry your feeling despondent, I dont think this is a situation that is getting worse from my experience.

I think there are just some rude ass holes on here.

I've been called time waster and lesbian for not wanting to meet every guy who messaged me when I was a single fem.

On the flip side, the same assholes would be crap meets in my book, so I'm glad they've shown me early on what terrible personalities they've got.

The great guys who make great meets out there wouldn't message you that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I simply said she wouldn't be getting any pushy messages off me, I fail to see how this is not very nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why not block all guys and browse profiles and select the ones who you are interested in. Craft a message stating what you are looking for, your time restrictions and take it from there.

good luck

I agree with _iew, really good advice.

I'm sorry your feeling despondent, I dont think this is a situation that is getting worse from my experience.

I think there are just some rude ass holes on here.

I've been called time waster and lesbian for not wanting to meet every guy who messaged me when I was a single fem.

On the flip side, the same assholes would be crap meets in my book, so I'm glad they've shown me early on what terrible personalities they've got.

The great guys who make great meets out there wouldn't message you that way.

Very true, a decent guy would listen when you say not available to meet at a drop of a hat, and those are the guys worth meeting.

I don't feel need to block males from contacting as majority males are polite and respectful, it is the minority that spoil it for others.

With reference to another poster mentioning keeping forum to OP topic, OP was having problems with pushy men which I also have, granted women and couples may be same, not experienced this so can't say, but topic was about men in this instance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I simply said she wouldn't be getting any pushy messages off me, I fail to see how this is not very nice.

I took no offence as believe the feeling is mutual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I simply said she wouldn't be getting any pushy messages off me, I fail to see how this is not very nice.

Seemed reasonable to me also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I simply said she wouldn't be getting any pushy messages off me, I fail to see how this is not very nice.

I took no offence as believe the feeling is mutual."

I honestly meant non, Was just trying to say that we all suffer from this, whether it be from guys, girls or couples. It is just that there is an awful lot of single guy bashing that goes on in the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I simply said she wouldn't be getting any pushy messages off me, I fail to see how this is not very nice.

I took no offence as believe the feeling is mutual.

And I took no offence.

There will be more single men bashing. Single men hold most accounts on this site, stands to logical reason they will get bashed most. To be fair some single men don't help with their pushiness, rudeness etc, I have often said if someone says thanks but no thanks, accept it gracefully like an adult. Most do, some dont.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't bash pushy people as I am not going to waste my time and energy over peeps I do not care about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol me either, I was just agreeing with OP, and last post I believe explains why some men have a bad name attached to them for various reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahh pushy. I must be dreaming.

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