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By *eardedman7 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Hey all, just a quick one, I’ve come across a few ladies who won’t meet/entertain a conversation because I’m single??? I understand to a certain degree as the reason they used was because they don’t want needy, dramaless fun.

Anyone else come across this before?

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By *atty CoramWoman
over a year ago

Wimbledon

I find that when people ask (or demand) an explanation for being declined they are rarely interested in the reason and just want an excuse to continue talking or to force cajole or coerce.

A person's reasons for declining are irrelevant.

They don't want to meet you: move on with your life.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's one way to get sex with less chance of an emotional commitment, I suppose.

I haven't come across it.

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By *eardedman7 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"I find that when people ask (or demand) an explanation for being declined they are rarely interested in the reason and just want an excuse to continue talking or to force cajole or coerce.

A person's reasons for declining are irrelevant.

They don't want to meet you: move on with your life."

I get what you’re saying however, I never asked for a reason they voluntarily told me, I was just curious if other people on here have come across this

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By *atty CoramWoman
over a year ago

Wimbledon


"I find that when people ask (or demand) an explanation for being declined they are rarely interested in the reason and just want an excuse to continue talking or to force cajole or coerce.

A person's reasons for declining are irrelevant.

They don't want to meet you: move on with your life.

I get what you’re saying however, I never asked for a reason they voluntarily told me, I was just curious if other people on here have come across this"

Fair enough.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Erm...

To a certain extent I can understand this. I have a few friends who actively avoid single men because it's easier in their mind. Less drama, really clear cut dynamics in their mind at least. I think sometimes people want a potentially stress free life. Good sex but without the other stuff.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Hey all, just a quick one, I’ve come across a few ladies who won’t meet/entertain a conversation because I’m single??? I understand to a certain degree as the reason they used was because they don’t want needy, dramaless fun.

Anyone else come across this before? "

I am sure you have reasons you won’t meet certain people……

It fascinates me that people are so invested in the people who don’t want them…. Like it’s chasing the impossible dream to try and change their minds

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I have seen guys in relationships claim that meeting them involves less drama than single guys. It's the closest I've seen to this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You cant really win as a man on here I guess!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey all, just a quick one, I’ve come across a few ladies who won’t meet/entertain a conversation because I’m single??? I understand to a certain degree as the reason they used was because they don’t want needy, dramaless fun.

Anyone else come across this before? "

Have you thought it maybe is just an answer they use to let you down gently

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Yes lots of times, I don't want single men either though so fully understand

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By *eardedman7 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Hey all, just a quick one, I’ve come across a few ladies who won’t meet/entertain a conversation because I’m single??? I understand to a certain degree as the reason they used was because they don’t want needy, dramaless fun.

Anyone else come across this before?

Have you thought it maybe is just an answer they use to let you down gently "

I have thought this

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Also single men having free time to meet lots of different women is another reason I've heard

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Also single men having free time to meet lots of different women is another reason I've heard

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Damn those single people and their free time

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Hey all, just a quick one, I’ve come across a few ladies who won’t meet/entertain a conversation because I’m single??? I understand to a certain degree as the reason they used was because they don’t want needy, dramaless fun.

Anyone else come across this before? "

Might not just be where people are single it's just a preference choice like some only want to meet couple. Nobody needs an explanation as to why nor does anyone need to ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also single men having free time to meet lots of different women is another reason I've heard

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It's a swingers site, aren't they allowed to meet who they like

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Nope never heard that before. If I like them I like them, their relationship status is irrelevant. Unless they’re part of a couple on here. That’s not for me.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss


"Also single men having free time to meet lots of different women is another reason I've heard

It's a swingers site, aren't they allowed to meet who they like "

Some people like exclusivity or a very small circle, they can enter whatever dynamic suits them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it’s so they don’t get attached.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually prefer single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also single men having free time to meet lots of different women is another reason I've heard

It's a swingers site, aren't they allowed to meet who they like

Some people like exclusivity or a very small circle, they can enter whatever dynamic suits them"

Yes but surely that's part of discussions not just 'oh you're single so no thank you'

If it's on their profile then fair play to being exclusive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never understand when women say they prefer to see a guy who's married or committed to a relationship to someone else over single men

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Hey all, just a quick one, I’ve come across a few ladies who won’t meet/entertain a conversation because I’m single??? I understand to a certain degree as the reason they used was because they don’t want needy, dramaless fun.

