FabSwingers.com forum: Negative People

By *ensuallover1000 OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Good folks; How do you deal with them?

I went to a BBQ over the weekend and had to endure some of the most miserable, negative bastards I’ve ever had the misfortune to be around.

They moaned about other people, each other, the Coronation, the football on TV (specifically shouting out how shit each and every single player was) and finally, when someone had the good idea to presumably try and lighten the highly toxic mood by putting on a music channel, the fuckers promptly started moaning about how shit all the artists were!

I would have left early on but stayed to support a friend who has been having a really hard time recently.

Christ almighty though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Literally ignore them …. I’d have left tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just avoid them.

I spent many years trying to put up with it, and now I just don't put myself through it.

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

I would ignore lifes to short to argue with people about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it negativity though or are they just unhappy people. Sometimes people just need to vent to make their own lives feel better and it's easier to just let them get on with it. If it's someone I'm close to though, I will get to the root of the issue and be honest if they are draining the life out of me.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I'd have to walk away

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

I'd left. That's probably why the friends depressed if that's their social circle. Sometimes people need to be told because aye things can be shitty but if you stayed how about asking what they do like. Or maybe that's the only parts you picked up the negative bits too.

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

Oh I turned a corner during the pandemic, so many negative people in my life. I called each and every one of them out on how they drag me down. Some stayed and learnt from it, some I’ve not heard from since. But I’m so much lighter for it.

It’s hard to be around but I think you just have to tell them then and there, half the time they don’t even realise how negative they are.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

I just steer the conversation away from all the negativity and make it about me.

Narcissism is so much more interesting

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

Ignore and avoid.

Misery loves company so they say, don't let them drag you down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read that as you went to B&Q at first ffs, I was wondering why the fuck you'd talked to so many people in there ..

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By *erald 1999Man
over a year ago

carmarthen

You Need to find a different group of mates lol ....I know negative people suck and not in a good way ha ha

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Best way to avoid your own inadequacy and insecurity is to criticise others..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd have to walk away"

And don’t look back

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

I call them out with saying "oh what a little ray of sunshine you are being today"

that usually snaps them out of it

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I smile and keep to beige subjects, I do take a detox asap to recover though, they take a lot of my energy. Happy to take others negativity in order to support a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I call them mood hoovers. Sucking the happy out of everything. Best avoid

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By *ensuallover1000 OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"I read that as you went to B&Q at first ffs, I was wondering why the fuck you'd talked to so many people in there ..

I would definitely have been happier wandering around B&Q I think

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

"I read that as you went to B&Q at first ffs, I was wondering why the fuck you'd talked to so many people in there ..

Lol I think it still catches me out chatting to people in stores it's so non British but the American in me still has that politeness gene.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I try to avoid them but if I can't I tune out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read that as you went to B&Q at first ffs, I was wondering why the fuck you'd talked to so many people in there ..

I would definitely have been happier wandering around B&Q I think

Yeah sounds like it.

At the BBQ I'd have just started out moaning the moaners I think untill they took the hint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work with someone like this. We got a massive bonus once and he complained because he had to pay tax on it. Who complains about getting a bonus?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Well technically you are now being the person moaning and being negative about how somebody else views the world and the choices they make on expressing how they feel.

Moaning and being negative about somebody else's negativity is counterproductive.

I just generally keep away from the overwhelmingly positive and negative people. Well, most people in general. Those that come at me with balance, most but not all of those can stick around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try my best to avoid any negativity, hence not having social media haha. I see the positive in most things. I’d have put the music on and got on a table dancing, let the miserable lot moan about that too.

Life is far too short! (I will state, I mean miserable people, not people living with depression)

Mrs

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

Watch the forum.

It is usually the same people that start threads complaining about anything and everything.

Any thread that involves men hating is extremely popular and what you need to do is watch the replies to it.

This tells you everything you need to know about that person and that they should be avoided at all costs because they have a deep rooted opinion that will never change.

These people are never happy and if you let them will drag you down with them.

Many need professional help to deal with problems but will always blame someone else instead of improving their life to the best it could be.

Most of the ones who complain are seeking validation from others because inside they are weak, have a unstable life and no goals to set out and achieve something.

So they sit on a site like this and look to blame others for the mess they created.

Remember: don't let someone elses problems become yours.

Your life improves when you get rid of rubbish people who try to break it up.

People can hate me, I care not one bit. One thing you'll get is honestly on my feelings

God bless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read that as you went to B&Q at first ffs, I was wondering why the fuck you'd talked to so many people in there ..

Lol I think it still catches me out chatting to people in stores it's so non British but the American in me still has that politeness gene."

I have random cooking conversations with total strangers in Tesco's. Am sure they think I'm the local lunatic....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just generally keep away from the overwhelmingly positive and negative people. Well, most people in general. Those that come at me with balance, most but not all of those can stick around. "

Relatable. Just people who are 'too much' either direction?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I try to avoid them but if I can't I tune out.

