FabSwingers.com forum: Are you worried people might recognise you if you share face pics

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you share them? If so how? Do

You not if so why ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many questions marks?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So many questions marks?"

3 in total

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By *ark963Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Don’t send I’m marrid play alone

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I share via messages when asked or I'd requested.

I don't think people would share as we're all here for the same thing, what would they have to gain?

Mrs

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

No. My face is what I am recognised by.

Oh, and my dick as well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only send one when asked. And not because they insist on one in there profile either. Personality is more important to me.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

When I was meeting I had clear face pictures on my profile

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

Yeah a little

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

Yes.

Partly worried about being recognized, especially if the people are more local to me.

The other part is the fear of them being used against me after reading some of the horror stories on threads here

Em x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

Yes, I’ll happily share them on messages but don’t have any public ones for that very reason.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I share face pics with people I’m already starting to trust. Even if that’s only from starting to know them a little by how they are on these forums.

I’m careful, but I decided long ago to be open on Fab, as far as I can be.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

The first time I had a public face pic on my profile (face and boobs actually...), it ended up being posted on the town's Facebook gossip page because someone claimed to his wife that I'd sent it to him. He had saved it from here to his phone.

So... yeah. Good times.

I should point out though... didn't stop me. If I'm looking to meet people, or sometimes even if I'm not I do have a public face pic. It saves people messaging and then being scared by the face, that's just disappointing.

But people will be people. Sadly some people will share things they shouldn't... as not everyone is as discreet as they claim.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really, we don't meet/have out location set to our local area just where we'd prefer to meet.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Yes.

Partly worried about being recognized, especially if the people are more local to me.

The other part is the fear of them being used against me after reading some of the horror stories on threads here

Em x"

The golden rule we've always stuck to is this.

Keep face pics 100% vanilla and just head and shoulders clothed photos that wouldn't look out of place on Facey (but not actually ones you've used anywhere else).

That way should the worst happen there's actually nothing to link you to any naked shots you have or in fact your entire profile.

You can maintain plausible deniability and should the need arise just say 'that's not me/us and we're not on Fab'.

It's unlikely anyone will look to meet without exchanging face pics so needs must. The alternative is to just stick to clubs.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Yep. I don’t show mine. I don’t want to be recognised. I don’t want anyone to know I’m on here. Fab is and always has been totally separate parts of my life.

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By *J_SpiceyCouple
over a year ago

Kinky Kings Lynn

Not worried.

Not doing anything wrong.

I own my life.

Understand those that cannot or won’t.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I don't share facepics here or elsewhere. I prefer to be in control of who gets to see them and some people are very quick to pass them on to others.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

I have been noticed. Several times.

Includes friends, people who work in same building, random people from swinging and fetish community.

I'm not bothered. We are all here for same reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wasn't until recently

a small part of me gets off on being recognised but professionally it would land me in trouble

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see a need to share them unless there is the likelihood of a meet or at the request of a long term chat buddy..

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By *herry delightWoman
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

I should my face on my profile as I don't have anything as I not embarrassed about having a healthy normal sex life. X

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I don't really share face pics anymore unless I'm close to meeting someone but as I am not doing any new meets it's not an issue.

I won't share early in any conversation anymore if that doesn't suit the other person that's fine. They can move on.

I have had my face pic shared by someone on here before and that has made me a lot more wary of sharing pics.

My private life is just that I have never felt the need to talk about what I get up to I my own time to others and I prefer to keep it that way.

Like someone else said best to keep face pics just that with no nudity though as people do share them on. It happens quite often unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would hope not.

That is rather the point of doing what I do.

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By *ove2lickMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Laugh when you set up anon meet and then they ask for a face pic

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I have previously had public face pics and been harassed locally. I like to shop in peace so I stay private now.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Yes

Am I concerned nope after 9 years being here I'd say I'm famous

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By *agnar73Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

In terms of my own situation, there’s probably nothing that would stop me from using face pics, but I’d rather not be gossiped about, given my circumstances at home

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I have previously had public face pics and been harassed locally. I like to shop in peace so I stay private now."

That's not because you have public face pics here. That's becauseof the WANTED posters around Mancunia.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I have previously had public face pics and been harassed locally. I like to shop in peace so I stay private now.

