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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire


"Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always "

lets find out shall we?

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always

lets find out shall we?"

I’ve just realised who you are

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Sorry, I thought it said wellies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Sorry, I thought it said wellies."

I had to check it didn’t!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I'm not here in a pervy capacity at all.

I didn't know until very recently that some men can actually come... on demand. To the point you can almost count them in. Not actually count them down because that'd be weird. But my mind was *blown*.

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"It depends "

On what? I want proper answers and explanations!

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always "

Yes I change my thought process and pretend I'm laying on the beach with sun shining and the sound of waves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends

On what? I want proper answers and explanations! "

Lots different factors

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always "
you stop, easy as that

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire


"Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always

lets find out shall we?

I’ve just realised who you are "

long overdue dont you think?

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I'm not here in a pervy capacity at all.

I didn't know until very recently that some men can actually come... on demand. To the point you can almost count them in. Not actually count them down because that'd be weird. But my mind was *blown*."

What like in a “ok you can cum now” kinda way?

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

For me at least, there’s a point wherein when reached, there is no return so to speak.

By this I imply that I can feel the orgasm coming a few seconds prior and even if I were to immediately desist from whatever act that may be precipitating it, it would still be too late to stop the ejaculatory eruption.

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By *eekibooMan
over a year ago

Northwest


"It depends

On what? I want proper answers and explanations! "
yes most definitely can stop myself from coming by changing position also slowing down x

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always

Yes I change my thought process and pretend I'm laying on the beach with sun shining and the sound of waves "

Do you actually though? Does it really work thinking of something else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not here in a pervy capacity at all.

I didn't know until very recently that some men can actually come... on demand. To the point you can almost count them in. Not actually count them down because that'd be weird. But my mind was *blown*."

You wait until they play the Countdown music as they do it.

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"For me at least, there’s a point wherein when reached, there is no return so to speak.

By this I imply that I can feel the orgasm coming a few seconds prior and even if I were to immediately desist from whatever act that may be precipitating it, it would still be too late to stop the ejaculatory eruption."

Do you always know just before you get to that point though?

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By *ommyTighMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Once I hit the point, there’s no stopping me!

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Additionally, I know that many men enjoy the act of edging but it isn’t for me; Nay, I want to spray my dirty waters out into the world!

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By *ez669Man
over a year ago

East Kilbride

Sometimes if I take my mind away from what I'm doing but does not always work. I'd rather just let the first one go have a 10 min chat or play and then get back to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These type of questions should be saved for Manchester social so you can get a demonstration. Not this weekend though I’m busy.

If I use my mind anymore objects might start levitating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nora you ask the questions I didn't know I needed to ask

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
over a year ago

Bourne lincs

Yes can sometimes take me hrs to cum

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

Don’t mind me. I’m just posting here as a bookmark to remind me to come back and overshare later.

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By *ts the taking part thatMan
over a year ago

southampton

I can mostly change speed, zone out, return to something more focused on the lady or change position if getting close but on occasion a partner can do something that just puts you over the edge & it too late.

It's mostly willpower but there is a hair trigger & if tugged......

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I'm not here in a pervy capacity at all.

I didn't know until very recently that some men can actually come... on demand. To the point you can almost count them in. Not actually count them down because that'd be weird. But my mind was *blown*.

What like in a “ok you can cum now” kinda way? "

I'm trying to work out how I can phrase this politely and not do my usual high libido waffle.

Erm, sort of. He has enough control that he asked me to say when I wanted him to early on and then it happened when said. Exactly at that point.

I'm deliberately making it sound quite sterile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always "

Nora, can you ask the people with Willie's what happens if they laugh or sneeze as they ejaculate? Does it stop go stop go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the moment no

Due to medical issues

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've a friend who used to do times tables in his mind if he was trying not to. I'm not sure how well it worked though

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Additionally, I know that many men enjoy the act of edging but it isn’t for me; Nay, I want to spray my dirty waters out into the world! "

I’d be kicking and screaming if someone tried that with me

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"I've a friend who used to do times tables in his mind if he was trying not to. I'm not sure how well it worked though "
12x12 =142

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I bloody love your random questions

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I'm not here in a pervy capacity at all.

I didn't know until very recently that some men can actually come... on demand. To the point you can almost count them in. Not actually count them down because that'd be weird. But my mind was *blown*.

You wait until they play the Countdown music as they do it."

Ha! I've missed your wit. I might do that next time. But JP, you've not answered Nora's questions. They're important.

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Mr does the alphabet backwards, he's pretty good at it now.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Most of the time I can delay myself, I've had a few occasions where I couldn't though.

It's mostly controlled by breathing in a way you control your heart rate and making sure you don't think about cumming quickly.

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Sometimes if I take my mind away from what I'm doing but does not always work. I'd rather just let the first one go have a 10 min chat or play and then get back to it "

Some people are a one time only though. Can most men go again do you think?

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…


"For me at least, there’s a point wherein when reached, there is no return so to speak.

By this I imply that I can feel the orgasm coming a few seconds prior and even if I were to immediately desist from whatever act that may be precipitating it, it would still be too late to stop the ejaculatory eruption.

Do you always know just before you get to that point though?"

A good question. Certainly I couldn’t put a time on it as it varies greatly but there is prior warning in effect, as experienced by the sensation of a ‘build up’ of energy centred around the loin region. It’s most exquisite indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was a time where I couldn't cum at all, could go for ages, now if F looks at me I've pretty much already came

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no control over my willy whatsoever, he does exactly as he pleases!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not here in a pervy capacity at all.

I didn't know until very recently that some men can actually come... on demand. To the point you can almost count them in. Not actually count them down because that'd be weird. But my mind was *blown*.

You wait until they play the Countdown music as they do it.

Ha! I've missed your wit. I might do that next time. But JP, you've not answered Nora's questions. They're important. "

I can't control it, nor do I want to. But I don't think I could if I wanted to. So I haven't tried.

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"These type of questions should be saved for Manchester social so you can get a demonstration. Not this weekend though I’m busy.

If I use my mind anymore objects might start levitating. "

I won’t be there

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I bloody love your random questions "

Haha. I’m very inquisitive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not here in a pervy capacity at all.

