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"We all like to, to varying degrees whether on here or away from it. How important to you is it on here? Do you readily believe you're special/mean something to someone? Is it something you actively avoid? Find easily? And final question... is it something you enjoy doing with others, making them feel special?" I know I mean something to people friends close friends. And am beneficial in their lives enhancing it somehow...well they tell me I do. But they could juat very placating me | |||
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"We all like to, to varying degrees whether on here or away from it. How important to you is it on here? Do you readily believe you're special/mean something to someone? Is it something you actively avoid? Find easily? And final question... is it something you enjoy doing with others, making them feel special? I know I mean something to people friends close friends. And am beneficial in their lives enhancing it somehow...well they tell me I do. But they could juat very placating me " No, I don't think they are. It's a choice to have someone in your life. If they're close friends, they've chosen you. They like you. | |||
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"We all like to, to varying degrees whether on here or away from it. How important to you is it on here? Do you readily believe you're special/mean something to someone? Is it something you actively avoid? Find easily? And final question... is it something you enjoy doing with others, making them feel special? I know I mean something to people friends close friends. And am beneficial in their lives enhancing it somehow...well they tell me I do. But they could juat very placating me No, I don't think they are. It's a choice to have someone in your life. If they're close friends, they've chosen you. They like you. " But Meli I'm a dick..I don't even like myself lol | |||
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"Validation from strangers off the internet isn’t something I’m concerned about. I prefer some form of attention from boy. Even if it’s just laughing at my shit jokes. " Aww Rex that's lovely! It wasn't so much about strangers on here - it could be friends. One of your harem who've enjoyed your bum love. There's something so lovely and heartwarming about positive attention from loved ones. | |||
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"On here… not very important at all. I love the handful of friends I have here and privately they are special in lots of ways to me. I actually prefer typing into the void here these days rather than the faux compliments and adulation that I once used to attract." Yes, I think there's something freeing about being able to post without simpering replies because you're okay looking. I guess the falseness after a while is tiring. I'm sure your friends love you too. | |||
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"Feeling special on here not so much, but at the same time feeling like a person over a notch on a bedpost is important. Mrs " This for me too Tinder x | |||
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"Any attention on here means they want to fuck you or use you to get to the person they want to fuck. " I don't do that and definitely never the last one that's nasty. Too much self-respect to do that to someone. I'm quite sure I am heavily doubted though. Always have been. It's fine.. puts me off then anyway so it's win-win lose-lose however you want to look at it. We've been chatting ages, why haven't we had sex, are you gay? No I just meant it when I said I liked you and wanted to be friends. Haven't felt that way about you. Varied responses from hugging me to being punched over the years. Nothing I say seems to make a difference, as to whether it's believed or not. | |||
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"We all like to, to varying degrees whether on here or away from it. How important to you is it on here? Do you readily believe you're special/mean something to someone? Is it something you actively avoid? Find easily? And final question... is it something you enjoy doing with others, making them feel special?" Just the latter for me... I love to make the lady I'm with feel special! Ensuring that every moment is about them (as far as possible). Whether it's a good blether over a coffee, pillow talk, or intimate play, there should be no doubt that they are the focus? And Meli... you do indeed have a velvet tongue! That voice... o..m..g.. its like hot maple syrup running over the end of a spoon... Mmmm | |||
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"I don't have to be special to someone. But I do need to feel like a whole person, and not just a selection of orifices or a point of convenience. Some people do make me feel genuinely special. And sometimes that scares the shit out of me. Sometimes it doesn't. " Yes! You can tell when someone just sees you as a really good throat fleshlight and when they're interested in you as a person (don't get me wrong, I adore the former). We are very similar Prey. Sometimes I'm a bit scared, others I'm like wahey, let's give my emotional support pug a good story to listen to. | |||
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"We love making someone feel special, and at home we are always trying to make each other feel special. We take our connections seriously, be that family, friends and FWBs, and we invest as much time as we can to let our people know they bring meaning to our lives. It used to be the same on here too. " I'm not sure which one of you I'm talking to so I'm going to approach this mindfully. Yes, you do give that impression. I'm sorry it's no longer the same on here for you, x | |||
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"I don't have to be special to someone. But I do need to feel like a whole person, and not just a selection of orifices or a point of convenience. Some people do make me feel genuinely special. And sometimes that scares the shit out of me. Sometimes it doesn't. Yes! You can tell when someone just sees you as a really good throat fleshlight and when they're interested in you as a person (don't get me wrong, I adore the former). We are very similar Prey. Sometimes I'm a bit scared, others I'm like wahey, let's give my emotional support pug a good story to listen to. " Sorry to butt in. But I'm me. Someone once said to me they don't understand what emotional support is, she was a psychiatrist too. | |||
