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By *carlett 44 OP   Woman
over a year ago

bootle

First time posting.

Firstly I'm a single lady who enjoys sex. I didn't for many of my younger years. At this point in my life I'm hoping to find someone I can have regular fun with. Even go out with socialising. Am I expecting too much. I have met some lovely men. I get my hopes up n that's as far as it goes. Dnt know if I'm doin somethin wrong

Any advice xx

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

Personally I find you an attractive lady.

We have spoken and it was a pleasure to find you have a sense of humour.

I like your dress sense and undress sense.

If I was closer I would be asking your availability for dinner, a dance and then plan on asking to see you again.

Even by not living closer the offer would still stand although it would be on a friendship basis which would involve quality hotels, bars, nice wines and I'd also ask to take you to wine tasting events, chocolate supreme exhibitions which are invitation only.

if at all possible over a long weekend.

Have you ever been on the back of a Harley Davidson? We can do that too.

I'm all honesty your a lovely women I do hope someone sweeps you off you're feet and makes you feel everything you've wanted.

X

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


" First time posting.

Firstly I'm a single lady who enjoys sex. I didn't for many of my younger years. At this point in my life I'm hoping to find someone I can have regular fun with. Even go out with socialising. Am I expecting too much. I have met some lovely men. I get my hopes up n that's as far as it goes. Dnt know if I'm doin somethin wrong

Any advice xx"

A common complaint for those up North.... unfortunately.

A lot of the middle-aged men, I meet are working long hours, caring for children and parents and supporting friends. they want a lot of sex but when it comes to actually scheduling it, they'd rather lie on the sofa and watch Netflix. And that's London.

I'm not getting my kicks from meeting men in the swinging clubs and non-play socials and a bit of salsa with men who either know how to dance or want to learn how to dance. The Salsa is a great way for me to maintain intimacy, connection and human touch without resorting to sex play all of the time.

People don't understand why all the Strictly celebrities end up with their dance partners or just splitting from their previous partners.

If you haven't been intimate or connected or touched in a long time, dancing suddenly re-awakens that face that you are a human needing and wanting touch.

I'm someone who disconnects very easily from my body, from people from reality, and from the world so I have to work hard to stay grounded. My default setting is to lie down and hide under the duvet or weighted blanket because I often find the world too overwhelming/underwhelming to navigate on my own.

trust me you are not alone in this state of dissatisfaction.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


" First time posting.

Firstly I'm a single lady who enjoys sex. I didn't for many of my younger years. At this point in my life I'm hoping to find someone I can have regular fun with. Even go out with socialising. Am I expecting too much. I have met some lovely men. I get my hopes up n that's as far as it goes. Dnt know if I'm doin somethin wrong

Any advice xx"

My advice as someone who had several FB's on here before marrying the last one.......don't look for it.

If it's going to happen it will, but the more you actively look the more you'll encounter men who say they want more than a one nighter just to get you into bed, then you'll become disheartened and close off to the idea.

Just continue to meet nice guys and you may bump into someone looking for the same. Don't force it or have any expectations as most times a FB relationship develops naturally over time.

Patience is key.

A

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat


" First time posting.

Firstly I'm a single lady who enjoys sex. I didn't for many of my younger years. At this point in my life I'm hoping to find someone I can have regular fun with. Even go out with socialising. Am I expecting too much. I have met some lovely men. I get my hopes up n that's as far as it goes. Dnt know if I'm doin somethin wrong

Any advice xx

My advice as someone who had several FB's on here before marrying the last one.......don't look for it.

If it's going to happen it will, but the more you actively look the more you'll encounter men who say they want more than a one nighter just to get you into bed, then you'll become disheartened and close off to the idea.

Just continue to meet nice guys and you may bump into someone looking for the same. Don't force it or have any expectations as most times a FB relationship develops naturally over time.

Patience is key.

A"

I'd second this. On the face of it it should be easy to find for most of us but in practice it's harder to find in rocking horse shit when you are actively looking. Good luck OP - I hope you find what you are looking for x

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By *carlett 44 OP   Woman
over a year ago

bootle


" First time posting.

Firstly I'm a single lady who enjoys sex. I didn't for many of my younger years. At this point in my life I'm hoping to find someone I can have regular fun with. Even go out with socialising. Am I expecting too much. I have met some lovely men. I get my hopes up n that's as far as it goes. Dnt know if I'm doin somethin wrong

Any advice xx

My advice as someone who had several FB's on here before marrying the last one.......don't look for it.

If it's going to happen it will, but the more you actively look the more you'll encounter men who say they want more than a one nighter just to get you into bed, then you'll become disheartened and close off to the idea.

Just continue to meet nice guys and you may bump into someone looking for the same. Don't force it or have any expectations as most times a FB relationship develops naturally over time.

Patience is key.

A"
thankyou great advice. I just let my feelings take over. I shld know better lol

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By *carlett 44 OP   Woman
over a year ago

bootle


" First time posting.

Firstly I'm a single lady who enjoys sex. I didn't for many of my younger years. At this point in my life I'm hoping to find someone I can have regular fun with. Even go out with socialising. Am I expecting too much. I have met some lovely men. I get my hopes up n that's as far as it goes. Dnt know if I'm doin somethin wrong

Any advice xx

My advice as someone who had several FB's on here before marrying the last one.......don't look for it.

If it's going to happen it will, but the more you actively look the more you'll encounter men who say they want more than a one nighter just to get you into bed, then you'll become disheartened and close off to the idea.

