FabSwingers.com forum: How does it end?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The chats you start (and end) here, the socials that don't work out, the meets that do, the FWB you've outgrown etc etc. Do you ghost? Do you have a script? Do you stay friendly or block?

How does it end?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It just fizzles out usually

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It just fizzles out usually "

Do you mean the chat gets more mundane as times goes on?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mainly people stop chatting, have made one friend on here (doesn't find me attractive - understandable- but we have good chats).

Never ghost anyone and if people don't want to chat would much rather just be told and then it's all done isn't it

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

If we've only exchanged a few messages I'll let it fizzle out. If it's a social meet and I'm not feeling it, I will say if asked. I don't ghost as I don't like that being done to me.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just honest with people, if I'm not feeling it I'll say. People always know where they stand with me even if they don't like the answer. We're adults, people who block without reason, ghost or play games really need to treat others better.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have real friends from fabs . We don’t meet , but she helped me a lot . We r good friends .

Made great friends , socials that didn’t work , but slowly the distance gets is own way …

Made great pen pals ( far away ) slowly it fades away …

Majority 99% if it doesn’t work that’s it

If not interested , No time to waste …

I never ghosted anyone . Can’t think of anything worse

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

It just fades away usually.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mainly people stop chatting, have made one friend on here (doesn't find me attractive - understandable- but we have good chats).

Never ghost anyone and if people don't want to chat would much rather just be told and then it's all done isn't it "

It's harder to tell people, and risk upsetting someone. Which I guess is why some ghost?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It tends to just fizzle out, usually on their side of the replies get shorter or stop replying altogether. There are some I'd really like to get back into contact with again as there wasn't that closure but wouldn't want to go through the same process in case they're not interested anymore.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If fades away like the fog in the morning there’s no reason why still can’t be friends

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *empusMan
over a year ago

Poole

I try to be upfront and honest with people and I hope they will be upfront and honest with me. Life is complicated enough x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never really see the problem with a quick "this isn't working out for me" type message

Rather than leave a message unread or just have someone hanging but that may be me and my simple ways

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

The friendly slow fade, I become polite, but evasive when asked personal questions on a fade, no need to reignite, as I'm done

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

"It tends to just fizzle out, usually on their side of the replies get shorter or stop replying altogether. There are some I'd really like to get back into contact with again as there wasn't that closure but wouldn't want to go through the same process in case they're not interested anymore."

I was busy FFS!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was busy FFS! "

I know you were... Busy with your other floozies!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Never really see the problem with a quick "this isn't working out for me" type message

Rather than leave a message unread or just have someone hanging but that may be me and my simple ways "

I've had push back multiple times from men, as in arguing the toss and then getting nasty. So I don't like it, but I've been ghosted and I hate that! So I won't do it to another.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The friendly slow fade, I become polite, but evasive when asked personal questions on a fade, no need to reignite, as I'm done "

Do they catch on quick? I don't think I have the skills for the friendly slow fade. My fade doesn't seem strong enough.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never really see the problem with a quick "this isn't working out for me" type message

Rather than leave a message unread or just have someone hanging but that may be me and my simple ways

I've had push back multiple times from men, as in arguing the toss and then getting nasty. So I don't like it, but I've been ghosted and I hate that! So I won't do it to another. "

I get that some people are unsavoury, I would hope I've never come across that way to people and just would prefer closure rather than wonder is it isn't it...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

If they've behaved particularly badly, I'll tell them, and then block, so they can't come creeping back.

Mostly it just fizzles out.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t chat as much or the conversations get shorter until it eventually fizzles out usually.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just take the hint.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Just fizzles out

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *pple500Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Usually life gets in the way and it fizzles out, nothing wrong with being honest too and thank them for the fun before you move on x manners coast nothing they say

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Their 10 minute conversation limit expires.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Keep it to the thread please

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Their 10 minute conversation limit expires. "

Their what?!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The chats you start (and end) here, the socials that don't work out, the meets that do, the FWB you've outgrown etc etc. Do you ghost? Do you have a script? Do you stay friendly or block?

How does it end?"

Are you trying to tell me something??

I told you, i was tired. Its never happened to me before

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

I'll let you know when it happens.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Mainly people stop chatting, have made one friend on here (doesn't find me attractive - understandable- but we have good chats).

Never ghost anyone and if people don't want to chat would much rather just be told and then it's all done isn't it

It's harder to tell people, and risk upsetting someone. Which I guess is why some ghost? "

It can be much more upsetting to ghost though.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of guys on here are already incapable to holding a conversation so the end is about 3 words after the start.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some fizzle out but those that don’t we transfer to WhatsApp and those rarely do.

I have made some fantastic friends on here.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Their 10 minute conversation limit expires.

Their what?! "

I have a ten minute policy.

I’ve not got all day you know.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

"A lot of guys on here are already incapable to holding a conversation so the end is about 3 words after the start. "
Fancy a Fuck

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone just kind of disappears

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With a bang ….

