FabSwingers.com forum: Should middle-aged women flirt?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My dilemma- there's a bloke I like. My flirting radar is pretty rusty so I don't know if he's interested or not. He leaves after next week so no time to plan my strategy.

Should I flirt with him? Should I wait for him to flirt? I haven't done this since I was a teen and all the 'my mate fancies you (giggle)' lark.

Eek! Oh yeah... And how do I flirt?!

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Don't flirt, tell him straight. Otherwise it will take him the week to work it out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dunno other than flatter your eyelashes at him, then ask him out before its too late

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

yes flirt flirt flirt wheres the harm just go careful to start to see if he s interested good luck xxx

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By *eavy Metal BallzMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"My dilemma- there's a bloke I like. My flirting radar is pretty rusty so I don't know if he's interested or not. He leaves after next week so no time to plan my strategy.

Should I flirt with him? Should I wait for him to flirt? I haven't done this since I was a teen and all the 'my mate fancies you (giggle)' lark.

Eek! Oh yeah... And how do I flirt?!

Christ yes, a little subtle flirting is fantastic and hopefully he'll get the hint.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im with Nike.

Just Do It!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

absolutely make your move - all you need to do is look him in the eye, smile, then run your eyes down to his crotch... and he'll get the message very quickly x

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Definately you should, good luck x

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

follow him around and after everything he says, just pmsl, lol, lmfao....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

too bloody right.

get on with it girl.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"My dilemma- there's a bloke I like. My flirting radar is pretty rusty so I don't know if he's interested or not. He leaves after next week so no time to plan my strategy.

Should I flirt with him? Should I wait for him to flirt? I haven't done this since I was a teen and all the 'my mate fancies you (giggle)' lark.

Eek! Oh yeah... And how do I flirt?!

Is it Johnny?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flirt if you have more time - which it seems you dont. So, ask him out for a coffee or a drink - stop ditthering woman!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah you should definitely flirt with him or it maybe to late

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

o yes...a little flirting doesn't hurt, then go for it...lifes too short..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should middle aged women flirt?

I would suggest they're often the very best at it!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

go for it. what a lucky man!

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Maybe get together at Costa, have a natural yoghurt. Spill a fair size amount over your top, wipe up and consume the spillage whilst suggestively looking into his eyes. Something subtle like that ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Due to previous experiences, work colleagues are untouchables as far as I am concerned.

However, I shall make sure they know that I fancy them and shall give them my contact details when they leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Go for it,flirting is fun and if it gets you somewhere then its even better

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

"Due to previous experiences, work colleagues are untouchables as far as I am concerned.

However, I shall make sure they know that I fancy them and shall give them my contact details when they leave.

With Pearl on this. But if he's leaving give it a go. Havent a clue how to flirt but Im more than sure you'll have no problems doing this

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Don't flirt, tell him straight. Otherwise it will take him the week to work it out

Agree. Just say 'fancy a drink and coffee at mine afterwards?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I crap at flirting. I just let people know I like them directly.

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By *imal75Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Hi Scarlet, Think you need to get him to have a drink with you and take it from there, just ask if him and then your half way there xx

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

just say 'when do you finish your shift as I really fancy slipping up and down on your rock hard shaft'... if he is interested, he will let you know...

if he isn't... swop Kylie CD's

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

"just say 'when do you finish your shift as I really fancy slipping up and down on your rock hard shaft'... if he is interested, he will let you know...

if he isn't... swop Kylie CD's"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just say 'when do you finish your shift as I really fancy slipping up and down on your rock hard shaft'... if he is interested, he will let you know...

if he isn't... swop Kylie CD's"

Quality!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my usual trick is to give the gent a kiss on the lips when he is not expecting it.

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By *hanetManMan
over a year ago

ramsgate

I like it when older women flirt with me. Doesn't happen often enough for my liking. Just do it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

He doesn't work at my place, just a couple of weeks contract. I just didn't want to seem desperate.

Liking the advice, thank you! I have done the 'holding his gaze for longer than 3 seconds' thing. And giggled like a 14 year old.

Even if he thinks I'm a sad old bag I suppose I've got nothing to lose. I'll wear a short skirt with my snow boots on Monday. And accidentally fall onto his lap.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"He doesn't work at my place, just a couple of weeks contract. I just didn't want to seem desperate.