Just continue to meet nice guys and you may bump into someone looking for the same. Don't force it or have any expectations as most times a FB relationship develops naturally over time.

Patience is key.

A

I'd second this. On the face of it it should be easy to find for most of us but in practice it's harder to find in rocking horse shit when you are actively looking. Good luck OP - I hope you find what you are looking for x"
thankyou hun. I overthink it too much rather than go with the flow xx

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By *carlett 44 OP   Woman
over a year ago

bootle


"Personally I find you an attractive lady.

We have spoken and it was a pleasure to find you have a sense of humour.

I like your dress sense and undress sense.

If I was closer I would be asking your availability for dinner, a dance and then plan on asking to see you again.

Even by not living closer the offer would still stand although it would be on a friendship basis which would involve quality hotels, bars, nice wines and I'd also ask to take you to wine tasting events, chocolate supreme exhibitions which are invitation only.

if at all possible over a long weekend.

Have you ever been on the back of a Harley Davidson? We can do that too.

I'm all honesty your a lovely women I do hope someone sweeps you off you're feet and makes you feel everything you've wanted.

X"
I think that's one of the nicest things any man's ever said to me xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" First time posting.

Firstly I'm a single lady who enjoys sex. I didn't for many of my younger years. At this point in my life I'm hoping to find someone I can have regular fun with. Even go out with socialising. Am I expecting too much. I have met some lovely men. I get my hopes up n that's as far as it goes. Dnt know if I'm doin somethin wrong

Any advice xx

My advice as someone who had several FB's on here before marrying the last one.......don't look for it.

If it's going to happen it will, but the more you actively look the more you'll encounter men who say they want more than a one nighter just to get you into bed, then you'll become disheartened and close off to the idea.

Just continue to meet nice guys and you may bump into someone looking for the same. Don't force it or have any expectations as most times a FB relationship develops naturally over time.

Patience is key.

A

I'd second this. On the face of it it should be easy to find for most of us but in practice it's harder to find in rocking horse shit when you are actively looking. Good luck OP - I hope you find what you are looking for x"

As they said above

I'm struggling too. It's not easy to find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding someone local I like hanging out with. Difficult.

Finding someone local I wanna do bad things with. Difficult.

Finding both ... Umpossible.

But I'm gonna give it a go anyways.

Or move.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Jo , nice photos , very sexy .

No u not asking for to much .

Loads people looking for a regular FWB , loads open to more . Dating . I’m one of them .

Loads . Is more regular FWB or dating on fabs then reach the eye

I’m sure you will have no struggle to find a match to your interests x x

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire


"Personally I find you an attractive lady.

We have spoken and it was a pleasure to find you have a sense of humour.

I like your dress sense and undress sense.

If I was closer I would be asking your availability for dinner, a dance and then plan on asking to see you again.

Even by not living closer the offer would still stand although it would be on a friendship basis which would involve quality hotels, bars, nice wines and I'd also ask to take you to wine tasting events, chocolate supreme exhibitions which are invitation only.

if at all possible over a long weekend.

Have you ever been on the back of a Harley Davidson? We can do that too.

I'm all honesty your a lovely women I do hope someone sweeps you off you're feet and makes you feel everything you've wanted.

X I think that's one of the nicest things any man's ever said to me xx"

Rubbish. Better men than me out there I assure you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding a fuck buddy - absolute doddle

Finding a true FWB - very challenging!

I don't just say this for Fab, its a struggle on other sites too. Because I find the majority of men who say that's what they want - are saying it because that's what women want to hear.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

As a few people have said, try to let it happen naturally.

Meet people, try to avoid the weight of expectation crushing it.

If you find it don't try to keep it in a box. I think relationships go where they go and you either ride with it or you don't.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"As a few people have said, try to let it happen naturally.

Meet people, try to avoid the weight of expectation crushing it.

If you find it don't try to keep it in a box. I think relationships go where they go and you either ride with it or you don't.

"

That.

And try not to think too hard about the riding part.

The friendship is the most important part.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I have found it on here twice before. I live in hope I may just have found it again.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A


"As a few people have said, try to let it happen naturally.

Meet people, try to avoid the weight of expectation crushing it.

If you find it don't try to keep it in a box. I think relationships go where they go and you either ride with it or you don't.

That.

And try not to think too hard about the riding part.

The friendship is the most important part."

I reckon so.

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By *empest2KMan
over a year ago

Derby


" First time posting.

Firstly I'm a single lady who enjoys sex. I didn't for many of my younger years. At this point in my life I'm hoping to find someone I can have regular fun with. Even go out with socialising. Am I expecting too much. I have met some lovely men. I get my hopes up n that's as far as it goes. Dnt know if I'm doin somethin wrong

Any advice xx"

You're a stunning-looking lady from your photos, OP, and as others have already mentioned you just need to have patience, in my humble experience. I don't think you're doing anything wrong, per se.

If anything, I'd suggest you proverbially ‘lay all your cards on the table’ on your Fab profile and explicitly state you're looking for a FWB in your area (unless either party is happy to travel further afield). The subtle approach probably isn't working for you, so it might be worth being blunt and upfront with folk, if you haven't already!

Whatever happens, I wish you well and it would be lovely to bump into you one day.

Good luck!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I don't think you can plan it. Sometimes you just meet a guy and it happens. You never know what will happen until after you meet someone

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

Perhaps if you mentioned what you seek on your profile ?

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