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By *ull English with tea OP   Man
over a year ago

London

“Got any spare change?" - if you have, do you give it to them?

I used to try to when I had cash on me give them a little whenever I see a homeless person (just a pound or two to buy a sandwich or coffee), I genuinely feel sorry for them and think it must be an awful life. These days I’m not in town so much and use contactless but am going to try to remember to take some out whenever I’m in the smoke.

I know many people will say "they will only spend it on alcohol or drugs", but in my view they are hardly going to invest it in an ISA are they. They probably do spend it on that, but that's not my business. The choice is theirs and if they need food then they now have the means to buy it.

I’ll never forget once I was on the northern line, this fella got on, he was in a terrible state, really swollen foot, I'm talking the size of a water melon. He told this story about being ex army etc, walked along the carriage with his cup, getting a bit of change, then a fellow stood a few feet down from me reached in to his pocket and pulled out a huge wad of £20's, hundreds of pounds and said here you are mate, look after yourself. The guy nearly fainted.

So what's your perspective on homeless folk on the streets and giving them money? Do you?

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts

Never give money, but when the homeless guy is outside my local supermarket I drop him a bag of food on my way out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do. I also ask them if I can get them anything from the shop. Couple of years ago I organised a massive clothing collection and spent the night driving round giving people coats jumpers etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never give cash but will often offer to buy a coffee or a sandwich.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

Absolutely I do, reason being in thr heights of my addiction just a random act of kindness, no matter how small made me feel valued, and of worth when I had none for myself

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By *ove2pleaseseukMan
over a year ago

Hastings

I give to a charity that supports homeless they now how to spend it better then me.

If some one is out side a shop I will stop and chat to them as well I think it helps.

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By *aekaeWoman
over a year ago

Between a cock and a soft place

There but for the grace of God....

Living on the streets must be awful, I can't imagine how tough it is, or what circumstances put people there.

I give what I can, where I can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll buy them water but usually just give money if I have any. I don’t care what they spend it on because tbh if it’ll make them feel better, I don’t care. Maybe that’s bad though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once didn’t have change of a £20 note and a “homeless” person said they could give me £17 change. Since then I’ve offered to buy food.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I've spent some time on the streets.

Some of the coolest people I have ever met and the most willing to share what they have with others.

Every one of them has a story, listen to that before you draw conclusions is my opinion.

One of my faves was a Dutch guy who referred to himself as a professional lunatic. He was a punk guitarist in the 80s and an anarchist. He was a complete legend. We would would cook up pasta on the beach at night, bunch of us. Have the craziest conversations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never understand the view that people have on the homeless, that they must be on drugs or alcoholics. Why do people come to that conclusion or assume they are on the streets through fault of their own? We live in a country where most people are struggling to have a basic living and it could happen to any of us at any given moment. Some people don't have the luxury of family, friends or people to fall back on if they need help and once you fall into this vicious cycle, it's hard to get back on your feet.

I always try to do something whether it's been money, food, calling the charity helpline or council support or providing something warm. Whatever we do will never be enough but anything we can do does make a difference to that person. I ask everyone to refrain from judgement as to why that person is homeless and just see them as a human being that needs a little kindness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they walk up to you with their own card reader, that's when you know they're taking the piss!

Won't give them cash either, but if genuinely homeless I'd buy them something to eat/drink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The last thing I gave was a couple of radar keys, generally I’ll ask and give as much as I can manage to, usually it’s food, a tarp or a backpack. Air activated heat pads are always a winner too

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

No. I give to the local homeless charity, who supply the local homeless people with what they need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never understand the view that people have on the homeless, that they must be on drugs or alcoholics. Why do people come to that conclusion or assume they are on the streets through fault of their own? We live in a country where most people are struggling to have a basic living and it could happen to any of us at any given moment. Some people don't have the luxury of family, friends or people to fall back on if they need help and once you fall into this vicious cycle, it's hard to get back on your feet.

I always try to do something whether it's been money, food, calling the charity helpline or council support or providing something warm. Whatever we do will never be enough but anything we can do does make a difference to that person. I ask everyone to refrain from judgement as to why that person is homeless and just see them as a human being that needs a little kindness."

Well said!!

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Sometimes. Although if they have a dog the chances increase a lot because I am a sucker.

I might grab the odd person some food as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One time I was through in Glasgow for a concert and booked a budget hotel for myself (I dont do fussy so long as its clean, comfortable and ensuite does for me).

I got up at 6 am to go to one of those Tesco express next door to buy some water for myself. I passed a chap laying sleeping on cardboard with sleeping bag. He was wakening up when I was returning and I dropped off some sandwiches and some hot coffee. He was appreciative and surprised as many people will have passes him without thought.

I usually always try and give something. Went to a performance in Edinburgh with stepmum - she was very surprised I'd handed over a tenner to clearly homeless chap seeking loose change, outside of playhouse - none of my business what he spends it on. I do what I can and when. Homelessness can happen to anyone.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think that if I was so far down on my luck that I was homeless I'd appreciate someone valuing me enough to allow me to make my own decision about what I did with money. If I've got cash I'll give it but I don't often have it nowadays. Hastings has a big homeless community that grows in the summer

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman
over a year ago

In the clouds

I rarely have cash but if I do, I'll always help. Their life is shit enough, kindness goes a long way

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Also I try to make eye contact and smile after I saw a homeless guy saying he felt invisible

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

It breaks my heart.

When I can, I do give them what little cash I have on me, as long as I have enough left to catch the bus.

There're so many homeless in Bristol though

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

If I have change, which is rare now, I try to give some. The reality that it may be used in alcohol or drugs does not pass me by. But it may be that £1 can of cider that stops them going into an alcoholic seizure and dying. That bit of change may mean they can buy their own drugs so as not to share with others and risk other complications through sharing equipment or drug debts.

When I give money I expect them to use it on something they need to keep themself safe - not what I think they should use it on

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"The last thing I gave was a couple of radar keys, generally I’ll ask and give as much as I can manage to, usually it’s food, a tarp or a backpack. Air activated heat pads are always a winner too "

Out of interest, why do you hand out RADAR keys?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If I have change yes l,I will always give it to a homeless person.