I didn't know until very recently that some men can actually come... on demand. To the point you can almost count them in. Not actually count them down because that'd be weird. But my mind was *blown*."

I am very much here in a pervy capacity.. Sorry not sorry.

This has just reminded me of someone I dated years ago who did actually do a countdown. I actually remember finding it really sexy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There was a time where I couldn't cum at all, could go for ages, now if F looks at me I've pretty much already came "

But I can control by slowing down or stopping sometimes I get the twitch as if I've cum but without ejaculating and then that means I can carry on as long as necessary

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I'm not here in a pervy capacity at all.

I didn't know until very recently that some men can actually come... on demand. To the point you can almost count them in. Not actually count them down because that'd be weird. But my mind was *blown*.

You wait until they play the Countdown music as they do it.

Ha! I've missed your wit. I might do that next time. But JP, you've not answered Nora's questions. They're important. "

You tell him Meli. They are!

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By *kaythen07Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Yes. I go and make a nice cuppa

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I'm not here in a pervy capacity at all.

I didn't know until very recently that some men can actually come... on demand. To the point you can almost count them in. Not actually count them down because that'd be weird. But my mind was *blown*.

You wait until they play the Countdown music as they do it.

Ha! I've missed your wit. I might do that next time. But JP, you've not answered Nora's questions. They're important.

I can't control it, nor do I want to. But I don't think I could if I wanted to. So I haven't tried."

Thank you.

A*

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Yes. I go and make a nice cuppa"

Haha. Bet that pleases your partner

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I'm not here in a pervy capacity at all.

I didn't know until very recently that some men can actually come... on demand. To the point you can almost count them in. Not actually count them down because that'd be weird. But my mind was *blown*.

I am very much here in a pervy capacity.. Sorry not sorry.

This has just reminded me of someone I dated years ago who did actually do a countdown. I actually remember finding it really sexy. "

So am I really (we're really quite similar with some things!) but I also really want to read more men so this is my last post.

It is sexy. Ridiculously so. I also like men whose orgasm catches them by surprise and they utter an 'Oh fuck, I'm going to come'. Or men where they're really into you and they can't hold back and just embrace it.

I think I just love men coming. In a really big way.

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I'm not here in a pervy capacity at all.

I didn't know until very recently that some men can actually come... on demand. To the point you can almost count them in. Not actually count them down because that'd be weird. But my mind was *blown*.

I am very much here in a pervy capacity.. Sorry not sorry.

This has just reminded me of someone I dated years ago who did actually do a countdown. I actually remember finding it really sexy.

So am I really (we're really quite similar with some things!) but I also really want to read more men so this is my last post.

It is sexy. Ridiculously so. I also like men whose orgasm catches them by surprise and they utter an 'Oh fuck, I'm going to come'. Or men where they're really into you and they can't hold back and just embrace it.

I think I just love men coming. In a really big way."

I do too. I love it

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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I had a conversation with a porn star about this many years ago. He was telling me that he could delay as long as needed, and also come on command. I didn't believe him so I put it to the test...it was true

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I'm not here in a pervy capacity at all.

I didn't know until very recently that some men can actually come... on demand. To the point you can almost count them in. Not actually count them down because that'd be weird. But my mind was *blown*.

You wait until they play the Countdown music as they do it.

Ha! I've missed your wit. I might do that next time. But JP, you've not answered Nora's questions. They're important.

I can't control it, nor do I want to. But I don't think I could if I wanted to. So I haven't tried."

Could you please try and report back? Just for me

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I had a conversation with a porn star about this many years ago. He was telling me that he could delay as long as needed, and also come on command. I didn't believe him so I put it to the test...it was true "

Maybe lots of sexual experience helps. I suppose it could do.

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By *kaythen07Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

She didn't want one

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By *ig-Bull-EssexMan
over a year ago

Southend

You can to a degree, especially with practice.

I think it's to do with clenching the kegels.

I can get myself to the edge and stop mutilple times. Did this on and off for 8 days once.

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"You can to a degree, especially with practice.

I think it's to do with clenching the kegels.

I can get myself to the edge and stop mutilple times. Did this on and off for 8 days once."

I don’t have that kind of willpower

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By *gor247Man
over a year ago

london

Like with anything, there are always exceptions to the rule. There are no hard and fast rules but more so mind and body control. It’s very hard to control something your body naturally wants to do but practice during the act coupled with subconsciously telling yourself “no don’t cum” or thinking of something will help take your mind off.

Likewise there are women you hardly have to touch or lick to send the flood gates opening, and others you have to go to town on and pull out all the tricks. Practice and control is everything.

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Like with anything, there are always exceptions to the rule. There are no hard and fast rules but more so mind and body control. It’s very hard to control something your body naturally wants to do but practice during the act coupled with subconsciously telling yourself “no don’t cum” or thinking of something will help take your mind off.

Likewise there are women you hardly have to touch or lick to send the flood gates opening, and others you have to go to town on and pull out all the tricks. Practice and control is everything. "

True. This is why I was interested as people really are so different and it’s nice to hear different views etc

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I’ve heard also that if you stop yourself too many times it can actually make it difficult to actually cum at all in the end. Is this true?

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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"I had a conversation with a porn star about this many years ago. He was telling me that he could delay as long as needed, and also come on command. I didn't believe him so I put it to the test...it was true

Maybe lots of sexual experience helps. I suppose it could do. "

Lots of getting shouted at by directors probably helped too

I was really quite impressed...he told me to count down from 3 to one whenever I felt like it, and he came as I got to 1!

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I had a conversation with a porn star about this many years ago. He was telling me that he could delay as long as needed, and also come on command. I didn't believe him so I put it to the test...it was true

Maybe lots of sexual experience helps. I suppose it could do.

Lots of getting shouted at by directors probably helped too

I was really quite impressed...he told me to count down from 3 to one whenever I felt like it, and he came as I got to 1!"

That is impressive! I’ve met someone who can make himself cum without any touching. It’s amazing to watch.

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By *ez669Man
over a year ago

East Kilbride


"Sometimes if I take my mind away from what I'm doing but does not always work. I'd rather just let the first one go have a 10 min chat or play and then get back to it

Some people are a one time only though. Can most men go again do you think?"

