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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Comments on some threads like "I only shave when I have a meet"

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"I only get wear sexy underwear when I know we will fuck and they will see it"

Do you let yourself go if you don't have any fuck meets planned?

Or do you look after yourself for *you*?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I look after myself for me, I do dress up for the Mr or a meet but no more than I'd dress up to leave the house shopping.

I do occasionally forget to shave a leg though

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm rubbish at the whole "self care" stuff.

I will only do stuff if I think I might be getting naked with someone, so 99.9% of the time I'm a hairy mess.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I look after myself for me, I do dress up for the Mr or a meet but no more than I'd dress up to leave the house shopping.

I do occasionally forget to shave a leg though

Mrs "

I saw a woman in Waitrose the other week in a latex dress, 8" heels and 1 hairy leg...

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I'm not sure about looking after myself but I keep my legs shaved year round because I hate to feel the stubble in bed

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I'm not sure about looking after myself but I keep my legs shaved year round because I hate to feel the stubble in bed

"

Well this is awkward

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I ‘prep’ myself every day, on the off chance I receive a spontaneous offer.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I trim my beard about once a week. So if I know I’m meeting someone I’ll wait until that day to do it.

Does that count?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm rubbish at the whole "self care" stuff.

I will only do stuff if I think I might be getting naked with someone, so 99.9% of the time I'm a hairy mess. "

I'm not saying hair is bad.

I never get naked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm rubbish at the whole "self care" stuff.

I will only do stuff if I think I might be getting naked with someone, so 99.9% of the time I'm a hairy mess. "

Phwoar

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By *hiversMan
over a year ago

Dinas Powys

Bit of both, I try and stay presentable all the time, but will make an extra effort for a meet.

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

We are always ready just in case we decide to meet up today or tonight, it's hard to plan our lives from day to day so we are always prepared for the unexpected.

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I do look after myself most of the time, just makes me feel better.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

We are as we are every day so no special preparation needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t shave everyday mainly because it takes effort and I can’t be bothered some days. Doing my hair and makeup is something I enjoy doing so if I have the time I’ll do it purely for me because it makes me feel good. I’ll usually just shove on leggings and an oversized T or hoody to leave the house though, I only get dressed up a little when I have somewhere to go. I do make an extra effort with myself if I have a meet to go to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We are as we are every day so no special preparation needed."

A man once washed his cock in the sink before he fucked me.

(They usually wash afterwards)

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

Im permanently erect, lubed up and in my pvc crotchless gear in case a lady messages me for a ‘meet now as she’s in my area!’ Type of meet… causes a few raised eyebrows in Waitrose but it’s worth it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it for me but there's a difference between Sunday morning slob around the house me and going out me.

I have to look pretty smart at work these days too.

I'm in no way a glam beauty so doing little things gives me more confidence

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I wear comfortable, plain, breathable underwear most of the time.

I also don't shave constantly when no one is going to see it.

Being comfortable and reducing my workload *is* looking after myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personal hygiene and looking presentable are a high priority for me. Even when I am away on location and camping, I still make the effort, even if it’s a plunge pool somewhere. No excuse not too, unless you’re ill of course.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

When meeting I was always in make up and clothes suitable for the occassion.

Now I look after me for me and that does NOT involve wearing make up or dressing up.

The other day in the supermarket I saw a woman who looked fabulous. Face like a bag of spanners , evening ish style dress, glittery shoes, hair extensions , she looked great and for a while I admired her taking the time to look that good , that early in the day but in reality I really couldn't be happier not doing it.

I have other things to do with my time and as long as I am bathed and decently dressed, I'm happy and ready to face the world.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I look at self-care like admin.

I know I should do it as I go, but if I did - I would start to bore myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are as we are every day so no special preparation needed.

A man once washed his cock in the sink before he fucked me.

(They usually wash afterwards)"

There's a gap in the market for cock wash to have alongside the bottle of hand-wash..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yesterday I was platting F's armpit hair, braiding her leg her and hair pubes look like a Vikings beard.

Can you tell we're not currently meeting?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wear comfortable, plain, breathable underwear most of the time.

I also don't shave constantly when no one is going to see it.

*** Being comfortable and reducing my workload *is* looking after myself *** "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I shave my face every day but don't shave down below every day cos it's a slight faff and doesn't bother me to see a bit of stubble there. If those bits are going to be seen by someone else then they'll be shaved, clean and polished!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bad for letting my leg hair go hence why it takes me a day and hafe to get ready

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts

Don't meet people for fucks but look after myself 365 days for me.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I am constantly and perpetually groomed, abluted and presentable, irrespective if I'm meeting someone for a date or meeting my left hand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Comments on some threads like "I only shave when I have a meet"

or

"I only get wear sexy underwear when I know we will fuck and they will see it"

Do you let yourself go if you don't have any fuck meets planned?

