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Read/Unread reasoning

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By *ohnsnow OP   Man
over a year ago

new.to.me

So I'm wondering why we have this option to make it unread again?

Is it so you can have a system and the ones left unread after reading are kept as interest?

Is it because there's to many weirdos that can't handle rejection by a polite deletion and then go weird?

Or is that of other reasons I suppose the list could be long ????

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm sure it's different for different people - best not to dwell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mark unread, if i want to see what they read and then realise nope, i did not want to read that after all!

Or if i don't have time to reply, i mark it unread, so i can take my time when it is more convenient

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often quickly glance and will mark it unread if I feel I want to reply to the message properly rather than a quick one liner.

Or sometimes I mark it unread if it's been a vile or offensive message. I mark it unread then delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read then mark as unread so it looks like I have lots of messages.

Makes me feel like one of the popular women.

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

I often log in on lunch at work, don't have an immediate appropriate response in my limited time, so mark as unread to reply to later when I'm home.... simples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes we mark it unread if the other hasn't read the message

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

If it's left marked or not after reading hopefully don't receive anymore. Would be easier to just delete but that would be too easy

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I mark messages as unread if I want to reply to them. It reminds me to.

Or sometimes the message is so amazingly bad I'll save it to show to my husband

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over


"If it's left marked or not after reading hopefully don't receive anymore. Would be easier to just delete but that would be too easy "

Realy if they delete the person will now they are not interested. That is of course if they have no intention of replying. Otherwise it does look a bit weird to be honest but either way people can do what they want I suppose and best to move on.

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

I'll mark unread if I haven't got time to answer

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Either so I can come back to it, to answer properly.

Or to delete and then they should get a warning next time they try and send a msg.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I mark it unread so every time I log in I've got a yellow box

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"If it's left marked or not after reading hopefully don't receive anymore. Would be easier to just delete but that would be too easy

Realy if they delete the person will now they are not interested. That is of course if they have no intention of replying. Otherwise it does look a bit weird to be honest but either way people can do what they want I suppose and best to move on. "

But deleting doesn't stop them sending another either even after not getting a reply

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By *omersetsmithyMan
over a year ago

Horfield

I don't have unread messages which are sent to me . I delete if I send and not read after a reasonable time

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over


"If it's left marked or not after reading hopefully don't receive anymore. Would be easier to just delete but that would be too easy

Realy if they delete the person will now they are not interested. That is of course if they have no intention of replying. Otherwise it does look a bit weird to be honest but either way people can do what they want I suppose and best to move on.

But deleting doesn't stop them sending another either even after not getting a reply "

Well in that case there is another useful tool called 'block'

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"If it's left marked or not after reading hopefully don't receive anymore. Would be easier to just delete but that would be too easy

Realy if they delete the person will now they are not interested. That is of course if they have no intention of replying. Otherwise it does look a bit weird to be honest but either way people can do what they want I suppose and best to move on.

But deleting doesn't stop them sending another either even after not getting a reply

Well in that case there is another useful tool called 'block' "

Indeed is and very handy

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

Because you can delete all read, so if you want to keep something, mark it unread before a mass deletion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mark them unread before I delete.

I tend to find that if I read and delete they message asking what was wrong or put me off or they keep trying with different tactics as they know I'll read it.

If I mark as unread that happens a hell of a lot less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only ones I mark unread are to myself. I like to confuse myself and wonder if I’ll Reply one day.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

I never use that feature

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By *ohnsnow OP   Man
over a year ago

new.to.me

Wow thanks for all the vues and reasons folks give me a insight and I like the thought it just putting you into the rainy day section especially when mass deleting

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

As a couple its quite a useful feature because one of us may read it before the other. By marking it as unread we can then leave it for the other half to read before replying. I

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By *ohnsnow OP   Man
over a year ago

new.to.me

Also if people mass delete messages coz there's too many too read

What is a person that does not repeat send in understanding that deletion is a polite No.

Should they carry on trying in case he was just mass deleted

Or just put that in the nope section ?

If they carry on is that just thirsty or interested

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By *ebootCouple
over a year ago

Telford


"As a couple its quite a useful feature because one of us may read it before the other. By marking it as unread we can then leave it for the other half to read before replying. I"

This for us too

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Also if people mass delete messages coz there's too many too read

What is a person that does not repeat send in understanding that deletion is a polite No.

Should they carry on trying in case he was just mass deleted

Or just put that in the nope section ?

If they carry on is that just thirsty or hiinterested"

It's a move on

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

The only ones I mark unread after I've read them are the ones from the Mods, just to antagonise them.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I use the unread function, when I have read a message that I want to rrply to later.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

I just like yellow

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By *ohnsnow OP   Man
over a year ago

new.to.me


"I mark them unread before I delete.

I tend to find that if I read and delete they message asking what was wrong or put me off or they keep trying with different tactics as they know I'll read it.

If I mark as unread that happens a hell of a lot less. "

This is a reason I was thinking to are there a lot of people that pipe up and start being crazy because you delete?

Thanks

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By *ohnsnow OP   Man
over a year ago

new.to.me

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I leave it unread if I want the Mr to look before I reply or I just CBA to reply right now and I'll go back to it later.

Mrs

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Imo messages should be responded but of course that's not possible if people get hundreds or indeed the message is inappropriate and does not warrant a response in first place. If not responded, delete and block. Why would you keep unread if you don't intend to ever respond. It does seem a bit odd to me but of course everyone manages these things the way they want. What though is very rude is when you have a perfectly normal conversation, not necessarily sexual but other stuff, and suddenly don't reply to your message, keep it unread but come and go on the side, post to forums etc. If you changed your mind about anything, just politely say so. After all you both invested your time in that initial conversation. You wouldn't stop talking to someone halfway your conversation in real life and walk away unless something significant made you do so. It's sad that people behave differently just because they can on the internet but there you go. As I said, just my opinion.

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