Not all could I think but there is stuff out there that would help them. I think first time with a new person if you where with them all night it would be a lot more than twice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not here in a pervy capacity at all.

I didn't know until very recently that some men can actually come... on demand. To the point you can almost count them in. Not actually count them down because that'd be weird. But my mind was *blown*.

You wait until they play the Countdown music as they do it.

Ha! I've missed your wit. I might do that next time. But JP, you've not answered Nora's questions. They're important.

I can't control it, nor do I want to. But I don't think I could if I wanted to. So I haven't tried.

Could you please try and report back? Just for me "

I will give it my best shot.

Eventually.

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Sometimes if I take my mind away from what I'm doing but does not always work. I'd rather just let the first one go have a 10 min chat or play and then get back to it

Some people are a one time only though. Can most men go again do you think?

Not all could I think but there is stuff out there that would help them. I think first time with a new person if you where with them all night it would be a lot more than twice "

Do you think it’s easier to go again if you cum quickly the first time. Like easier than if you’ve gone for an hour or so then want to go again?

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I'm not here in a pervy capacity at all.

I didn't know until very recently that some men can actually come... on demand. To the point you can almost count them in. Not actually count them down because that'd be weird. But my mind was *blown*.

You wait until they play the Countdown music as they do it.

Ha! I've missed your wit. I might do that next time. But JP, you've not answered Nora's questions. They're important.

I can't control it, nor do I want to. But I don't think I could if I wanted to. So I haven't tried.

Could you please try and report back? Just for me

I will give it my best shot.

Eventually."

I see what you did there. And Thankyou. I shall await the results

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

There are times when it's uncontrollable, and that depends upon who I'm sharing it with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually OP, you seem to have a pretty good handle on this.

Yes, on occasion it can be possible to have some control over when we cum.

Sometimes we're able to prolong it - but it comes after a lot of practice.

Yes, it depends on who you're with, what you're doing - even a change of position can make a difference.

Some positions can enhance things and make us cum faster.

Like a lot of things, communication is very important.

For example, you could be riding me hard and doing such a fine job that I might need to ask you to pause for a moment, to let the sensation disperse a little before letting you carry on - or say nothing and having a little erruption before I really wanted to

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts

I am pretty good at controlling it. I think that is more to deal with practice. I think it's different maybe because I'm circumsised. If the woman is really wet after an hour or so it's not as sensitive. Upside is you can fuck for ages. Usually I stop for a bit then the sensitivity comes back and because I have held off for so long the orgasm is very intense

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Actually OP, you seem to have a pretty good handle on this.

Yes, on occasion it can be possible to have some control over when we cum.

Sometimes we're able to prolong it - but it comes after a lot of practice.

Yes, it depends on who you're with, what you're doing - even a change of position can make a difference.

Some positions can enhance things and make us cum faster.

Like a lot of things, communication is very important.

For example, you could be riding me hard and doing such a fine job that I might need to ask you to pause for a moment, to let the sensation disperse a little before letting you carry on - or say nothing and having a little erruption before I really wanted to"

Thanks. This is the kind of thing I was wondering about.

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I am pretty good at controlling it. I think that is more to deal with practice. I think it's different maybe because I'm circumsised. If the woman is really wet after an hour or so it's not as sensitive. Upside is you can fuck for ages. Usually I stop for a bit then the sensitivity comes back and because I have held off for so long the orgasm is very intense"

Ah never thought of that. That being circumcised could make a difference. I’ve actually never been with anyone who is circumcised so have no idea there.

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By *gor247Man
over a year ago

london


"I’ve heard also that if you stop yourself too many times it can actually make it difficult to actually cum at all in the end. Is this true?"

Not that I’m aware of, but that’s just me. Tantric sex is pleasurable because when when can hold and then release… well.

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over a year ago


"I am pretty good at controlling it. I think that is more to deal with practice. I think it's different maybe because I'm circumsised. If the woman is really wet after an hour or so it's not as sensitive. Upside is you can fuck for ages. Usually I stop for a bit then the sensitivity comes back and because I have held off for so long the orgasm is very intense

Ah never thought of that. That being circumcised could make a difference. I’ve actually never been with anyone who is circumcised so have no idea there. "

I would be happy to provide you with such an experience - purely for research purposes of course

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts


"I am pretty good at controlling it. I think that is more to deal with practice. I think it's different maybe because I'm circumsised. If the woman is really wet after an hour or so it's not as sensitive. Upside is you can fuck for ages. Usually I stop for a bit then the sensitivity comes back and because I have held off for so long the orgasm is very intense

Ah never thought of that. That being circumcised could make a difference. I’ve actually never been with anyone who is circumcised so have no idea there. "

Lol, I've never not been circumsised just feedback I've had on how it was different but that could also just be my idocincracies

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I am pretty good at controlling it. I think that is more to deal with practice. I think it's different maybe because I'm circumsised. If the woman is really wet after an hour or so it's not as sensitive. Upside is you can fuck for ages. Usually I stop for a bit then the sensitivity comes back and because I have held off for so long the orgasm is very intense

Ah never thought of that. That being circumcised could make a difference. I’ve actually never been with anyone who is circumcised so have no idea there.

Lol, I've never not been circumsised just feedback I've had on how it was different but that could also just be my idocincracies "

It’s probably not. I have heard similar before.

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By *ez669Man
over a year ago

East Kilbride


"Sometimes if I take my mind away from what I'm doing but does not always work. I'd rather just let the first one go have a 10 min chat or play and then get back to it

Some people are a one time only though. Can most men go again do you think?

Not all could I think but there is stuff out there that would help them. I think first time with a new person if you where with them all night it would be a lot more than twice

Do you think it’s easier to go again if you cum quickly the first time. Like easier than if you’ve gone for an hour or so then want to go again?"

Maybe bur only if she has cum at least once first or you will feel a bit of a failure till your ready to go again. As I said a new person I don't see it being difficult to go loads that night as you won't won't to keep your hands off them

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I am pretty good at controlling it. I think that is more to deal with practice. I think it's different maybe because I'm circumsised. If the woman is really wet after an hour or so it's not as sensitive. Upside is you can fuck for ages. Usually I stop for a bit then the sensitivity comes back and because I have held off for so long the orgasm is very intense

Ah never thought of that. That being circumcised could make a difference. I’ve actually never been with anyone who is circumcised so have no idea there.

