FabSwingers.com forum: Wink etiquette

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So what does everybody believe to be the best etiquette when sending winks?

Reading many, many profiles on FAB I have found either people absolutely hate them or it’s always a good starting point.

What’s your personal preference?

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

I like winks, but as you say others se to hate them.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I rarely check winks.

I never send them.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

I like a good wink and send plenty

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I don't hate them. But I also don't look at them.

I figure if someone is only willing to click a single button to show interest they're probably not actually that interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's pretty useless Fab feature for me. I don't use it or check my winks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely look at them.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

If someone keeps looking at me and I notice it, I read their profile, if I like it - I wink.

I think of it as an approximation of eye-contact. I find that's how some women seek to engage in real life.

I appreciate people who are adept at non-verbal communication.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love em

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

Just don't wink in public, ppl don't like men winking in public

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never used to look at my winks but since I've started, I've come across some interesting people.

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By *leasureseekers123Couple
over a year ago

Heathrow

Rarely look at them but when we do we mostly find it’s from people who are so far away from what we’re looking for that we don’t understand why they have bothered. We find that if people are what we are looking for they tend to message rather than wink

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"I never used to look at my winks but since I've started, I've come across some interesting people. "

Wink wink

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By *ack Flash400Man
over a year ago

The Bat Cave

Be nice to get some!

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By *hitney NeilWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in a marmite jar near you.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

The best etiquette to send a wink I’ve found is to press the wink button on a bird you quite like the look of. Hope this help OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never used to look at my winks but since I've started, I've come across some interesting people.

Wink wink

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

They come in handy every once in a while,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only wink when I have read a really great profile, it's my way of saying I enjoyed reading it

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By *isterE ManMan
over a year ago

Taunton

Winks are handy. Give a chance to check them out, without the issue of reading a shit message.

Some people simply find it difficult to introduce themselves. A wink it a starting point.

I have met a handful of people over the years, who really struggle to make initial contact for 1 reason or another. They are otherwise fantastic people!!

But like messages, women probably get a dissproportionate amount, so get why it could be a ball ache!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like them… but I do t receive the number that I guess won’t do on a daily basis to try and grab their attention.

But they grab mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single male, I don’t get winks so it’s a nice surprise to get ones and makes my day tbh. I guess if you get hundreds like some women it’s not that special so I get why a lot don’t like them

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By *J GeminiTV/TS
over a year ago

Northumberland

I will always send a wink if I like the look of a profile and if I'm interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will always send a wink if I like the look of a profile and if I'm interested

Xx"

I do this….but I can appreciate how in effective they can be to the more popular profiles!!

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By *aggonerMan
over a year ago

for a penny

They seem a lazy way to make contact. They put the onus on you to say something witty or endearing.

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By *irty-pairCouple
over a year ago

South Essex

We like a wink (and a fab) but prefer a message and we’re more likely to respond x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (R) tend to do most of Fab participation at the moment. I read profiles, and if it’s mentioned winks are ok, or if nothing has been mentioned about winks, I will wink if we are interested in them. But it’s rare I do send any winks . It’s rare I message to at the moment .

We are very open to receiving winks and do find it breaks the ice a little before a message. We will wink back if interested in talking .

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By *osey WalesMan
over a year ago

Surrey

I send the odd wink to those i think i could click with. If i get one back then message from there

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By *_hot_hornyCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We like the wink system, it's a good way of testing someone's interest before sending a message. It's not lazy it just saves everyone time, we don't want to read 300 messages from guys we're not interested in!

If you wink us, and we like your profile we'll send a message... And we appreciate the same as opposed to just winking back lol

Not sure why people get annoyed with them tbh

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What do you think would be a good replacement?

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Hate them with a passion

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I don’t mind winks at all.

They are a simple way of smiling and saying, I like your profile.

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By *ackandJill1Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

I like a good wink, it gives me the opportunity to check out a new profile, if interested I'll wink back if I'm short of time instead of replying.

It's also my sneaky ass way of gauging if we're interesting to others if I send one first.

Jill

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands

We don't mind winks and simply see them for what they are...an expression of interest.

If we wink back then we do think a message will be forthcoming, but that does not always seem to be the case (which makes us wonder why wink in the first place)!

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By *irwolf20Man
over a year ago

Nuneaton

"What do you think would be a good replacement? "

A Facebook style 'thumbs up' maybe?

Personally don't have an issue with the wink system, I think its a great 'ice breaker' and like the FB thumbs up, is a way of saying 'I like your post' the wink is simply saying 'I like your profile' and they can then choose to make contact or not. No biggie if they don't. But it's better than 100s of unread messages, many of which just say 'hi' or ' i love your profile'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what does everybody believe to be the best etiquette when sending winks?

Reading many, many profiles on FAB I have found either people absolutely hate them or it’s always a good starting point.

What’s your personal preference?"

