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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

So, a *wise* old man told me today that apparently the less interested you are in someone, the more they want you. Apparently the "not that bothered" approach is an aphrodisiac.

Is that true for you? Are you the sort of person to be cool and collected or more of a heart on the sleeve sort of person?

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge

"So, a *wise* old man told me today that apparently the less interested you are in someone, the more they want you. Apparently the "not that bothered" approach is an aphrodisiac.

Is that true for you? Are you the sort of person to be cool and collected or more of a heart on the sleeve sort of person? "

I’m not in the least but interested in you! ( he lied)

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Nice tits on you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Treat em mean keep em keen

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

You got to fight fight fight fight fight for this love

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

Treat 'em mean, keep' em keen has never worked for me. Playing games with people just isn't me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, a *wise* old man told me today that apparently the less interested you are in someone, the more they want you. Apparently the "not that bothered" approach is an aphrodisiac.

Is that true for you? Are you the sort of person to be cool and collected or more of a heart on the sleeve sort of person? "

This is actually very true.

Sure fire way to get a guy liking you, ignore them.

Though have to say works on me aswell.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I do think you can be over eager. I think over the years on here I've played it pretty cool. If their interested their interested I've never gone out of my way to get a man's interest

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

Not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, a *wise* old man told me today that apparently the less interested you are in someone, the more they want you. Apparently the "not that bothered" approach is an aphrodisiac.

Is that true for you? Are you the sort of person to be cool and collected or more of a heart on the sleeve sort of person? "

I'm wear your heart on your sleeve kind of woman.

And it never ends well.

I always say I shall change, but the reality is I couldn't play games even if I wanted to.

I'm just more guarded instead now.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

"So, a *wise* old man told me today that apparently the less interested you are in someone, the more they want you. Apparently the "not that bothered" approach is an aphrodisiac.

Is that true for you? Are you the sort of person to be cool and collected or more of a heart on the sleeve sort of person? "

This doesn’t work for us at all. If we think someone isn’t that bothered, we will just leave them be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You got to fight fight fight fight fight for this love"

Alright Cheryl

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"I do think you can be over eager. I think over the years on here I've played it pretty cool. If their interested their interested I've never gone out of my way to get a man's interest"

Yeah, over eager isn't good. But I'd never pretend not to be interested just to seem more desirable.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Apparently the "not that bothered" approach is an aphrodisiac.

Is that true for you?"

Nope. Not for me.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

If someone isn't interested in me I find it pretty easy to stop wasting their time with my presence. Not because I don't enjoy the chase or whatever, but because if the energy doesn't match then it's just not fun.

I know how much I loathe feeling obliged to spend time with someone who doesn't excite me. I wouldn't want to put that on someone else just for my own benefit.

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m definitely a heart on my sleeve guy, I’m not cool enough to play it cool,

If I like someone I tell them, I’m a realist though and know it doesn’t always work

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By *aui.Man
over a year ago

around here

I haven't got the energy for that. If I like someone I let them know

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I do think you can be over eager. I think over the years on here I've played it pretty cool. If their interested their interested I've never gone out of my way to get a man's interest

Yeah, over eager isn't good. But I'd never pretend not to be interested just to seem more desirable.

J"
I don't pretend to not be interested I just don't go gushing over people. I don't play games but I would say I used to play it cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, a *wise* old man told me today that apparently the less interested you are in someone, the more they want you. Apparently the "not that bothered" approach is an aphrodisiac.

Is that true for you? Are you the sort of person to be cool and collected or more of a heart on the sleeve sort of person?

This is actually very true.

Sure fire way to get a guy liking you, ignore them.

Though have to say works on me aswell. "

It's not a deliberate thing.

Or maybe it is.

I don't show my feelings very well, or at all in fact. I do deliberately keep guys at arm's length.

Also, guys telling me they like me just freaks me out, which is why them acting like they don't attracts me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope massive turn off. Show me you are into me, tell me you are into me, or go be into someone else because I don’t play games.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

It's like a red rag to a bull when they're a stalker...

Nah, I'll tell someone if I like them, then it's up to them what they do about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need to be told that you like me or I’m just going to think that you don’t. I don’t do all that playing hard to get stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, a *wise* old man told me today that apparently the less interested you are in someone, the more they want you. Apparently the "not that bothered" approach is an aphrodisiac.

