FabSwingers.com forum: Compatibly

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When you look at a persons profile, do you sometimes know instantly whether you feel compatible with them or you don't?

Do you think it's fair enough to say to someone that you don't feel you're compatible after looking at photos and reading a few words on their profile?

I'd be interested to know your views.

Thank you.

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

Personally I think you can only get a brief idea of whether you are compatible. Compatibility is more than just the sexual aspect unless you are just looking for fuck and go. I've met people who I've never met again, there's just nothing between us. I've met people for a social that have gone on to be good friends. A profile just gives you a rough idea. Photos will not give you any idea of who you are compatible with. They might give you more of an idea who you wouldn't be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a split decision in the moment. There's sometimes things on the profile that are off putting and make me feel not we wouldn't vibe well. The photos are obviously easier to judge compatibility as you either find someone attractive or you don't. You can never know for sure, you just go off gut instinct I guess.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes I do feet it's fair to say that

There are certain things that people want that we don't and we're not attractive to or attracted to everyone.

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there

We’ve thought that and agreed to meet then it was an utter bore fest, on the flip side we’ve written people off based on their profile & then bumped into them at a club/social and had the times of our lives.

Some people just don’t come across well on paper which is a shame.

Lesson learnt for us.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

9 times out of 10 I’d say yes I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely - some are outright obvious I.e BBC ONLY, WHITE GUYS WILL BE DELETED AND BLOCKED. A fairly good flag

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I get a feel for people either through their forum chat or their profile. That’s enough for me to judge right away whether there’s a *chance* of mutual attraction. But even in the best of worlds, that’s still only a chance. Need to get together to see whether the spark is real.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"9 times out of 10 I’d say yes I know "

This. And if I miss out on some people so be it. I’m a gut instinct operator. If your profile isn’t resonating for me (and by that I mean making me want to spend time in your company laughing) then I’m too lazy to pursue it further. Which is potentially unfair as my own profile is lazy as fuck. But it kinda sums me up. Altogether now, “she’s a lazy fuck”. I truly am.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"When you look at a persons profile, do you sometimes know instantly whether you feel compatible with them or you don't?

Do you think it's fair enough to say to someone that you don't feel you're compatible after looking at photos and reading a few words on their profile?

I'd be interested to know your views.

Thank you."
I know from looking at a profile what i don't want

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By *hogun300Man
over a year ago

Dundee

Without obviously meeting them its a first impression if sorts. Your profile is an opportunity to sell yourself and potentially make others take note. I never understand those with blank profiles/no pics etc. Can at times come across as they can't be bothered to do so. It's a shop window and is I think important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I wouldn’t put it in a proper response if I felt like that. I’d just air the message. But I think I can pretty easily get some sort of idea from their profile if it’s filled in with more than ‘will fill in later’ or ‘I’m a x year old woman and I’m looking to meet men’.

But having said all that, people surprise you sometimes. If they messaged me first and it was sweet then I’d go with the flow and see.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I think I get a good idea if would be compatible or not but it depends on effort that's been put in on profile

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

All depends on a lot of factors when i look at the profile. Most of the time i will chat to people and then see from there unless there first message doesnt do it for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I probably judge a little too harshly on here at times when it comes to profiles or messages.

I realise this makes me a bit of a hypocrite given how sparce my own profile blurb is!

The forums give me a bit more insight into some people.

You need to actually meet to determine a spark though.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Yep, I can tell from their pics and their profile if they're for me.

If they message me Im not interested, it's perfectly acceptable to reply & say we're not compatible. Rather that than "I just don't fancy you"

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

I don't think i'd just go on a person's profile...i'd get an idea if we started chatting though i think pretty much straight away...so i never really judge on a profile (mine's crap).

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No the pictures + bio are what get us interested in the profile. But it’s the conversation that works out of your compatible or not. Obviously both parties have different agendas so it’s the conversation that decides whether theres compatibility.