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"A lot of guys on here are already incapable to holding a conversation so the end is about 3 words after the start. "

•

And equally so a lot of women are more adept at holding a cock than a conversation on here.

And that's speaking from experience. The conversation, 'not the cock.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

"Everyone just kind of disappears

"
I'm just invisable.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

"Their 10 minute conversation limit expires. "
Too long for me.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"The friendly slow fade, I become polite, but evasive when asked personal questions on a fade, no need to reignite, as I'm done

Do they catch on quick? I don't think I have the skills for the friendly slow fade. My fade doesn't seem strong enough.

Generally yes, as they are 9/10 doing it to me as well, no confrontation, and closure is achieved for both party's. Some reappear after a long period of time, but I won't let them back in, politeness is enough

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mainly people stop chatting, have made one friend on here (doesn't find me attractive - understandable- but we have good chats).

Never ghost anyone and if people don't want to chat would much rather just be told and then it's all done isn't it

It's harder to tell people, and risk upsetting someone. Which I guess is why some ghost?

It can be much more upsetting to ghost though."

It's much worse, when I see a message I sent mid conversation being left unread it does hurt

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone just kind of disappears

I'm just invisable."

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before I thought “ ghost “ ment stalking .

Like a ghost always haunting you never leave u alone ^^. Is totally the opposite ha ha

^^ maybe the word for stalker is “ shadow “

Creepy stuff ^^.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'll let you know when it happens."

Ok, sure

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A lot of guys on here are already incapable to holding a conversation so the end is about 3 words after the start.

•

And equally so a lot of women are more adept at holding a cock than a conversation on here.

And that's speaking from experience. The conversation, 'not the cock."

Ouch

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of guys on here are already incapable to holding a conversation so the end is about 3 words after the start. Fancy a Fuck

Wait…wuu2 counts as one word right?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Silence usually

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of guys on here are already incapable to holding a conversation so the end is about 3 words after the start.

•

And equally so a lot of women are more adept at holding a cock than a conversation on here.

And that's speaking from experience. The conversation, 'not the cock."

Yep! The bread-crumbing isn't exclusive to guys at all

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A lot of guys on here are already incapable to holding a conversation so the end is about 3 words after the start. Fancy a Fuck

Wait…wuu2 counts as one word right? "

Totally!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mainly people stop chatting, have made one friend on here (doesn't find me attractive - understandable- but we have good chats).

Never ghost anyone and if people don't want to chat would much rather just be told and then it's all done isn't it

It's harder to tell people, and risk upsetting someone. Which I guess is why some ghost?

It can be much more upsetting to ghost though.

It's much worse, when I see a message I sent mid conversation being left unread it does hurt"

Actually that's why I started the thread as two guys did that to me recently. Chatty chat chat then .....tumble. I prefer an ending.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

"A lot of guys on here are already incapable to holding a conversation so the end is about 3 words after the start. Fancy a Fuck

Wait…wuu2 counts as one word right? "

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eliWoman
over a year ago

It depends on the closeness, why it's ending etc.

If it's someone I'm talking to and I'm not feeling it any more, I'll politely say or let it slow fizzle. If it's someone close, I'll have a let's be friends chat because I do still like the person, even if that physical element isn't there for me.

I've not really been on the receiving end of it but I can imagine it might sting a bit so I do try and handle it mindfully.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"The chats you start (and end) here, the socials that don't work out, the meets that do, the FWB you've outgrown etc etc. Do you ghost? Do you have a script? Do you stay friendly or block?

How does it end?"

My free minutes run out.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *urulovesnylonMan
over a year ago

Harrow

I get ghosted but I suppose mainly fizzles out

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The chats you start (and end) here, the socials that don't work out, the meets that do, the FWB you've outgrown etc etc. Do you ghost? Do you have a script? Do you stay friendly or block?

How does it end?

My free minutes run out."

But what about the second thoughts tho?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a prick. Karma will get me back.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

DM me so I can read message but not reply.

Usually works on me

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"The chats you start (and end) here, the socials that don't work out, the meets that do, the FWB you've outgrown etc etc. Do you ghost? Do you have a script? Do you stay friendly or block?

How does it end?

My free minutes run out.

But what about the second thoughts tho?"

Ha! They always have those and I get radio silence

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to write a letter giving formal notice on my intention to withdraw from the engagement

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"I like to write a letter giving formal notice on my intention to withdraw from the engagement "

Oo talking of which! Did you finish drafting your text marriage proposal??

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to write a letter giving formal notice on my intention to withdraw from the engagement

Oo talking of which! Did you finish drafting your text marriage proposal??"

I did. It was exquisite. It read 'you're not bad are you? Want get hitched?' The engagement lasted approximately 23hrs and 18 minutes.

A success I think

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"I like to write a letter giving formal notice on my intention to withdraw from the engagement

Oo talking of which! Did you finish drafting your text marriage proposal??

I did. It was exquisite. It read 'you're not bad are you? Want get hitched?' The engagement lasted approximately 23hrs and 18 minutes.

A success I think

What a lucky man!! Almost 24 hours before the text divorce - that’s good going.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m a prick. Karma will get me back. "

Pickle!!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"DM me so I can read message but not reply.