That's not because you have public face pics here. That's becauseof the WANTED posters around Mancunia."

. Yup!

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"I have previously had public face pics and been harassed locally. I like to shop in peace so I stay private now.

That's not because you have public face pics here. That's becauseof the WANTED posters around Mancunia."

Knob

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t have one on mine due to my work. However I will send on request

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

"Yes.

Partly worried about being recognized, especially if the people are more local to me.

The other part is the fear of them being used against me after reading some of the horror stories on threads here

Em x

The golden rule we've always stuck to is this.

Keep face pics 100% vanilla and just head and shoulders clothed photos that wouldn't look out of place on Facey (but not actually ones you've used anywhere else).

That way should the worst happen there's actually nothing to link you to any naked shots you have or in fact your entire profile.

You can maintain plausible deniability and should the need arise just say 'that's not me/us and we're not on Fab'.

It's unlikely anyone will look to meet without exchanging face pics so needs must. The alternative is to just stick to clubs.

That's what we've been doing so far.

I always make sure any pictures uploaded here don't show anything that could identify us ie; tattoos etc.

I think it was actually a comment either yourself or fox posted on a thread some time ago that gave me this info, so for that I thank you

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I share via messages when asked or I'd requested.

I don't think people would share as we're all here for the same thing, what would they have to gain?

Mrs "

People do share unfortunately.

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By *red333Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

I'm a couple honest....... I share with people i don't know, i mean they could download my pic and share it annotate it within their clique and share it with melbourne uni

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By *ust a little bit moreWoman
over a year ago

kendal

Pictures in general make me feel uncomfortable,

I hate posting them

I don't have any face pics public on my profile and only 1 pic with my face cropped out.

Then I have 2 non public pics, one is a face pic, one is a full body pic.

I never send face pics first, especially not to anyone local to me and man am I glad I don't, the first couple I got messaging wen I first joined fab, turned out to be my next door nieghbours!!

I live in a really small village, (and there are a surprising amount of people who live here, who are on here!) And I like to keep my private life private.

Also.... I got revenge porned years ago by an ex partner, so I exercise the rule of....

'if I wouldnt want my mother to see it, I probably shouldn't send it!' after my mother did see the revenge porn (and my father, and my brother's, and sister and employer, and just about every single other person you eouldnt want seeing a video of you of that nature!)

So Im really careful about what I send, and to whom

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By *agnar73Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I share via messages when asked or I'd requested.

I don't think people would share as we're all here for the same thing, what would they have to gain?

Mrs

People do share unfortunately. "

That’s shocking but Par for course.

I wouldn’t dream of disclosing anything said in a chat

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By *J GeminiTV/TS
over a year ago

Northumberland

I will send a face pic if requested and I feel comfortable with the situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why we no longer have a couple account as a couple we sent one too who were thought were genuine couple recognised us and wouldn't send one back and then blocked us. We know they have said something to a couple of our friends as the was comments about swinging. We stopped playing for a while due to this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t want those “I’ve seen you on fab” interactions offline. Theres a time and a place to tickle my fart box

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

I have no issues with having my face pic on my profile.

At my age I am past caring who sees it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think if you have a job that would be compromised or family who would disapprove of indeed any situation where being outed as being a swinger would cause problems you should be wary of the type of picture you share. Never publish or send any explicit photos with your face clearly showing is something we learned very early on

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Yes.

Partly worried about being recognized, especially if the people are more local to me.

The other part is the fear of them being used against me after reading some of the horror stories on threads here

Em x

The golden rule we've always stuck to is this.

Keep face pics 100% vanilla and just head and shoulders clothed photos that wouldn't look out of place on Facey (but not actually ones you've used anywhere else).

That way should the worst happen there's actually nothing to link you to any naked shots you have or in fact your entire profile.

You can maintain plausible deniability and should the need arise just say 'that's not me/us and we're not on Fab'.

It's unlikely anyone will look to meet without exchanging face pics so needs must. The alternative is to just stick to clubs.

That's what we've been doing so far.

I always make sure any pictures uploaded here don't show anything that could identify us ie; tattoos etc.

I think it was actually a comment either yourself or fox posted on a thread some time ago that gave me this info, so for that I thank you

You're welcome!