Is that true for you? Are you the sort of person to be cool and collected or more of a heart on the sleeve sort of person? "

Is this why we have to use the block button after so many deletes?

I usually usually just see if it all flows nicely and naturally and go with it if I'm interested. Or it just doesn't flow and then leave them be. Hough I think I'm pretty obvious when I like someone. Maybe a bit too obvious.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

If someone doesn't seem that interested in me I barely think about them.

Usually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry for the typos I'm a bit wiped out atm.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If someone isn't interested in me I get the hint pretty quickly. I really can't be doing with people who feign disinterest either.

I don't play games if I like someone or if I don't m

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

It's rather tiresome being ignored for a week or two then getting a hi message.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

Sometimes….. but I can’t be arsed with games.

If I like someone they definitely know about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, a *wise* old man told me today that apparently the less interested you are in someone, the more they want you. Apparently the "not that bothered" approach is an aphrodisiac.

Is that true for you? Are you the sort of person to be cool and collected or more of a heart on the sleeve sort of person? "

Heart on sleeve everytime

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"I need to be told that you like me or I’m just going to think that you don’t. I don’t do all that playing hard to get stuff. "

I like you.

(This flirting stuff’s dead easy.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I like someone then he will know,I've always worn my heart on my sleeve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need to be told that you like me or I’m just going to think that you don’t. I don’t do all that playing hard to get stuff. "

This

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"So, a *wise* old man told me today that apparently the less interested you are in someone, the more they want you. Apparently the "not that bothered" approach is an aphrodisiac.

Is that true for you? Are you the sort of person to be cool and collected or more of a heart on the sleeve sort of person? "

Something tells me he's not actually that wise.

A cynic would say that any guy who thinks that way assumes has a really good get out of jail free card up his sleeve when he gets told to fuck off and leave someone alone.

"Oh sorry, I only kept pestering you cos you were playing hard to get!"

It's also a real ego saver when someone gets ignored constantly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need to be told that you like me or I’m just going to think that you don’t. I don’t do all that playing hard to get stuff.

I like you.

(This flirting stuff’s dead easy.)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 100% a 'heart on my sleeve' person. If I like someone, I'll tell them. If someone is interested in me, I expect them to tell me. I can't be arsed with mind games

Mrs

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"So, a *wise* old man told me today that apparently the less interested you are in someone, the more they want you. Apparently the "not that bothered" approach is an aphrodisiac.

Is that true for you? Are you the sort of person to be cool and collected or more of a heart on the sleeve sort of person? "

No anytime does anything other than be authentic to get my interest, I switch off.

Maybe it works but the people it works on won't be for me.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Lord, no. I don't get it. If you're interested, say so. If not, move on!

Mrs TMN x

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

Well, my profile tagline literally say I'm not meeting. How many guys do you think regularly message me to ask if I'm meeting yet?

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Well, my profile tagline literally say I'm not meeting. How many guys do you think regularly message me to ask if I'm meeting yet?

Is it 7?

It’s 7 isn’t it?

Wait. Is this one of them prehistorical questions?

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By *ycanNightsMan
over a year ago

Workington

Generally I don't like people so if I find you tolerable...I think it's fairly obvious

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

"So, a *wise* old man told me today that apparently the less interested you are in someone, the more they want you. Apparently the "not that bothered" approach is an aphrodisiac.

Is that true for you? Are you the sort of person to be cool and collected or more of a heart on the sleeve sort of person? "

You give me blue balls

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

"So, a *wise* old man told me today that apparently the less interested you are in someone, the more they want you. Apparently the "not that bothered" approach is an aphrodisiac.

Is that true for you? Are you the sort of person to be cool and collected or more of a heart on the sleeve sort of person?

You give me blue balls

That was meant to be more smiley

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I’m not for playing games and my heart is definitely on my sleeve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always surprised when someone is in to me, flattered in fact. So I respond positively. Only have had one girlfriend/lover use the "treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen" approach, and with hindsight I can see she was just liked the hurt it caused.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I'm heart on sleeve. I think if you have good feelings about someone then you should tell them.

It's nice to be told that someone has good feelings about you, after all.

Those feelings should never be given with strings though.

