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"There is a bit of a resurgance in the 'men be like' and 'women be like' threads. It's exasperating. Am I naive in trying to see the world in terms of people? Just that? Not women, men, black, brown, penis lovers, vagina lovers etc etc.?" While I'd love to be able to say you're not naive and that's how we should see the world I've been doing some learning and personal growth and realised that often when we say we just want to see people, what that often means is that we don't want to see inequality that arrises from being in a minority group. | |||
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"There is a bit of a resurgance in the 'men be like' and 'women be like' threads. It's exasperating. Am I naive in trying to see the world in terms of people? Just that? Not women, men, black, brown, penis lovers, vagina lovers etc etc.?" I agree 100% | |||
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"If a person speaks about what they have experienced, why would it offend those here who haven't done anything to the person posting their experiences in society so far?" A reply from someone active on the thread please Why is a generalised statement taken personally if you haven't done anything to a person? | |||
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"There is a bit of a resurgance in the 'men be like' and 'women be like' threads. It's exasperating. Am I naive in trying to see the world in terms of people? Just that? Not women, men, black, brown, penis lovers, vagina lovers etc etc.?" Well you're on the fence albeit a feathered edge one | |||
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"Best not to entertain them. Once the mind is closed its best to leave them with their own thoughts." Would you consider one person's thoughts on something as them being closed minded? | |||
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"No, not nieve at all. People are people, some are lovely, some are arseholes. Pxx" that's right and sadly the one thing a person does which one or a few finds offensive they'll view them as an asshole over that one thing It amazes me considering people shout all day long no one is perfect | |||
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"There is a bit of a resurgance in the 'men be like' and 'women be like' threads. It's exasperating. Am I naive in trying to see the world in terms of people? Just that? Not women, men, black, brown, penis lovers, vagina lovers etc etc.? While I'd love to be able to say you're not naive and that's how we should see the world I've been doing some learning and personal growth and realised that often when we say we just want to see people, what that often means is that we don't want to see inequality that arrises from being in a minority group. " I both agree and disagree with this but can't verbalise exactly my feelings. But yes. And no. Sorry if that's confusing Example. I use a wheelchair. I'm in the "minority" of being disabled. But I don't want being a wheelchair user to be the first thing that people see and act upon, when they meet me. Yes, we'll need to be sure we meet in a wheelchair accessible space etc, BUT what a lot of people do is make assumptions based on stereotypes or ignorance, and try to impose their version of "help" upon me. Which is annoying. What I'm trying to explain is I don't want to be viewed as a white, disabled female. I want to be viewed as a human being and for people to find out my specific needs and wants before acting upon anything. Does that make any sense at all?! | |||
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"No. I show everyone the same respect they show me regardless of who they are. " So you wouldn't make a general statement seemed personal at you? | |||
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"If a person speaks about what they have experienced, why would it offend those here who haven't done anything to the person posting their experiences in society so far?" | |||
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"People are great. But they’re also crap. We contain multitudes. Generalisations can be a useful tool for talking about stuff. I guess we just always need to keep in mind that they’re just that - generalisations. And try not to overuse them. Or believe they’re some sort of concrete truth when they ain’t. " Precisely if a person speaks from their experience that is their experience we all have our own journey in life even if we are in the same place at once at a time. There would have been times where a person did their journey and path before we met each other on the fab forums I wouldn't frown on anyone here unless they constantly show their negative, they can never try uplift another soul here or try get involved in the fun and games that goes on in the forums too Its not all negative in the forums even if the negative overshadows the good on here | |||
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