If it's a hot day I'll get them a cold drink or a hot soup/pasty if its a cold day.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Yes I do

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Yes give them money or if have none will go to cash point get some and give on way back past x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The last thing I gave was a couple of radar keys, generally I’ll ask and give as much as I can manage to, usually it’s food, a tarp or a backpack. Air activated heat pads are always a winner too "

Radar key - brilliant brilliant idea!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

We used to have a homeless lad here (I'd like to think he's got accommodation now) and I'd buy him whatever food he wanted and just give him a couple of pounds but I used to spend ages talking to him and found out lots about his life. It got to the point everytime he saw me (everyday) he would great me with a hug. I've bought him jackets from the charity shop, blankets all sorts of little bits

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

I’m probably in the minority but I will say it I don’t give money to a homeless person because I can’t be certain that they won’t spend it on drugs or alcohol and I am not prepared to give the benefit of the doubt.Also in parts of North London that I live and know there are gangs of beggars who are dropped of and picked up by others so how can I really be sure it’s going to a homeless person.Also I carry money in my wallet by the time I take it out of my pocket look for some change I could be mugged myself.Instead I rather buy them a meal deal from a supermarket and donate to the food bank in the hope a genuine person does use the food bank.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do give change when I have it, it's an awful way to live and we are all a banana skin away away from life changing forever, if they are outside a shop I do ask if they need anything.

It's quite easy to walk by and judge.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"The last thing I gave was a couple of radar keys, generally I’ll ask and give as much as I can manage to, usually it’s food, a tarp or a backpack. Air activated heat pads are always a winner too

Radar key - brilliant brilliant idea! "

No, it's not. Disabled people need to use accessible toilets for their toileting needs. When we find the toilet occupied by a sleeping person or the belongings of homeless people, it means we cannot use the toilet. This might sound callous, but there are few enough disabled toilet facilities. Encouraging people to sleep on them is really not helpful at all.

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By *eamworkboyMan
over a year ago

Irvine

Apparently we are all one paycheck away from homelessness, I give what I can when I can and don't care what they do with it, having cash in your pocket makes you feel good, there are more and more appearing though, the country is a mess

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"“Got any spare change?" - if you have, do you give it to them?

I used to try to when I had cash on me give them a little whenever I see a homeless person (just a pound or two to buy a sandwich or coffee), I genuinely feel sorry for them and think it must be an awful life. These days I’m not in town so much and use contactless but am going to try to remember to take some out whenever I’m in the smoke.

I know many people will say "they will only spend it on alcohol or drugs", but in my view they are hardly going to invest it in an ISA are they. They probably do spend it on that, but that's not my business. The choice is theirs and if they need food then they now have the means to buy it.

I’ll never forget once I was on the northern line, this fella got on, he was in a terrible state, really swollen foot, I'm talking the size of a water melon. He told this story about being ex army etc, walked along the carriage with his cup, getting a bit of change, then a fellow stood a few feet down from me reached in to his pocket and pulled out a huge wad of £20's, hundreds of pounds and said here you are mate, look after yourself. The guy nearly fainted.

So what's your perspective on homeless folk on the streets and giving them money? Do you?"

Cashless society is really going to fuck up the "got any change gov"..

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Also, whether we like it or not, disabled toilets often become the site of drug dealing, if people who partake in such activity gain access. I'm not suggesting for a moment that homeless people are all using or dealing drugs, but giving out RADAR keys willy nilly simply increases the number of people likely to enter disabled toilets for reasons other than toileting.

Yes, this is a massive bugbear of mine.

I'm sure others would be displeased to have no toilet access in the "regular" ladies or gents because people are sleeping/occupying the cubicles?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The last thing I gave was a couple of radar keys, generally I’ll ask and give as much as I can manage to, usually it’s food, a tarp or a backpack. Air activated heat pads are always a winner too

Radar key - brilliant brilliant idea!

No, it's not. Disabled people need to use accessible toilets for their toileting needs. When we find the toilet occupied by a sleeping person or the belongings of homeless people, it means we cannot use the toilet. This might sound callous, but there are few enough disabled toilet facilities. Encouraging people to sleep on them is really not helpful at all. "

I’ve never come across anyone using them to sleep in but that’s a good point; but as somewhere safe they can wash etc it’s a great idea.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss


"“Got any spare change?" - if you have, do you give it to them?

I used to try to when I had cash on me give them a little whenever I see a homeless person (just a pound or two to buy a sandwich or coffee), I genuinely feel sorry for them and think it must be an awful life. These days I’m not in town so much and use contactless but am going to try to remember to take some out whenever I’m in the smoke.

I know many people will say "they will only spend it on alcohol or drugs", but in my view they are hardly going to invest it in an ISA are they. They probably do spend it on that, but that's not my business. The choice is theirs and if they need food then they now have the means to buy it.

I’ll never forget once I was on the northern line, this fella got on, he was in a terrible state, really swollen foot, I'm talking the size of a water melon. He told this story about being ex army etc, walked along the carriage with his cup, getting a bit of change, then a fellow stood a few feet down from me reached in to his pocket and pulled out a huge wad of £20's, hundreds of pounds and said here you are mate, look after yourself. The guy nearly fainted.

So what's your perspective on homeless folk on the streets and giving them money? Do you?

Cashless society is really going to fuck up the "got any change gov".. "

Not in London, as many homeless cash receptacles have card machines next to them

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"The last thing I gave was a couple of radar keys, generally I’ll ask and give as much as I can manage to, usually it’s food, a tarp or a backpack. Air activated heat pads are always a winner too

Radar key - brilliant brilliant idea!

No, it's not. Disabled people need to use accessible toilets for their toileting needs. When we find the toilet occupied by a sleeping person or the belongings of homeless people, it means we cannot use the toilet. This might sound callous, but there are few enough disabled toilet facilities. Encouraging people to sleep on them is really not helpful at all.

I’ve never come across anyone using them to sleep in but that’s a good point; but as somewhere safe they can wash etc it’s a great idea. "

What happens is that people use them to store their belongings and to sleep, especially in city centres. It's not helpful to other members of the public, I have to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I give to the local homeless charity, who supply the local homeless people with what they need "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There but for the grace of God....

Living on the streets must be awful, I can't imagine how tough it is, or what circumstances put people there.

I give what I can, where I can."

This. You have no idea how they got there, and what their story is.

I offer to buy a drink or food if I can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The last thing I gave was a couple of radar keys, generally I’ll ask and give as much as I can manage to, usually it’s food, a tarp or a backpack. Air activated heat pads are always a winner too

Radar key - brilliant brilliant idea!

No, it's not. Disabled people need to use accessible toilets for their toileting needs. When we find the toilet occupied by a sleeping person or the belongings of homeless people, it means we cannot use the toilet. This might sound callous, but there are few enough disabled toilet facilities. Encouraging people to sleep on them is really not helpful at all.

I’ve never come across anyone using them to sleep in but that’s a good point; but as somewhere safe they can wash etc it’s a great idea.

What happens is that people use them to store their belongings and to sleep, especially in city centres. It's not helpful to other members of the public, I have to say. "

Maybe not such a great idea then. A good deed for one becomes a disservice to another. Guess cash is tye best option.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"“Got any spare change?" - if you have, do you give it to them?

I used to try to when I had cash on me give them a little whenever I see a homeless person (just a pound or two to buy a sandwich or coffee), I genuinely feel sorry for them and think it must be an awful life. These days I’m not in town so much and use contactless but am going to try to remember to take some out whenever I’m in the smoke.

I know many people will say "they will only spend it on alcohol or drugs", but in my view they are hardly going to invest it in an ISA are they. They probably do spend it on that, but that's not my business. The choice is theirs and if they need food then they now have the means to buy it.

I’ll never forget once I was on the northern line, this fella got on, he was in a terrible state, really swollen foot, I'm talking the size of a water melon. He told this story about being ex army etc, walked along the carriage with his cup, getting a bit of change, then a fellow stood a few feet down from me reached in to his pocket and pulled out a huge wad of £20's, hundreds of pounds and said here you are mate, look after yourself. The guy nearly fainted.

So what's your perspective on homeless folk on the streets and giving them money? Do you?"
They unfortunately don't buy a sandwich with it though it kinda depends the way they ask if they look needy i give if they are regularly stood outside a shop and quite smartly dressed about to hit me with a story i do, i saw a woman like the woman from home alone who fed the pigeons sat outside watetloo east station as i was about to go in a pub and waste some money, she looked like she needed it so i gave her £20 but you just don't know i used to regularly walk across charing x bridge and a guy there looked like a real down and out and he owned his own home £270,000 home lol

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Food - yes

Money - no

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely, I would always give any spare cash I may have to the homeless. Regardless of what they will spent it on… because I think I would do the same if I was in their position. If I don’t have the money I would give them my time.

Peach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I donate to the local food pantries and kitchens. We hunt so we take some of the harvest there.

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By *ikeybr0Man
over a year ago

Newport

I always give cash, and always buy a big issue. What they spend it on is none of my business, whatever gets them through the night in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have bought drinks and food or directed them somewhere they can get it free without issues but I avoid giving cash. I would give that to street performers though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give money but only small change, if they do use it on illegal substances then I kind of get it as wouldn't you if you were in that situation?

I usually carry Greggs £5 gift cards and give them out or if I see someone in need when I am going into a shop I will say sorry I don't have any change but can I get you anything from the shop.

Also handy to have things like baby wipes to hand out too.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Yes I do and remind them if they use it for drugs and I find out be a different story I understand are some genuine but some taking advantage and not homeless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give food and drink, maybe chat if I have the time. It's heartbreaking that people are homeless in Great Britain in 2023 and with the cost of living I can only see it increasing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't give cash because I have a hard line on drug and alcohol use, god forbid something happens and the money I gave got them to that place. I would never forgive myself

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Have a listen to Lemn Sissay's Social Enterprise... on Shelter: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m000bnbf

I do what feels right at the time. If I'm on my own I am unlikely to open my bag and rootle around for my purse, but I might offer to pop into a shop and buy something that they want.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

its so sad i often buy them a cup of coffee

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By *tooveMan
over a year ago

belfast

Never do. You're just encouraging them.

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By *acha1TV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

I always give to the homeless, most of us are never more than a few bad decisions away from being homeless x

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

one time in spain homless use to be near the beach,, i took him food from hotel fruit boiled eggs bread, he was a sweet old man so well mannered

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

guy

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

When I was 15 I ran away from home and was on the streets for awhile. I was to young to get any kind of benefits and had to rely on what people gave me

I remember once I had one bag of chips in three days. Not all homeless people spend it on drugs and alcohol and if they do its there way of escapism when the whole world is against them Whether you give them something or not just treat them as a human being

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

i buy them a coffee and some snacks from the nearest starbucks or costa.

sometimes they kick it away but mostly say thanks.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire


"When I was 15 I ran away from home and was on the streets for awhile. I was to young to get any kind of benefits and had to rely on what people gave me

I remember once I had one bag of chips in three days. Not all homeless people spend it on drugs and alcohol and if they do its there way of escapism when the whole world is against them Whether you give them something or not just treat them as a human being"
,, this

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"When I was 15 I ran away from home and was on the streets for awhile. I was to young to get any kind of benefits and had to rely on what people gave me

I remember once I had one bag of chips in three days. Not all homeless people spend it on drugs and alcohol and if they do its there way of escapism when the whole world is against them Whether you give them something or not just treat them as a human being"

There but for the grace of god go i. Kindness is free.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"When I was 15 I ran away from home and was on the streets for awhile. I was to young to get any kind of benefits and had to rely on what people gave me

I remember once I had one bag of chips in three days. Not all homeless people spend it on drugs and alcohol and if they do its there way of escapism when the whole world is against them Whether you give them something or not just treat them as a human being"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do. There was usually someone sleeping or just woken up in the underpass on the way to my old office.

If I had change I gave it. If I didn't I always said hello. I'd hope someone would do for me if I found myself in the same situation

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Very occasionally, if I actually have any spare change

I've often made them cups of tea or heated some soup up and took it over to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The last thing I gave was a couple of radar keys, generally I’ll ask and give as much as I can manage to, usually it’s food, a tarp or a backpack. Air activated heat pads are always a winner too

Out of interest, why do you hand out RADAR keys? "

Because the homeless in this area have tents but nowhere safe to wash, there are however a lot of disabled bathrooms here because it’s heavily touristy which isn’t year round, plus the keys are sold online for anyone to buy, anyone posting here can buy them. I get that they’re for the disabled because I found out about them via my father needing one but here it makes little difference outside of June-august

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By *idlandiaMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I don't, but mainly because so many of the 'homeless' by me live in supported housing near where I work so I recognise many of them out and about being homeless in the city centre to get money. They literally treat it as a job, even see them doing handover to the next one at 'shift change' in the better spots for begging.

It must be awful for the genuinely homeless as the housed professional homeless have control of anywhere they think they can get money from the public.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never do. You're just encouraging them. "

Are you joking?

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By *ixed MisterMan
over a year ago

London

I very rarely have change, but have had a few occasions where I've took people for food, we've sat and spoke, while eating, and then order a 2nd meal before we left so they have something for later. Some people have some heartbreaking stories.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once walked by a homeless person that had lots of food that had clearly been given to them and I actually thought, I wonder if like people ask them about allergies or dietary requirements etc.

And then I thought, I get why we give food/ drink, I give it as well. But do t they deserve the autonomy to be able to choose if they eat, what they eat. Or what they drink? And then the saying beggars can’t be choosers came to mind and I thought, maybe that’s a terrible saying? Idk really interesting discussion with perspectives on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't give money, but will offer food and a drink if I judge it appropriate.

I have known 'homeless' people to be carrying literally hundreds of pounds in cash. It's hard to know the genuine ones.

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

Having been made homeless after a marriage breakup, yes I do. Although I was fortunate to not end up on the streets but in temporary accommodation in a b and b and then 9 months in a homeless hostel. There for the grace of God, we never know when we might need that act of kindness returned.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

How many ‘really’ give money though?

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By *ixed MisterMan
over a year ago

London


"I once walked by a homeless person that had lots of food that had clearly been given to them and I actually thought, I wonder if like people ask them about allergies or dietary requirements etc.

And then I thought, I get why we give food/ drink, I give it as well. But do t they deserve the autonomy to be able to choose if they eat, what they eat. Or what they drink? And then the saying beggars can’t be choosers came to mind and I thought, maybe that’s a terrible saying? Idk really interesting discussion with perspectives on here "

I had thought about 10 year's ago after offering up my chips as i exited the chicken shop to someone homeless. They refused saying they didn't eat them, it took me about 5 mins of thinking "Wtf" to realise regardless of their situation they still have certain things they can't/can will/won't do. This is what led me to the "do you fancy coming to eat" approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very rarely have cash on time these days but I do stop and ask if there’s anything I can get for them instead. I’ve often wondered what kind of difference it’s made now were moving towards a cashless society ?

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By *ama bamaMan
over a year ago

dalkeith

Personally i dont give to homeless people. i give to charities that are helping them. if you want to help them then do that, if you want to feed there addiction give to the homeless. Help is better ffrom people who care and help them than just giving to there dealers

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

The problem is who are the genuine ones, and who are the con artists that are part of an organised scam; dropped off each morning and then picked up each evening!

Major dilemma, for me.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

Worth a read. To see how a bit of kindness can help

https://www.mirror.co.uk/sport/football/news/hero-ray-wilkins-amazing-act-12315913

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By *aekaeWoman
over a year ago

Between a cock and a soft place


"There but for the grace of God....

Living on the streets must be awful, I can't imagine how tough it is, or what circumstances put people there.

I give what I can, where I can.

This. You have no idea how they got there, and what their story is.

I offer to buy a drink or food if I can. "

I've just stopped for a pint of milk, on my way in a homeless lady asked if I had any change, said I'd stop by on my way out the shop.

The look on her face said "heard that one before"

On my out I gave her a sandwich and some change.

The look of surprise and gratitude on her face was heart breaking......

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"There but for the grace of God....

Living on the streets must be awful, I can't imagine how tough it is, or what circumstances put people there.

I give what I can, where I can.

This. You have no idea how they got there, and what their story is.

I offer to buy a drink or food if I can.

I've just stopped for a pint of milk, on my way in a homeless lady asked if I had any change, said I'd stop by on my way out the shop.

The look on her face said "heard that one before"

On my out I gave her a sandwich and some change.

The look of surprise and gratitude on her face was heart breaking...... "

I've just had a similar experience, again a garage, man begging said I'd give him some change on the way out. Got speaking to him, turns out he is using, so we goy taking about recovery, how he had gotten to 3.5 years clean then relapsed. So, we immediately have some common ground, I yell him I'm in recovery, we get speaking about NA, tell him where the local meetings are, and have taken his number and arranged to take him for a proper meal and take him to a narcotics anonymous meeting, so he can fund his way home. If i hadn't stopped then this woundnt have happened

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By *ryan...Man
over a year ago

1950's Original

Only two posts on here seem to recognise the

' professional beggers"industry..yes industry..they spoil it for genuine homeless often asleep in a sleeping bag while the professional ( housed)beggers are asking for change.....

If genuinely homeless why don't they ask "spare some food"...A local street sweeper tells me she can spot where the professional beggers are as the bins are full of sandwiches and drinks that kind people bought,but they don't want..they want money..

I leave food or clothing next to a sleeping person in a sleeping bag,or asleep in a shop doorway..NEVER give money to professional beggers..

The tales of guys( mainly guys) parking up and sitting in a city centre asking for change are not urban myths..it happens in many towns and city's....

They really p*** me off spoiling it for genuine homeless ..if you leave something near a sleeping person.. food,milk,clothing etc..at least you know they're homeless..

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I used to buy an extra coffee for homeless people, till one threw it on the ground shouting thats not what they wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few years ago a couple of friends of mine had recorded a song about a homeless lady and I shotcand directed a video for it - of which we donated all proceeds to their local homeless charity.

We learned the story about the lady who had been the inspiration for the song, and sadly there was no happy ending for her.

Having once found myself facing the prospect of homelessness, and the work we did and sone of the research we put into the production, really helped me understand the homeless a lot better.

My mate had suggested presenting the video in black & white, but I chose to have the bsvlground in B&W but our homeless character in colour. My point being that the biggest problem is that many people ignore them and try to make them blend into the background. I wanted her to be the focus of the piece.

Homeless charities recommend you don't give them mobey, but there's nothing wrong with buying them a coffee or some food.

I saw one guy sat outside a Tesco express once. It was freezing cold.

I popped inside to check the coffee machine was working and then offered him one.

Had a bit of a chat with him too and asked if there was anywhere he could stay that night.

I was really concerned for his welfare.

After all, they're just like us, they've just fallen on hard times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A few years ago a couple of friends of mine had recorded a song about a homeless lady and I shotcand directed a video for it - of which we donated all proceeds to their local homeless charity.

We learned the story about the lady who had been the inspiration for the song, and sadly there was no happy ending for her.

Having once found myself facing the prospect of homelessness, and the work we did and sone of the research we put into the production, really helped me understand the homeless a lot better.

My mate had suggested presenting the video in black & white, but I chose to have the bsvlground in B&W but our homeless character in colour. My point being that the biggest problem is that many people ignore them and try to make them blend into the background. I wanted her to be the focus of the piece.

Homeless charities recommend you don't give them mobey, but there's nothing wrong with buying them a coffee or some food.

I saw one guy sat outside a Tesco express once. It was freezing cold.

I popped inside to check the coffee machine was working and then offered him one.

Had a bit of a chat with him too and asked if there was anywhere he could stay that night.

I was really concerned for his welfare.

After all, they're just like us, they've just fallen on hard times.