I don't like when people play games. I have enough of a problem believing someone likes me when they show it. If they seem not to then I just assume they don't, and have no interest in trying ro change their mind.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Noooo not for me. If I don't think someone is fussed at all I will completely pull away. I don't have the confidence or the energy to entertain the fact they may be playing hard to get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, a *wise* old man told me today that apparently the less interested you are in someone, the more they want you. Apparently the "not that bothered" approach is an aphrodisiac.

Is that true for you? Are you the sort of person to be cool and collected or more of a heart on the sleeve sort of person? "

I find the more disinterested i am, the more alluring i become

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

'Play it cool, Trig. Play it cool...'

Nah. If I like you, you'll know.

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By *hilledGuyClactonMan
over a year ago

Little clacton

I`m more of a straight to the point person.

If someone shows no interest in me,I usually don`t pay none in them

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I've never been that forward, it's mostly been women that make a move. From then on I either realise, don't realise or think they're just friendly and keep up a chat or forget

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

Is it similar to negging?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If someone feigns lack of interest, or doehave interest in me, then I grow colder. Relationships need honesty as well as investment from each partner.

Any hints of game playing, trying to coercively manipulate someone to possibly become more dependent or something similar, is both desperate and dishonest.

I've had a couple of experiences where someone has been suspect and I've called them out on their behaviour and moved on.

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Effort and interest works both ways.

If you ain't interested or do not put in the effort, neither will I : Goodbye.

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By *amhorniestMan
over a year ago

Surrey

I think it might be true

In the past, women that have liked me the most are the ones I wasn't interested in - and the ones I was interested in... weren't interested in me!

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

I'm not susceptible to the nonchalant 'laissez-faire' approach. It's certainly not an aphrodisiac (or 'dizzy act').

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I don't think I've expressed m6s3lr well on this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm…

Let’s see.

We’re in a club and some guy acts completely disinterested in Dora?

Yeah I can see a bit of a problem here….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I really don't like playing games with people and vice versa.

I like matching energy, if you want me show me if you don't seem fussed I will happily move it along.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I am quite a 'not that bothered' person, but I don't mean anything bad by that or take any pride in hurting anyone's feelings. I think I'm pretty clear with anyone from Fab that I'm not gonna be interested in anything more than super casual hook-ups, yet it has become an issue when they suddenly start wanting more (probably purely because I don't!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

I want to feel wanted and desired. I also want to make them feel that way too.

Now have this in my head https://youtu.be/-qgpewMCVjs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

All that treat them mean keep them keen.

What I load of bollocks.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I fancy EVERYONE on fab.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Nice tits on you."

Mate.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Doesn't work on me.

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By *urve_your_enthusiasmWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

If you don't seem keen with me, I'll just leave you alone as I'd feel like they just want me to leave them alone. When I kike someone, I make sure they know

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

"No.

I want to feel wanted and desired. I also want to make them feel that way too.

Now have this in my head https://youtu.be/-qgpewMCVjs

Before I even opened the link that was the song that popped into my head

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

heart on the sleeve for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No we’d much rather people showed interest tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm alone in how I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate game playing of any sort, if I feel like someone is doing this to me ill shut down. Men think makes you want them more but it just has the opposite effect.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"So, a *wise* old man told me today that apparently the less interested you are in someone, the more they want you. Apparently the "not that bothered" approach is an aphrodisiac.

Is that true for you? Are you the sort of person to be cool and collected or more of a heart on the sleeve sort of person? "

No that is not true for me. I don't find aloof people attractive and if I realised that they were being aloof on purpose , i'd find that manipulative.

I'm direct - not blunt but direct so if that unnerves someone then one of two things will happen; either we will never be or we will warm to each other in time

I'm not into 'tricks' / 'bait'/ traps - they only land fish that should not have been caught.

I'm me and I am open and honest.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Treat em mean keep em keen

I've long detested that cliche. The psychology behind is pretty unnatractive.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"You got to fight fight fight fight fight for this love"

Doubt it Rex, you'd happily give it away ......

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By *it4uMan
over a year ago

Brighton / Eastbourne / SW France

If someone says that they’re not bothered then I just move on, simples

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I think I'm alone in how I am

No, I don't think so. I'll reply to other posts soon but I don't think you're alone in that train of thought. Not from conversations with friends etc.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Treat 'em mean, keep' em keen has never worked for me. Playing games with people just isn't me.

It can be game playing. I think some people naturally are a bit more... guarded. Less prone to saying how they feel etc. But yes, the game playing doesn't really work for me.