Anyone else come across this before? "
women that don't answer messages, thats the site anything else you want to know

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By *oJo pornstarMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I haven't heard of women who explicitly say "no single men", but in real life and in swinging I have meet and/or talked to girls and cples that only go for married/attached guys for a variety of reasons, IE discretion, sexual health, excitement and am sure there is plenty of others.

I wouldn't put your effort into those that don't want to meet you and concentrate on those that do.

I have never once asked for a reason why someone isn't interested in me, just a polite and respectful thank you for your reply and good luck X reply from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I want a single man. Sometimes I want a couple. Sometimes I want a single woman. Sometimes a want a combination of the above. The best thing about fab is the personal choice you can exercise.

From my perspective (I’m sure a bunch of guys will pop up to tell me I’m wrong and that woman do it too) a lot of single men on here are extremely pushy, rude and just not worth the stress. No is frequently misunderstood as try again, be more forceful or call me names and abuse me.

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

it really comes down to this.

some will meet you others wont.

enjoy who you are meeting, forget the rest.

as the godfather james brown once said

'when you get it, you got it!'

'cannot miss what you never had'

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Sometimes I want a single man. Sometimes I want a couple. Sometimes I want a single woman. Sometimes a want a combination of the above. The best thing about fab is the personal choice you can exercise.

From my perspective (I’m sure a bunch of guys will pop up to tell me I’m wrong and that woman do it too) a lot of single men on here are extremely pushy, rude and just not worth the stress. No is frequently misunderstood as try again, be more forceful or call me names and abuse me.

"

Us silly women need to learn that what we want is what we're told we want. Our pink fluffy lady brains can't handle making our own decisions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey all, just a quick one, I’ve come across a few ladies who won’t meet/entertain a conversation because I’m single??? I understand to a certain degree as the reason they used was because they don’t want needy, dramaless fun.

Anyone else come across this before? "
To each his own but for me it wouldn't be because you are single.... I opt not to meet men who are overly eager and single......its a very dangerous combo...but again this is only in my experience thus far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want single men that want exclusivity. Or those that want a relationship.

But otherwise I like single men.

I can see why attached men would appeal to some as they won't want to get too involved or attached.

I like the ones where their partners know. They are more appealing. Or single men at a good distance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m the opposite, I will only meet single men and try to avoid anyone attached.

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

People are here for a variety of different things. So there’s no one answer to this question!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey all, just a quick one, I’ve come across a few ladies who won’t meet/entertain a conversation because I’m single??? I understand to a certain degree as the reason they used was because they don’t want needy, dramaless fun.

Anyone else come across this before? "

Total opposite im in a happy open marriage and women won't chat to me because I'm not single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its funny though because I have couples who claim to want to see other couples or females but yet they view my profile and some even message me.

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire


"the reason they used was because they don’t want needy, dramaless fun."

Seriously? You get women rejecting you because they don't want drama less fun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there any reason why a couple who claim to not look for single men would fab my pictures and wink at me?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Is there any reason why a couple who claim to not look for single men would fab my pictures and wink at me? "

I don’t meet couples but I fab some of their pics and have a few on my hotlist. Also the things people put on their profile isn’t set in stone. I break my rules regularly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey all, just a quick one, I’ve come across a few ladies who won’t meet/entertain a conversation because I’m single??? I understand to a certain degree as the reason they used was because they don’t want needy, dramaless fun.

Anyone else come across this before?

Total opposite im in a happy open marriage and women won't chat to me because I'm not single. "

I avoid men in (open) relationships. That's my choice. I don't want to be talked about. And I'm cynical that all is as it seems.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Hey all, just a quick one, I’ve come across a few ladies who won’t meet/entertain a conversation because I’m single??? I understand to a certain degree as the reason they used was because they don’t want needy, dramaless fun.

Anyone else come across this before?

Total opposite im in a happy open marriage and women won't chat to me because I'm not single.

I avoid men in (open) relationships. That's my choice. I don't want to be talked about. And I'm cynical that all is as it seems. "
me too. It’s not a dynamic I’m comfortable with

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I just block and move on op so they do not appear in searches.

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.


"Is there any reason why a couple who claim to not look for single men would fab my pictures and wink at me? "

If it’s the bit in the filters section on the profile, it just means they don’t search for them or receive messages from them. They could still be open to them on different terms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any reason why a couple who claim to not look for single men would fab my pictures and wink at me?

I don’t meet couples but I fab some of their pics and have a few on my hotlist. Also the things people put on their profile isn’t set in stone. I break my rules regularly "
Why would you break your own rules thats confusing loool

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Is there any reason why a couple who claim to not look for single men would fab my pictures and wink at me?

I don’t meet couples but I fab some of their pics and have a few on my hotlist. Also the things people put on their profile isn’t set in stone. I break my rules regularly Why would you break your own rules thats confusing loool"

Because I don’t meet couples but a couple may come along that I’m really really attracted to and get on well with. Unlikely but could happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any reason why a couple who claim to not look for single men would fab my pictures and wink at me?

I don’t meet couples but I fab some of their pics and have a few on my hotlist. Also the things people put on their profile isn’t set in stone. I break my rules regularly Why would you break your own rules thats confusing loool

Because I don’t meet couples but a couple may come along that I’m really really attracted to and get on well with. Unlikely but could happen "

I have never sought out couples, I'm not even bi-curious but on another site I have chatted to a couple whom I could imagine meeting. What we desire can be so random!

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"Is there any reason why a couple who claim to not look for single men would fab my pictures and wink at me? "
We are not looking for single men on here but I do like fabbing pictures that I like the look of.I’ve also sent a wink or 2 to single men near us that I know are going to be at socials we are also attending.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey all, just a quick one, I’ve come across a few ladies who won’t meet/entertain a conversation because I’m single??? I understand to a certain degree as the reason they used was because they don’t want needy, dramaless fun.

Anyone else come across this before?

I am sure you have reasons you won’t meet certain people……

It fascinates me that people are so invested in the people who don’t want them…. Like it’s chasing the impossible dream to try and change their minds "

Exactly. Focus on those who might be interested in you rather than those who definitely aren't

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By *umplayerMan
over a year ago

Chester


"You cant really win as a man on here I guess! "

This is a good observation!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And the thing is couples that wink and fab my pictures most of them live far from where I am so not sure what they expect to happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And the thing is couples that wink and fab my pictures most of them live far from where I am so not sure what they expect to happen?"

That's pretty standard though. Half my messages are from guys hundreds of miles away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find that when people ask (or demand) an explanation for being declined they are rarely interested in the reason and just want an excuse to continue talking or to force cajole or coerce.

A person's reasons for declining are irrelevant.

They don't want to meet you: move on with your life."

I meet up for a social with someone and then they blocked me. I’m genuinely curious to why because I thought it went okay. Get if she didn’t want to meet for anything else but would’ve still liked a verification

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara


"I find that when people ask (or demand) an explanation for being declined they are rarely interested in the reason and just want an excuse to continue talking or to force cajole or coerce.

A person's reasons for declining are irrelevant.

They don't want to meet you: move on with your life."
this 100% this.

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By *arried BifemWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the midlands

Everyone has their preferences and kinks.

I’m part of the married men only club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve got a gf and I’m in an open relationship it’s great cx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone has their preferences and kinks.

I’m part of the married men only club "

Beautiful dxx

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever


"I find that when people ask (or demand) an explanation for being declined they are rarely interested in the reason and just want an excuse to continue talking or to force cajole or coerce.

A person's reasons for declining are irrelevant.

They don't want to meet you: move on with your life.

I meet up for a social with someone and then they blocked me. I’m genuinely curious to why because I thought it went okay. Get if she didn’t want to meet for anything else but would’ve still liked a verification "

You thought. You’ve just answered your own question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And the thing is couples that wink and fab my pictures most of them live far from where I am so not sure what they expect to happen?

That's pretty standard though. Half my messages are from guys hundreds of miles away. "
Is it? I dont wink or message women who live outside from the areas Im willing to travel too lool

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

I would much rather meet single men, preferably bi or bi-curious, as there is (usually) much less hassle regarding arranging meets.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever


"And the thing is couples that wink and fab my pictures most of them live far from where I am so not sure what they expect to happen?"

