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By *ezebel100 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

So having read the recent threads "are men better at giving blow jobs than women" and "can women give a good hand job" has prompted me to ask, if your partner wasn't happy with your technique in bed would you want them to tell you and if so how?

Are men more likely to take this badly or are women more likely?

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Always open to advice, so long as they do it tactfully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I speak with my partner.

I let her know what are my likes .

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm happy for direction so 'slower/faster/just there/I'd love it if you did x' rather than

"You're rubbish at that, up your game"

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

It all depends again (sorry to be that person) for me i like to get to know someone before anything develops so i would think that it shouldnt be too big of a issue as we are on the same page.

Never had a issue before with either men or women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why wouldn't couples tell each other what they like and what the their partner is doing wrong.

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By *ezebel100 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Personally I speak with my partner.

I let her know what are my likes ."

But if she was say too rough or too gentle?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Considering how many women reckon they're the best at blow jobs as this what they've been told, I've come to the conclusion men are scared to tell the truth.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Generally if someone isn't interpreting my reactions and body language to know what's working and what isn't, there's not much point talking to them about it, just wouldn't meet them again

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

I always ask people to show me how they like being touched, as well as trying to read body language.

I'm quite verbal in bed (and everywhere else) so I will quite happily tell someone how I feel, or ask them to touch me in a certain way. They always seem happy to oblige and seems to help them open up to what they like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I speak with my partner.

I let her know what are my likes .

But if she was say too rough or too gentle?"

Most of the times I’ll show her how it’s done while she is doing a hand job .

While bf I controls the pace and angles by holding her head and speaking to her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Considering how many women reckon they're the best at blow jobs as this what they've been told, I've come to the conclusion men are scared to tell the truth.

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Men are always telling me that even a really crap bj is better than no bj.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bi night blindfold competition cumming up

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

Everybody is different about what they like, how the want to progress, etc, so I always encourage a partner to tell me what works best for them.

Their pleasure is just as important as mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like anything any criticism has to be constructive and be told in a way that doesn't hurt their feelings etc. I would absolutely want to be told or at least directed with how they wanted something.

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By *lu1963Man
over a year ago

stourport on seven

This. I think its better for both people's pleasure and your not flogging a dead horse

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By *unx2019Couple
over a year ago

Moray

We actually spent a whole afternoon where he wanted to learn what and where turned me on the most, was most enlightening. Problem now is he knows all my hotspots and makes me cum uncontrolably

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By *ullyMan
over a year ago

Near Clacton

So having read the recent threads "are men better at giving blow jobs than women" and "can women give a good hand job" has prompted me to ask, if your partner wasn't happy with your technique in bed would you want them to tell you and if so how?

Are men more likely to take this badly or are women more likely?

This totally depends on the partner. For instance if it would really tear the partner up to know they were not "doing very well" at it (maybe a long term partner, husband wife), then I would keep quiet, but if on the other hand the relationship was all about the sex then yes speak up and both tell what what they want and what pleases or not. Men definitely give better head as they know what a guy feels, as for a hand job well that can be good or bad depending on the person but again I would prefer a guy. And only once have I said to a sex partner that it was uncomfortable to the point of making me sore was a girl giving me head while a friend was fucking her and she kept grating my cock with her teeth, a definite no no. But that again dependent on a persons wishes I had a couple of sessions with a guy , good sessions but he wanted me to literally bite as hard as possible on his nipples, he loved it I was miffed and to be honest scared of doing damage or going too far.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

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"Considering how many women reckon they're the best at blow jobs as this what they've been told, I've come to the conclusion men are scared to tell the truth.

Men are always telling me that even a really crap bj is better than no bj. "

Any hole is a goal

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