Usually works on me

Sorry, what?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

Got a long list of fizzled WhatsApps makes me sad sometimes

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aggonerMan
over a year ago

for a penny

I’ll let you know.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can I ask if things have got spicy in the chat - does that make it harder to fade away or easier to just block? Especially if it was a spicy chat with a forumite!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Can I ask if things have got spicy in the chat - does that make it harder to fade away or easier to just block? Especially if it was a spicy chat with a forumite!

There's a song called "Don't Fuck Your Co-workers" and that sprung to mind.

Absolute hypocrite I am.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can I ask if things have got spicy in the chat - does that make it harder to fade away or easier to just block? Especially if it was a spicy chat with a forumite!

There's a song called "Don't Fuck Your Co-workers" and that sprung to mind.

Absolute hypocrite I am.

Me too, Meli. Me too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like to write a letter giving formal notice on my intention to withdraw from the engagement

Oo talking of which! Did you finish drafting your text marriage proposal??

I did. It was exquisite. It read 'you're not bad are you? Want get hitched?' The engagement lasted approximately 23hrs and 18 minutes.

A success I think

Congratulations

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ravelling_WilburyMan
over a year ago

Beverley

Yeah id rather be honest. Can't stand having a chat with someone when you're both laughing etc and then a message of yours just stays unread and it ends that way.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah id rather be honest. Can't stand having a chat with someone when you're both laughing etc and then a message of yours just stays unread and it ends that way. "

I do find that rude. Particularly when men approach me to start with and then drop the conversation. I just roll my eyes now.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"There's a song called "Don't Fuck Your Co-workers" and that sprung to mind.

Absolute hypocrite I am.

Well … she also does a song called Always Fuck Your Co-workers, so … y’know. Take your pick.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I’m still good friends with all the FWBs I’ve met on here. Some chats fizzle out. Probably more my fault though as I disappear a lot and very rarely check messages.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There's a song called "Don't Fuck Your Co-workers" and that sprung to mind.

Absolute hypocrite I am.

Well … she also does a song called Always Fuck Your Co-workers, so … y’know. Take your pick."

I work alone.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"I wank alone.

Don’t we all?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Conversation seems to get less and less and then it naturally fizzles out.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

Some fizzle out never to be heard from again, some I stay in contact with as friends.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wank alone.

Don’t we all?"

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So no-one is admitted to ghosting, just fading or fizzling out the conversations?

I did used to fade more so but I've seen multiple men comment on the forum that they'd prefer a woman be crystal clear than do this. So these days, once I know I'm not interested, I say so immediately....and then get argued with. Feel like I can't win!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"So no-one is admitted to ghosting, just fading or fizzling out the conversations?"

All these things happen. I’ve done them all. I’ve had them all done to me. I’m trying to be better.

I never want conversations, relationships, friendships to end. But I do sometimes want them to change. To change shape, change status, change frequency, or however you want to describe it. I’m not always good at communicating that. Sometimes they dwindle to nothing instead and that makes me sad.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

It just fizzles out and I leave it at that. I don't really see the need for someone to explain to me why they don't want to talk/meet anymore. They haven't replied or can see they aren't interested anymore so just leave it at that?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"So no-one is admitted to ghosting, just fading or fizzling out the conversations?

Oh I definitely let things fizzle. Have done before, I'd like to say I won't again but it's likely I will.

I wouldn't ghost someone because I don't know. It seems a bit callous and I don't like giving up on people. Even if the dynamic has changed slightly, I still want the friendship. Just different. Sometimes things naturally change don't they? And there comes a point where I don't have the energy to keep investing in something so I'd rather say it. If it's ignored/not welcomed, I'd rather fizzle than keep giving myself to someone.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to admit I'm really rubbish at telling someone I'm not interested and at times have just gone quiet and hoped they feel the same.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

People just stop messaging usually or there was zero chemistry to begin with and we agree it's not for us

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ust a little bit moreWoman
over a year ago

kendal

I usually just send a 'im really sorry, your a great guy/girl but it's just not really working for me' message, and then feel incredibly uncomfortable, coz I absolutely hate offending people.

But, if it's the other way round, you can generally tell when someone is feeling it,

So I just usually either take the hint and don't message again, or just don't initiate the first contact in a conversation n it just kinda fizzles to nothingness.

Then I mope a bit (depending on how much I liked them, the moping time can vary lol!)

And then just move on.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So no-one is admitted to ghosting, just fading or fizzling out the conversations?

All these things happen. I’ve done them all. I’ve had them all done to me. I’m trying to be better.

I don't think it is an easy thing to communicate. I find that hard. Often because I'm nervous about asking for change.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It just fizzles out and I leave it at that. I don't really see the need for someone to explain to me why they don't want to talk/meet anymore. They haven't replied or can see they aren't interested anymore so just leave it at that?"

Well, my OP was about all sorts of things not just a brief chat here. But if you'd been talking daily to someone for weeks - no "ending"?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread