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"Multiple partners. In whichever dynamic you are In, do any choose to be exclusive to you, or do they all meet other people " Yes I encounter this a lot with women that have no interest in seeing anyone else. Some people need the person and that’s enough for them. And there’s potentially one person that would fully satisfy me and I’d be happy for her to see others but have no interest in others myself. | |||
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"Multiple partners. In whichever dynamic you are In, do any choose to be exclusive to you, or do they all meet other people " Good topic OP I’m not exclusive to anyone, however I prefer meeting the same group of people I’ve meet & built rapport with if then makes sense not 100 random 1 offs | |||
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" My fiancé is monogamous. Emotionally and sexually. I think meeting me, his age. The fact he's lived and experienced so much. " Can 100 % relate to that.in a weird way I’m actually quite excited about the day it happens to me and all the sex with others stops. Time for tennis, photography etc but you gotta have that person that totally completes you | |||
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"Of you see someone exclusive, that's basically a relationship right? " Exactly. That’s why I think it’s different when you speculate in theory but life correct itself. | |||
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"Of you see someone exclusive, that's basically a relationship right? " That's my thoughts. | |||
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"Of you see someone exclusive, that's basically a relationship right? Exactly. That’s why I think it’s different when you speculate in theory but life correct itself. " With mine two of them were married, with the Mrs just wanting someone regular. The third was single who again wanted someone regular - though it did get a bit messy in the end. | |||
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"Of you see someone exclusive, that's basically a relationship right? " I'd say so! | |||
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"To my knowledge none of any of my partners have been exclusive to me ever or currently. If they were or any future ones decided to be that would be completely their choice. Given the nature of this way of life I always expect that anyone will or are seeing others. I love it when they are open enough to tell me, though I have no need for details. Hearing they had a great time too is even better. Again even if it's without graphic detail. Though I do like like if they share things they found they particularly like. " Just need to add that the relationship I was in did become exclusive but I didn't count that as partners in the context of the thread. | |||
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"Of you see someone exclusive, that's basically a relationship right? " Nah not really. That’s the way I’ve usually done it but I don’t see it as a proper relationship. I suppose it is one of sorts. A relationship to me is more full on. Nobody ever meets my family or gets involved in my everyday life. It’s just like a little bubble to step in and out of I guess. It’s always worked fine that way for me because although I’m not a fan of sharing I don’t want a proper relationship either. | |||
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"To my knowledge none of any of my partners have been exclusive to me ever or currently. If they were or any future ones decided to be that would be completely their choice. Given the nature of this way of life I always expect that anyone will or are seeing others. I love it when they are open enough to tell me, though I have no need for details. Hearing they had a great time too is even better. Again even if it's without graphic detail. Though I do like like if they share things they found they particularly like. " I love those conversations, it dissolves any apprehensions too. CompersionJealousy | |||
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"I've already said in the other thread that I've never had multiple partners but when I met someone a few years ago who did, she was of the opinion that I should be exclusive to her while she was free to meet her other partners and anyone else who caught her eye. None of her fbs were exclusive and I had no interest in it either but for some reason my refusal caused serious drama. I understand there are relationships built on different scenarios but surely that requires all parties to be in agreement? One person being particularly possessive or jealous isn't healthy. Otherwise it's going to be a short term arrangement." That's hypergamy for you. I'm not surprised she kicked up drama over your refusal to be exclusive to her whilst she's still going round shagging others. People who demand exclusivity from others should be ready to give the same to them too. Nobody deserves to be an option to someone yet have themselves be made the priority. | |||
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"I've been in exclusive relationships and been content. I can get pretty hooked and it can last. I've had some occasions, where partners have repeatedly stressed that they have chosen to be exclusive to me and said things like 'but you don't have to'. And it's felt a bit like ok, but why do you keep bringing this up?" Insecurity. That's why. They feel that if they preempt things by saying that they are fine with their partners being non exclusive and seeing other people besides themselves, then they still remain in control of the relationship since they did "give permission" so to speak. | |||
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"I've been in exclusive relationships and been content. I can get pretty hooked and it can last. I've had some occasions, where partners have repeatedly stressed that they have chosen to be exclusive to me and said things like 'but you don't have to'. And it's felt a bit like ok, but why do you keep bringing this up? Insecurity. That's why. They feel that if they preempt things by saying that they are fine with their partners being non exclusive and seeing other people besides themselves, then they still remain in control of the relationship since they did "give permission" so to speak. " That's a possibility, I think there are many other explanations. Sometimes people's feelings simply change. | |||
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"Of you see someone exclusive, that's basically a relationship right? " I would argue that the exclusivity isn't necessary for it to be a relationship. I don't expect exclusivity and Its not expected of me. But I'm still very much in a relationship... | |||
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