FabSwingers.com forum: Any tips on getting at least a reply

By *ingle respectable guy OP Man
over a year ago

cork

Hey guys single guy here, I’ve sent a lot of messages I’m very polite, say my name how long I’m single can travel or accom and just send face pics. Not pushy or nasty in anyway but never get a reply. I know ladies get 100s of messages but be nice to get a reply every now and then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey guys single guy here, I’ve sent a lot of messages I’m very polite, say my name how long I’m single can travel or accom and just send face pics. Not pushy or nasty in anyway but never get a reply. I know ladies get 100s of messages but be nice to get a reply every now and then

Nope, sorry. You can't change or influence people's free will to reply you or not.

They like you? You don't even need to do anything they'll message you. They don't like you? No amount of messaging or self-advertising will induce them to reply you.

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By *oosier_lookingat76Man
over a year ago

Durham

Don’t get too disheartened OP. Maybe you just aren’t their type, could be as simple as that.

Try commenting on something in their profile to show you have read it and are showing an interest?

Don’t forget, they will also be looking so if they don’t check out your profile or send you a message, maybe look at your profile….pics, content, etc.

Just trying to be helpful and not critical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look at it like this.

Business can send out 10s of thousands of flyers to get a small percentage of a return for their effort as they are hitting uninterested people.

Take from that what you will, but I stopped sending messeges to profiles I do t recognise a long time ago. As I assume they didn’t send a message or wink me as a sign of uninterest. It works for me

Try getting to a social event or club. Meet face to face, you know instantly if you should follow something up.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

You've had at least 4 replies and 4 veries which is more than a lot of people have.

Have you considered that not everyone wants to hear your life story in an introductory message and would prefer a message related to them and their profile?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Things that will improve your chances are:

1. Only contact people if you match what they are looking for.

2. Send a smiley face pic with your message, no body wants a miserable one.

3. Don't send cock pics unless you are asked to.

4. Read their profile and make your message appropriate to the person you message, nobody likes a cut'n'paste message.

5. Be fun & funny if you can.

6. Don't EXPECT a reply. Many people will avoid responding in a negative way, so view "No Reply" as a "No Thanks".

7. Be lucky! Your chances of a reply will vary from person to person and from one minute to the next.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Things that will improve your chances are:

1. Only contact people if you match what they are looking for.

2. Send a smiley face pic with your message, no body wants a miserable one.

3. Don't send cock pics unless you are asked to.

4. Read their profile and make your message appropriate to the person you message, nobody likes a cut'n'paste message.

5. Be fun & funny if you can.

6. Don't EXPECT a reply. Many people will avoid responding in a negative way, so view "No Reply" as a "No Thanks".

7. Be lucky! Your chances of a reply will vary from person to person and from one minute to the next."

Also... have a great profile, most women will look at your profile before they even open your message. If the profile doesn't appeal, they're not reading your message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile, profile, profile.

Whoever you message will always check out your profile before even considering reading what you might have sent them. And as most women and a lot of couples view in

mode, you won't know anything about it.

If they're unimpressed for any reason - be it the lack of information, your pictures or that they just don't think you're right for them they'll usually ignore it or delete it.

So ask yourself if your profile says enough about you, what you're looking for and have to offer.

Do you think it's the best it can possibly be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no magic formula. Shocking I know.

If you're someone's type, they'll reply.

Sometimes.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

You've got 4 veris thats it, dont be greedy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Polite should be a given.

Does your message show any personality, any of ‘you’?. It sounds like a bit of a list.

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By *ack 500Man
over a year ago

stafford

If someone likes you then it doesn’t matter if you just put hey they most likely will respond , but if they don’t like you it doesn’t matter if you try your very best and write a lovely essay they still don’t want you , attraction is the most important thing to most !

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

"Look at it like this.

Business can send out 10s of thousands of flyers to get a small percentage of a return for their effort as they are hitting uninterested people.