I like them, some hate them. Regardless of what you do or what you change there will always be those that won't like it

Leave things as they are, it works, if it ain't broke why fix it

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By *armitelovelyMan
over a year ago

hornchurch

I like winks and fabs

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By *wistedsoul35Man
over a year ago

cumbria

I like a wink, giving and receiving. I feel it sparks interest, if I get one and I like the look of the profile I wink back.... Although I do think that may be followed up with a message but doesn't always seem to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer winks, someone likes my profile and sends a wink ...I check out their profile and if I like it I wink back then they send me message simple really ...

Messages are just tedious and I clearly say on my profile not to message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I forget winks exist so rarely check mine. But when I'm interested in someone I tend to wink to see if I get one back. Recently went to wink someone to find they had beaten me to it and winked me already. I should have messaged but winked instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people wink us we wink back or send a message. We wink people to show we’re interested without sending a message as it can be a bit brutal seeing the read messages and not getting a reply.

That being said we don’t get a million messages a day like some people do so I can completely understand why they would miss winks entirely.

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By *eFCUKaLotCouple
over a year ago

somewhere close

"If people wink us we wink back or send a message. We wink people to show we’re interested without sending a message as it can be a bit brutal seeing the read messages and not getting a reply.

That being said we don’t get a million messages a day like some people do so I can completely understand why they would miss winks entirely.

Mr"

I don’t know why you would’ve get more messages, your pictures are amazing

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By *ocktoplaywithMan
over a year ago

Derby

I like to receive them, and think they are a good icebreaker, but I hardly ever send one first as I know that they are frowned upon.

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By *rs-Naughty_Mr-CuddlesCouple
over a year ago

Nr coleford

Wink away

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I don't think anyone ever knows what the wink function is actually for.. its just one of those mysteries of the world I suppose.. almost up there with the pyramids in Egypt or pineapples on pizzas

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

There is no etiquette. Hi have people wink at me ,I either wink make or send a message. Either the message gets ignored or they block me.

Sadly I think a lot of people on here are completely screwed up

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By *eFCUKaLotCouple
over a year ago

somewhere close

"There is no etiquette. Hi have people wink at me ,I either wink make or send a message. Either the message gets ignored or they block me.

Sadly I think a lot of people on here are completely screwed up"

I just think people hate one another on here lol.

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By *olbornsubguyMan
over a year ago

london

They’re a good icebreaker. Quite a few straight guys wink my profile which is a useful way for me to know they’re available. I always reply

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By *aggonerMan
over a year ago

for a penny

"What do you think would be a good replacement? "

Messages

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" I just think people hate one another on here lol. "

You would’ve thought it’d be all about love and respect around here

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I use winks, but am also aware that not all use them so I normally send a hello message as well

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By *eardedman7Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

I use winks to show an interest and take it from there if I receive one back x

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

"So what does everybody believe to be the best etiquette when sending winks?

Reading many, many profiles on FAB I have found either people absolutely hate them or it’s always a good starting point.

What’s your personal preference?"

If people wink us we look at the profile and if we see potential for chat we reply ‘thanks for the wink’

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

"We don't mind winks and simply see them for what they are...an expression of interest.

If we wink back then we do think a message will be forthcoming, but that does not always seem to be the case (which makes us wonder why wink in the first place)!

Exactly this

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

I don’t think I’ve ever responded to a wink.

And I’m a boy!!! Obviously I get very few views and even fewer messages, but I still find winks lazy and pointless.

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By *essicagraceWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

Ngl. I send wink as like a... hello. Fancy it? Then hopefully they'll wink back or message me. Might be lazy bit I don't chuck em out and generally only wink people I've chatted to on cams or forums as like a "that flirting was just for the thread"

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I like a little wink it's a good way to break the ice, if I wink and someone winked back I'd message.

We've had some good meets that started with a wink.

Mrs

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By *essicagraceWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

Speaking of which...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I never used to check winks but I do now as it fascinates me who would wink a blank profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use them a fair bit, and can be a sign of interest for those that aren't so extroverted, let's face it typing that first message, trying to think what to put so that it doesn't get rejected etc and trying to sell yourself can be unnerving, I'm mean how many messages do people delete daily because they've ballsed it up

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By *adbod7519Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I love a good wink

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge

Harmless way of letting someone know you find them interesting. Use them sometimes (but not when profiles express a dislike for them) happy enough to receive one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to collect them… it’s like a little game to me.

Peach

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I don’t think I’ve ever responded to a wink.

And I’m a boy!!! Obviously I get very few views and even fewer messages, but I still find winks lazy and pointless."

Oooh. Lazy and pointless! That's basically me!

I winked you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only ever received one wink off hear

Was while ago now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a wink

I consider them an ice breaker and a wee expression of interest

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"I don’t think I’ve ever responded to a wink.

And I’m a boy!!! Obviously I get very few views and even fewer messages, but I still find winks lazy and pointless.