"

There are plenty of charities that support the homeless that are struggling for money like "coffee for Craig" who make meals to feed the homeless on a nightly bases.

Plus charities like "the mustard tree" who cloth, and have items fo low income families as well as the homeless.

there will be a charity in your local area who could do with your support and cash.

I have witnessed many died due to drugs hence why I do not give money as I couldn't live with the thought my donation caused a death, I rather give directly to a charity.

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By *offee27Man
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Met a homeless chap a few months ago when I parked my truck in an industrial estate. He asked me if I minded him sleeping in my trailer to shelter from the rain and he'd be gone before I started the next morning.

Made him a tea and gave him some of my food, really nice chap ex forces and fallen on hard times. Unfortunately he'd disappeared in the morning, so hope he's well wherever he is now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In maccies drive guy sat there so gave him my free big voucher and most polite and appreciated it

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By *ackonceagain1777Couple
over a year ago

West Mids

Yes we do, it's a grim thing for anyone to be going through no matter how they got there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There but for the grace of God....

Living on the streets must be awful, I can't imagine how tough it is, or what circumstances put people there.

I give what I can, where I can."

Same here. You have a good heart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"“Got any spare change?" - if you have, do you give it to them?

I used to try to when I had cash on me give them a little whenever I see a homeless person (just a pound or two to buy a sandwich or coffee), I genuinely feel sorry for them and think it must be an awful life.

These days I’m not in town so much and use contactless but am going to try to remember to take some out whenever I’m in the smoke.

I know many people will say "they will only spend it on alcohol or drugs", but in my view they are hardly going to invest it in an ISA are they. They probably do spend it on that, but that's not my business. The choice is theirs and if they need food then they now have the means to buy it.

I’ll never forget once I was on the northern line, this fella got on, he was in a terrible state, really swollen foot, I'm talking the size of a water melon. He told this story about being ex army etc, walked along the carriage with his cup, getting a bit of change, then a fellow stood a few feet down from me reached in to his pocket and pulled out a huge wad of £20's, hundreds of pounds and said here you are mate, look after yourself. The guy nearly fainted.

So what's your perspective on homeless folk on the streets and giving them money? Do you?"

I worked with the homeless the best thing to do in my opinion is buy the sandwich and coffee with an addict they have no choice but to buy alcohol or drugs as the addiction is stronger than the need for food or drink....so they will eat or drink what you have bought them...if they can eat...

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By *idnight RamblerMan
over a year ago

Pershore

Foodbanks are the best place to give charity to the homeless. Or at least they were, I suspect there is growing abuse with middle-income freeloaders filling bags.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do what we can and give what we can. I’ve worked with homeless people in my job years ago and the surprising thing is many choose to stay on the streets. It’s sad but most have spent that long out there they can’t function in a home with a “normal” life.

Plus the responsibility of rent and bills and living with others in shared accommodation badly affects some of them.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I once walked by a homeless person that had lots of food that had clearly been given to them and I actually thought, I wonder if like people ask them about allergies or dietary requirements etc.

And then I thought, I get why we give food/ drink, I give it as well. But do t they deserve the autonomy to be able to choose if they eat, what they eat. Or what they drink? And then the saying beggars can’t be choosers came to mind and I thought, maybe that’s a terrible saying? Idk really interesting discussion with perspectives on here

I had thought about 10 year's ago after offering up my chips as i exited the chicken shop to someone homeless. They refused saying they didn't eat them, it took me about 5 mins of thinking "Wtf" to realise regardless of their situation they still have certain things they can't/can will/won't do. This is what led me to the "do you fancy coming to eat" approach. "

That’s such a nice approach. I love that

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss


"A few years ago a couple of friends of mine had recorded a song about a homeless lady and I shotcand directed a video for it - of which we donated all proceeds to their local homeless charity.

We learned the story about the lady who had been the inspiration for the song, and sadly there was no happy ending for her.

Having once found myself facing the prospect of homelessness, and the work we did and sone of the research we put into the production, really helped me understand the homeless a lot better.

My mate had suggested presenting the video in black & white, but I chose to have the bsvlground in B&W but our homeless character in colour. My point being that the biggest problem is that many people ignore them and try to make them blend into the background. I wanted her to be the focus of the piece.

Homeless charities recommend you don't give them mobey, but there's nothing wrong with buying them a coffee or some food.

I saw one guy sat outside a Tesco express once. It was freezing cold.

I popped inside to check the coffee machine was working and then offered him one.

Had a bit of a chat with him too and asked if there was anywhere he could stay that night.

I was really concerned for his welfare.

After all, they're just like us, they've just fallen on hard times.

There are plenty of charities that support the homeless that are struggling for money like "coffee for Craig" who make meals to feed the homeless on a nightly bases.

Plus charities like "the mustard tree" who cloth, and have items fo low income families as well as the homeless.

there will be a charity in your local area who could do with your support and cash.

I have witnessed many died due to drugs hence why I do not give money as I couldn't live with the thought my donation caused a death, I rather give directly to a charity."

There are also charities that give support to homeless peoples pets, when they need medical care, flea/worm treatments etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My only thing about homeless charities is that they obviously don’t reach all homeless people. Like any service, there are people they struggle to reach and support.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its advised you do not to give people any money on the street because you could be encouraging a drug or drink habit they might have but also some people con people to believing their poor but really live in a luxery house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My only thing about homeless charities is that they obviously don’t reach all homeless people. Like any service, there are people they struggle to reach and support. "

Yes there are those who are hard to reach, the term is hardcore homeless, they do not wish to join society again, and choose to live on the streets.

In Manchester all the homeless charities are based in the city centre and are easy assessable by the homeless if they choose to use them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Its advised you do not to give people any money on the street because you could be encouraging a drug or drink habit they might have but also some people con people to believing their poor but really live in a luxery house"

You can easily spot a genuinely homeless person, professional beggars who sleep inside in a bed every night look very different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always if I have some cash on me, if not will ask if they want food… people get very opinionated about giving cash but how they use it, here’s the deal

Once you have given you have no say on what happens next

Wish them light and love and most importantly treat everyone with loving kindness

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"

Once you have given you have no say on what happens next

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss


"My only thing about homeless charities is that they obviously don’t reach all homeless people. Like any service, there are people they struggle to reach and support.

Yes there are those who are hard to reach, the term is hardcore homeless, they do not wish to join society again, and choose to live on the streets.

In Manchester all the homeless charities are based in the city centre and are easy assessable by the homeless if they choose to use them."

That's the beauty of them, even hardcore homeless people can drop in, grab a meal, a few clothes and go on their way if they choose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My only thing about homeless charities is that they obviously don’t reach all homeless people. Like any service, there are people they struggle to reach and support.