The mr

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Yes sometimes. If a person says they're looking for NSA, less chat the better, we won't be compatible in the slightest.

Maybe if I met them in a club I'll feel differently but I've never had sex in a club and not sure I will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can tell by a profile if that person isn't compatible with myself.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I think I can determine my compatibility 'level' with someone, as long as their profile is descriptive enough for me to gauge suitability by what they've written. It's only part of the answer for me: behind every poorly executed profile lies a potentially suitable person.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I think my gut instinct about a profile serves me well.

Theres times i feel I've dodged a bullet,i might get a vibe about someone and say no thanks.Then they come back with abuse & I know I made the right call.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Yes and no.

It may make me think I would like to meet them etc but then it usually makes me think that they are unlikely to want to meet anyway me so not much help to me

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

"When you look at a persons profile, do you sometimes know instantly whether you feel compatible with them or you don't?

Do you think it's fair enough to say to someone that you don't feel you're compatible after looking at photos and reading a few words on their profile?

I'd be interested to know your views.

Thank you."

Yes.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

"We’ve thought that and agreed to meet then it was an utter bore fest, on the flip side we’ve written people off based on their profile & then bumped into them at a club/social and had the times of our lives.

Some people just don’t come across well on paper which is a shame.

Lesson learnt for us. "

With you on this but also had someone come across quite well by profile and messaging, on meeting - scary, mono-syllabic, weird. 2 minutes into the social and I was looking for the exit.

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By *ebootCouple
over a year ago

Telford

"When you look at a persons profile, do you sometimes know instantly whether you feel compatible with them or you don't?

Do you think it's fair enough to say to someone that you don't feel you're compatible after looking at photos and reading a few words on their profile?

I'd be interested to know your views.

Thank you."

Yes, we always say we don’t feel we’re compatible if we don’t, it’s not rude or disrespectful - it’s honest and doesn’t leave anyone confused or unsure - little point beating around the bush

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

No I need the face to face chemistry test to determine that, hence why I go on socials.

I choose profiles purely on attraction and hope for the best that we are compatible

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

I read the profile OP to see I'm not wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I’d get along with them. But the problem is, I don’t know what they’d think.

I also have the fact, I read profiles, and respect preferences and what, who they are looking for…

So, I’d assume I ‘could’ be compatible, but not

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I know immediately if we are not compatible because of their choice of words or pics.

On the flip side though I'll never assume compatibility no matter how good the words and pics are.

I've seen threads here asking people to pop in if they would like to find a fwb and never understood how that actually works.

Compatibility like friendship is built on trust which takes time and can't be as simple as saying we both have similar interests listed on our profiles so we are obviously compatible.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

Mainly profiles have told me if I was attracted to someone physically. But there have been odd ones where the words have made me feel that they're my kind of person...and I've always been right.

More often than not though the wording just made me roll my eyes and think that we wouldn't be compatible. A certain someone changed his profile wording not long after we'd started chatting...I'm so glad I saw the first version, because I'd have immediately dismissed him as a complete nobber if I'd only seen the new version

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mainly profiles have told me if I was attracted to someone physically. But there have been odd ones where the words have made me feel that they're my kind of person...and I've always been right.

Had he been on the forums asking for advice first

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for all of your contributions. They've all made interesting reading.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I’m someone who has put a bit of effort into my profile I still don’t think it really says everything about me….words don’t articulate a person and I find people can lie a lot easier with their profile….so I’m not one to think their words make me and them compatible!

Personally I think fab is all about the physical attraction and having those pics that entice a person…..without the attraction I don’t think it happens!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you look at a persons profile, do you sometimes know instantly whether you feel compatible with them or you don't?

Do you think it's fair enough to say to someone that you don't feel you're compatible after looking at photos and reading a few words on their profile?

I'd be interested to know your views.

Thank you."

Yes it's fair.

But some people get angry when someone turns them down by saying they're not compatible. Then you know with absolute certainty you made the right decision.

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