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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was out of someones league a few days ago, it turned out that they meant they were out of MY league

it was based mainly on my recent pictures, I was pretty gutted that someone would feel put off thinking they wouldnt be 'good enough' compared to those pictured

While there is always an ideal 'type' for lots of people..I just couldnt really think of discounting having fun with someone by comparing them to past meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm... I'd like to go on record as saying I don't know what you mean. Are you saying this person thought they weren't good enough for you, or that you weren't good enough for them? The former is just odd, the latter is a bit arrogant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i do it all the time

If someone mails me and their past meets are good looking and slimmer than me i wont meet them

And yeah before anyone says it i dont meet many people lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Erm... I'd like to go on record as saying I don't know what you mean. Are you saying this person thought they weren't good enough for you, or that you weren't good enough for them? The former is just odd, the latter is a bit arrogant."

i think hes saying that the person was put off meeting him as they felt the women in his pics were far better than them so felt he wouldnt like them

i dont find it wierd cause i do it too lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i do it all the time

If someone mails me and their past meets are good looking and slimmer than me i wont meet them

And yeah before anyone says it i dont meet many people lol"

For real? I never compare myself to previous. Can't think of any reason to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Erm... I'd like to go on record as saying I don't know what you mean. Are you saying this person thought they weren't good enough for you, or that you weren't good enough for them? The former is just odd, the latter is a bit arrogant."

It's clear to me what he is saying. This person told him they thought they weren't in the same league as his past meets and he finds that to be a shame. He isn't being arrogant, he doesn't think he is too good for the person, their insecurities stopped them from meeting him. Hope that clarifies

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Erm... I'd like to go on record as saying I don't know what you mean. Are you saying this person thought they weren't good enough for you, or that you weren't good enough for them? The former is just odd, the latter is a bit arrogant."

out of MY league(it took me a while to realize they meant it against themselves)

just realized this looks like a lookatme post lol

however, my way of thinking is, if I felt put off by who others meet(in an envious manner), I probably wouldnt be here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to say, I do the same thing If previous meets are slim and fit, I'd feel pretty much under par

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Erm... I'd like to go on record as saying I don't know what you mean. Are you saying this person thought they weren't good enough for you, or that you weren't good enough for them? The former is just odd, the latter is a bit arrogant.

It's clear to me what he is saying. This person told him they thought they weren't in the same league as his past meets and he finds that to be a shame. He isn't being arrogant, he doesn't think he is too good for the person, their insecurities stopped them from meeting him. Hope that clarifies "

thanks minger xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it as well sometimes, I look at veris and if they younger slimmer or older slimmer and look really good then I shy well away. Sometimes even seeing pics of really sexy undies would have me running for the hills

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Erm... I'd like to go on record as saying I don't know what you mean. Are you saying this person thought they weren't good enough for you, or that you weren't good enough for them? The former is just odd, the latter is a bit arrogant.

i think hes saying that the person was put off meeting him as they felt the women in his pics were far better than them so felt he wouldnt like them

i dont find it wierd cause i do it too lol"

I am the same I look at who they have been with and if there slim and pritty I just mesage saying I don't think I am your type x I don't want some one to drive down to me and be disappointed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have to say, I do the same thing If previous meets are slim and fit, I'd feel pretty much under par "

I see guys, muscly types...handsome types etc etc..I just wouldnt see them as a barrier to me trying to get a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Erm... I'd like to go on record as saying I don't know what you mean. Are you saying this person thought they weren't good enough for you, or that you weren't good enough for them? The former is just odd, the latter is a bit arrogant.

It's clear to me what he is saying. This person told him they thought they weren't in the same league as his past meets and he finds that to be a shame. He isn't being arrogant, he doesn't think he is too good for the person, their insecurities stopped them from meeting him. Hope that clarifies "

Apologies, I wasn't calling the OP arrogant - I knew he wasn't claiming to be out of anyone's league. It's that behaviour I feel is arrogant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hands up from me too,

If all the previous veri's are super hot blonde chicks, then all of a sudden there is a gap in veri's and they are contacting me; I will decline