Liking the advice, thank you! I have done the 'holding his gaze for longer than 3 seconds' thing. And giggled like a 14 year old.

Even if he thinks I'm a sad old bag I suppose I've got nothing to lose. I'll wear a short skirt with my snow boots on Monday. And accidentally fall onto his lap.

good luck xx

and with the fixed stare thing... try and not have your eyes looking at each other... I went wrong there once

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

No they shouldn't flirt. Unless it's with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This may not be everyone's cup of tea, however, I had some business cards printed with my avatar pic and my username on FAB, and am inclined to give it out to suitable gents that I may be interested in having some NSA fun.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"No they shouldn't flirt. Unless it's with me."

maybe they are frightened you will leave

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"just say 'when do you finish your shift as I really fancy slipping up and down on your rock hard shaft'... if he is interested, he will let you know...

if he isn't... swop Kylie CD's"

Nice one. I'll either get a right good shag.... Or a new clubbing buddy. Win/ win.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"This may not be everyone's cup of tea, however, I had some business cards printed with my avatar pic and my username on FAB, and am inclined to give it out to suitable gents that I may be interested in having some NSA fun.

pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have yet to give out my FAB business cards to anyone yet, however, one of my male colleague is destined to receive one when he eventually leaves.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"No they shouldn't flirt. Unless it's with me.

maybe they are frightened you will leave"

Pssst I don't know if you have heard but I am actually leaving View

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"No they shouldn't flirt. Unless it's with me.

maybe they are frightened you will leave

Pssst I don't know if you have heard but I am actually leaving View

no, no, no......

Johnny and you.

is there a connection

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"No they shouldn't flirt. Unless it's with me.

maybe they are frightened you will leave

Pssst I don't know if you have heard but I am actually leaving View

no, no, no......

Johnny and you.

is there a connection

Some say he is the fruit of my loin, some say he is an evil timewaster experiment I undertook that went wrong all I can say is HEEEEEE'S JOHNNY!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"No they shouldn't flirt. Unless it's with me.

maybe they are frightened you will leave

Pssst I don't know if you have heard but I am actually leaving View

no, no, no......

Johnny and you.

is there a connection

Some say he is the fruit of my loin, some say he is an evil timewaster experiment I undertook that went wrong all I can say is HEEEEEE'S JOHNNY!"

have you set a date for the departure... I will wear black like the other queen did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suggest leaving drinks then simply pounce

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Suggest leaving drinks then simply pounce

I'll go with that.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"No they shouldn't flirt. Unless it's with me.

maybe they are frightened you will leave

Pssst I don't know if you have heard but I am actually leaving View

no, no, no......

Johnny and you.

is there a connection

Some say he is the fruit of my loin, some say he is an evil timewaster experiment I undertook that went wrong all I can say is HEEEEEE'S JOHNNY!

have you set a date for the departure... I will wear black like the other queen did"

I haven't set an exact date as yet but its kind of soonish, certainly I would think no later than 2020. We could have a black tie do any time though bro.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I would get into conversation with him, ask him when he finishes and then ask if he would like to go for a drink one night. If he says yes, hand him your mobile number and ask him to text you when its convenient.

Then you will either get a text or you won't, as he's not going to be around then it won't matter.

I wouldn't do the short skirt, staring at his cock kind of thing unless you specifically only want sex. If you are looking for a date then keep it friendly, a little flirtatious but not full on sexual

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Most definitely You are never too old to flirt..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell yes....flirt woman, what have you got to lose, god I love flirting

if he doesn't make a move pass him your number when he leaves. good luck

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Certainly middle aged women should flirt, you just need to be subtle about it. I don't think you should giggle but hold his gaze a split second longer than you need to, put your hand on his arm briefly to make a point, look at him through your lashes or your hair, lean forward "accidentally" with a slightly lower but top than normal and smile.at him A LOT. Really hope it all goes well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely!!! It induces palpitations for this reader (I have a thing for the mature lady) and trust me they know how to work it so to speak...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well I would get into conversation with him, ask him when he finishes and then ask if he would like to go for a drink one night. If he says yes, hand him your mobile number and ask him to text you when its convenient.

Then you will either get a text or you won't, as he's not going to be around then it won't matter.

My 'short' skirts are knee length. Wild, I know!!