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"We all like to, to varying degrees whether on here or away from it. How important to you is it on here? Do you readily believe you're special/mean something to someone? Is it something you actively avoid? Find easily? And final question... is it something you enjoy doing with others, making them feel special? I know I mean something to people friends close friends. And am beneficial in their lives enhancing it somehow...well they tell me I do. But they could juat very placating me No, I don't think they are. It's a choice to have someone in your life. If they're close friends, they've chosen you. They like you. But Meli I'm a dick..I don't even like myself lol " Confession - I'm a bit of a dick as well. Some of the best people in my life are. You might not like you but others do. x | |||
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"I don't have to be special to someone. But I do need to feel like a whole person, and not just a selection of orifices or a point of convenience. Some people do make me feel genuinely special. And sometimes that scares the shit out of me. Sometimes it doesn't. Yes! You can tell when someone just sees you as a really good throat fleshlight and when they're interested in you as a person (don't get me wrong, I adore the former). We are very similar Prey. Sometimes I'm a bit scared, others I'm like wahey, let's give my emotional support pug a good story to listen to. Sorry to butt in. But I'm me. Someone once said to me they don't understand what emotional support is, she was a psychiatrist too. " Oh butt in all you want to! I'm trying to reply to things while cleaning and being distracted by *stuff*. I think I could fap myself silly listening to a good voice. Anyway - emotional support is so important! My pug? I love her. She's been there through it all. I even do a vagina test with her to see if I'm actually feral for a man or I'm just ovulating - if she leaves a snail trail, I'm doing it. It's having someone who's there for you, even if you don't talk for a few days. Being able to talk about everything, like why do Italian men have such a draw? Starbucks limited drinks. The sort of person who you can cry with, offer your shoulder and laugh your arses off because you've spent the past five minutes talking about two completely different subjects yet agreeing with each other. I love my emotional support pug and I'm going to message her because this has reminded me how dear she is. | |||
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"I'm not sure I have ever felt special to someone and I'm ok with that. I do tend to go out of the way to make sure people in my life I'm close to know how special they are though and their happiness brings me joy " I only met you once and I think you are pretty damn special so I would be very surprised if you are not special to quite a few! | |||
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"My close friends and family make me feel special. On here I didn't care how many people a guy was seeing and I didn't have to be his number one as long as the time we where together we both made each other feel special" Yes. I have a dear friend who is, for want of a better word, a massive man tart. An incorrigible man tart. But when we're together, it feels special. Outside of it I'm actually not fussed. It's fucking fantastic not overthinking it and just enjoying that moment. Those responses to me. | |||
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"I find guys will make out you're something special, on here I don't take anything seriously though. At the end of the day they just want sex. " It's good to take it with a pinch of a salt - there's no point thinking that every person sees you as something special. But... but sometimes? They want you. Not sex with anyone. You. Because it's you. I really can't hate on men today, currently in my I Love Men Era. I'd side eye myself if I could. | |||
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" I like to make sure that people that are special to me know and feel that they are. I also like to make others smile as well... but that's different. And yes, I like to feel I'm special. If someone wants to put their penis in me then I want it to be because they want me... not just any penis receptacle. That doesn't mean I need or want hearts and flowers, or to be the only one - I've got that and am not looking to replace him. But to feel special and not just the first one that said yes, or the one that'll do until someone better comes along? Yes. I want to feel special. And I don't feel it or believe it readily. I'm hard work." This for me too. I’m hard work and I know I am. I won’t be someone’s notch. Ever. Neither will they be mine. I can count on one hand the number of people I’ve met on here in 8 years but they’ve all been special. | |||
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"We all like to, to varying degrees whether on here or away from it. How important to you is it on here? Do you readily believe you're special/mean something to someone? Is it something you actively avoid? Find easily? And final question... is it something you enjoy doing with others, making them feel special? Just the latter for me... I love to make the lady I'm with feel special! Ensuring that every moment is about them (as far as possible). Whether it's a good blether over a coffee, pillow talk, or intimate play, there should be no doubt that they are the focus? And Meli... you do indeed have a velvet tongue! That voice... o..m..g.. its like hot maple syrup running over the end of a spoon... Mmmm " But when you focus your energy so much on another... don't you like it reciprocated to some degree? And thank you, that's a lovely compliment! x I've been using it too much recently though, it's a bit hoarse atm. | |||