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I am very guarded and have steel walls around me.

Don't play games but just very cold and reserved till I get to know someone.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Every one of fab is least interested in me, although I don't care, it ceratainly doesn't make me more ineterested, it simply makes me more attracted to life away from fab.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

If someone is acting like they aren't interested I take it as they aren't so won't bother chasing them. It's the same for me if I'm interested they will know. I don't see the point in playing games and I won't tolerate someone doing it to me either. And I don't see any point in being interested in meeting someone who isn't actually into you that is just setting yourself up for dissappointment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds like game playing to me and feels a bit manipulative.

If I feel someone isn’t interested, then I lose interest too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there’s a difference between game playing and being cautious. For me, if I’m attracted to someone then I’ll show I’m interested, if they reciprocate then great, if it’s a straight ‘nope’ then I take it at face value. But there are always shades of grey. I think text only media make that harder

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By *uicy 2020Woman
over a year ago

London

If someone isnt consistent in their interest in me then i will assume they arent interested and move on. I tend to be pretty obvious if i like someone, but only if its reciprocated. Cant be doing with people who breadcrumb x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Treat 'em mean, keep' em keen has never worked for me. Playing games with people just isn't me.

It can be game playing. I think some people naturally are a bit more... guarded. Less prone to saying how they feel etc. But yes, the game playing doesn't really work for me."

And I think many people are guarded because of bad experiences. I'm not a naturally guarded person, but I'm pretty cautious these days. I explain that, but some still take offence and that's their call.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, my profile tagline literally say I'm not meeting. How many guys do you think regularly message me to ask if I'm meeting yet?

If you untick everything on your Looking For list it takes you off the searches.

Otherwise your profile shows up as Looking....

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"Treat 'em mean, keep' em keen has never worked for me. Playing games with people just isn't me.

It can be game playing. I think some people naturally are a bit more... guarded. Less prone to saying how they feel etc. But yes, the game playing doesn't really work for me.

That's so true. I think because I'm already in a relationship it affects my answers. If I were single I also would be much more guarded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, a *wise* old man told me today that apparently the less interested you are in someone, the more they want you. Apparently the "not that bothered" approach is an aphrodisiac.

Is that true for you? Are you the sort of person to be cool and collected or more of a heart on the sleeve sort of person?

Something tells me he's not actually that wise.

A cynic would say that any guy who thinks that way assumes has a really good get out of jail free card up his sleeve when he gets told to fuck off and leave someone alone.

"Oh sorry, I only kept pestering you cos you were playing hard to get!"

It's also a real ego saver when someone gets ignored constantly.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Treat 'em mean, keep' em keen has never worked for me. Playing games with people just isn't me.

It can be game playing. I think some people naturally are a bit more... guarded. Less prone to saying how they feel etc. But yes, the game playing doesn't really work for me.

That's so true. I think because I'm already in a relationship it affects my answers. If I were single I also would be much more guarded.

I think it's possible to be guarded without appearing disinterested

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By *KloganMan
over a year ago

Ramsbottom

It’s interesting to see so many different and opposing views on this. It sure does make the reading of a bio pretty important and this site a minefield when interacting.

Do you change how you act to suit someone? Or do you stick to your guns, be yourself? I like to think I’d wear my heart on my sleeve but I’m also respectful of how people want to interact. (Sometimes)

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

That would be the quickest way to make sure I walked away and never looked back. I don't even really go on words. Words are too easy to say even when you don't really mean them. Actions matter. Show me you like me, as I'll show you I'm interested.

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

Its simple, if someone is interested, they will keep up the contact with me, if not, I know their attention lies elsewhere.

Whilst I don't expect exclusivity, I do expect inclusion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone says that they’re not bothered then I just move on, simples"

This is it for me, even if show little interest. I’ve spent so much energy chasing something that wasn’t supposed to be, I could have given that energy to myself or my friends.

Someone took my attention for granted, and it drained me. Sadly others are now paying for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't had interest on here forever...people used to message me all the time like I'm sure you do or I know loads do but it never materialised so I think it was a load of shit? Haha

But no, on a forum where we mainly don't know each other I don't think people hide being attracted to people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Treat 'em mean, keep' em keen has never worked for me. Playing games with people just isn't me.

It can be game playing. I think some people naturally are a bit more... guarded. Less prone to saying how they feel etc. But yes, the game playing doesn't really work for me.