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to say, I do the same thing If previous meets are slim and fit, I'd feel pretty much under par "

ive turned down many guys because i feel im not good enough fot them and if i look at their verifications and the other women they have met have been good looking women that just confirms it for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinking about this now, I generally don't even consider messaging women who describe themselves as 'slim'. Not because I think they're out of my league though - I just don't believe we'd be interested in or attracted to each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to say, I do the same thing If previous meets are slim and fit, I'd feel pretty much under par

ive turned down many guys because i feel im not good enough fot them and if i look at their verifications and the other women they have met have been good looking women that just confirms it for me "

Must be some pretty smoking fellas on here then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to say, I do the same thing If previous meets are slim and fit, I'd feel pretty much under par "

how do you know that all that persons previous meets are listed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually i best watch what im saying cause if anyone ive met reads this they may think i only met them cause they're a minger lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thats someone elses insecurities u cant really control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to say, I do the same thing If previous meets are slim and fit, I'd feel pretty much under par

how do you know that all that persons previous meets are listed?

"

you dont but you can usually tell someones type by the ones who are on

For instance a guy messaged me once and he had several verifications all from women aged between 18 to 23, and if im going to be honest yes it did put me off reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to say, I do the same thing If previous meets are slim and fit, I'd feel pretty much under par

how do you know that all that persons previous meets are listed?

"

Then they're onbviouy thinking of putting the best looking meets up or maybe they're embarrassed by the not do hot meets !!!! Personally I only feel inadequate if I've chatted to the guy on pof and he hasn't shown interest yet suddenly if he thinks because we're both on here he's going to get laid he can take a running jump !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually i best watch what im saying cause if anyone ive met reads this they may think i only met them cause they're a minger lmao "

No it just means they sleep with some mingers lol

( runs of to check I have not verified someone befor you slept with them lol )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like confident people with no hang ups. Life's too short and complicated already to be worried about whether you match up to others and a person can't pick and choose who he/she meets in case a future meet will feel insecure about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to say, I do the same thing If previous meets are slim and fit, I'd feel pretty much under par

how do you know that all that persons previous meets are listed?

Then they're onbviouy thinking of putting the best looking meets up or maybe they're embarrassed by the not do hot meets !!!! Personally I only feel inadequate if I've chatted to the guy on pof and he hasn't shown interest yet suddenly if he thinks because we're both on here he's going to get laid he can take a running jump !!! "

That has happend to me SO MENY time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

or that the other people didn't provide a verification perhaps?

you should never allow yourself to feel inadequate, not a good feeling at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

so the fear is of rejection?

life is far too short to keep that fear,

I was a late starter in sex/relationships (20), was never confident sexually, and always thought, well 'they could do better than me'-so I wouldnt approach

I'm still not great at approaching in the 'real' world- howevers its improved..but online wise(forgive me if this sounds weird), Ive felt more confident when being sexually expressive...

So I approach a multitude of types of people, that I'd think of having fun with...as long as I am attracted to them(sometimes this can just be the hornyness factor of how I find them).Hang-ups actually turn me off I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" and a person can't pick and choose who he/she meets in case a future meet will feel insecure about it."

noones asked them too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Erm... I'd like to go on record as saying I don't know what you mean. Are you saying this person thought they weren't good enough for you, or that you weren't good enough for them? The former is just odd, the latter is a bit arrogant.

It's clear to me what he is saying. This person told him they thought they weren't in the same league as his past meets and he finds that to be a shame. He isn't being arrogant, he doesn't think he is too good for the person, their insecurities stopped them from meeting him. Hope that clarifies

thanks minger xxxx"

No worries ya arrogant fuck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like confident people with no hang ups. Life's too short and complicated already to be worried about whether you match up to others and a person can't pick and choose who he/she meets in case a future meet will feel insecure about it."

shorter than my rant lol...all agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do the same, check out someone and think no way would they like me; its one of the reasons I don't like meeting someone that lives miles away and also why I am quite strict on my age preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like confident people with no hang ups. Life's too short and complicated already to be worried about whether you match up to others and a person can't pick and choose who he/she meets in case a future meet will feel insecure about it.

shorter than my rant lol...all agreed"

why rant?

what difference does it make to you if people have hangs up or not?

dont mean that rude i just dont see why you feel the need to rant about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very few people have no hang-up . But if you truly don't then well dun to you . I how every will stick to checking out verif to see if I might feel like I would disappoint xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very few people have no hang-up . But if you truly don't then well dun to you . I how every will stick to checking out verif to see if I might feel like I would disappoint xx "