Yes there are those who are hard to reach, the term is hardcore homeless, they do not wish to join society again, and choose to live on the streets.

In Manchester all the homeless charities are based in the city centre and are easy assessable by the homeless if they choose to use them.

That's the beauty of them, even hardcore homeless people can drop in, grab a meal, a few clothes and go on their way if they choose"

I hear this. But I don’t know of any in my local area in north London. So if I became homeless tomorrow, where would I go? You know? I just think I’d be worried that people are left by the wayside if they’re not accessing services which isn’t easy and not always something people are comfortable doing on their own. but I’ve learned something here so that’s nice

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts


"Its advised you do not to give people any money on the street because you could be encouraging a drug or drink habit they might have but also some people con people to believing their poor but really live in a luxery house

You can easily spot a genuinely homeless person, professional beggars who sleep inside in a bed every night look very different."

Someone once told to look at their finger nails, if nice and clean chances are they are not homeless.

Best method of helping in my opinion is to "pay it forward" most coffee shops, greggs etc do this system. just pay for a drink/meal whatever you can afford and homeless people go in and ask and get free food/drink

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By *eeling0880Man
over a year ago

Pennines

Yes it’s very easy to judge and walk on by jeez I’m guilty of that on occasions. We don’t know how they got there it’s not always misuse of drugs and alcohol, it’s often a combination of poor mental health, relationship breakdowns and or losing income and if that happens all at once without support or any family and friends for whatever reason you are screwed. I feel grateful that I have a job and a warm roof over my head. So please be kind and nonjudgmental. If you can give time, money food clothing etc things will seem better for them even if just in the short term. We all know that we shouldn’t have the homeless problem in this country like we do but that opens up another conversation unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do. I also ask them if I can get them anything from the shop. Couple of years ago I organised a massive clothing collection and spent the night driving round giving people coats jumpers etc "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a lot of cases homelessness came before drugs and alcohol. And it really can happen to anyone. I used to work for a homeless charity and have heard and seen allsorts. Very sad.

That being said, always food/ hot drink/ brolly/ whatever is apprpriate. Never cash.

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By *lcoupleneCouple
over a year ago

morpeth


"“Got any spare change?" - if you have, do you give it to them?

I used to try to when I had cash on me give them a little whenever I see a homeless person (just a pound or two to buy a sandwich or coffee), I genuinely feel sorry for them and think it must be an awful life. These days I’m not in town so much and use contactless but am going to try to remember to take some out whenever I’m in the smoke.

I know many people will say "they will only spend it on alcohol or drugs", but in my view they are hardly going to invest it in an ISA are they. They probably do spend it on that, but that's not my business. The choice is theirs and if they need food then they now have the means to buy it.

I’ll never forget once I was on the northern line, this fella got on, he was in a terrible state, really swollen foot, I'm talking the size of a water melon. He told this story about being ex army etc, walked along the carriage with his cup, getting a bit of change, then a fellow stood a few feet down from me reached in to his pocket and pulled out a huge wad of £20's, hundreds of pounds and said here you are mate, look after yourself. The guy nearly fainted.

So what's your perspective on homeless folk on the streets and giving them money? Do you?"

When we have a hard day many of us will have a cheeky drink or if you smoke have a cigarette. If a homeless person prioritises alcohol over food that’s their prerogative. I would usually head to the local greggs and get them something warm and a coffee. But if I had cash I would give them that if necessary. the whole ‘they’ll just buy drink of drugs’ is honestly none of our business! We can’t and shouldn’t be so entitled to think we can fix people that don’t want fixing!

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

Great thread op and lovely debate...some lovely kindness being shown.

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By *lex CoxMan
over a year ago

Porth


"Yes it’s very easy to judge and walk on by jeez I’m guilty of that on occasions. We don’t know how they got there it’s not always misuse of drugs and alcohol, it’s often a combination of poor mental health, relationship breakdowns and or losing income and if that happens all at once without support or any family and friends for whatever reason you are screwed. I feel grateful that I have a job and a warm roof over my head. So please be kind and nonjudgmental. If you can give time, money food clothing etc things will seem better for them even if just in the short term. We all know that we shouldn’t have the homeless problem in this country like we do but that opens up another conversation unfortunately."

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss


"My only thing about homeless charities is that they obviously don’t reach all homeless people. Like any service, there are people they struggle to reach and support.

Yes there are those who are hard to reach, the term is hardcore homeless, they do not wish to join society again, and choose to live on the streets.

In Manchester all the homeless charities are based in the city centre and are easy assessable by the homeless if they choose to use them.

That's the beauty of them, even hardcore homeless people can drop in, grab a meal, a few clothes and go on their way if they choose

I hear this. But I don’t know of any in my local area in north London. So if I became homeless tomorrow, where would I go? You know? I just think I’d be worried that people are left by the wayside if they’re not accessing services which isn’t easy and not always something people are comfortable doing on their own. but I’ve learned something here so that’s nice"

That's a complicated question Pickles. If you are reaching out for help, I'd recommend the local church, mosque, community centre, youth club,food bank, etc etc.

But if people choose to hide away from any help, that's their preference and I wouldn't impose on them anything, that I though they needed. People will get missed, but many choose to be missed and are happy doing things their way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The last thing I gave was a couple of radar keys, generally I’ll ask and give as much as I can manage to, usually it’s food, a tarp or a backpack. Air activated heat pads are always a winner too

Radar key - brilliant brilliant idea!

No, it's not. Disabled people need to use accessible toilets for their toileting needs. When we find the toilet occupied by a sleeping person or the belongings of homeless people, it means we cannot use the toilet. This might sound callous, but there are few enough disabled toilet facilities. Encouraging people to sleep on them is really not helpful at all.

I’ve never come across anyone using them to sleep in but that’s a good point; but as somewhere safe they can wash etc it’s a great idea. "

I'm sorry but homeless people aren't always disabled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave a homeless guy outside the supermarket loads of pound coins. Like £8. Ungrateful cunt didn't even say thanks just looked at me like it was expected. Never again

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By *aekaeWoman
over a year ago

Between a cock and a soft place


"There but for the grace of God....

Living on the streets must be awful, I can't imagine how tough it is, or what circumstances put people there.

I give what I can, where I can.

This. You have no idea how they got there, and what their story is.

I offer to buy a drink or food if I can.

I've just stopped for a pint of milk, on my way in a homeless lady asked if I had any change, said I'd stop by on my way out the shop.

