FabSwingers.com forum: Unrequited love

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's all being a bit deep in here today so I thought that I would launch my own thought provoking thread.....

Love and sex are inextricably linked, or are they?

In this environment expectations vary wildly. Are feelings/attractions mostly unrequited? Are frustrations with "time wasters" just a manifestation of rejection?

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

I’ve had unrequited love and, separately, unrequited lust/attraction.

I know the lines can be easily blurred, but I’m usually very good at compartmentalising fab and normal life.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"It's all being a bit deep in here today so I thought that I would launch my own thought provoking thread.....

Love and sex are inextricably linked, or are they?

In this environment expectations vary wildly. Are feelings/attractions mostly unrequited? Are frustrations with "time wasters" just a manifestation of rejection?"

Love and sex are inextricably linked *for some people*. On fab a lot of people need the illusion of love or at least a deeper intimacy than just superficial attraction.

I agree that expectations vary wildly and a lot of aggression and rudeness is born from expectations either not being met or the realisation that they're unrealistic or unreasonable.

Frustrations with genuine time wasters are just that, frustrations. Labelling people who don't meet your expectations as time wasters is just failure to explain what you expect in the first place.

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By *ansexualPandaMan
over a year ago

Near You

I've been the receiver and also the person feeling unrequited love. I don't know if sex and love are always linked. Sometimes, a lot of the time, a fuck is just a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh this is something I'm a bit of an expert on.

Every man I've ever given my heart to has broken it, mostly because I've been the "almost girl" or they've just not felt the same.

That being said I'm a hopeless romantic and I love, love so I've not given up on it and I never will.

When it comes to sex or casual encounters I suppose it's a little different in that I'm very aware of the nature of it and my place,but I can't do emotionless or empty because I like connection too much, for that there needs to be something a bit more.

I'm not and never will be a half hearted kind of girl and for that reason there's always going to be some feelings. I want the lust and the sparks. For it to be amazing I also need feel wanted, desired carerd for and respected, even if it is fleeting and just in that moment. I'd hope I give that back.

Sadly on here lots of people are afraid to open up about more than their horn level so it gets lost and they miss out on it.

Someone actually randomly sent me a message this morning asking if I felt I was missing out because I wasn't in a loving relationship. The truth is I get to have all of the good bits of one and none of the bad, plus I can have that with as many people as I like. I'm far from missing out!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've been the receiver and also the person feeling unrequited love. I don't know if sex and love are always linked. Sometimes, a lot of the time, a fuck is just a fuck."

In this environment a fuck is just a fuck... Or actually is it? Looking at the approach alot of people on Fab and especially in the forum take maybe there is a lot more going on people's heads than "just fucking" ???

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I personally don't think sex and love necessarily go together, I've had love with no sex and sex with no love, here we aren't looking for love!

But finding 3/4 way attraction on here is hard, never mind adding personalities that get along and have a good vibe together.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex without deeper connection can feel like eating McDonalds ... delicious and filthy and fills a hole (or three) but ultimately doesn't nourish the soul like love does.

That said I love a filthy McD's from time to time so absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Fab is not somewhere I come with no expection of finding love.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"It's all being a bit deep in here today so I thought that I would launch my own thought provoking thread.....

Love and sex are inextricably linked, or are they?

In this environment expectations vary wildly. Are feelings/attractions mostly unrequited? Are frustrations with "time wasters" just a manifestation of rejection?"

Frustrations a manifestation of rejection, absolutely they are and the inability to acknowledge that your feeling that way. And the emotional intelligence to regulate said feelings. Hence the acting on that is seen so often on this site, through abusive behavior. "Hurt people Hurt"

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By *ansexualPandaMan
over a year ago

Near You

"I've been the receiver and also the person feeling unrequited love. I don't know if sex and love are always linked. Sometimes, a lot of the time, a fuck is just a fuck.

I guess I can only really go on my own thoughts on the matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love and sex are inextricably linked, or are they?"

Love and sex can exist independently of one another. You can have love without sex, and sex without love. Understanding that is key to surviving fab…

But love and sex can be combined into the most intoxicating cocktail nature has to offer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So maybe it's unrequited lust that I should cite then?

There's a lot of that here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex without deeper connection can feel like eating McDonalds ... delicious and filthy and fills a hole (or three) but ultimately doesn't nourish the soul like love does.

That said I love a filthy McD's from time to time so absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Fab is not somewhere I come with no expection of finding love. "

I live on Macdonald's.

Make of that what you will.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Man messages woman.

She wither doesn't read/doesn't reply/says she isn't interested.

Man brands woman a fake or a time waster.

That's not unrequited love/lust, that's just damaged egos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, they really aren't. Next question?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In "

Are you "In" every thread FFS

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"In

Are you "In" every thread FFS

Follow your fantasia

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"In

Are you "In" every thread FFS

Follow your fantasia

That made me chuckle

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In

Are you "In" every thread FFS

Follow your fantasia

That made me chuckle

Irony

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"In

Are you "In" every thread FFS

Follow your fantasia

That made me chuckle

Irony"

Is that what it was, today's an enlightening day for me

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By *ansexualPandaMan
over a year ago

Near You

"Man messages woman.