I would be happy to provide you with such an experience - purely for research purposes of course "

Haha. Just too kind

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By *gor247Man
over a year ago

london


"I am pretty good at controlling it. I think that is more to deal with practice. I think it's different maybe because I'm circumsised. If the woman is really wet after an hour or so it's not as sensitive. Upside is you can fuck for ages. Usually I stop for a bit then the sensitivity comes back and because I have held off for so long the orgasm is very intense"

True. As we all know men and women are different when it comes to sex, a man needs more in order to get to the point where he understands himself and knows his triggers in order to control his ability to cum.

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By *pandjMan
over a year ago

Sparkford

I can mostly control it and think it's down to watching the German channels on old skool sky when I was a teen.

I love pleasing the person I'm having sex with and also love the feeling of the intimacy. I make myself last longer to prolong these feelings but it means I need a partner who can have multiple penetrative orgasms.

I sort of think ”you're not cumming now” and the feeling goes away for a bit. When I'm ready I sort of feel myself pushing the cum out of me and it happens. I can't do a countdown though.

Sometimes I do get mega excited and can't help myself but this is very rare and usually in doggy style due to the friction. Plus the view. I've also never cum from a blowjob

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By *hampagnesteveMan
over a year ago

Wimbledon

Nora, personally I find its easier or more difficult to control when there is a sexual chemistry or not.

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By *pandjMan
over a year ago

Sparkford

Will also add it helps with those movie style simultaneous orgasms...

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I can mostly control it and think it's down to watching the German channels on old skool sky when I was a teen.

I love pleasing the person I'm having sex with and also love the feeling of the intimacy. I make myself last longer to prolong these feelings but it means I need a partner who can have multiple penetrative orgasms.

I sort of think ”you're not cumming now” and the feeling goes away for a bit. When I'm ready I sort of feel myself pushing the cum out of me and it happens. I can't do a countdown though.

Sometimes I do get mega excited and can't help myself but this is very rare and usually in doggy style due to the friction. Plus the view. I've also never cum from a blowjob

"

Thanks for commenting. Another interesting response x

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Tie a knot at the end, you need to get it right upto the pubes though or it end up like the bubble you get when you stand on a hose.

The mr

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Nora, personally I find its easier or more difficult to control when there is a sexual chemistry or not. "

So easier if it’s a wham bam one off or easier if there’s chemistry?

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Tie a knot at the end, you need to get it right upto the pubes though or it end up like the bubble you get when you stand on a hose.

The mr "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely no one can pull back once they reach the vinegar strokes/billy mill roundabout

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By *hampagnesteveMan
over a year ago

Wimbledon

If there is chemistry then it can be very difficult to refrain, however I do find I am easily able to repeat and can then take my time teasing the lady

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Surely no one can pull back once they reach the vinegar strokes/billy mill roundabout "

I think as someone said above there apparently is a point where it’s impossible

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

If she’s an 8 or above then I can’t control it, anything below then she gets what she’s given

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London


"… Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always "

Okay, so Compy’s curious and Nora’s intrigued. Got it.

Basic question first. Can I control when I cum? No. Not really. Not control. Influence, maybe? Yes. Sometimes. Not all the time.

(And I’m never sure whether to write cum or come. I think I prefer come. But I’m going with cum because that’s how you put it in the question …)

I’m pretty sure that slowing it, or holding back, should be a mind thing. It really should. But I’ve always gone with changing the physical instead. Ever since I was a teenager enjoying my first fumbling fucks.

If we’re fucking and it feels great (and good god, it always feels great) and I start to feel an orgasm building, I need to make a conscious choice. Do I succumb to it, enjoy the moment, and let it happen? Or do I change things up - delay tactics?

Now, sometimes I’m too far gone. My conscious brain is out the window because I’m lost in the moment and the feeling.

But when I’m present, and I’m thinking … I’ll slow down. Or change rhythm. Or decide it’s time to change position. Maybe even pull out and spend some time going down on you. Anything to just make a change. That’s enough to put me back to square one, to start building up all over again.

Sometimes I don’t want to slow it down. Sometimes it’s just time to cum.

As for positions, feelings, moments … there’s no magic combo that’s guaranteed to make me cum or not cum. Every time with every person is different. But whatever’s happening on my end of things … you’ll know about it. I’m not quiet or shy about letting you know.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

its certainly not easy when about to explode like a volcano

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"If she’s an 8 or above then I can’t control it, anything below then she gets what she’s given "

I’ll take what I’m given then. No bum love though Rex. Not even by accident

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"… Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always

Okay, so Compy’s curious and Nora’s intrigued. Got it.

Basic question first. Can I control when I cum? No. Not really. Not control. Influence, maybe? Yes. Sometimes. Not all the time.

(And I’m never sure whether to write cum or come. I think I prefer come. But I’m going with cum because that’s how you put it in the question …)

I’m pretty sure that slowing it, or holding back, should be a mind thing. It really should. But I’ve always gone with changing the physical instead. Ever since I was a teenager enjoying my first fumbling fucks.

If we’re fucking and it feels great (and good god, it always feels great) and I start to feel an orgasm building, I need to make a conscious choice. Do I succumb to it, enjoy the moment, and let it happen? Or do I change things up - delay tactics?

Now, sometimes I’m too far gone. My conscious brain is out the window because I’m lost in the moment and the feeling.

But when I’m present, and I’m thinking … I’ll slow down. Or change rhythm. Or decide it’s time to change position. Maybe even pull out and spend some time going down on you. Anything to just make a change. That’s enough to put me back to square one, to start building up all over again.

Sometimes I don’t want to slow it down. Sometimes it’s just time to cum.

As for positions, feelings, moments … there’s no magic combo that’s guaranteed to make me cum or not cum. Every time with every person is different. But whatever’s happening on my end of things … you’ll know about it. I’m not quiet or shy about letting you know."

Thank you. Perfect answer

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester


"If she’s an 8 or above then I can’t control it, anything below then she gets what she’s given "

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts


"I can mostly control it and think it's down to watching the German channels on old skool sky when I was a teen.