Or do you look after yourself for *you*?"

I am pretty much always neat and tidy and trimmed

The only thing I tend to do if I know I am likely to meet someone is get the OH to shave my back

That's not summat I can do myself

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Comments on some threads like "I only shave when I have a meet"

or

"I only get wear sexy underwear when I know we will fuck and they will see it"

Do you let yourself go if you don't have any fuck meets planned?

Or do you look after yourself for *you*?

I am pretty much always neat and tidy and trimmed

The only thing I tend to do if I know I am likely to meet someone is get the OH to shave my back

That's not summat I can do myself

"

I saw a gadget on Amazon that allows you to do it yourself I nearly bought one for Mr N as a joke (I like a hairy man), then I saw the price

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I don’t do sexy underwear, I do functional underwear. It’s clean. That fact doesn’t change regardless of having a meet or no.

Body hair wise I am hairy. I shave my legs for the Summer because I don’t wear tights with dresses and I wear sandals so I paint my toe nails. I do wash. I use deodrant. That fact doesn’t change regardless of having a meet or no.

My idea of self care focuses on my mental health rather than my appearance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t do sexy underwear, I do functional underwear. It’s clean. That fact doesn’t change regardless of having a meet or no.

Body hair wise I am hairy. I shave my legs for the Summer because I don’t wear tights with dresses and I wear sandals so I paint my toe nails. I do wash. I use deodrant. That fact doesn’t change regardless of having a meet or no.

My idea of self care focuses on my mental health rather than my appearance.

"
second this ..but I might wear fancy bits for a meet ....

I doll up when I go out but on a daily or grocery run I'm generally in my PJs and pumps .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t do sexy underwear, I do functional underwear. It’s clean. That fact doesn’t change regardless of having a meet or no.

Body hair wise I am hairy. I shave my legs for the Summer because I don’t wear tights with dresses and I wear sandals so I paint my toe nails. I do wash. I use deodrant. That fact doesn’t change regardless of having a meet or no.

My idea of self care focuses on my mental health rather than my appearance.

second this ..but I might wear fancy bits for a meet ....

I doll up when I go out but on a daily or grocery run I'm generally in my PJs and pumps .

"
comfort above everything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im permanently erect, lubed up and in my pvc crotchless gear in case a lady messages me for a ‘meet now as she’s in my area!’ Type of meet… causes a few raised eyebrows in Waitrose but it’s worth it!!

"

That is quite an image - made me chuckle, now off to Waitrose for a gander

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Comments on some threads like "I only shave when I have a meet"

or

"I only get wear sexy underwear when I know we will fuck and they will see it"

Do you let yourself go if you don't have any fuck meets planned?

Or do you look after yourself for *you*?"

I only look after myself for the people who want to fuck me because unless they find me fuckable I'm not worth it.

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.

This is not my true opinion but based on what I read in the forums lately a lot of people base their self esteem on how attractive other people find them

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I look and feel amazing whether I am having a fuck of not.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I look and feel amazing whether I am having a fuck of not.

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Hooray!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do make a special effort if I am meeting - whether that is work or Fab, but if I can get away with it (i.e. working from home) then it is comfort that is more important, so big sweater, trackie bottoms and dont bother shaving.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I wear better lingerie when I'm not meeting than I do when meeting.

When not meeting I'm wearing it purely for the feel of it, so lots of gorgeous fabrics and softest silky stockings.

When meeting I'm doing it for the look of it, and in lingerie I always feel a bit Miss Piggy-ish (vaguely ridiculous and certainly not sexy) so I wear nice underwear but not my nicest stuff.

Grooming is different and I do that when I'm of a mind to, whether meeting or not.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"I look after myself for me, I do dress up for the Mr or a meet but no more than I'd dress up to leave the house shopping.

I do occasionally forget to shave a leg though

Mrs "

Just one leg??? so one hairy one smooth!!! mmm kinky lol

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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No. Well, it's more nuanced than that. I look after myself generally because I enjoy doing it - having a long shower, moisturising, getting my nails done... but I don't wear makeup day to day. I don't wear sexy lingerie day to day, most of the time I'm braless and knickerless to be honest.