I was at an event recently where I was caught between two people having a 'my life is worse than yours' competition. I faked an emergency text and noped right out of there (as the Reddit youngsters say )"
I used to know a woman that soon as she had a drink she would start with I've had such a hard life. Soon as she uttered those words I was out of there

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By *ackonceagain1777Couple
over a year ago

West Mids

Life suckers!! Worst people to be around, it's why our circle is small and seems to get smaller as the years go by. Mr doesn't entertain them at all, if they won the lotto it still wouldn't be enough for them.. in the bin

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"Mood Hoover's" Brilliant!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I try to avoid them but if I can't I tune out.

I was at an event recently where I was caught between two people having a 'my life is worse than yours' competition. I faked an emergency text and noped right out of there (as the Reddit youngsters say )I used to know a woman that soon as she had a drink she would start with I've had such a hard life. Soon as she uttered those words I was out of there"

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I log off here and go and do something less boring instead

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

Was the food good at the BBQ though?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I try to avoid them but if I can't I tune out.

I was at an event recently where I was caught between two people having a 'my life is worse than yours' competition. I faked an emergency text and noped right out of there (as the Reddit youngsters say )I used to know a woman that soon as she had a drink she would start with I've had such a hard life. Soon as she uttered those words I was out of there

I worked with two people whose faces took on a sort of resigned, isn't life awful look as you approached them. Their conversation was littered with phrases like 'what do you expect from this place' it was very difficult to work in the atmosphere and impossible to change. It really drags other people down "
I befriended an older gentleman who was lonely I invited him round for christmas dinner and every Tuesday afternoon. He was quite well off but I can't begin to tell you how tight he was and he hated the world. Everything and everybody in it. He used to throw his head back in the chair when he started a rant. I had to stop him coming round in the end as he was making me ill. Anyway he died he was only 74 and had nothing wrong with him. I swear he died from pure hatred.

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By *ensuallover1000 OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"Was the food good at the BBQ though? "

It was very good thankfully

Even as the overwhelming aura of toxicity engulfed the very air around me, I found at least some comfort in my burger

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By *ensuallover1000 OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"Well technically you are now being the person moaning and being negative about how somebody else views the world and the choices they make on expressing how they feel.

Moaning and being negative about somebody else's negativity is counterproductive.

I just generally keep away from the overwhelmingly positive and negative people. Well, most people in general. Those that come at me with balance, most but not all of those can stick around. "

I think I may have actually ‘caught’ some of it

But seriously, I certainly don’t wish to moan about them, rather it was curious, in a somewhat disturbing manner, that they seemed to actively thrive in the overwhelmingly festering atmosphere that they were perpetrating.

I’ve felt actually rather depressed since.

The good news though: My pooch was as happy as ever to see me when I got back home. She always cheers me up

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By *uddy laneMan
over a year ago

dudley

Negative people aren't developed and are in the dark.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Good folks; How do you deal with them?

I went to a BBQ over the weekend and had to endure some of the most miserable, negative bastards I’ve ever had the misfortune to be around.

I would have left early on but stayed to support a friend who has been having a really hard time recently.

Christ almighty though!

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bloody people you just wouldn't credit bloody people i don't credit them

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I try to avoid them but if I can't I tune out.

I was at an event recently where I was caught between two people having a 'my life is worse than yours' competition. I faked an emergency text and noped right out of there (as the Reddit youngsters say )I used to know a woman that soon as she had a drink she would start with I've had such a hard life. Soon as she uttered those words I was out of there

I worked with two people whose faces took on a sort of resigned, isn't life awful look as you approached them. Their conversation was littered with phrases like 'what do you expect from this place' it was very difficult to work in the atmosphere and impossible to change. It really drags other people down I befriended an older gentleman who was lonely I invited him round for christmas dinner and every Tuesday afternoon. He was quite well off but I can't begin to tell you how tight he was and he hated the world. Everything and everybody in it. He used to throw his head back in the chair when he started a rant. I had to stop him coming round in the end as he was making me ill. Anyway he died he was only 74 and had nothing wrong with him. I swear he died from pure hatred."

I can well believe he was making you ill, I can understand why he was lonely too. I honestly think it's a self perpetuating spiral that people can't get out of and eventually they don't want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry for that!

Unbelievably I am actually quite positive in real life and stay away from moaning people.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

If folk are determined to be miserable fuckers & not smell the roses, I'm outta there before it drags me down.

Why go to a BBQ & dampen the vibe for everyone else?

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By *innocentMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

Where they moaning ,or did they just have a different opinion than yours ?

The key in life is to realise everyone is different .

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"I read that as you went to B&Q at first ffs, I was wondering why the fuck you'd talked to so many people in there ..

Me too lmao

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

I simply ignore them

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By *idnight RamblerMan
over a year ago

Pershore

I would've moaned about the situation

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