Winking and fabbing your pictures is a form of appreciation and saying they like what they see. Doesn’t necessarily mean they want to meet you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone has their preferences and kinks.

I’m part of the married men only club "

But you're a woman, how did the 'Married Men Only' club let you in! Surely you were not wearing that fake beard again?

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"Hey all, just a quick one, I’ve come across a few ladies who won’t meet/entertain a conversation because I’m single??? I understand to a certain degree as the reason they used was because they don’t want needy, dramaless fun.

Anyone else come across this before? "

Obviously nothing there for you. Suck it up, and move on to something else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find that when people ask (or demand) an explanation for being declined they are rarely interested in the reason and just want an excuse to continue talking or to force cajole or coerce.

A person's reasons for declining are irrelevant.

They don't want to meet you: move on with your life.

I meet up for a social with someone and then they blocked me. I’m genuinely curious to why because I thought it went okay. Get if she didn’t want to meet for anything else but would’ve still liked a verification

You thought. You’ve just answered your own question. "

I guess you’re right

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By *arried BifemWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the midlands


"Everyone has their preferences and kinks.

I’m part of the married men only club

But you're a woman, how did the 'Married Men Only' club let you in! Surely you were not wearing that fake beard again? "

M they didn’t let me in, I let them in :p

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By *hrobbingbeatMan
over a year ago

Norrh East & East midlands


"It's one way to get sex with less chance of an emotional commitment, I suppose.

I haven't come across it."

Genius

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone has their preferences and kinks.

I’m part of the married men only club

But you're a woman, how did the 'Married Men Only' club let you in! Surely you were not wearing that fake beard again?

M they didn’t let me in, I let them in :p"

Oh, I see what you did there - nice! Can I be let in too please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And the thing is couples that wink and fab my pictures most of them live far from where I am so not sure what they expect to happen?

That's pretty standard though. Half my messages are from guys hundreds of miles away. Is it? I dont wink or message women who live outside from the areas Im willing to travel too lool"

As far as I know it's standard. People do daft things. I had an offer to go to Ibiza last week!

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

It's hard work with single men. My experience is awful with single men.It's sad really as I understand not every man is the same but I'm tired of giving my time to someone who would disappear and block me.

For me that is not a real man but a child.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women block men too after meeting them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me people can choose what their preferences are and are welcome to change them when they see fit, as I always see on this kind of thread is this is FAB and people can do whatever they wish.

So when single men complain about this and that, I see that they are always site supporters, which makes me wonder why they pay for something they will never get, why they pay to be looked down upon, why they pay to be abused by others who consider them either, wanking dead, needy, rude, persistent and many other insults I have read on these forums.

IMO people get what they pay for, and if the service isn't to expectation, find something elsewhere that is.

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By *anasGodMan
over a year ago

everywhere

People deny themselves…well secret life is ok.

But why to deny your feelings or your identity?

Live the moment and if it goes well it goes, never play with feelings…have a little self respect brothers don’t give it to every woman that she is not worth it…

It’s easier for us to find a woman if we need just sex prostitution is a community service I believe..even we can go out alone for a drink and we can have a good time woman can’t unless their are on their holidays

But at the end are all kinks I guess.

Some times is better the wank because you can fuck all your ideally perfect woman how you like it…than to be with actually real on and at the end make you feel weird (either ghost you after or play with your feelings)

Keep it real brothers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I want a single man. Sometimes I want a couple. Sometimes I want a single woman. Sometimes a want a combination of the above. The best thing about fab is the personal choice you can exercise.

From my perspective (I’m sure a bunch of guys will pop up to tell me I’m wrong and that woman do it too) a lot of single men on here are extremely pushy, rude and just not worth the stress. No is frequently misunderstood as try again, be more forceful or call me names and abuse me.

"

Absolutely this!

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Sometimes I want anybody that will have me, I a walking female repllent.

But I do have cheesecake.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"And the thing is couples that wink and fab my pictures most of them live far from where I am so not sure what they expect to happen?