Me too, it works for me, ive never had a guy i have met turn me down after meeting and i feel thats because i only meet guys who i feel will like me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like confident people with no hang ups. Life's too short and complicated already to be worried about whether you match up to others and a person can't pick and choose who he/she meets in case a future meet will feel insecure about it.

shorter than my rant lol...all agreed

why rant?

what difference does it make to you if people have hangs up or not?

dont mean that rude i just dont see why you feel the need to rant about it "

the rant was in relation to one part I'd posted that wishy said just much shorter lol..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like confident people with no hang ups. Life's too short and complicated already to be worried about whether you match up to others and a person can't pick and choose who he/she meets in case a future meet will feel insecure about it.

shorter than my rant lol...all agreed

why rant?

what difference does it make to you if people have hangs up or not?

dont mean that rude i just dont see why you feel the need to rant about it

the rant was in relation to one part I'd posted that wishy said just much shorter lol.."

ok, let you off then

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Very few people have no hang-up . But if you truly don't then well dun to you . I how every will stick to checking out verif to see if I might feel like I would disappoint xx "

I have hang-ups lol...everyone does really, unless they are completely self-obsessed.

however I wouldnt let a hangup ruin some possible fun.

If u end up being a disappointment in some way...so be it

I rarely project myself to what a meet will be like..everything mainly happens On the meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very few people have no hang-up . But if you truly don't then well dun to you . I how every will stick to checking out verif to see if I might feel like I would disappoint xx

I have hang-ups lol...everyone does really, unless they are completely self-obsessed.

however I wouldnt let a hangup ruin some possible fun.

If u end up being a disappointment in some way...so be it

I rarely project myself to what a meet will be like..everything mainly happens On the meet"

your probably right, ive chatted to and played with some really good looking guys in clubs and had a great time, yet if they had mailed me on here and send me a pic i wouldnt have replyed or met them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is interesting, because I know how the person who contacted the OP feels.

I look at the fabulous array of men on offer here - tight buns, abs, 6 packs, slim, and genitals resembling a tin of vim with a rams heart welded to the end.

...and then I look at myself, and I see the disparity and I realise that its easier not to mail anyone than simply suffer the rejection / silence which, through my own insecurities, I believe will come with that.

'Trying', as Homer Simpsons says, 'is the first step on the road to failure' when coupled with my own sense of self-image.

So you see, for all the B/S and Bravado you may get from me in other forum topics, and the advice I give to others, that's the real reason as to why I haven't met in over a year. Because I don't feel I'm 'meet material'. Not yet, anyway.

So there you go, have a bit of honest self aware rambling from me.

Oh and before any of you cynical lot go - hes after a sympathy shag or a bunch of 'there,there's' - please do realise that's the furthest thing from my mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is interesting, because I know how the person who contacted the OP feels.

I look at the fabulous array of men on offer here - tight buns, abs, 6 packs, slim, and genitals resembling a tin of vim with a rams heart welded to the end.

...and then I look at myself, and I see the disparity and I realise that its easier not to mail anyone than simply suffer the rejection / silence which, through my own insecurities, I believe will come with that.

'Trying', as Homer Simpsons says, 'is the first step on the road to failure' when coupled with my own sense of self-image.

So you see, for all the B/S and Bravado you may get from me in other forum topics, and the advice I give to others, that's the real reason as to why I haven't met in over a year. Because I don't feel I'm 'meet material'. Not yet, anyway.

So there you go, have a bit of honest self aware rambling from me.

Oh and before any of you cynical lot go - hes after a sympathy shag or a bunch of 'there,there's' - please do realise that's the furthest thing from my mind. "

Your profile is brilliant.

That is all.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

We dont shag "looks" we shag "personality"...

You could be the hottest looking couple on the planet, and be bang up for it with us, but if we don't hit it off, it aint going to happen.

Whilst both of us are aware that we are pretty average as far as looks go, it has never stopped us approaching people that others might consider as being a lot better looking, so long as we think we might end up being friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it all the time! If previous girls are better looking/nicer figure, I don't even respond Lol

Must be a girl thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so far out of most peoples leagues I'm in a leap year league.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The mo people post in here the mo I am working out its a girl thing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U can judge some1 buy there meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The mo people post in here the mo I am working out its a girl thing lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm so far out of most peoples leagues I'm in a leap year league."