I like the ritualistic element of getting ready to spend time with someone, knowing that a carefully chosen lingerie set will have a person devouring me with their eyes long before they devour me.

I like wearing a little bit of makeup, taking that time to myself so I'm feeling less day to day Meli and more... like my sensual side.

It's not about doing it for someone else (although I absolutely love someone's reaction to me), it's about having the opportunity to feel like I'm kind of sexy.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

"I'm not sure about looking after myself but I keep my legs shaved year round because I hate to feel the stubble in bed

Well this is awkward "

You'd prefer the stubble??

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Nope. I keep everything up to date. Never have to do anything special other than shower, get dressed and some make up

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Nope. I keep everything up to date. Never have to do anything special other than shower, get dressed and some make up "

I'll make sure I coincide any meet with a day that I'm washing and styling my hair but I do that anyway. Otherwise I'm one of those people who's never knowingly under dressed

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

It takes me hours to look this bad, you should have seen me before.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Depends on how busy I am day to day.

Shower daily, wash hair few times a week. Try and remember to shave legs and puts few times a week and give the pubes a trim.

Everyday underwear is comfy, meet underwear is smarter and usually matching. Club underwear is sexy.

Will dress however I'm mood for. Usually jeans.

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I don't see shaving my legs as looking after myself, I see it as a pain in the bum. It takes time and effort. For the most part I'm happy being a grown woman with hairy legs. My husband and kids don't care. I don't bother shaving for the swimming pool. I only shave them when it's summer and I want to wear dresses and shorts and can't be bothered to feel self conscious, or for a meet.

As to wearing sexy underwear? I'd rather be comfortable day to day in nice normal knickers. I make an effort if we have someone joining us in the bedroom, as I like to look good and be admired.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Comments on some threads like "I only shave when I have a meet"

or

"I only get wear sexy underwear when I know we will fuck and they will see it"

Do you let yourself go if you don't have any fuck meets planned?

Or do you look after yourself for *you*?

I am pretty much always neat and tidy and trimmed

The only thing I tend to do if I know I am likely to meet someone is get the OH to shave my back

That's not summat I can do myself

"

I'm sure he knows how lucky he is.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Weekdays I'm happy with cleanliness and functional grooming.

Weekends are for intimate areas, make up, nails, lingerie etc etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm looking after myself, it's for me. I'm not massively self-involved, but will always take a few minutes to make sure I'm looking halfway decent and smelling nice. It's more a self confidence thing, than a looking to impress you thing.

You can all bask in my glory, though

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"We are as we are every day so no special preparation needed.

A man once washed his cock in the sink before he fucked me.

(They usually wash afterwards)"

Kitchen sink with some Fairy.

Classy!!

A

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No. Well, it's more nuanced than that. I look after myself generally because I enjoy doing it - having a long shower, moisturising, getting my nails done... but I don't wear makeup day to day. I don't wear sexy lingerie day to day, most of the time I'm braless and knickerless to be honest.

I like the * ritualistic element * of getting ready to spend time with someone, knowing that a carefully chosen lingerie set will have a person devouring me with their eyes long before they devour me.

I like wearing a little bit of makeup, taking that time to myself so I'm feeling less day to day Meli and more... like my sensual side.

It's not about doing it for someone else (although I absolutely love someone's reaction to me), it's about having the opportunity to feel like I'm kind of sexy."

* I like this.

Ok you've made me think.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't see shaving my legs as looking after myself, I see it as a pain in the bum. It takes time and effort. For the most part I'm happy being a grown woman with hairy legs. My husband and kids don't care. I don't bother shaving for the swimming pool. I only shave them when it's summer and I want to wear dresses and shorts and can't be bothered to feel self conscious, or for a meet.

As to wearing sexy underwear? I'd rather be comfortable day to day in nice normal knickers. I make an effort if we have someone joining us in the bedroom, as I like to look good and be admired."

Hope one day you feel happy enough to rock the dresses and shorts with unshaven legs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to keep my body hair short always less sweaty and smelly and more hygienic. Shaving my ass keeps it clean no shit paste getting stuck in the starfish hair

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By *andyrod1Man
over a year ago

St Margaret's at Cliffe

I keep my beard and bits nicely trimmed, nothing worse than a huge bush on a bloke but l find a female bush very appealing, underarm hair on a lady is also a rare bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am currently like a bear. Well let go into the land of fluff. And I DO only usually shave for a meet or if it is swimwear season, but thats still just for my benefit though. Although a breeze over bare hairy legs is a lovely sensation.

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