I love pleasing the person I'm having sex with and also love the feeling of the intimacy. I make myself last longer to prolong these feelings but it means I need a partner who can have multiple penetrative orgasms.

I sort of think ”you're not cumming now” and the feeling goes away for a bit. When I'm ready I sort of feel myself pushing the cum out of me and it happens. I can't do a countdown though.

Sometimes I do get mega excited and can't help myself but this is very rare and usually in doggy style due to the friction. Plus the view. I've also never cum from a blowjob

Thanks for commenting. Another interesting response x"

I concur. When with someone I really connect with I love the kissing and intimacy so I do everything I can to make it last as long as possible. I also rarely cum from a bj.i can fuck for hours then something just clicks usually her getting really excited and cumming or sometimes just a super passionate snog. I usually have to be kissing to cum hence not so much with bjs I think.

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over a year ago

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I can mostly control it and think it's down to watching the German channels on old skool sky when I was a teen.

I love pleasing the person I'm having sex with and also love the feeling of the intimacy. I make myself last longer to prolong these feelings but it means I need a partner who can have multiple penetrative orgasms.

I sort of think ”you're not cumming now” and the feeling goes away for a bit. When I'm ready I sort of feel myself pushing the cum out of me and it happens. I can't do a countdown though.

Sometimes I do get mega excited and can't help myself but this is very rare and usually in doggy style due to the friction. Plus the view. I've also never cum from a blowjob

Thanks for commenting. Another interesting response x

I concur. When with someone I really connect with I love the kissing and intimacy so I do everything I can to make it last as long as possible. I also rarely cum from a bj.i can fuck for hours then something just clicks usually her getting really excited and cumming or sometimes just a super passionate snog. I usually have to be kissing to cum hence not so much with bjs I think. "

Kissing cumming and eye contact is the best altogether

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton


"I've a friend who used to do times tables in his mind if he was trying not to. I'm not sure how well it worked though 12x12 =142 "

12 x 12 = 144....

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"[Removed by poster at 21/04/23 13:32:04]"

That really made me laugh! Where’s it gone

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Sometimes.

I have this freaky thing where I struggle to cum if my legs aren't crossed so I can use that at times but it definitely depends on the moment.

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By *hampagnesteveMan
over a year ago

Wimbledon

Very true, the sound of a.partner in extasy is very contagious. Just like a smile or a yawn

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By *heExcommMan
over a year ago

Llantrisant


"Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always "

1) if we don't wanna cum yet, we gotta stop

2)think about Margerat Thatcher

3) Only if we catch it quick enough. You get kind of a boiling feeling in your balls, so we use that as a sign

4) Mixture of mental and physical. I can easily just slow down as I can only cum if I'm pounding

5) I can cum quicker if I have a good mental and emotional connection. If I don't have those, I last ages. Not built for quickies

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Sometimes.

I have this freaky thing where I struggle to cum if my legs aren't crossed so I can use that at times but it definitely depends on the moment. "

Interesting. Never heard that before x

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over a year ago

Imagine if you will a long session of all that entails, say three minutes, the first thirty seconds all that’s going on in the guys head is as follows

1) wait what? I can’t believe I’m doing this, look how fit she is

The next 60 seconds is

2) how did I get here, Jesus she’s going to think I’m shit if I come now, I need to make her think I’m Jesus, I know think of something else

Did you know it’s illegal in Switzerland to own one Guinea pig as they are social creatures and aren’t allowed to be left alone (this is a whole fab forum post in its own, I must post that later)

The next 90 seconds are a combination of

Fuck I’m doing well here

Why are my socks still on

Wait she’s smiling, has she come ?

Have I come?

If Guinea pigs aren’t allowed to be on their own why are we, isn’t that systematic abuse at a state level, why isn’t this asked on question time ……. Oh Fiona Bruce

And that’s it all done, now I can’t tell you ladies if you have reached orgasm by then because I’m too concerned with what’s gone through my head, long story short, to delay, invent existential crisis, it adds a good thirty seconds to your repertoire, thank me later

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts


"I can mostly control it and think it's down to watching the German channels on old skool sky when I was a teen.

I love pleasing the person I'm having sex with and also love the feeling of the intimacy. I make myself last longer to prolong these feelings but it means I need a partner who can have multiple penetrative orgasms.

I sort of think ”you're not cumming now” and the feeling goes away for a bit. When I'm ready I sort of feel myself pushing the cum out of me and it happens. I can't do a countdown though.

Sometimes I do get mega excited and can't help myself but this is very rare and usually in doggy style due to the friction. Plus the view. I've also never cum from a blowjob

Thanks for commenting. Another interesting response x

I concur. When with someone I really connect with I love the kissing and intimacy so I do everything I can to make it last as long as possible. I also rarely cum from a bj.i can fuck for hours then something just clicks usually her getting really excited and cumming or sometimes just a super passionate snog. I usually have to be kissing to cum hence not so much with bjs I think.

Kissing cumming and eye contact is the best altogether "

Stop it please you'll make me cum

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

If I want to last longer I just think of my Nan taking a shit

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Imagine if you will a long session of all that entails, say three minutes, the first thirty seconds all that’s going on in the guys head is as follows

1) wait what? I can’t believe I’m doing this, look how fit she is

The next 60 seconds is

2) how did I get here, Jesus she’s going to think I’m shit if I come now, I need to make her think I’m Jesus, I know think of something else

Did you know it’s illegal in Switzerland to own one Guinea pig as they are social creatures and aren’t allowed to be left alone (this is a whole fab forum post in its own, I must post that later)

The next 90 seconds are a combination of

Fuck I’m doing well here

Why are my socks still on

Wait she’s smiling, has she come ?

Have I come?

If Guinea pigs aren’t allowed to be on their own why are we, isn’t that systematic abuse at a state level, why isn’t this asked on question time ……. Oh Fiona Bruce

And that’s it all done, now I can’t tell you ladies if you have reached orgasm by then because I’m too concerned with what’s gone through my head, long story short, to delay, invent existential crisis, it adds a good thirty seconds to your repertoire, thank me later "

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"If I want to last longer I just think of my Nan taking a shit "

Hahaha. Omg I nearly fell off my chair

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By *eaderMan
over a year ago

Shropshire


"It depends

On what? I want proper answers and explanations! yes most definitely can stop myself from coming by changing position also slowing down x"

Same here. Have to be quick though or......pow!