That's so true. I think because I'm already in a relationship it affects my answers. If I were single I also would be much more guarded.

Knowing that someone has your back and will protect you makes a big difference. Absolutely.

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock

I don't really do the 'not that bothered' approach, if I like someone I want them to know.

On the flip side of that, if when I feel someone is not that bothered about me, then I would never try and pursue anything with them

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By *eliciousDiva69Woman
over a year ago

Schitts Creek

It’s a truly toxic trait imho - if someone starts playing games or doesn’t show any interest they’ll likely end all chances of me allowing them back in

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I prefer men to be a bit aloof as opposed to too keen.

Too keen gets me running for the hills, as I feel suffocated. I like space.

I have been told in the past that I have a knack of giving off “not bothered” vibes which isn’t my intent, I just like emotionally self sufficient men.

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By *oubletroubleCouple
over a year ago

South West

Not sure men playing hard to get or being aloof on a swingers site really works in their favour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer men to be a bit aloof as opposed to too keen.

Too keen gets me running for the hills, as I feel suffocated. I like space.

I have been told in the past that I have a knack of giving off “not bothered” vibes which isn’t my intent, I just like emotionally self sufficient men.

I've come to realise I am the same. I'm quite wary of "love bombing" approaches as in my experience it dies off quickly.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

If we genuinely like someone we’ll tell them that but we’re not for chasing.

As our profile has stated for a long time, we’ll put as much effort into you as you put into us.

Also, generally you can’t control how others react to your natural aloofness/personality.

It’s a bit like the good looking famous people who’s names get banded around as massively desirable, they can’t control that you find their appearance desirable. They didn’t directly encourage the desire.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I prefer men to be a bit aloof as opposed to too keen.

Too keen gets me running for the hills, as I feel suffocated. I like space.

I have been told in the past that I have a knack of giving off “not bothered” vibes which isn’t my intent, I just like emotionally self sufficient men.

I've come to realise I am the same. I'm quite wary of "love bombing" approaches as in my experience it dies off quickly. "

Why does it have to be one or the other.

Some people are well balanced in their approach to relationships however fleeting.

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By *angerguy7276Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Nope...I'm a defo heart on sleeve. Can't be bothered with 'games'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a little bit "not interested" is what Bad Bitch found refreshing about me when we met. I wasn't playing games, I'd just decided that chasing a new relationship was something I wanted a break from as I had finally come to terms with the horrible breakup of my marriage and realised that I didn't need a relationship to validate myself.

One perfectly placed whisper in her ear of "I love you" as I got in the taxi and drove away after her birthday party was the blue touch paper that lit the explosion that is the most intensely loving relationship I've ever experienced in my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer men to be a bit aloof as opposed to too keen.

Too keen gets me running for the hills, as I feel suffocated. I like space.

I have been told in the past that I have a knack of giving off “not bothered” vibes which isn’t my intent, I just like emotionally self sufficient men.

I've come to realise I am the same. I'm quite wary of "love bombing" approaches as in my experience it dies off quickly.

Why does it have to be one or the other.

Some people are well balanced in their approach to relationships however fleeting."

Well-balanced is good. Not sure it describes a lot of people on the site

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I prefer men to be a bit aloof as opposed to too keen.

Too keen gets me running for the hills, as I feel suffocated. I like space.

I have been told in the past that I have a knack of giving off “not bothered” vibes which isn’t my intent, I just like emotionally self sufficient men.

I've come to realise I am the same. I'm quite wary of "love bombing" approaches as in my experience it dies off quickly.

Why does it have to be one or the other.

Some people are well balanced in their approach to relationships however fleeting.

Well-balanced is good. Not sure it describes a lot of people on the site

I'm bloody sure it doesn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's quite a competitive environment especially for single males so I can sort of get that some would put in efforts that could be viewed as over the top.

My brief attempts at swinging as a single male showed me that I was way too backwards at coming forward and had very little of the other attributes that make for a successful single male - I'm way too engineer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My heart is loudly on my sleeve and gets me in trouble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm generally more heart on my sleeve the more comfortable I am with someone. I only tend to not show as much interest when we first meet as I don't want to seem like some sort of lovesick puppy

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I definitely wear my heart on my sleeve. Having said that, I would be really put off if someone came on way too strong or was too persistent. It’s quite the contradiction…

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