I'm thinking I'll email him on his last day and ask if he fancies a coffee some time. I'm too shy to ask face to face. If he doesn't reply then I'll know....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Certainly middle aged women should flirt, you just need to be subtle about it. I don't think you should giggle but hold his gaze a split second longer than you need to, put your hand on his arm briefly to make a point, look at him through your lashes or your hair, lean forward "accidentally" with a slightly lower but top than normal and smile.at him A LOT. Really hope it all goes well"

Thank you.

I giggle when I'm nervous, it's not a flirting thing. I'll smile lots too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm thinking I'll email him on his last day and ask if he fancies a coffee some time. I'm too shy to ask face to face. If he doesn't reply then I'll know"

Make sure you put your mobile number in your email and don't leave it to the last day. We all love some attention so go for it and good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say be brave and go for it (after all he is leaving so no red faces at work if nothing happens)and do let us know how you get on

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By *ohnny StarMan
over a year ago

swansea valleys

suck aii older women are so much better at flirting x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it... What is there to lose

and wouldn't say 41 is middle aged lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My dilemma- there's a bloke I like. My flirting radar is pretty rusty so I don't know if he's interested or not. He leaves after next week so no time to plan my strategy.

Should I flirt with him? Should I wait for him to flirt? I haven't done this since I was a teen and all the 'my mate fancies you (giggle)' lark.

Eek! Oh yeah... And how do I flirt?!

Just go for it..... xx you never know... nothing ventured, nothing gained ... xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do it there's nothing like a wild woman who knows what she wants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't flirt, tell him straight. Otherwise it will take him the week to work it out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is flattered when someone flirts with them, especially at this stage of the championship. Get in there or should you wait for it to happen again in

Your Next Life...LOL

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Thank you.

I giggle when I'm nervous, it's not a flirting thing. I'll smile lots too. "

I talk too much when I'm nervous lol. You look great in your profile picture he'd be a fool not to fall for your charms

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Go for it just dont be tooo subtle he's a man and we dont get subtle....lol wish someone would flirt with me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Go for it just dont be tooo subtle he's a man and we dont get subtle....lol wish someone would flirt with me

We're working on the same thing. He emailed and said we could go through some paperwork on Monday. I replied and said "I'll look forward to it".

Is that too subtle??!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go for it just dont be tooo subtle he's a man and we dont get subtle....lol wish someone would flirt with me

We're working on the same thing. He emailed and said we could go through some paperwork on Monday. I replied and said "I'll look forward to it".

Is that too subtle??!

Yes!

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"Go for it just dont be tooo subtle he's a man and we dont get subtle....lol wish someone would flirt with me

We're working on the same thing. He emailed and said we could go through some paperwork on Monday. I replied and said "I'll look forward to it".

Is that too subtle??!

Yes lol you should have said "i'll look forward to it xx oh and btw I wont be wearing any knickers

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By *aster of a mindCouple
over a year ago

York

"My dilemma- there's a bloke I like. My flirting radar is pretty rusty so I don't know if he's interested or not. He leaves after next week so no time to plan my strategy.

Should I flirt with him? Should I wait for him to flirt? I haven't done this since I was a teen and all the 'my mate fancies you (giggle)' lark.

Eek! Oh yeah... And how do I flirt?!

Christ yes, a little subtle flirting is fantastic and hopefully he'll get the hint.

Good luck. "

NO No don't be subtle....if he's anything like me, then he won't get the fact you like him even if and when you have him on his own in the broom cupboard

straight talking and tell him what you want! if he runs a mile, we hey he was leaving anyway....Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My dilemma- there's a bloke I like. My flirting radar is pretty rusty so I don't know if he's interested or not. He leaves after next week so no time to plan my strategy.

Should I flirt with him? Should I wait for him to flirt? I haven't done this since I was a teen and all the 'my mate fancies you (giggle)' lark.

Eek! Oh yeah... And how do I flirt?!

Christ yes, a little subtle flirting is fantastic and hopefully he'll get the hint.

Good luck.