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"It depends

On what? I want proper answers and explanations! yes most definitely can stop myself from coming by changing position also slowing down x

Same here. Have to be quick though or......pow! "

Does that pow come with a little growl?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

My ex-husband used to think about football.

It helped him last 10 minutes instead of 5

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over a year ago


"My ex-husband used to think about football.

It helped him last 10 minutes instead of 5 "

Did he get pulled off before half time?

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus


"If I want to last longer I just think of my Nan taking a shit

Hahaha. Omg I nearly fell off my chair "

I’d apologise but that just made me laugh

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"My ex-husband used to think about football.

It helped him last 10 minutes instead of 5

Did he get pulled off before half time?"

God I’ve missed you

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"If I want to last longer I just think of my Nan taking a shit

Hahaha. Omg I nearly fell off my chair

I’d apologise but that just made me laugh "

Me too. Probably not everyone though haha

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By *eard and TattsCouple
over a year ago

Cwmbran

People with Willies?

You mean men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Years ago there was a comedy show called Hale & Pace, one of the characters tried to stop himself from cuming by thinking of the most boring thing possible and went "Arsenal, Arsenal, George Graham, Arsenal".

That might have worked with the old boring boring Arsenal, but the current young thrusting exciting Arsenal team are more likely to make you go up and over like a pan of milk.

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By *eard and TattsCouple
over a year ago

Cwmbran

I add up my outgoings for the month and total it up

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell


"Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always "

90% i can stop myself from cumming, or speed up the process, i cant cum onndemand though. It can depend on what is happeing at the time

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I can mostly control it and think it's down to watching the German channels on old skool sky when I was a teen.

I love pleasing the person I'm having sex with and also love the feeling of the intimacy. I make myself last longer to prolong these feelings but it means I need a partner who can have multiple penetrative orgasms.

I sort of think ”you're not cumming now” and the feeling goes away for a bit. When I'm ready I sort of feel myself pushing the cum out of me and it happens. I can't do a countdown though.

Sometimes I do get mega excited and can't help myself but this is very rare and usually in doggy style due to the friction. Plus the view. I've also never cum from a blowjob

Thanks for commenting. Another interesting response x

I concur. When with someone I really connect with I love the kissing and intimacy so I do everything I can to make it last as long as possible. I also rarely cum from a bj.i can fuck for hours then something just clicks usually her getting really excited and cumming or sometimes just a super passionate snog. I usually have to be kissing to cum hence not so much with bjs I think.

Kissing cumming and eye contact is the best altogether

Stop it please you'll make me cum "

Can you try and stop it please and let us know how you got on

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"People with Willies?

You mean men? "

Not going there on this thread sorry

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock


"Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always "

I would say it's a yes to all of the above

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Years ago there was a comedy show called Hale & Pace, one of the characters tried to stop himself from cuming by thinking of the most boring thing possible and went "Arsenal, Arsenal, George Graham, Arsenal".

That might have worked with the old boring boring Arsenal, but the current young thrusting exciting Arsenal team are more likely to make you go up and over like a pan of milk."

Haha I remember hale and pace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I add up my outgoings for the month and total it up

"

I can't even do this right on a spreadsheet

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always

I would say it's a yes to all of the above"

HahaI’m obviously too knowledgeable on the men cumming thing. Nothing to add?

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always "

Yes it depends who youre with and yes its a mind thing... But also a physical thing and yes i can control it.. Stoo myself for a while... 5 or 6 times... Trouble is if i stop myself too often, then i cant come at all... Which actually isnt that bad. The journey is always better than the destination anyway.

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always

Yes it depends who youre with and yes its a mind thing... But also a physical thing and yes i can control it.. Stoo myself for a while... 5 or 6 times... Trouble is if i stop myself too often, then i cant come at all... Which actually isnt that bad. The journey is always better than the destination anyway. "

Yeah I mentioned that above. I’ve heard that can happen too when you stop too often.

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock


"Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always

I would say it's a yes to all of the above

HahaI’m obviously too knowledgeable on the men cumming thing. Nothing to add?"

For me it's a state of mind depending on the act and sometimes the urge just becomes overwhelming

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always

I would say it's a yes to all of the above

HahaI’m obviously too knowledgeable on the men cumming thing. Nothing to add?

For me it's a state of mind depending on the act and sometimes the urge just becomes overwhelming"

Overwhelming is good though . I think so anyway

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock


"Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always

I would say it's a yes to all of the above

HahaI’m obviously too knowledgeable on the men cumming thing. Nothing to add?

For me it's a state of mind depending on the act and sometimes the urge just becomes overwhelming

Overwhelming is good though . I think so anyway "

Overwhelming is very good

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always

I would say it's a yes to all of the above

HahaI’m obviously too knowledgeable on the men cumming thing. Nothing to add?

For me it's a state of mind depending on the act and sometimes the urge just becomes overwhelming

Overwhelming is good though . I think so anyway

Overwhelming is very good "

Ffs I want to be overwhelmed now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always "

You pull out and go down

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always

You pull out and go down "

Haha short and simple. I like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once I’m past the point of no return I can’t stop it. Why would I want to? The quicker I cum the quicker I can roll over and go to sleep

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Once I’m past the point of no return I can’t stop it. Why would I want to? The quicker I cum the quicker I can roll over and go to sleep "

there is that

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock


"Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always

I would say it's a yes to all of the above

HahaI’m obviously too knowledgeable on the men cumming thing. Nothing to add?

For me it's a state of mind depending on the act and sometimes the urge just becomes overwhelming

Overwhelming is good though . I think so anyway

Overwhelming is very good

Ffs I want to be overwhelmed now "

Don't we all Nora

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By *anilla-sinCouple
over a year ago

lancs

Speaking from my own experience [Mr here!].. It's a combination of factors.. 1. Mind control.. Sex is really in the mind isn't it.. So you can[if you want to] control the heightening euphoric build up to orgasm... And I don't mean by thinking or Margaret Thatcher naked or anything like that! It's hard to explain.. But I sort of see it as taking myself out of the situation for a minute or two, as if I am observing myself in the action.. This sort of 'resets' the orgasm timer.. as it were.