It's definitely safer to split real life from here. Even if people have the 'I don't care I'm not doing anything wrong' mentality, I still feel its unfair on family, work colleagues and friends to potentially have tour lifestyle choices impact them negatively. Just because we choose to swing I wouldn't want anyone abusing my siblings, our parents or anyone we know, and unfortunately some will use anything that can be viewed as a negative lifestyle choice as ammunition to gossip and shit stir.

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I'm on here and shouldn't be.

However, I will send a face pic if asked by a lady who's well established on here.

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

No, as I have plenty on my profile.

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

Not really, no

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I share with well verified profiles that I’m interested in playing with. And expect that both ways. Pointless talking to someone without knowing your into them. Face is the most important part for me.

I don’t share otherwise or publicly.

I’m fine being noticed or recognised in clubs but not on here.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I also only share a face pic which is already on other social media.

That way, I can say they just found it randomly if needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a meet is on the cards and I'm asked I send one.

Why don't I have it viewable on my profile...My choice, no reason.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I also only share a face pic which is already on other social media.

That way, I can say they just found it randomly if needed. "

The danger with that is that a reverse image search will lead them to your vanilla social media and potentially more info about you than you'd care to share.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

In a nutshell yes and I minimise the risk but only sending pics to people I know I’ll meet.

I also accept that there’s a risk everytime I go to a group social that I might bump into someone I know and accept that risk

As has been stated here, I’m amazed at how many people go out of their way to ‘out’ or ‘expose’ fabbers

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

If I send an opening message I send a face pic, I mark the box which deletes the pic once opened and quite franky I'm not to bothered if I'm recognized.

You could argue going to a club, you might get recognized as well.

I have seen a profile on here of someone I work with, I wouldn't mention anything to them and would expect the same from others.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

"If I send an opening message I send a face pic, I mark the box which deletes the pic once opened and quite franky I'm not to bothered if I'm recognized.

You could argue going to a club, you might get recognized as well.

I have seen a profile on here of someone I work with, I wouldn't mention anything to them and would expect the same from others.

I’ve bumped into loads of people in clubs that I know.

And I live 2 hours away from all of them so none on my doorstep.

Think the difference is that they have made the same effort to go that I have.

More random/ blank profiles on here that would do more damage than genuine people in clubs x

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

"If I send an opening message I send a face pic, I mark the box which deletes the pic once opened and quite franky I'm not to bothered if I'm recognized.

You could argue going to a club, you might get recognized as well.

I have seen a profile on here of someone I work with, I wouldn't mention anything to them and would expect the same from others.

I’ve bumped into loads of people in clubs that I know.

And I live 2 hours away from all of them so none on my doorstep.

Think the difference is that they have made the same effort to go that I have.

More random/ blank profiles on here that would do more damage than genuine people in clubs x"
True, i never thought of that although I'm very selective of whom I message but you do have a very good arse, I mean point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone recognises me on here its no biggy...they are on here too. Lol.

Inked has a few ppl he knows in our everyday life.

I like sharing my face pics(not all face pics are too revealing) that i share.

(Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll happily send face pics in a pm ,,

However I accidentally put one on public once on an old profile and was pretty much messaged straight away by someone I'd worked for a week before,was a little uncomfortable if I'm honest because I was supposed to go back

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Sort of in the middle really, if people found out locally we are a married couple in this together so we aren't hurting anyone, we still wouldn't want to be talk of the town though and also it's not great for our children, maybe when they are older perhaps we will be a bit more out there.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

I have face pics on my profile. I think someone would have to look quite carefully at them to make the connection to me in my everyday male presentation.

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By *hGlobbitsMan
over a year ago

Leeds

A bit. That's why I keep my face pics private. I'll happily send them in a chat, but I don't want them lying around where anyone can find them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. After all, they're on here too. If they were to say anything to anyone, they'd also be outing themselves

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Would prefer my children and their friends didn’t recognise me from a swingers site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve already been recognised by quite a few people we know locally so it’s not a big deal to us. It wouldn’t effect our work and I don’t think our family would care much if they found out either.

We’re quite happy to send face pics if asked.

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By *aui.Man
over a year ago

around here

It can be worrying but also kind of exciting. I worry a lot less now though as have come to realise we are all here for the same.