The look on her face said "heard that one before"

On my out I gave her a sandwich and some change.

The look of surprise and gratitude on her face was heart breaking......

I've just had a similar experience, again a garage, man begging said I'd give him some change on the way out. Got speaking to him, turns out he is using, so we goy taking about recovery, how he had gotten to 3.5 years clean then relapsed. So, we immediately have some common ground, I yell him I'm in recovery, we get speaking about NA, tell him where the local meetings are, and have taken his number and arranged to take him for a proper meal and take him to a narcotics anonymous meeting, so he can fund his way home. If i hadn't stopped then this woundnt have happened "

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"Absolutely I do, reason being in thr heights of my addiction just a random act of kindness, no matter how small made me feel valued, and of worth when I had none for myself "

For the same reason as this. Never been in that situation of being on the street. My attitude has always been ' But for the grace of god go I.' Life can change in an instant and we are never more than a couple of paydays away from destitution.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"I never understand the view that people have on the homeless, that they must be on drugs or alcoholics. Why do people come to that conclusion or assume they are on the streets through fault of their own? We live in a country where most people are struggling to have a basic living and it could happen to any of us at any given moment. Some people don't have the luxury of family, friends or people to fall back on if they need help and once you fall into this vicious cycle, it's hard to get back on your feet.

I always try to do something whether it's been money, food, calling the charity helpline or council support or providing something warm. Whatever we do will never be enough but anything we can do does make a difference to that person. I ask everyone to refrain from judgement as to why that person is homeless and just see them as a human being that needs a little kindness."

Exactly this

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By *tooveMan
over a year ago

belfast


"Never do. You're just encouraging them.

Are you joking? "

Nope.

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By *tooveMan
over a year ago

belfast


"I gave a homeless guy outside the supermarket loads of pound coins. Like £8. Ungrateful cunt didn't even say thanks just looked at me like it was expected. Never again"

?? ?? ??

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over a year ago


"I gave a homeless guy outside the supermarket loads of pound coins. Like £8. Ungrateful cunt didn't even say thanks just looked at me like it was expected. Never again

?? ?? ?? "

I came out of supermarket he was sat on floor with his blanket and an open tin in front of him with some coins in. So I gave hime all the coins in my pocket cos I don't use cash. Said here you are mate. No thanks just looked at me like I should have given him it anyway. I don't like people with no manners

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By *tooveMan
over a year ago

belfast


"I gave a homeless guy outside the supermarket loads of pound coins. Like £8. Ungrateful cunt didn't even say thanks just looked at me like it was expected. Never again

?? ?? ??

I came out of supermarket he was sat on floor with his blanket and an open tin in front of him with some coins in. So I gave hime all the coins in my pocket cos I don't use cash. Said here you are mate. No thanks just looked at me like I should have given him it anyway. I don't like people with no manners"

Lol. Cracker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have previously bought food for the homeless, but in a lot of cases I think people are virtue signalling when they say they'll offer sandwiches etc.

Like, in London we see homeless people all the time, and they're hardly laden down with piles of food and sandwiches donated by generous passers by.

I've also given money, but admittedly I make judgment calls and it's often based on my mood, my perception of the individual or how 'hassly' they are -- I'm not free from prejudices; I try my best but could possibly do better.

However, it's a shit problem -- homelessness goes way beyond the streets with thousands of people staying in hopelessly overcrowded or unsafe conditions, and while we can argue that "at least they have a roof", often that roof comes with some horrific conditions like domestic violence, health risks and so on.

For example, someone I know cannot stay home because of a collapsed drain outside her flat -- the council say she is adequately housed, but she cannot get her landlord to fix it, and yet the sewage smell is making her ill.

Meanwhile, I watched a dude on youtube last night, strolling around an old mining town in County Durham, where nearly every house was boarded up -- it's is thoroughly shocking there are so many empty properties that could be used.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"I have previously bought food for the homeless, but in a lot of cases I think people are virtue signalling when they say they'll offer sandwiches etc.

Like, in London we see homeless people all the time, and they're hardly laden down with piles of food and sandwiches donated by generous passers by.

I've also given money, but admittedly I make judgment calls and it's often based on my mood, my perception of the individual or how 'hassly' they are -- I'm not free from prejudices; I try my best but could possibly do better.

However, it's a shit problem -- homelessness goes way beyond the streets with thousands of people staying in hopelessly overcrowded or unsafe conditions, and while we can argue that "at least they have a roof", often that roof comes with some horrific conditions like domestic violence, health risks and so on.

For example, someone I know cannot stay home because of a collapsed drain outside her flat -- the council say she is adequately housed, but she cannot get her landlord to fix it, and yet the sewage smell is making her ill.

Meanwhile, I watched a dude on youtube last night, strolling around an old mining town in County Durham, where nearly every house was boarded up -- it's is thoroughly shocking there are so many empty properties that could be used. "

Its complex isnt it? Worth also remembering ours isnt the only country with homeless people

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Just finished having a coffee & catch up with my homeless mate Aaron.

If I have cash on me I typically give him £10, but normally just grab him stuff from Sainsbury’s. Meal deal and a lambrini or Stella’s and he’s a happy chappy.

Pretty much always get people, I believe to be genuinely homeless, a big food order.

There’s a homeless vet who won’t take anything, but he just loves the company and a chat. Quite often just pop to costa for a natter. He says that it means way more being treated as a human, having a bit of banter and just not being lonely.

Also couldn’t care less if people think me telling randoms about my kindness is wrong/crass. I’m proud of being caring, love putting a smile on people’s faces and if I can get a high five for it then what’s wrong with it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I draw the line when you say "sorry I haven't" and they pull out a chip and pin machine.

I shit you not, it's happened!!

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Absolutely I do, reason being in thr heights of my addiction just a random act of kindness, no matter how small made me feel valued, and of worth when I had none for myself "

Love this mate and shows how much you’ve grown as a human having suffered yourself. Sending ALL the happy vibes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't give money. But if I see a homeless person near a supermarket, I tend to ask if they need something to eat/drink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also make a point to always acknowledge any homeless person I see. I can't imagine how dehumanising it is to just sit there, day after day, ignored.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

No but I offer to buy them some food or a coffee instead if I can

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Of its cold or rainy i might, however i know a lot of "Homeless" are professional beggars.

i just see it like, if you are going to sit in this wet cold, im happy to drop you some change.

i did try to give a guy an old pair of trainers and some clothes but he said they looked to good and no one would give him money if he wore them

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"“Got any spare change?" - if you have, do you give it to them?

