FabSwingers.com forum: Supermarket Etiquette

By *weet and Spice OP Couple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands

I was at a manned supermarket checkout yesterday and there was a lady behind me with a full trolley. Another shopper turned up with only a basket and asked if she could go ahead of her as she only had a few items. The lady agreed even though the self service checkouts were not particularly busy. The lady then ended up moving over to the self service checkouts, which (speculation only) she may not have done if the other shopper had not gone ahead of her. Obviously using those with a full trolley can be difficult and I understand some people dislike them with a passion.

Now I always thought the etiquette was to queue up as normal and wait for someone to offer a queue jump and certainly not to put someone out.

Curious to know what is the general opinion/consensus in this situation and what you do when you finish shopping.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I’ve got a full trolley and someone behind me has a couple items I ask if they want to go ahead of me x

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

If I have a trolley full and approach the checkout at a similar time to someone with a couple of items in a basket I usually tell them to go ahead.

If I’m queuing and someone asks to go ahead of me I decline, no matter how few items they have.

I never use the self service checkout.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone has a few items I will offer them through

I never expect it though and would wait patiently, I would certainly never ask to be allowed through

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I never do.....that's why they have self service checkouts.

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock

I never ask to go before someone with a full trolley but most folk offer anyway and I always thank them when I pass and finish paying. So if you've let me through, I thank you again

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I mean the self service thing is a game changer isn't it?

The world changes and etiquette changes with it.

Unless you have a reactionary mindset and walk backwards into the future.

Except on reducing chocolate bar sizes to 'help us with a healthy diet'. That can fuck off.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think asking is acceptable if you're in a hurry. I always offer anyway

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

"I think asking is acceptable if you're in a hurry. I always offer anyway "

If someone asks I always decline.

They are presuming that their time is of greater value than mine.

I don’t like it, it smacks of being entitled.

If they protest that they are in a hurry I just reply ‘you and me both’.

If it happens that I’m in no particular need to get on I will offer for someone to go ahead.

I am the only person who can evaluate the value of my time on any given day.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

I sometimes offer if I am not in a rush. Occasionally it backfires, they then spend ages rummaging for their purse or wallet, or the card gets declined, something doesn't scan and you have you wait for a supervisor.....

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

Yeah I would wait till I was asked, I don’t think I’d ask to jump the queue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always let those with a few items in a basket go before me....once though I had about 5 people all with a few items in a basket, then the dilemma of you can't let one without the others

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By *weet and Spice OP Couple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands

Thanks for all the replies. Looks like the etiquette is pretty similar across the board. That's good to know

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Ignore everyone apart from the checkout person when I go grocery shopping.

If you only have a few items and you’re stupid enough to join behind me instead of going to the self serve you deserve to wait.

I also ignore all those people that seem to think I’ve gone grocery shopping to socialise with them and listen to their stories about their lives lately, I’ll acknowledge with a passing hello and not respond to any attempt to engage.

There’s a very good reason you haven’t seen me in ages… I don’t fucking like you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally offer for them to go ahead. If I was the person with the basket, I’d just wait, I wouldn’t expect or ask to go ahead, that’s just rude.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will offer someone with just a few items to go ahead ofme if i notice.

I'd never dream of asking someone if i could push in tho - but you know what, if you don't ask you don't get.. And the worst that can happen is that someone says no and you are no worse than when you started

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Similar thing happened to me yesterday, I was unloading my trolley and then a couple started lurking behind with a few items. The self service was free and they were going so I didnt offer them to go ahead. One of the staff did direct them there though.

My point, every situation is different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah there's a queue for a reason, no matter how many items someone has. Sorry not sorry

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"Similar thing happened to me yesterday, I was unloading my trolley and then a couple started lurking behind with a few items. The self service was free and they were *young* so I didnt offer them to go ahead. One of the staff did direct them there though.

My point, every situation is different. "

*Young not going

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"Nah there's a queue for a reason, no matter how many items someone has. Sorry not sorry

Sigh. Oh well, just have to look at your bum then...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nah there's a queue for a reason, no matter how many items someone has. Sorry not sorry

With you on this. No amount of subtle hints is gonna change it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funnily enough no one ever asks to cut in front of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never had someone ask and I would find it rude them asking but I always offer to let someone go ahead of me if they have a basket and I have a trolley

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

"Funnily enough no one ever asks to cut in front of me. "

Probably too busy perving your arse

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon

I only ever have a few items when shopping at a time, too disorganised for more. Never asked to go first but equally can only think of one occasion when someone offered. That when I was heavily pregnant and I remember being very taken aback.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think it's fine to ask, though I never have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone offered me to go in front of them a few weeks ago and it really made my day!

Such a simple and easy thing to do to spread a bit of happiness

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