I heard u were 20,000 leagues under the sea...fishman!

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By *acdoodleMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I like confident people with no hang ups. Life's too short and complicated already to be worried about whether you match up to others and a person can't pick and choose who he/she meets in case a future meet will feel insecure about it."

You said it all right there. Perfectly put. Get out if my head x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesnt bother me anymore because i have met good looking men and men who have met better looking women than me and we have got on just fine.

Now i am more interested in how nice they are, and if i think we will get on ok.

I think they can tell what i look like by looking at my pics, so its up to them.

Take it or leave it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you ladies ever pass this information on to the message sender?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm so far out of most peoples leagues I'm in a leap year league.

I heard u were 20,000 leagues under the sea...fishman! "

Fishman? Whut?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm so far out of most peoples leagues I'm in a leap year league.

I heard u were 20,000 leagues under the sea...fishman!

Fishman? Whut? "

I think he means 'Aquaman' but was too embarassed to admit he's geeky enough to read comics!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I don't think that way of thinking is unusual at all

Everyone wants to feel comfortable around who they're playing with,if they can't feel like that because they're worried that they don't match up to previous meets then they're not really going to relax enough to enjoy themselves at all,which is a shame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm so far out of most peoples leagues I'm in a leap year league.

I heard u were 20,000 leagues under the sea...fishman!

Fishman? Whut?

I think he means 'Aquaman' but was too embarassed to admit he's geeky enough to read comics!"

Aquaman? Fuckin AQUAMAN? He sucks! I'm a geek and proud. Nothing to be embarrassed about

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm so far out of most peoples leagues I'm in a leap year league.

I heard u were 20,000 leagues under the sea...fishman!

Fishman? Whut?

I think he means 'Aquaman' but was too embarassed to admit he's geeky enough to read comics!"

lol no I meant fishman..but hey it was just a joke lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm so far out of most peoples leagues I'm in a leap year league.

I heard u were 20,000 leagues under the sea...fishman!

Fishman? Whut?

I think he means 'Aquaman' but was too embarassed to admit he's geeky enough to read comics!

Aquaman? Fuckin AQUAMAN? He sucks! I'm a geek and proud. Nothing to be embarrassed about "

How about he thinks you're Patrick Duffy then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think that way of thinking is unusual at all

Everyone wants to feel comfortable around who they're playing with,if they can't feel like that because they're worried that they don't match up to previous meets then they're not really going to relax enough to enjoy themselves at all,which is a shame"

time for u to stop meeting muscly hot guys..i wont shag u if u keep it going!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago


"I don't think that way of thinking is unusual at all

Everyone wants to feel comfortable around who they're playing with,if they can't feel like that because they're worried that they don't match up to previous meets then they're not really going to relax enough to enjoy themselves at all,which is a shame

time for u to stop meeting muscly hot guys..i wont shag u if u keep it going!!!!!!"

...............NO!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok i totally get this, i feel that way sometimes when i look at pics. Rather that trying to explain myself ide using just say that im not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like confident people with no hang ups. Life's too short and complicated already to be worried about whether you match up to others and a person can't pick and choose who he/she meets in case a future meet will feel insecure about it."

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By *orkscrew CurlsWoman
over a year ago

Loughborough Leics

In my early days on fab I once saw a pic on a profile with 2 amazing hot bodied ladies and thought no way I can follow that. Now with the help of google image search I know it was a fake.

Nowadays I'm happy to meet gorgeous men! It works in my favour that other women don't have the confidence to!

I do know sometimes though men have been intimidated by the profiles of some of my verifications, so it works both ways, and could have meant I haven't met some gems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm so far out of most peoples leagues I'm in a leap year league.

I heard u were 20,000 leagues under the sea...fishman!

Fishman? Whut?

I think he means 'Aquaman' but was too embarassed to admit he's geeky enough to read comics!

Aquaman? Fuckin AQUAMAN? He sucks! I'm a geek and proud. Nothing to be embarrassed about

How about he thinks you're Patrick Duffy then?"

Erm, who?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We dont shag "looks" we shag "personality"...