That's pretty standard though. Half my messages are from guys hundreds of miles away. "

In the onslaught of messages after I uploaded my very first picture, one stuck out. (Details obscured for obvious reasons)

He lived in - let's say Aberdeen (it wasn't, but it was similarly far away from Manchester). He had to meet me because of an item of clothing I was wearing.

(The item of clothing came from M&S, which I'm pretty sure exists in Scotland or other places a long way from Manchester)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me people can choose what their preferences are and are welcome to change them when they see fit, as I always see on this kind of thread is this is FAB and people can do whatever they wish.

So when single men complain about this and that, I see that they are always site supporters, which makes me wonder why they pay for something they will never get, why they pay to be looked down upon, why they pay to be abused by others who consider them either, wanking dead, needy, rude, persistent and many other insults I have read on these forums.

IMO people get what they pay for, and if the service isn't to expectation, find something elsewhere that is. "

You know that many people get grief on Fab don't you? Women and couples also get called names especially in messages and targeted status updates. I don't think anyone should abuse or be abused but you seem to be representing single men as the victims here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me people can choose what their preferences are and are welcome to change them when they see fit, as I always see on this kind of thread is this is FAB and people can do whatever they wish.

So when single men complain about this and that, I see that they are always site supporters, which makes me wonder why they pay for something they will never get, why they pay to be looked down upon, why they pay to be abused by others who consider them either, wanking dead, needy, rude, persistent and many other insults I have read on these forums.

IMO people get what they pay for, and if the service isn't to expectation, find something elsewhere that is.

You know that many people get grief on Fab don't you? Women and couples also get called names especially in messages and targeted status updates. I don't think anyone should abuse or be abused but you seem to be representing single men as the victims here. "

I’ve had random abuse messaged to me it’s not a gender thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find that when people ask (or demand) an explanation for being declined they are rarely interested in the reason and just want an excuse to continue talking or to force cajole or coerce.

…"

People get reasons?! I just got ignored/deleted. Or in fact, I’m unsure if I’d want to know?

A ‘No woody!, get off me!’ Is an enough for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any reason why a couple who claim to not look for single men would fab my pictures and wink at me? "

Because it's their choice, don't question it just accept it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me people can choose what their preferences are and are welcome to change them when they see fit, as I always see on this kind of thread is this is FAB and people can do whatever they wish.

So when single men complain about this and that, I see that they are always site supporters, which makes me wonder why they pay for something they will never get, why they pay to be looked down upon, why they pay to be abused by others who consider them either, wanking dead, needy, rude, persistent and many other insults I have read on these forums.

IMO people get what they pay for, and if the service isn't to expectation, find something elsewhere that is.

You know that many people get grief on Fab don't you? Women and couples also get called names especially in messages and targeted status updates. I don't think anyone should abuse or be abused but you seem to be representing single men as the victims here. "

Thats because the thread is about women who do not like single men, I didn't see couples or women to be the topic.

I am wondering why men pay a supporters fee if they are unhappy with how things are going for them on here.

anything else you think are your thoughts.

Excuse me there some straw in my shoe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me people can choose what their preferences are and are welcome to change them when they see fit, as I always see on this kind of thread is this is FAB and people can do whatever they wish.

So when single men complain about this and that, I see that they are always site supporters, which makes me wonder why they pay for something they will never get, why they pay to be looked down upon, why they pay to be abused by others who consider them either, wanking dead, needy, rude, persistent and many other insults I have read on these forums.

IMO people get what they pay for, and if the service isn't to expectation, find something elsewhere that is.

You know that many people get grief on Fab don't you? Women and couples also get called names especially in messages and targeted status updates. I don't think anyone should abuse or be abused but you seem to be representing single men as the victims here.

I’ve had random abuse messaged to me it’s not a gender thing "

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Hey all, just a quick one, I’ve come across a few ladies who won’t meet/entertain a conversation because I’m single??? I understand to a certain degree as the reason they used was because they don’t want needy, dramaless fun.

Anyone else come across this before? "
no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me people can choose what their preferences are and are welcome to change them when they see fit, as I always see on this kind of thread is this is FAB and people can do whatever they wish.

So when single men complain about this and that, I see that they are always site supporters, which makes me wonder why they pay for something they will never get, why they pay to be looked down upon, why they pay to be abused by others who consider them either, wanking dead, needy, rude, persistent and many other insults I have read on these forums.