Occasionally I've sent a FP and then been instantly blocked. It's probably that they don't find me attractive but I do always wonder if maybe its because they recognise me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy to share in messages once we've chatted a while

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I thought this send a pic fully clothed that can't be reversed online leading to Facebook etc.

Also could make a secret insta account and put a vanilla pic on and make them request a friend request and later down line someone saw say we aren't on a swinging site someone's used that and posed as us

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By *lltheboostCouple
over a year ago

Shefford

"Yes.

Partly worried about being recognized, especially if the people are more local to me.

The other part is the fear of them being used against me after reading some of the horror stories on threads here

Em x

The golden rule we've always stuck to is this.

Keep face pics 100% vanilla and just head and shoulders clothed photos that wouldn't look out of place on Facey (but not actually ones you've used anywhere else).

That way should the worst happen there's actually nothing to link you to any naked shots you have or in fact your entire profile.

You can maintain plausible deniability and should the need arise just say 'that's not me/us and we're not on Fab'.

It's unlikely anyone will look to meet without exchanging face pics so needs must. The alternative is to just stick to clubs.

This is quality advise!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

No not at all! Happens regularly! Was down woods yesterday dog walking got a message later from young chap asking if I was at such and such woods as thought he recognised me x

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By *lltheboostCouple
over a year ago

Shefford

We feel we have enough pics on our profile that people can make an informed decision about if they find us interesting to them, we have recently decided that we won’t be sending out face pics anymore due to fakes and pic collectors, so we’ll want to chat for a bit first and see if we get along etc and swap pics down the line.

Some getting very upset by this and want what they want when they want it, but these are usually the people who don’t send pics but ask you for yours.

We have a family and careers, and swinging can do damage to both (have seen people lose their job) so a certain amount common sense has to be used I think. If you are totally at ease with it and have face pics up on your profile, then more power to you

But I don’t think others should be punished for being more cautious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m face out, so no

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We feel we have enough pics on our profile that people can make an informed decision about if they find us interesting to them, we have recently decided that we won’t be sending out face pics anymore due to fakes and pic collectors, so we’ll want to chat for a bit first and see if we get along etc and swap pics down the line.

Some getting very upset by this and want what they want when they want it, but these are usually the people who don’t send pics but ask you for yours.

But I don’t think others should be punished for being more cautious."

Spot on

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By *owestoft ManMan
over a year ago

Lowestoft

Very much one of those subjects of Each to their Own.....

It goes without saying that the vast majority of the general public consider Swinging and or Open Sexual fantasy is Taboo. Even though most probably enjoy the idea but for one reason or another afraid of what their friends, family or colleagues will say of them. Sad fact but true.

Personally I know what being a Swinger is thought of and keep my lifestyles very separate. We all know what can happen when we give full details of ourselves out to the general public and its not good.

But common sense will be that if you are going to actually meet someone then a face pic is needed. I have one face pic which I keep in my Friends only album. But I'm aware that even that can be a problem sometimes. So is kept very clean clothed.

Problem here is there are to many who want to friend you without knowing more about each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't keep face pics in my friends gallery, I'll share a vanilla one if chatting with someone a bit though.

My daughter knows I'm on here, my mum wouldn't have the foggiest what they'd be talking about. So that's outing to family sorted. I doubt my employer wouldn't have an issue, as I've nothing identifying on my profile, and I don't mention where I work.

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By *ravellerukMan
over a year ago

Tenby till end of Sep

I wouldn’t mind being recognised if it was going to be mutual. However I have a couple of public facing roles that mean a lot of people would recognise me without me ever really knowing who they are.

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By *oleraine-coupleCouple
over a year ago

coleraine

Yes.

We did in years gone by but never do now.

Unfortunately we’ve had people use them for fake profiles and also been spotted by someone in a work setting we didnt want to know about our lifestyle.

We accept this means many people pass on by our profile but we are often happy to share our pictures after some genuine massaging.

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By *lltheboostCouple
over a year ago

Shefford

We spotted a couple we had played with in Tesco, both couples coming towards eachother with trolleys… a slight nod and the smallest of winks was exchanged.

It felt rather naughty for some reason lmao

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