Take from that what you will, but I stopped sending messeges to profiles I do t recognise a long time ago. As I assume they didn’t send a message or wink me as a sign of uninterest. It works for me

Try getting to a social event or club. Meet face to face, you know instantly if you should follow something up.

The business point is very good here. A well thought out and targeted email marketing campaign will get around a 15% click through rate (look at your profile) and a 1% conversion rate (reply to you). After that it's down to you.

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By *idnight RamblerMan
over a year ago

Pershore

The best and proven method is to create a second account and reply to yourself. But keep it light and friendly just in case.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Your profile, gallery and messages need to get across that you are somebody worth meeting. That means being able to hold a conversation. It means taking an interest in who you are writing to.

If your messages and profile are some form "I exist and I'm looking for sex" then don't expect a reply. There's nothing in it for whoever you are writing to. You would only have described billions of people on this planet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I agree having a decent profile is important I don’t think it’s the be all and end all. At the end of the day it all comes down to the individual(s). Many won’t appeal to the masses for whatever reason. So no matter how good the ‘shop window’ is adorned if the product on display doesn’t appeal no one will be buying it.

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Be polite,be classy, be funny

Read the profile info

Use forums to get a read on the person,

Then tell them they have a fabulous bum.

60%

Of the time it works every time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Others have given advice already, but I'll add my two pennies worth...

Your profile does not say much about you. I would add some punctuation and also 'hole' is something you fall into, whilst 'whole' is probably the word you were looking for.

Join in the Forums, that way people will get an idea of your personality and if they think they might click with you. Alternatively go to clubs - though that is not my thing.

Personally, I would not make the meeting/responses be the be all and end all of your purpose on Fab.

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By *eckingHornedMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Youll be thinking the same as me. It should be pretty simple. Send a message and get a reply. And if the reply is effectively a no, then you can block (so you don’t bother them again) and move on.

However, that basic concept seems to fail on here. So not only do people come across as rude (and perhaps they’re not or are meaning to reply something meaningful later) BUT you don’t know that. So you either take the decision to block believing they’re not interested, or you leave them and try again at a later date.

But the wheel scenario above perpetuates.

So do you block or try again? And the latter sometimes some get frustrated at, believing that a “no reply” should equal a “not interested”!

It’s tricky. But don’t let it get to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Look at it like this.

Business can send out 10s of thousands of flyers to get a small percentage of a return for their effort as they are hitting uninterested people.

Take from that what you will, but I stopped sending messeges to profiles I do t recognise a long time ago. As I assume they didn’t send a message or wink me as a sign of uninterest. It works for me

Try getting to a social event or club. Meet face to face, you know instantly if you should follow something up.

Targeted is key isn’t it?

You see someone where you know you can be of benefit to, and they are a fit for you. Together (if they see the same that you do) would be a good partnership. Kind of.

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

I get more replies when I’m not expecting one weirdly enough

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By *erence IIMan
over a year ago

Irrelevant

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By *erence IIMan
over a year ago

Irrelevant

My top tip would be to write a message that isn't all about yourself. These either come across as a desperate sales bid or self interested. Both give the impression that all you're interested in is getting your dick wet - which lets face it is probably true.

People want to know (or at least feel) you're interested in them but this needs to be beyond the level of physical attraction. You may think saying "you have nice tits" is a complement but what it actually means is I've noticed your tits, I want them, I'm most likely not too bothered about the person they're attached to - not that I'm saying you would write this, just using it as an example.

Also, if you need to advertise the fact you're respectful you've probably put most people off. This should be a given, you don't bother to advertise you're alive after all - it's assumed you will be. Plus respect is something other people assess. It isn't something you can convince them you show if they don't feel it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them you have their puppy and will only realease it if they reply to you.

This only works if they have a puppy.

And can't find their puppy when they send your email.

Seriously though, I'd challenge if people want replies, or if they want a match. Possibly semantics, but I'm not sure those who send out a load of messages really want to get a load of "nope, not my type" replies in one go.