I used to try to when I had cash on me give them a little whenever I see a homeless person (just a pound or two to buy a sandwich or coffee), I genuinely feel sorry for them and think it must be an awful life. These days I’m not in town so much and use contactless but am going to try to remember to take some out whenever I’m in the smoke.

I know many people will say "they will only spend it on alcohol or drugs", but in my view they are hardly going to invest it in an ISA are they. They probably do spend it on that, but that's not my business. The choice is theirs and if they need food then they now have the means to buy it.

I’ll never forget once I was on the northern line, this fella got on, he was in a terrible state, really swollen foot, I'm talking the size of a water melon. He told this story about being ex army etc, walked along the carriage with his cup, getting a bit of change, then a fellow stood a few feet down from me reached in to his pocket and pulled out a huge wad of £20's, hundreds of pounds and said here you are mate, look after yourself. The guy nearly fainted.

So what's your perspective on homeless folk on the streets and giving them money? Do you?They unfortunately don't buy a sandwich with it though it kinda depends the way they ask if they look needy i give if they are regularly stood outside a shop and quite smartly dressed about to hit me with a story i do, i saw a woman like the woman from home alone who fed the pigeons sat outside watetloo east station as i was about to go in a pub and waste some money, she looked like she needed it so i gave her £20 but you just don't know i used to regularly walk across charing x bridge and a guy there looked like a real down and out and he owned his own home £270,000 home lol "
this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meanwhile, I watched a dude on youtube last night, strolling around an old mining town in County Durham, where nearly every house was boarded up -- it's is thoroughly shocking there are so many empty properties that could be used. "

If you're referring to Horden, there was a scheme a few year ago where they sold houses for £1:

https://www.channel4.com/news/horden-county-durham-bedroom-tax-one-pound-housing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would give to a homeless person.

A friend who lives over looking her local Aldi see homeless people being dropped off from a mini bus. There's a different person each day being dropped off to spend the day outside the supermarket. She has seen money handed to the driver when they are collected.

I worry that these vulnerable homeless people are being taken advantage of. Therefore I give drinks and food in future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you're referring to Horden, there was a scheme a few year ago where they sold houses for £1:

https://www.channel4.com/news/horden-county-durham-bedroom-tax-one-pound-housing"

I think that's the place -- and as of January this year, it's still largely boarded up, the houses auction at around £22000, and the area looks like a ghost town.

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By *nsatiable n baldCouple
over a year ago

somewhere only we know

Very rarely have change these days after having a chat with them - I buy a meal and drink and take it back to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very rarely have change these days after having a chat with them - I buy a meal and drink and take it back to them "

Yeah, most people likely have no change most days now. It's all cards.

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By *nsatiable n baldCouple
over a year ago

somewhere only we know


"Very rarely have change these days after having a chat with them - I buy a meal and drink and take it back to them

Yeah, most people likely have no change most days now. It's all cards."

I better cash in my coppers now before there obsolete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very rarely have change these days after having a chat with them - I buy a meal and drink and take it back to them

Yeah, most people likely have no change most days now. It's all cards.

I better cash in my coppers now before there obsolete "

After inflation, you might be able to buy a penny chew

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I’ll always give a few pounds or some change if I have it. Once I’ve handed it over, it’s their money and is none of my business what they spend it on. If I don’t have any cash, I’ll ask if they want me to get them something from a nearby shop. I’d rather they chose something that they’d like or need. If someone is asleep on a bench or in a doorway etc I’ll try and give £10/£20, especially in winter months.

I don’t give cash to people who can be seen hassling anyone or going from person to person asking for cash as I think they’re less likely to be genuine.

In December, I get £5 gift cards for Greggs or Tesco Express etc to give out. I also donate warm hats, gloves and hygiene items and donate to the Christmas dinner appeal to a local homeless charity. One thing I would like to do this Christmas is book a hotel room for someone on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day so they can have a hot shower and warm safe bed for the night.

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By *ull English with tea OP   Man
over a year ago

London

Thanks for all the replies on this, and it appears as though everyone on here is a good person either giving cash, food and drink, their time and conversation, giving to charities and more.

It’s a problem that will never be resolved sadly I think but from reading the replies it’s clear there is a lot of lovely, caring people in the world! And as a lot say, most are only one pay check away of getting in trouble

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will give money if I'm carrying any; very similar to the OP - I don't care if they spend it on alcohol or drugs ; do what you got to do to stay warm or have a bit of a good time.

Everyone says buy them food but I spoke to a homeless man in town at Xmas and he said don't buy me food I get given so much and can't eat it all.

They're people. They deserve kindness despite what they're going through x

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By *arry LickitMan
over a year ago

Wales

Yes I have done many times, but these days I see so many on the streets it just isn't possible to give to them all.

I was a sucker for beggers when I was younger, until I realised some of them are only doing it to make a living and many are probably richer than me.

One time I was having a night out with family when a young lady approached us and asked for water. All the homeless people were banned from the pubs so my sister went in and got her a glass of water. I never seen someone drink so quickly, she was so thirsty!

She told us about her life and that she met a celebrity and was over the moon about it because he gave her £8. I noticed my sister started crying when she was telling us about her life. Before I left I gave her enough to get her off the street for the night.

I often wonder what became of her.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London


"There but for the grace of God....

Living on the streets must be awful, I can't imagine how tough it is, or what circumstances put people there.

I give what I can, where I can.

This. You have no idea how they got there, and what their story is.

I offer to buy a drink or food if I can.

I've just stopped for a pint of milk, on my way in a homeless lady asked if I had any change, said I'd stop by on my way out the shop.

The look on her face said "heard that one before"

On my out I gave her a sandwich and some change.

The look of surprise and gratitude on her face was heart breaking......

I've just had a similar experience, again a garage, man begging said I'd give him some change on the way out. Got speaking to him, turns out he is using, so we goy taking about recovery, how he had gotten to 3.5 years clean then relapsed. So, we immediately have some common ground, I yell him I'm in recovery, we get speaking about NA, tell him where the local meetings are, and have taken his number and arranged to take him for a proper meal and take him to a narcotics anonymous meeting, so he can fund his way home. If i hadn't stopped then this woundnt have happened "

Very admirable

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By *hubby guy 999Man
over a year ago

BISHOP AUCKLAND

Never give cash but have bought food for them be it a maccy d or meal deal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I was 15 I ran away from home and was on the streets for awhile. I was to young to get any kind of benefits and had to rely on what people gave me

I remember once I had one bag of chips in three days. Not all homeless people spend it on drugs and alcohol and if they do its there way of escapism when the whole world is against them Whether you give them something or not just treat them as a human being"

^ this

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