She wither doesn't read/doesn't reply/says she isn't interested.

Man brands woman a fake or a time waster.

That's not unrequited love/lust, that's just damaged egos.

Absolutely

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In

Are you "In" every thread FFS

Follow your fantasia

That made me chuckle

Irony

Is that what it was, today's an enlightening day for me

I suppose it could be classed as morony had the irony gone unnoticed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Man messages woman.

She wither doesn't read/doesn't reply/says she isn't interested.

Man brands woman a fake or a time waster.

That's not unrequited love/lust, that's just damaged egos.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"In

Are you "In" every thread FFS

Follow your fantasia

That made me chuckle

Irony

Is that what it was, today's an enlightening day for me

I suppose it could be classed as morony had the irony gone unnoticed

I guess if morony was an actual word, you could have moronic even imbliclicity possibly

but who am I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think love and sex are definitely linked but not mutually exclusive. On here you can meet, have no lasting connection and only get together for the gratification of the moment. Or you can chat, arrange a meet… enjoy the build up and connection and it becomes part of the fire play before a meet.

Good, drinks, live music and dancing before enjoying each other and hopefully enjoying the night together… spooning not compulsory

I much prefer the latter and getting to know someone.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"It's all being a bit deep in here today so I thought that I would launch my own thought provoking thread.....

Love and sex are inextricably linked, or are they?

In this environment expectations vary wildly. Are feelings/attractions mostly unrequited? Are frustrations with "time wasters" just a manifestation of rejection?"
some love a connection, some get carried away with that connection, some won't kiss and don't care what you look like and some just don’t care

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

completely seperate things. You can love someone and not want to have sex with them and you can find someone sexualy attractive and not be in love with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"…. Are frustrations with "time wasters" just a manifestation of rejection?"

Not all of them.

I suppose those with egos who think they’d never get rejected could believe that….

I know the Unrequited love you speak of, and it’s horrible sickly feeling in the pit of your stomach knowing you can’t have their happiest moments with you, mixed with the almost tears of happiness when you think of their smile or a song that you heard them sing, a smell of their perfume a place they enjoyed.

Or did you just want to talk about people complaining about fakes on fab?

I see a lot of depth in people in fab and see and hear a lot of struggles, I don’t see how time wasters are any help in anyone’s journey in life.

If people get themselves attached to anyone who doesn’t return the energy they are given, I feel for those who have been bamboozled with u returned feelings.

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I’ve had unrequited love and, separately, unrequited lust/attraction.

I know the lines can be easily blurred, but I’m usually very good at compartmentalising fab and normal life."

Do you think men are better at compartmentalising than women?

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I’ve had unrequited love and, separately, unrequited lust/attraction.

I know the lines can be easily blurred, but I’m usually very good at compartmentalising fab and normal life.

Do you think men are better at compartmentalising than women?"
yes definitely

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I’ve had unrequited love and, separately, unrequited lust/attraction.

I know the lines can be easily blurred, but I’m usually very good at compartmentalising fab and normal life.

Do you think men are better at compartmentalising than women?"
women read the rule book and won't divert from it

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Sex requires some degree of intimacy or passion, for me to be interested.

You can fantasise about love as much as lust and sex, doesn't mean anything signigicant until you meet.

I think you have to own timewasting, if you feel you are wasting your time let it go, it's your choice.

Rejection swings and roundabouts isn't it? I just do it respectfully. If they don't - fuck em.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

It's nice, but if she has some blue undies then she'll do.

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

"Sex without deeper connection can feel like eating McDonalds ... delicious and filthy and fills a hole (or three) but ultimately doesn't nourish the soul like love does.

That said I love a filthy McD's from time to time so absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Fab is not somewhere I come with no expection of finding love.

I live on Macdonald's.

Make of that what you will. "

Haha you're doomed my dear...!

I like the MccieD analogy. To me, unrequited love is like driving a car you absolutely adore but it's rental.

Although you can argue rental has no maintenance hassel, but as a petrol head, working on the car is part of the love...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex without deeper connection can feel like eating McDonalds ... delicious and filthy and fills a hole (or three) but ultimately doesn't nourish the soul like love does.

That said I love a filthy McD's from time to time so absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Fab is not somewhere I come with no expection of finding love.

I live on Macdonald's.

Make of that what you will.

Haha you're doomed my dear...!

I like the MccieD analogy. To me, unrequited love is like driving a car you absolutely adore but it's rental.

Although you can argue rental has no maintenance hassel, but as a petrol head, working on the car is part of the love..."

Least I'm doomed with a hash brown!

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

"Least I'm doomed with a hash brown!

Mmmm what about slurping on a creamy milk shake...?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

They're separate things entirely for me.

I have people I love with all my heart, and would never fuck. I have people I thoroughly enjoy fucking that I will never love. And I have people I can do both with

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