You could be the hottest looking couple on the planet, and be bang up for it with us, but if we don't hit it off, it aint going to happen.

Whilst both of us are aware that we are pretty average as far as looks go, it has never stopped us approaching people that others might consider as being a lot better looking, so long as we think we might end up being friends.

"

I agree totally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see it as we are not all the same type/size/age/blonde/brunette/red head and isn't swinging supposed to be meeting allsorts of different people ? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see it as we are not all the same type/size/age/blonde/brunette/red head and isn't swinging supposed to be meeting allsorts of different people ? X "

Good point.

Slice of each please!

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

I admit I do look at their veri's too. And if its a hot man/couple/woman, I think they've just sent a load of cut n paste messages.

But if its a message tailored to my profile on occasions and I've looked at their veri's I do wonder ocassionally as to why they mailed me. Was told by a wise gorgeous friend on here to get over myself and people will want to meet me for being me. And that mindset does work 9 times out of 10, and then the old mindset sneaks back in.

Same happened yesterday but then I thought fuck it. If I have a good time and they do then so be it.

Need to try and have more confidence in myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its also about having the personal 'nerve' to approach someone. Some people for what ever reason lack the experience, and skills to approach another, and being aware of this will sometime think twice before mailing someone as the thought of rejection fills them with dread. So retrospectively should they be in this environment at all? More questions than answers I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I admit I do look at their veri's too. And if its a hot man/couple/woman, I think they've just sent a load of cut n paste messages.

But if its a message tailored to my profile on occasions and I've looked at their veri's I do wonder ocassionally as to why they mailed me. Was told by a wise gorgeous friend on here to get over myself and people will want to meet me for being me. And that mindset does work 9 times out of 10, and then the old mindset sneaks back in.

Same happened yesterday but then I thought fuck it. If I have a good time and they do then so be it.

Need to try and have more confidence in myself."

Your friend is right. Your profile shows a glimpse of a likeable personality and a sneak preview of a nice figure. Every reason for people to be drawn to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To spin it on it's head, did you ever think they didn't want to meet you and just let you down gently...

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc


"Its also about having the personal 'nerve' to approach someone. Some people for what ever reason lack the experience, and skills to approach another, and being aware of this will sometime think twice before mailing someone as the thought of rejection fills them with dread. So retrospectively should they be in this environment at all? More questions than answers I'm afraid. "

Im not as much scared of rejection its just the confidence thing for me. Maybe I shouldnt be in this environment, but it has improved my confidence to an extent, the rest I have to work on myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing with me is I ooze confidence always have done on the outside inside I e always had issues or at least that was up until just over four years ago when I fell in love with an amazing person me!!!! I learned to love myself fuck anybody else I'm me I like who I am and I'm damn sure I ain't going to change got no one I buy sexy undies because I want to I fuck when I want I do what I want I treat everyone how I wish to be tested and try not up take it too personally when others don't act how I act at the end of the day were all different and see when my stunning friends see some of the guys I've dated been out on nights out with and met some of my past fuck buddies they've all been like how the fuck did you manage to pull him !!! Personality !

I've met guys who I've fancied the pants off then I've met them and instant turn off gorjus on the outside ugly on the inside

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thing with me is I ooze confidence always have done on the outside inside I e always had issues or at least that was up until just over four years ago when I fell in love with an amazing person me!!!! I learned to love myself fuck anybody else I'm me I like who I am and I'm damn sure I ain't going to change got no one I buy sexy undies because I want to I fuck when I want I do what I want I treat everyone how I wish to be tested and try not up take it too personally when others don't act how I act at the end of the day were all different and see when my stunning friends see some of the guys I've dated been out on nights out with and met some of my past fuck buddies they've all been like how the fuck did you manage to pull him !!! Personality !

I've met guys who I've fancied the pants off then I've met them and instant turn off gorjus on the outside ugly on the inside "

thank fuck I'm inside-out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually i best watch what im saying cause if anyone ive met reads this they may think i only met them cause they're a minger lmao "

Hey yeah, you better not have met anyone after me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thing with me is I ooze confidence always have done on the outside inside I e always had issues or at least that was up until just over four years ago when I fell in love with an amazing person me!!!! I learned to love myself fuck anybody else I'm me I like who I am and I'm damn sure I ain't going to change got no one I buy sexy undies because I want to I fuck when I want I do what I want I treat everyone how I wish to be tested and try not up take it too personally when others don't act how I act at the end of the day were all different and see when my stunning friends see some of the guys I've dated been out on nights out with and met some of my past fuck buddies they've all been like how the fuck did you manage to pull him !!! Personality !