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"I know I give a very special blow job " I'll come back to this thread but I really need to go and focus on other things for a few hours. But this? Yes. Knowing I give a very special blowjob, how much someone enjoys it? Probably one of the most important ways for me to feel special. Such a needy bitch, right? | |||
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"I don't have to be special to someone. But I do need to feel like a whole person, and not just a selection of orifices or a point of convenience. Some people do make me feel genuinely special. And sometimes that scares the shit out of me. Sometimes it doesn't. Yes! You can tell when someone just sees you as a really good throat fleshlight and when they're interested in you as a person (don't get me wrong, I adore the former). We are very similar Prey. Sometimes I'm a bit scared, others I'm like wahey, let's give my emotional support pug a good story to listen to. Sorry to butt in. But I'm me. Someone once said to me they don't understand what emotional support is, she was a psychiatrist too. Oh butt in all you want to! I'm trying to reply to things while cleaning and being distracted by *stuff*. I think I could fap myself silly listening to a good voice. Anyway - emotional support is so important! My pug? I love her. She's been there through it all. I even do a vagina test with her to see if I'm actually feral for a man or I'm just ovulating - if she leaves a snail trail, I'm doing it. It's having someone who's there for you, even if you don't talk for a few days. Being able to talk about everything, like why do Italian men have such a draw? Starbucks limited drinks. The sort of person who you can cry with, offer your shoulder and laugh your arses off because you've spent the past five minutes talking about two completely different subjects yet agreeing with each other. I love my emotional support pug and I'm going to message her because this has reminded me how dear she is." . Ha ha well Italian women can have that draw too for certain. And yes there are some voices that just do stuff to us aren't there?! As much as I agree with all of that, never had a pug though. I looked at that psychiatrist in my eyes and realised I could spend a thousand years and you'd never have a clue what I meant. | |||
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"I think its easy to not feel special on fab because so many people will cast a net out wide and see what they drag in, so in many cases there's not really something about you they identified in you. In a lot of cases. It's painful feeling like you're just one that bit. But when you do feel special. When someone does see you and you form a connection. When you click and its real. And your connection is unique, by virtue of you both being unique individuals, its so so worth it. " I’ve never felt special on Fab. | |||
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"I think its easy to not feel special on fab because so many people will cast a net out wide and see what they drag in, so in many cases there's not really something about you they identified in you. In a lot of cases. It's painful feeling like you're just one that bit. But when you do feel special. When someone does see you and you form a connection. When you click and its real. And your connection is unique, by virtue of you both being unique individuals, its so so worth it. I’ve never felt special on Fab. " I'm gonna take you on the date of your life. | |||
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"I think its easy to not feel special on fab because so many people will cast a net out wide and see what they drag in, so in many cases there's not really something about you they identified in you. In a lot of cases. It's painful feeling like you're just one that bit. But when you do feel special. When someone does see you and you form a connection. When you click and its real. And your connection is unique, by virtue of you both being unique individuals, its so so worth it. I’ve never felt special on Fab. I'm gonna take you on the date of your life. " JessicaGrace ... just a message from you would make any guy feel special! Like winning the lottery! | |||
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"I find guys will make out you're something special, on here I don't take anything seriously though. At the end of the day they just want sex. It's good to take it with a pinch of a salt - there's no point thinking that every person sees you as something special. But... but sometimes? They want you. Not sex with anyone. You. Because it's you. I really can't hate on men today, currently in my I Love Men Era. I'd side eye myself if I could." I think I'm at the complete opposite. I don't hate men. I just know they want sex and that's it. Me or someone else. I've not been made to feel special by anyone on fab. Quite the opposite, it's fine. The walls are just even higher lol. I'm glad you're in a good place though x | |||
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"I'm very cynical anyway but on here, I've learnt to be even more. I've realised that men on here just go over the board with compliments etc to make themselves noticed as it's so hard for them. The compliments continue until they cum. Then they don't know you anymore. " I'm sorry if this has been your experience Curve, but I always try to ensure a lady has been satisfied at least once before she focuses any major attention on me... and then what else is the recovery time for, other than seeing to the lady's every desire...? | |||
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"I think its easy to not feel special on fab because so many people will cast a net out wide and see what they drag in, so in many cases there's not really something about you they identified in you. In a lot of cases. It's painful feeling like you're just one that bit. But when you do feel special. When someone does see you and you form a connection. When you click and its real. And your connection is unique, by virtue of you both being unique individuals, its so so worth it. I’ve never felt special on Fab. I'm gonna take you on the date of your life. JessicaGrace ... just a message from you would make any guy feel special! Like winning the lottery! " Overly good odds on this one I'm fairly accessible I'm in forums and cams fairly often hahaha. I'm no prize trust me. | |||