IMO people get what they pay for, and if the service isn't to expectation, find something elsewhere that is.

You know that many people get grief on Fab don't you? Women and couples also get called names especially in messages and targeted status updates. I don't think anyone should abuse or be abused but you seem to be representing single men as the victims here.

Thats because the thread is about women who do not like single men, I didn't see couples or women to be the topic.

I am wondering why men pay a supporters fee if they are unhappy with how things are going for them on here.

anything else you think are your thoughts.

Excuse me there some straw in my shoe."

It was the presentation of single men as tragic victims that I was commenting on. The OP didn't do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me people can choose what their preferences are and are welcome to change them when they see fit, as I always see on this kind of thread is this is FAB and people can do whatever they wish.

So when single men complain about this and that, I see that they are always site supporters, which makes me wonder why they pay for something they will never get, why they pay to be looked down upon, why they pay to be abused by others who consider them either, wanking dead, needy, rude, persistent and many other insults I have read on these forums.

IMO people get what they pay for, and if the service isn't to expectation, find something elsewhere that is.

You know that many people get grief on Fab don't you? Women and couples also get called names especially in messages and targeted status updates. I don't think anyone should abuse or be abused but you seem to be representing single men as the victims here.

Thats because the thread is about women who do not like single men, I didn't see couples or women to be the topic.

I am wondering why men pay a supporters fee if they are unhappy with how things are going for them on here.

anything else you think are your thoughts.

Excuse me there some straw in my shoe.

It was the presentation of single men as tragic victims that I was commenting on. The OP didn't do that. "

Thats how you read it, those are your thoughts not mine.

When I read how single men are abused daily on here I wonder why they pay a fee to receive this abuse, as I have stopped paying to read it.

You think that's tragic then YOU think its tragic not me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I could then two at a time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me people can choose what their preferences are and are welcome to change them when they see fit, as I always see on this kind of thread is this is FAB and people can do whatever they wish.

So when single men complain about this and that, I see that they are always site supporters, which makes me wonder why they pay for something they will never get, why they pay to be looked down upon, why they pay to be abused by others who consider them either, wanking dead, needy, rude, persistent and many other insults I have read on these forums.

IMO people get what they pay for, and if the service isn't to expectation, find something elsewhere that is.

You know that many people get grief on Fab don't you? Women and couples also get called names especially in messages and targeted status updates. I don't think anyone should abuse or be abused but you seem to be representing single men as the victims here.

Thats because the thread is about women who do not like single men, I didn't see couples or women to be the topic.

I am wondering why men pay a supporters fee if they are unhappy with how things are going for them on here.

anything else you think are your thoughts.

Excuse me there some straw in my shoe.

It was the presentation of single men as tragic victims that I was commenting on. The OP didn't do that.

Thats how you read it, those are your thoughts not mine.

When I read how single men are abused daily on here I wonder why they pay a fee to receive this abuse, as I have stopped paying to read it.

You think that's tragic then YOU think its tragic not me.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me people can choose what their preferences are and are welcome to change them when they see fit, as I always see on this kind of thread is this is FAB and people can do whatever they wish.

So when single men complain about this and that, I see that they are always site supporters, which makes me wonder why they pay for something they will never get, why they pay to be looked down upon, why they pay to be abused by others who consider them either, wanking dead, needy, rude, persistent and many other insults I have read on these forums.

IMO people get what they pay for, and if the service isn't to expectation, find something elsewhere that is.

You know that many people get grief on Fab don't you? Women and couples also get called names especially in messages and targeted status updates. I don't think anyone should abuse or be abused but you seem to be representing single men as the victims here.

Thats because the thread is about women who do not like single men, I didn't see couples or women to be the topic.

I am wondering why men pay a supporters fee if they are unhappy with how things are going for them on here.

anything else you think are your thoughts.

Excuse me there some straw in my shoe.

It was the presentation of single men as tragic victims that I was commenting on. The OP didn't do that.

Thats how you read it, those are your thoughts not mine.

When I read how single men are abused daily on here I wonder why they pay a fee to receive this abuse, as I have stopped paying to read it.

You think that's tragic then YOU think its tragic not me.

"

Yet again I will use this interaction to highlight how things are on FAB.