2. Physical methods.. In addition to the above, slowing down, pulling out, flipping her over.. Changing it up to give her some oral or finger fun.. or lying together and kissing all work two.

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Speaking from my own experience [Mr here!].. It's a combination of factors.. 1. Mind control.. Sex is really in the mind isn't it.. So you can[if you want to] control the heightening euphoric build up to orgasm... And I don't mean by thinking or Margaret Thatcher naked or anything like that! It's hard to explain.. But I sort of see it as taking myself out of the situation for a minute or two, as if I am observing myself in the action.. This sort of 'resets' the orgasm timer.. as it were.

2. Physical methods.. In addition to the above, slowing down, pulling out, flipping her over.. Changing it up to give her some oral or finger fun.. or lying together and kissing all work two. "

This is pretty much the kind of answer I expected to be honest. God I’d love to be man for a day to find out for myself

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By *anilla-sinCouple
over a year ago

lancs

It's that thing isn't it.. Delayed gratification.. Mrs VS is able to get on a roll of multiple orgasms.. and just come and come for ages.. Now.. Of course I am obviously an absolute stud!! [what is it guys put on profile 'verified repeater'..] and can come more than once in a session.. But it's never as good as the first time, and of course there is the law of diminishing returns! So I have always really enjoyed holding out for as long as possible before allowing myself to orgasm.. For me it results in the most intense, amazing feeling. But each to their own..

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

A roll of multiple orgasms?

So…..Mrs VC - does she lend you out?

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"A roll of multiple orgasms?

So…..Mrs VC - does she lend you out?"

Mrs VS even . Blown it now haven’t I

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

It can be managed and sometimes it can't ... a lot of it is mental / psychological triggering less so physical. In our swinging lifestyle we are passionate, erotic and energetic ... but we leave any expectations at the door. x George

ps lovely profile

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"It can be managed and sometimes it can't ... a lot of it is mental / psychological triggering less so physical. In our swinging lifestyle we are passionate, erotic and energetic ... but we leave any expectations at the door. x George

ps lovely profile "

Thank you George x

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By *anilla-sinCouple
over a year ago

lancs


"A roll of multiple orgasms?

So…..Mrs VC - does she lend you out?

Mrs VS even . Blown it now haven’t I "

Absolutely, completely blown it

She is actually really rather stingy when it comes to lending me out.. But it is possible to the right lady

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"A roll of multiple orgasms?

So…..Mrs VC - does she lend you out?

Mrs VS even . Blown it now haven’t I

Absolutely, completely blown it

She is actually really rather stingy when it comes to lending me out.. But it is possible to the right lady "

Haha that’s fine. Just looked at the pics. Do you lend her out?

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

To an extent I can control it, in that I can usually hang on, and I can relax and just let it happen.

But if I hang on too long right on the edge then I can sort of spoil it.

I can’t just will it to happen out of thin air. I need to get worked up first.

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By *anilla-sinCouple
over a year ago

lancs


"A roll of multiple orgasms?

So…..Mrs VC - does she lend you out?

Mrs VS even . Blown it now haven’t I

Absolutely, completely blown it

She is actually really rather stingy when it comes to lending me out.. But it is possible to the right lady

Haha that’s fine. Just looked at the pics. Do you lend her out? "

Hey. No need, you can just have us both

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By *uddy laneMan
over a year ago

dudley

I used to offer a count down with the option of one or both barrels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you writing "a dummies guide to cocks" Nora?

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

Come on guys fill this one up will you

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By *anilla-sinCouple
over a year ago

lancs


"Are you writing "a dummies guide to cocks" Nora? "

No shortage of volunteers for the research phase....

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"My ex-husband used to think about football.

It helped him last 10 minutes instead of 5

Did he get pulled off before half time?"

Sucked like a half-time orange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can stop When Uber eats is 2 mins away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So...

I discovered that if I pinch my shaft just below the head as hard as I can once I have gone past the point of no return, I will have an orgasm but the squeezing prevents the cum releasing.

Once the orgasm has subsided I am then able to go again immediately for another orgasm. There are slightly diminishing marginal returns on each subsequent orgasm but I find this to be much more fun than edging, which does very little for me.

If I wanted to go again after a full orgasm and release then I'd usually need a quick cuppa and a slice of cake first.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

I’ve learnt to edge so can back away at any time by slowing down, stopping , changing position or activity. When I’m ready I just push that extra 15 -20 seconds which takes me over the edge.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always "

To an extent.

Stopping, squeezing the head, whacking it with a toffee hammer all work temporarily as does imagining the MIL naked being shagged by Bojo, whilst cheered on by octogenarian nuns.

Sometimes it's easier than others, but if you've abstained for a while it's pretty much impossible if your OH is doing her best to make you cum.

A

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Are you writing "a dummies guide to cocks" Nora? "

I’m upset you called me a dummy . I liked you too. I’d do the crying emoji if I knew how to.

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By *eorge1949Man
over a year ago

BroadwayWR11


"Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always "

Sometimes - depends on stimulation, desire and time since last ejaculation!

Will Power - not always successfully!

Dunno!

Yes - very much so - the same with a second cumming!

Hope that helps with your scientific research!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Are you writing "a dummies guide to cocks" Nora?

I’m upset you called me a dummy . I liked you too. I’d do the crying emoji if I knew how to. "

For future reference....

A

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Are you writing "a dummies guide to cocks" Nora?

I’m upset you called me a dummy . I liked you too. I’d do the crying emoji if I knew how to.

For future reference....

A"

;)

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Are you writing "a dummies guide to cocks" Nora?

I’m upset you called me a dummy . I liked you too. I’d do the crying emoji if I knew how to.

For future reference....

A

;)"

:’(

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Are you writing "a dummies guide to cocks" Nora?

I’m upset you called me a dummy . I liked you too. I’d do the crying emoji if I knew how to.

For future reference....

A

;)

:’("

Why won’t it work!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you writing "a dummies guide to cocks" Nora?