In which case, I'd suggest you look at your messages and profile and see how much is a) expected in a message and b) generic stuff anyone can write about themselves.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Join in with forum chat and let them message you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Join in with forum chat and let them message you."

This^^

Have a bit of a laugh and joke let them see you and then even the lurkers get a feel for what kind of person you are

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

I would say make sure your profile and your messaging are genuine and you’re not trying to fit in to something you’re not. You will find your people eventually!

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By *unfunfun xMan
over a year ago

LONDON

Yeah look like Ryan Reynolds and have 10 inch penis that may get you one or two messages lol

or make out your soooo rich that could bring out the one or two gold diggers other then that just be yourself never change be yourself and its ok to disagree with a stunning gorgeous woman on here no need to agree on a question to get in good books, its easy to inflate yourself to get messages but lies will get you caught out. Treat this place as fun fab, no one should get angry or upset not getting replies on basically a chatsite. If a woman complained not getting replies on here i be thinking jeeez what you like in real life, I wouldn't want to meet them I would think she's bit unhinged.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I don't reply to many messages at all. I don't even read most of them. And that's not because I get hundreds (I barely get double figures unless I put a new boob picture up), it's not anything to do with the person messaging, not personally.

It's because I'm not looking for anyone to meet, and despite it saying that in my profile, people don't seem to realise it.

I'll sometimes just delete my inbox, sometimes have a quick scan of the messages to see if anything is forum related, and if I'm playing a game that involves messaging I'll look at those messages of course. But that's it.

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

This is why I end my messages telling people that if I’m not for them then I wish them all the best. I prefer to reach out, show my interest, and not hold any expectations. If it happens it happens. A more realistic and relaxed approach

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"Yeah look like Ryan Reynolds and have 10 inch penis that may get you one or two messages lol."

Nah, if you look like Ryan, cock size is unimportant. Or so I've found anyway...

(It's a joke, people - you don't need to message to tell me how little I look like Ryan!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are a single dude, welcome to the lepper colony

Get on the forums, can raise your presence

Go to the clubs

Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself enjoy the forums join in forum games and chat

As the person said in field of dreams

Build it and they will come

Enjoy have fun

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By *leasecumplayCouple
over a year ago

corringham

Couples and single ladies are bombarded with messages from men, the majority just send a message without carefully reading the profile this pisses off the couples, so they just delete the message's with no reply.

If we get a message we always reply if there is a nice face pic included, but if the fella is clearly not what we are looking for, like outside our age range, lives 300 miles away, smokes etc, I just delete it. He can’t be bothered to read our profile so why should I bother.

My tips are…

make sure that your message contains no spelling or text talk. Your profile does have spelling and grammar mistakes.

Make your reply short and to the point, but not abrupt. Just a short scan about you.

Your profile should give all the information that the couple will need, so your message to them doesn’t need to unnecessarily duplicate your profile.

Hope this helps.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

Hes at work wait till he gets home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be polite, respectful and a bit of charm will go a long way .... or at least alot further than this blinder which I received and blocked yesterday

"I am soaking wet, got a bottle of JD and an ounce if you fancy?"

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

Maybe search further afield?

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

Oh another wee ditty, never message a new profile, they won’t have their filters set yet and will no doubt be more inundated with messages than the veterans are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to rely to forum games - its VERY rare I'll reply to an unsolicited mail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to rely to forum games - its VERY rare I'll reply to an unsolicited male "

FIFY.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send a message saying I will smash your back doors in then I send 40 dick pics

If they don't reply in 30 seconds send abusive messages telling them what they have missed out on and before you know it you will be struggling to answer all your reply

Glad I could help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Write a message you’d like to receive them send it to someone and ask them to send it back to test your messages work. Voila. You have received the reply you wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I send a message saying I will smash your back doors in then I send 40 dick pics

If they don't reply in 30 seconds send abusive messages telling them what they have missed out on and before you know it you will be struggling to answer all your reply

Glad I could help "

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

And me good luck Op

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"Join in with forum chat and let them message you."
This, it is what I do as well

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