FabSwingers.com forum: Question for single profiles and couples

By *razel OP Man
over a year ago

South East

As a single profile, do you reach out to couples or other singles or do they reach out to you?

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

In all sincerity, they reach out to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do, to both couples and singles. I try to be pro-active.

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
over a year ago

south coast IOW

Yes I do and fab pics if I see something I like.

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By *razel OP Man
over a year ago

South East

Must be your impeccable dress sense. Do you not message people on here then?

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

I'll chat to everyone

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

I message who I think will be receptive, both as a couple and a single!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I do, to both couples and singles. I try to be pro-active."

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

I wink, browse profiles but rarely send first message unless profile is advertising club visit or an event.

Mostly they message me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm way too shy to reach out to them usually x

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

I'll send a first message if I like a profile.

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By *ustagentMan
over a year ago

wa14

I dont send many messages as couples are swamped by them i have profile and if they like it they can message or not. they pick you, you dont pick them i find

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes depends on what they are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reach out to them .. most if the time

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

I can’t cope with all the attention. I’ve got thousands of unopened messages, it’s unbearable.

(Yes, of course I’m lying

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock

I usually always message first

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By *razel OP Man
over a year ago

South East

Single guys, if you know that people on here get swamped by messages, what do you do that makes you stand out?

Does being a site supporter increase your chances?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

both.. i message people, and people message me

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

"I message who I think will be receptive, both as a couple and a single! "

You didn't message me

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

In all seriousness I generally don't message people first unless it's through the forums etc

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I've never sent a message, ever. No one talks to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think if u like what you see reach out else you might miss opportunity

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"Must be your impeccable dress sense. Do you not message people on here then?"

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No, I haven't sent an introductory in nearly two years.

I do exchange messages with other forumites but these are on the back of forum threads, games, tasks, photo-challenges etc.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I reach out to other single profiles often yes.

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

"Single guys, if you know that people on here get swamped by messages, what do you do that makes you stand out?

Does being a site supporter increase your chances?"

Nope.

I have no idea why sometimes I get a response, but other times I get ignored.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

"Must be your impeccable dress sense. Do you not message people on here then?

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No, I haven't sent an introductory in nearly two years.

I do exchange messages with other forumites but these are on the back of forum threads, games, tasks, photo-challenges etc."

So that's what it is.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I let them reach out to me. No point putting the effort into a message only to have it unread and not replied to.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"Must be your impeccable dress sense. Do you not message people on here then?

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No, I haven't sent an introductory in nearly two years.

I do exchange messages with other forumites but these are on the back of forum threads, games, tasks, photo-challenges etc.

So that's what it is.....

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Oh, fear not country lass, I've kept yours framed on parchment paper for posterity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do single guys reach out to couples, more like their the horny dog trying to hump your leg!! We have no meets posted, no new pictures posted, no status update, just being online means that apparently were up for being out!!

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

I almost never message first. I get a lovely manageable number of messages that way.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

They last time I sent an introductory message to anyone on here was late January 2020.

Every conversation since has been started by others.

It wasn't a conscious decision at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will send a first message if I think I might interest them. After reading their profile ..equally I will always answer any messages I receive and also will react to winks...but will always ignore friend requests if we haven't chatted.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Both but I rarely approach anyone now, I do get people approaching me

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

Bit of both though it's very rare that I send a first message these days even if the profile was a delightful read with nice tits/arse if theres a face there I might however

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

I just never give up.

People say just get involved with the forums etc, but nothing ever comes from it. I’ve tried for years, but if you’re not in the ‘clique’ (yes the denied, but definite clique) then you’re ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I message via the forum, but don't think I've sent a message otherwise. Although maybe I should, because I've gotten so bored with the messages I just turned them off.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

I'm open to either.

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

"I message who I think will be receptive, both as a couple and a single!

You didn't message me

I must immediately right this wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It tends to be us reaching out to others as we don’t get that many messages. Absolutely good with either way round though

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By *aughty Couple ABCCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich

We have mostly single men reaching out to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

everybody is out there being proactive while I'm being reactive by telling folk in my inbox to sod off

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By *irty-pairCouple
over a year ago

South Essex

It’s a bit of both for us. We like to be proactive, but it’s also nice to receive something out of the blue

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By *oft_SensualTV/TS
over a year ago

Yorkshire

There seems to be a dearth of eligible people, either singles or couples in 20 mile radius of my house....

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"As a single profile, do you reach out to couples or other singles or do they reach out to you?

Rarely send an introductory message these days. As clubs and socials is where I connect these days. And occasionally the forums. I do get messages from women...

As does being a site supporter increase chances in short, like fuck dies it, as if there's no attraction there, it won't matter whether yiu are or not. You have to sell yourself on here Op. Remember you awash in a sea of cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do single guys reach out to couples, more like their the horny dog trying to hump your leg!! We have no meets posted, no new pictures posted, no status update, just being online means that apparently were up for being out!! "

If you delete men off your Looking For list it takes you off their searches and will reduce your mail.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

"everybody is out there being proactive while I'm being reactive by telling folk in my inbox to sod off

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So close yet so far.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I reach out to them, I know who I want and am happy to make a move towards them

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

I rarely send introductory messages they mostly get ignored but i get quite a few messages sent so hey it works for me

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

One of the reason I am not messaging couples or ladies as don’t want to be seeing as horny dog. I am a person first of all. Sometimes horny yeah

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I message profiles who catch my eye, and potentially I could be a match for.

It’s extremely rare for me to receive an opening message from couples or single ladies though

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

There seems to be a little bit of blatant arrogance surfacing every now and then in some of the comments. Messaging anyone is about being courteous and considerate, have clearly read their profile and how they might feel about your message and be prepared that if they do not respond, it is their choice not to do so. Personally I normally do, though I am not someone that might receive hundreds if not thousands, of messages making it impossible for them to do so. It is also OK to send a little compliment or praise or word of support to someone if you feel they will appreciate it or at least let them know in the forum that you are happy for them to message you. In the end it should be obvious what is right to do or not. People just sometimes choose not to do the right thing.

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