Also an example of me not paying the supporters fee, why would i.

hence why I query single men who have an opinion on their interactions which are met with abuse or mockery. continue to support this behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me people can choose what their preferences are and are welcome to change them when they see fit, as I always see on this kind of thread is this is FAB and people can do whatever they wish.

So when single men complain about this and that, I see that they are always site supporters, which makes me wonder why they pay for something they will never get, why they pay to be looked down upon, why they pay to be abused by others who consider them either, wanking dead, needy, rude, persistent and many other insults I have read on these forums.

IMO people get what they pay for, and if the service isn't to expectation, find something elsewhere that is.

You know that many people get grief on Fab don't you? Women and couples also get called names especially in messages and targeted status updates. I don't think anyone should abuse or be abused but you seem to be representing single men as the victims here.

Thats because the thread is about women who do not like single men, I didn't see couples or women to be the topic.

I am wondering why men pay a supporters fee if they are unhappy with how things are going for them on here.

anything else you think are your thoughts.

Excuse me there some straw in my shoe.

It was the presentation of single men as tragic victims that I was commenting on. The OP didn't do that.

Thats how you read it, those are your thoughts not mine.

When I read how single men are abused daily on here I wonder why they pay a fee to receive this abuse, as I have stopped paying to read it.

You think that's tragic then YOU think its tragic not me.

Yet again I will use this interaction to highlight how things are on FAB.

Also an example of me not paying the supporters fee, why would i.

hence why I query single men who have an opinion on their interactions which are met with abuse or mockery. continue to support this behaviour."

Your hyperbolic response to my mild comment that other people also receive abuse (single women particularly) invites mockery tbh. I have and will continue to show empathy to individuals who struggle on the site. But I won't accept that single men are abused daily.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

It's their prerogative to do so.

If I am being judged in such generic and basic terms, then I probably wouldn't get on with them anyway.

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

I’ve met a few single guys who have tried to steer me away from here, but in a way that makes me feel like a whore. Telling me it’s not attractive etc.

I also met a guy who after about six months of meeting admitted he was married, but before that he gave me grief and told me he wanted exclusivity “quality over quantity”. Got possessive and jealous over new verifications.

The good ones who understand the need for diversity keep me here.

But I’ve yet to meet someone who makes me feel like I want to leave.

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Quite common misconception on here is people have to give or provide a reason why ?? they won't/don't ?? along with assumption these two words are killing the site ! xx

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By *kjay86Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

It's just one of many different preferences people have on here I guess, same as anything else. Some people have a logical reason, others maybe not but it's what they like either way. Wouldn't think into it really.

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By *o so quiet onesCouple
over a year ago

Scarborough


"Hey all, just a quick one, I’ve come across a few ladies who won’t meet/entertain a conversation because I’m single??? I understand to a certain degree as the reason they used was because they don’t want needy, dramaless fun.

Anyone else come across this before?

I am sure you have reasons you won’t meet certain people……

It fascinates me that people are so invested in the people who don’t want them…. Like it’s chasing the impossible dream to try and change their minds "

This exactly!!

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Single men are the pits

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I just think that 'no means no' and everyone is potentially different, so no point judging. If you are single it will likely appear that many people don't like single. Most times they are probably just saying no.

Most people on Fab have absolutely NO idea why other people say things, don't engage with things, make blocks, or suddenly not do things they were or seemed committed to do etc...

One thing for sure is that nobody has a right to get in with anyone else on here, even conversationally (ie even a reply tbh). It often surprises me how many people don't *quite* get that.

It's a huge site though, especially if you are prepared to move around. --pt

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"Is there any reason why a couple who claim to not look for single men would fab my pictures and wink at me? "

Be thankful.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Hey all, just a quick one, I’ve come across a few ladies who won’t meet/entertain a conversation because I’m single??? I understand to a certain degree as the reason they used was because they don’t want needy, dramaless fun.

Anyone else come across this before? "

I’ve not had this in over 10 years of using Fab? If someone isn’t interested in you, just block them and move on. Plenty more pebbles on the beach, and you only need to like one

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Is there any reason why a couple who claim to not look for single men would fab my pictures and wink at me? ."

They’re opening their door to YOU, not the masses. Take their hint

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