I’m upset you called me a dummy . I liked you too. I’d do the crying emoji if I knew how to. "

Technically, you'd be the expert as you're the author. The "dummies" would be the ones reading it, aka the men trying to figure out how it works.

You're providing a service!

Not that kind...

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Are you writing "a dummies guide to cocks" Nora?

I’m upset you called me a dummy . I liked you too. I’d do the crying emoji if I knew how to.

For future reference....

A

;)

:’(

Why won’t it work!"

I don't know....but I'm

A

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Are you writing "a dummies guide to cocks" Nora?

I’m upset you called me a dummy . I liked you too. I’d do the crying emoji if I knew how to.

Technically, you'd be the expert as you're the author. The "dummies" would be the ones reading it, aka the men trying to figure out how it works.

You're providing a service!

Not that kind...

"

Ahhhh! Of course. I like you again now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you writing "a dummies guide to cocks" Nora?

I’m upset you called me a dummy . I liked you too. I’d do the crying emoji if I knew how to.

Technically, you'd be the expert as you're the author. The "dummies" would be the ones reading it, aka the men trying to figure out how it works.

You're providing a service!

Not that kind...

Ahhhh! Of course. I like you again now "

Yay I have a friend.

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Are you writing "a dummies guide to cocks" Nora?

I’m upset you called me a dummy . I liked you too. I’d do the crying emoji if I knew how to.

For future reference....

A

;)

:’(

Why won’t it work!

I don't know....but I'm

A"

:’(

Omg this is SO UNFAIR!

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Are you writing "a dummies guide to cocks" Nora?

I’m upset you called me a dummy . I liked you too. I’d do the crying emoji if I knew how to.

Technically, you'd be the expert as you're the author. The "dummies" would be the ones reading it, aka the men trying to figure out how it works.

You're providing a service!

Not that kind...

Ahhhh! Of course. I like you again now

Yay I have a friend. "

Just don’t tell anyone it’s me or you’ll get no more friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you writing "a dummies guide to cocks" Nora?

I’m upset you called me a dummy . I liked you too. I’d do the crying emoji if I knew how to.

For future reference....

A

;)

:’(

Why won’t it work!

I don't know....but I'm

A

:’(

Omg this is SO UNFAIR!"

It's really not hard...

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante


"Are you writing "a dummies guide to cocks" Nora?

I’m upset you called me a dummy . I liked you too. I’d do the crying emoji if I knew how to.

For future reference....

A

;)

:’(

Why won’t it work!

I don't know....but I'm

A

:’(

Omg this is SO UNFAIR!"

Poor pet!

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Are you writing "a dummies guide to cocks" Nora?

I’m upset you called me a dummy . I liked you too. I’d do the crying emoji if I knew how to.

For future reference....

A

;)

:’(

Why won’t it work!

I don't know....but I'm

A

:’(

Omg this is SO UNFAIR!

Poor pet! "

Now you’re just taking the piss and teasing me!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Are you writing "a dummies guide to cocks" Nora?

I’m upset you called me a dummy . I liked you too. I’d do the crying emoji if I knew how to.

For future reference....

A

;)

:’(

Why won’t it work!

I don't know....but I'm

A

:’(

Omg this is SO UNFAIR!"

The gift that keeps on giving.......

Have you tried just copying and pasting it?

A

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Can you control when you cum? How do you stop yourself if you want to last longer? Can you stop yourself? Is it a mind thing or a change of what you’re doing physically at the time? Does it depend on who you’re with/the sexual act happening at the time?

Ok that was more than one question.

Intrigued as always

I would say it's a yes to all of the above

HahaI’m obviously too knowledgeable on the men cumming thing. Nothing to add?

For me it's a state of mind depending on the act and sometimes the urge just becomes overwhelming

Overwhelming is good though . I think so anyway

Overwhelming is very good

Ffs I want to be overwhelmed now "

Isnt that a song title?

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Are you writing "a dummies guide to cocks" Nora?

I’m upset you called me a dummy . I liked you too. I’d do the crying emoji if I knew how to.

For future reference....

A

;)

:’(

Why won’t it work!

I don't know....but I'm

A

:’(

Omg this is SO UNFAIR!

The gift that keeps on giving.......

Have you tried just copying and pasting it?

A"

“Unable to save image”. I want my fiver back! Who do I email?

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I’ve heard also that if you stop yourself too many times it can actually make it difficult to actually cum at all in the end. Is this true?"

I can control cuming and hold off for hours on end. Circumcision as a child helped, and in the early days of sex I used to use maths or even read a book left open on the bedside. Then I learnt to relax my genitals so that the lovely sensations produced by a mouth, pussy or bum was simply out of my mind.

It is strange thinking about it. It is almost as if I am not connected to my cock, like it is a dildo. It is similar to doing very fine work with your hands, your fingers become very sensitive whilst your feet and legs seem to fade away. Luckily my cock stays hard but I only get say, 20 to 25%, of the sensations.

After a few hours though it gets quite hard to cum. The erection is still there but it takes a concerted effort to get him to ejaculate. The key and most important point is however, by then, the lady is usually satisfied.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Once I’m past the point of no return I can’t stop it. Why would I want to? The quicker I cum the quicker I can roll over and go to sleep "

Youre awake for it?

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I woust to , perfectly , and who known me and have meet me they can confirm how many hours our session woust to last

True story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab question.

I edge myself to the point before cumin then stop. I do this over a long period of time.

I can also push through it my slowing my strokes down and counting backwards in my head.

I've put this into practice during sex and usually only cum once. Partners usually cum multiple times.

The key is not to get too excited and breath. When thrusting, throw some controlled aggression into it too.

I can cum ALOT from doing this and repeat too. Partners have always said I have lots of energy and painful but a nice pain ( ladies with know).

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Thank you all again. Be sure to tune in next time for more willy questions and answers

I bloody love willies me

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By *owestoft ManMan
over a year ago

Lowestoft

Sadly lol for me I simply cant control it. Believe me I've tried everything but when it wants it goes lol. I've tried pretty much everything people have said here and more including lol Thinking of the Mother In Law to stabbing my self with a needle lol. The worst part of it is normally happens very quickly. Since I was obviously at the very back of the que for willies lol I'm also never going to be able to change it.

Was hoping to find some good recommendations on here but Alas lol

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