Oooh. Lazy and pointless! That's basically me!

I winked you

Ok, so I’ve now responded to one wink because a sexy smart arse (who shall remain nameless) has winked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We use them a fair bit, and can be a sign of interest for those that aren't so extroverted, let's face it typing that first message, trying to think what to put so that it doesn't get rejected etc and trying to sell yourself can be unnerving, I'm mean how many messages do people delete daily because they've ballsed it up "

The first message is always hard and in my experience sometimes not getting a reply. But onwards and upwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Serial winker here

Shame they get ignored

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

The first message is always hard and in my experience sometimes not getting a reply. But onwards and upwards

Oh that happens to me too.. strangely it always happens when I send a face pic.. hmm.. i might be on to something here lol

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

If I'm looking to meet, I'll message someone If they've winked at me and they look good.

Other times, especially if I have a lot of messages, I completely ignore the winks.

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By *omad_SolMan
over a year ago

Cheshunt

"I only wink when I have read a really great profile, it's my way of saying I enjoyed reading it"

Interesting take, I've received a wink twice from the same person. In my current Fab naivety, I assumed that meant she's interested and messaged her, no reply at all lol. Interesting to see what certain aspects mean to different people, still learning how this site works lol

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By *omad_SolMan
over a year ago

Cheshunt

"There is no etiquette. Hi have people wink at me ,I either wink make or send a message. Either the message gets ignored or they block me.

Sadly I think a lot of people on here are completely screwed up"

Well... that's encouraging haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do check winks and if I like what I see I’ll respond.

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By *in-n-TonicCouple
over a year ago

East mids

We don't really use winks, very rarely send them either. Fella clears them off every few days

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

I rarely look

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By *ataleMan
over a year ago

Durham

I find they’re a good way to ‘test the water’.

If I wink and get nothing back then I assume they’ve looked at my profile and decided I’m probably not for them.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

In my experience, the 'wink' button may as well be a 'please block me' button.

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By *rjamesMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

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By *rjamesMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I like a little wink it's a good way to break the ice, if I wink and someone winked back I'd message.

Agreed. It's a nice way to show you like someone's profile without filling up their inbox, and if you get one back who knows...

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

. (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

Definitely works in a Winkathon thread... then you know who doesn't mind receiving a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't send them, don't check them. Think they are pointless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I Like the wink it's a pre message ice breaker, if I get a wink back I follow up with a message !

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By *ent57Man
over a year ago

... where the streets have no name!

I rarely look - just looked ... no winks for 6 months ... sad!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at them to clear a notification marker more than anything else other than that meh

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I rarely look - just looked ... no winks for 6 months ... sad!

I'll wink if it'll make you feel better.

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By *astandtheCurious2Couple
over a year ago

letchworth

Always love a wink, good way to show initial interest…….can’t send any though, my wink button doesn’t work

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I don’t mind a wink and would wink back if I was interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If people wink us we wink back or send a message. We wink people to show we’re interested without sending a message as it can be a bit brutal seeing the read messages and not getting a reply.

That being said we don’t get a million messages a day like some people do so I can completely understand why they would miss winks entirely.

I don’t know why you would’ve get more messages, your pictures are amazing

Thank you! Maybe we’re just not most people’s cup of tea on here.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I like winks. I don't check them often but sometimes I'll wink back

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By *lltheboostCouple
over a year ago

Shefford

Think they are pretty good way of saying “we like what we see, check us out”

We always check them and see if we want to wink back

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

It's lazy, just send a msg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One can wink all day long!!

Real actions say it all.

People make time and do for what they only need and require! Its about them! Not for you!!

Its way deeper than we really think!!

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By *onnyJohnMan
over a year ago

Doncaster

"So what does everybody believe to be the best etiquette when sending winks?

Reading many, many profiles on FAB I have found either people absolutely hate them or it’s always a good starting point.

What’s your personal preference?"

I don't mind them, i do always yhank yhose who send them, and i do send them myself but a lot of people don't like them so i never expect any sort of acknowledgement.. to me its just exactly what it says, just a wink.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

I like a wink, my etiquette is a bit dodgy though

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"I like a wink, my etiquette is a bit dodgy though

Best not to mention the lack of etiquette in public...

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By *inger_the_NinjaMan
over a year ago

Frome

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By *inger_the_NinjaMan
over a year ago

Frome

"Think they are pretty good way of saying “we like what we see, check us out”

We always check them and see if we want to wink back

Agreed. That's the beauty of them. I know many people get too many messages, sometimes for me sending a wink is like saying "I know you're bombarded by messages, but here's a little wink to test the water, see if you'd be up for getting a message". But I know people don't see that. A wink is like making eye contact in a club, a little smile or something that says "come and chat" - if only it was used that way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's lazy, just send a msg"

(That GIF of Ryan from The Office writing a note)

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