NO No don't be subtle....if he's anything like me, then he won't get the fact you like him even if and when you have him on his own in the broom cupboard

straight talking and tell him what you want! if he runs a mile, we hey he was leaving anyway....Good luck

Think I'll wait till his last day just in case. I'll just ask him if he fancies a coffee some time. We don't have a broom cupboard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go for it just dont be tooo subtle he's a man and we dont get subtle....lol wish someone would flirt with me

We're working on the same thing. He emailed and said we could go through some paperwork on Monday. I replied and said "I'll look forward to it".

Is that too subtle??!

Yes!

I agree that isa definitely too subtle. if that were to be considered a chat up line then I'd be flirting with about 25 guys at work, that's a standard email nicety for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No just sit at home with your knitting and wait forever on him flirting and making the move on you lol

You must get the feeling if he likes you? If you don't then don't waste your time flirting. He just aint into you. If you get the impression he is into you. Flirt away. Yer never too auld and it is 2013 you know

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I decided not to wait till the end of the week. I just asked him... And he said yes!!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

that is quality..

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I decided not to wait till the end of the week. I just asked him... And he said yes!!

nice one, pleased for you..

btw 41 is not 'middle aged'..

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"I decided not to wait till the end of the week. I just asked him... And he said yes!!

Way to go Scarlet!

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"I decided not to wait till the end of the week. I just asked him... And he said yes!!

Well done you

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By *obandruthCouple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

tell him strait that you fancy him , before its to late

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

No, you should sit in front of the fire knitting and nursing a cat... or not - go for it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My dilemma- there's a bloke I like. My flirting radar is pretty rusty so I don't know if he's interested or not. He leaves after next week so no time to plan my strategy.

Should I flirt with him? Should I wait for him to flirt? I haven't done this since I was a teen and all the 'my mate fancies you (giggle)' lark.

Eek! Oh yeah... And how do I flirt?!

i dont envy you at all, i hate hate hate chatting people up, its alot easier on here haha.

I had a young girl at my work about 21, she was a pa, so beautiful, i used to speak to her, sadly her ex would knock her about. Anyway, she split from him and was leaving work, i bottled it, bottled it and then on her last day, thought id go and see her and ask her, if i got rejected, no loss. All the girls were cheering me on, i walked upto her department and as i walked in, noticed, she had gone..

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"My dilemma- there's a bloke I like. My flirting radar is pretty rusty so I don't know if he's interested or not. He leaves after next week so no time to plan my strategy.

Should I flirt with him? Should I wait for him to flirt? I haven't done this since I was a teen and all the 'my mate fancies you (giggle)' lark.

Eek! Oh yeah... And how do I flirt?!

i dont envy you at all, i hate hate hate chatting people up, its alot easier on here haha.

someone, one of her friends will have her number maybe..

if its meant to be it will happen, ask her out for coffee ..?

dont regret it in 6 months time when you see her arm in arm with some new guy..

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My dilemma- there's a bloke I like. My flirting radar is pretty rusty so I don't know if he's interested or not. He leaves after next week so no time to plan my strategy.

Should I flirt with him? Should I wait for him to flirt? I haven't done this since I was a teen and all the 'my mate fancies you (giggle)' lark.

Eek! Oh yeah... And how do I flirt?!

i dont envy you at all, i hate hate hate chatting people up, its alot easier on here haha.

someone, one of her friends will have her number maybe..

if its meant to be it will happen, ask her out for coffee ..?

dont regret it in 6 months time when you see her arm in arm with some new guy..

good luck

regret it to this day, was 2009 i think, i should of asked one of the girls in the office, i think one did offer, but i thought id come across weird.

I think the girl was high maintenance tho, but so hot. She does beauty work now, if i find her place il go in for a wax

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't flirt, tell him straight. Otherwise it will take him the week to work it out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell him, "I'm not very good at innuendo, so are you getting my message loud and clear. Big boy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just tell him, "I'm not very good at innuendo, so are you getting my message loud and clear. Big boy.

I've been flirting again today. We're off out next week. It's hard work as I have to pretend to be innocent. I'm not used to this vanilla chat lark!

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By *ll-Knight-longMan
over a year ago

Derby/Notts(Long Eaton)

"Don't flirt, tell him straight. Otherwise it will take him the week to work it out

I agree don't beat about the bush ask him out for a coffee...go for it

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

He's a man...

Ask him.

Preferably in writing.

In triplicate.

With witnesses and signed receipt...

Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck xxxx

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By *o-jCouple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Notts

Go for it gal

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