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"No I don't feel special on here not by anyone. I'm just another woman they want to fuck. There's nothing special about that. I feel special because I am special. Because he tells me so. And because my kids are living proof. " You are special Belinda. In so many ways. | |||
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"F ... Ahem, ahem, ahem Nudge, nudge " You guys are VERY special x | |||
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"We all like to, to varying degrees whether on here or away from it. How important to you is it on here? Do you readily believe you're special/mean something to someone? Is it something you actively avoid? Find easily? And final question... is it something you enjoy doing with others, making them feel special?" I love making someone feel special, and think I do it quite effectively. Do I feel special? Sadly, no. | |||
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"I find guys will make out you're something special, on here I don't take anything seriously though. At the end of the day they just want sex. It's good to take it with a pinch of a salt - there's no point thinking that every person sees you as something special. But... but sometimes? They want you. Not sex with anyone. You. Because it's you. I really can't hate on men today, currently in my I Love Men Era. I'd side eye myself if I could. I think I'm at the complete opposite. I don't hate men. I just know they want sex and that's it. Me or someone else. I've not been made to feel special by anyone on fab. Quite the opposite, it's fine. The walls are just even higher lol. I'm glad you're in a good place though x" No, that's not quite fair to men. They don't just want sex. Sure some do. Some women do. Some trans do. But I don't know, there are men who want more than sex. Are happy to have a friendship after, when you don't want to have sex with them/watch them wank. Sorry your walls are higher - I hope one day if you want to knock them down a bit, you're able to, x | |||
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"I think its easy to not feel special on fab because so many people will cast a net out wide and see what they drag in, so in many cases there's not really something about you they identified in you. In a lot of cases. It's painful feeling like you're just one that bit. But when you do feel special. When someone does see you and you form a connection. When you click and its real. And your connection is unique, by virtue of you both being unique individuals, its so so worth it. I’ve never felt special on Fab. I'm gonna take you on the date of your life. " That’s quite a statement! | |||
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"Overly good odds on this one I'm fairly accessible I'm in forums and cams fairly often hahaha. I'm no prize trust me. " Don't do yourself down! Loads of guys (and girls) would be made up to get a DM from you! | |||
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"When you’re made to feel like an option so many times on here, there’s no way to feel special. People can lead you on and make you believe you are, then the inevitable let downs come, so the walls go up again " Oh I knew that one so well, it's why it took Marc so long to nail me down even for just a coffee Tinder | |||
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"When you’re made to feel like an option so many times on here, there’s no way to feel special. People can lead you on and make you believe you are, then the inevitable let downs come, so the walls go up again " Relatable content | |||
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"I find guys will make out you're something special, on here I don't take anything seriously though. At the end of the day they just want sex. It's good to take it with a pinch of a salt - there's no point thinking that every person sees you as something special. But... but sometimes? They want you. Not sex with anyone. You. Because it's you. I really can't hate on men today, currently in my I Love Men Era. I'd side eye myself if I could. I think I'm at the complete opposite. I don't hate men. I just know they want sex and that's it. Me or someone else. I've not been made to feel special by anyone on fab. Quite the opposite, it's fine. The walls are just even higher lol. I'm glad you're in a good place though x No, that's not quite fair to men. They don't just want sex. Sure some do. Some women do. Some trans do. But I don't know, there are men who want more than sex. Are happy to have a friendship after, when you don't want to have sex with them/watch them wank. Sorry your walls are higher - I hope one day if you want to knock them down a bit, you're able to, x" Sadly whenever I've felt like they should come down, it was clear that I shouldn't have. Clearly not the right person! | |||
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"A few close friends sometimes tell me that I'm caring and helpful and suchlike, but I don't feel that I'm particularly held as Special by anyone in the way you mean OP. Perhaps it's just the emotional hammering that the last year has given me. I don't seem to be on anyone's sex list though, and not even on anyone's "hold her while she goes to sleep" list. Though maybe the second list is more difficult to get on than the first? Dunno. " I think the first list might be easier to get on. Possibly. I'm sorry you've had such an emotional hammering this past year Polly, that's really rough. I think, and yep, I get softer as the night progresses... it's great being special to someone. Whether it's platonic/sexual/romantic. Knowing that you're liked for who you are. But realising you're special, no, unique and great in who you are is more important. I really hope the months to come are kinder to you, xx | |||
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