I've met guys who I've fancied the pants off then I've met them and instant turn off gorjus on the outside ugly on the inside

thank fuck I'm inside-out "

Awwww hugs xxx beautiful flowers start off hidden before they bloom with the right nurturing feed them right treat them well and they burst from their buds in array of colour and beauty

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thing with me is I ooze confidence always have done on the outside inside I e always had issues or at least that was up until just over four years ago when I fell in love with an amazing person me!!!! I learned to love myself fuck anybody else I'm me I like who I am and I'm damn sure I ain't going to change got no one I buy sexy undies because I want to I fuck when I want I do what I want I treat everyone how I wish to be tested and try not up take it too personally when others don't act how I act at the end of the day were all different and see when my stunning friends see some of the guys I've dated been out on nights out with and met some of my past fuck buddies they've all been like how the fuck did you manage to pull him !!! Personality !

I've met guys who I've fancied the pants off then I've met them and instant turn off gorjus on the outside ugly on the inside

thank fuck I'm inside-out

Awwww hugs xxx beautiful flowers start off hidden before they bloom with the right nurturing feed them right treat them well and they burst from their buds in array of colour and beauty "

I read that as: fanny gush makes him cum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see it has we are a long time dead so enjoy what we have and go for what you want

Never mind if previous meets have been slimmer/younger or popular and bautiful. If you click and decide its what you both want. Go for it and if that means you send the first message so be it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Note to self... Don't talk to someone and type at the same time. Who said us women could multitask

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Note to self... Don't talk to someone and type at the same time. Who said us women could multitask "

not shagging such a poor speller

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over a year ago


"Note to self... Don't talk to someone and type at the same time. Who said us women could multitask

not shagging such a poor speller "

Ha ha I'm tired too ! Lots better in a morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see it has we are a long time dead so enjoy what we have and go for what you want

Never mind if previous meets have been slimmer/younger or popular and bautiful. If you click and decide its what you both want. Go for it and if that means you send the first message so be it! "

Good shout!

As far as I'm concerned there are no leagues on here! No premiership prima donnas, no league two has beens and no Sunday league amateurs - just individuals! (And couples of course! Lol)

If people are worried about not being good enough for others, or that they're in some way superior - then I'd advise taking a step back - looking at themselves and realising that it'll always be a healthy mix of personality, looks and character than is successful in attracting others rather than one particular trait! And if you don't ask - at the end of the day you'll never know if you're what someone else is looking for!

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over a year ago

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"I was out of someones league a few days ago, it turned out that they meant they were out of MY league

it was based mainly on my recent pictures, I was pretty gutted that someone would feel put off thinking they wouldnt be 'good enough' compared to those pictured

While there is always an ideal 'type' for lots of people..I just couldnt really think of discounting having fun with someone by comparing them to past meets"

did ye shag them.

to me,that just sounds like a we bit of foreplay,before a damn good shagging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i do it all the time

If someone mails me and their past meets are good looking and slimmer than me i wont meet them

And yeah before anyone says it i dont meet many people lol"

I'm exactly the same,I'd be to paranoid

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was out of someones league a few days ago, it turned out that they meant they were out of MY league

it was based mainly on my recent pictures, I was pretty gutted that someone would feel put off thinking they wouldnt be 'good enough' compared to those pictured

While there is always an ideal 'type' for lots of people..I just couldnt really think of discounting having fun with someone by comparing them to past meets

did ye shag them.

to me,that just sounds like a we bit of foreplay,before a damn good shagging. "

never really got more conversation going lol...but who knows lol..my point was I wouldnt have contacted if i wasnt interested lol

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"I was out of someones league a few days ago, it turned out that they meant they were out of MY league

it was based mainly on my recent pictures, I was pretty gutted that someone would feel put off thinking they wouldnt be 'good enough' compared to those pictured

While there is always an ideal 'type' for lots of people..I just couldnt really think of discounting having fun with someone by comparing them to past meets

did ye shag them.

to me,that just sounds like a we bit of foreplay,before a damn good shagging.

never really got more conversation going lol...but who knows lol..my point was I wouldnt have contacted if i wasnt interested lol"

her dampness will draw her back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a world of a difference between confidence and acting confident. One is real the other is an act and often easily exposed as such. Plus this is fantasy world. Anyone can be any old thing if they want to be.

