FabSwingers.com forum: What do you think of me; debrief

By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

After my thread last night and today, for those of you who took part, do you think that the impressions that others have of you are fair? Do you think that they reflect you as a person/people and did some people surprise you with how much they read into your posts?

Was it a positive or negative experience for you?

Pop your thoughts and reactions down here folks

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I loved it we had some great messages however I was very surprised to see that the Mr seems to come across as the nice one of the two of us and I'm the cunt

I wasn't sure whether to be proud or offended!!

Mrs

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

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You won’t believe what I learnt about them ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

7 people said very similar things in their messages and were positive.

1 was very different and not so positive

I've been making an effort lately to talk to or interact with different people on the forums so it was nice to have messages from those I'd not actually chatted to before.

I realised that after years of being on fab there are several names I know yet have never chatted to. Hoping to change that and your thread helped a lot.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

It was all very positive. I didn't think people took that much notice of me.

I was called intriguing, kind, level headed and drama free

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

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You won’t believe what I learnt about them ^

Shhhh that's our secret

Mrs

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

People were lovely so they were definitely lying

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

I’m happy with the feedback I got, needless to say, it appears I’ll never be the wolf of Wall Street though.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

Everyone called me a c-bomb…

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Everyone called me a c-bomb…"

You and me both.

Mrs

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Hmm a mixture I would say, only one person messaged me first. Which kind of to be expected since I'm not here that much anymore.

One message was nice to reconnect with someone I haven't spoken to in a while. And one person made a very accurate observation and it was lovely to see someone had noticed it.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'd like to say it was generally a pretty accurate reflection of who I am. I've not yet got around to opening them all because I'm an awful person.

I was definitely surprised by how much could be read into a thread I did over two years ago that I'd forgotten about to be honest. For me something that was harmless lockdown boredom curing was... not quite seen that way by another. A dear friend describes it as the NT/ND gap and I think there's some truth to that.

Bias, whether confirmation or otherwise has been bandied about quite a bit recently. Fairly but yes, definitely on the up usage wise. I didn't quite realise a) how much I could experience it and b) how much others could.

I'd say it was positive regardless of what was said - I welcome different views, it's a good learning tool for me. An interesting little exercise. Am I going to change who I am? Fuck no.

I will, however, try and be more mindful of people. Everyone has their own things going on and sometimes that empathy gap can be bridged. Might as well try, anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently I'm a bit of a bitch and if you become friends with me you'll never wank again.

I'm happy with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you'll never wank again."

With hope in your heart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I didn’t get any feedback so in that regard it was pretty much what I expected hehe

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Well I didn’t get any feedback so in that regard it was pretty much what I expected hehe

You did join quite late, to be fair. These sorts of threads often peter out a bit as time passes.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I joined the thread by accident, making some sort of sarky comment. As a result I received a few lovely messages. I think that says something about the kindness and inclusivity of the people here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ones I sent seemed well received and I got a couple of lovely replies to.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

"The ones I sent seemed well received and I got a couple of lovely replies to. "

I got fuck all from you, just saying!

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock

I received a few really nice messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surprisingly we got no messages

But I think the messages we sent out were fair and graciously received

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

I thought I was going to see you without underpants on and I was going to tell you what I thought, I feel as though you missold the debriefed label.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The ones I sent seemed well received and I got a couple of lovely replies to.

I got fuck all from you, just saying!

Aww I'm so sorry!

I've actually only just read your profile for the first time.. It made me laugh so much I might even add you to my hot list!

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

"The ones I sent seemed well received and I got a couple of lovely replies to.

I got fuck all from you, just saying!

Aww I'm so sorry!

I've actually only just read your profile for the first time.. It made me laugh so much I might even add you to my hot list!

Too little, too late…

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Meant to join in, went away and then forgot. What that means is we were both knackered last night!

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

I didnt get any apart from a reply, pretty much as expected.

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

Four messages and all positive

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

"Four messages and all positive "

No one likes a show off…

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

"Four messages and all positive

No one likes a show off…"

Shhhhhh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in last night for the first time. I got one lovely message

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Four messages and all positive "

Yeah, but you’re ace.

(That’s five, right?)

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Oooh back in the circle I love this part.

What did I learn...

Well I'm a dick, but I made a few smile. So I guess I shall continue to embrace my dick.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

Your inner dick, or the outer one?

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I didn't expect you to get on it!

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