I see people who are anything but confident act out that they are. I know this for a fact. Call it experience. I just laugh at it because it smacks of the Shakesperean saying 'doth protest too much' when people make noise about confidence.

As far as meets are concerned. We each have the right to fuck who we want. Some have different views on how that should run. I personally don't like to fuck those that fuck anything with a pulse. Nor those that I know have gone with dubious shaggers. We all know the types.

Just how I am. Others are completely the opposite. I guess I take more of the real into here than others do in the sense that I have no problems with socializing outwith fabworld and I am well aware of the need to protect myself sexually. In fact I did more fucking before I came to be fab if the truth be told. I'm better in the pub. Less hassle.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I don't consider myself to be in or out of any league. I'm pretty confident in my skin as flabby and saggy as it may be to some. If a guy contacts me then he's clearly interested. If I send a face pic, which I do early on, it is to be clear and honest so he can see if I'm his type, or not, as the case may be.

Just doesn't occur to me to think who is or is not in my league.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't consider myself to be in or out of any league. I'm pretty confident in my skin as flabby and saggy as it may be to some. If a guy contacts me then he's clearly interested. If I send a face pic, which I do early on, it is to be clear and honest so he can see if I'm his type, or not, as the case may be.

Just doesn't occur to me to think who is or is not in my league."

Me neither! And I don't feel the need to analyse how other people choose to fuck either. I don't understand why people just don't use the site their way and stop worrying about what everyone else is doing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a blokes(hopefully not only mine) point of view It makes no difference and for me personally never has, I don't feel out of anybody's league.

But women are a very different breed and I have met ladies who do feel that they arnt as attractive or slim etc etc, and then there are those ladies which are totally the opposite!

I have only been on this site 3wks but I have been in the scene a few yrs, I have also had a cpl of meets of here! and I would never show pics or verification's as I feel it is or can be off putting for others!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a world of a difference between confidence and acting confident. One is real the other is an act and often easily exposed as such. Plus this is fantasy world. Anyone can be any old thing if they want to be.

I see people who are anything but confident act out that they are. I know this for a fact. Call it experience. I just laugh at it because it smacks of the Shakesperean saying 'doth protest too much' when people make noise about confidence.

As far as meets are concerned. We each have the right to fuck who we want. Some have different views on how that should run. I personally don't like to fuck those that fuck anything with a pulse. Nor those that I know have gone with dubious shaggers. We all know the types.

Just how I am. Others are completely the opposite. I guess I take more of the real into here than others do in the sense that I have no problems with socializing outwith fabworld and I am well aware of the need to protect myself sexually. In fact I did more fucking before I came to be fab if the truth be told. I'm better in the pub. Less hassle.

"

So very true and I think there are perhaps varying degrees of confidence too; I am a whole lot more confident than I was 4 years ago but not yet on top of the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not a confidence thing for me.

As I said if 'he' has met with lots of leggy blondes in the past and then there is a gap in veri's; I assume he is in a dry spell and just cnp'ing women with a message as any 'hole is a goal'

I'm not a goal

So unless the message was very specifically tailored to me, I would decline

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


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genitals resembling a tin of vim with a rams heart welded to the end. "

This has got to be the best description of a giant knob ever. I love your posts - this sir is pure magic and I salute you!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

In answer to the OP I don't go looking for meets, so anyone that contacts me I assume has read my profile (when visible) and feel they fit within MY league.

Who they have met in the past has no bearing on whether I meet them or not. Blimey there will ALWAYS be someone younger, fitter, prettier than me - what sad person would I be if I define myself by others - might as well head of to Dignitas now.

No, what would prevent me from continuing is the content of their profile. Men contacting me with profiles seeking women that dress to impress in sexy undies, who want to be licked for hours followed by sensual massage are NOT for me. Some even have not into pain and watersports - so they obviously haven't read my profile.

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