FabSwingers.com forum: Can I ask you something?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Explain the logic of asking if you can ask a question…

I don’t get it.

Surly you’d just ask…

Or at least give more detail on the topic you want ask about.

Thursday conundrums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a bit like saying "with all due respect" before calling someone a cunt

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I used to just reply no and leave it at that

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By *dward_TeagueMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

The direct approach is infinitely better, everyone knows where they stand then.

If you have to qualify your question with a question before you even ask it maybe you shouldn’t be asking it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's a bit like saying "with all due respect" before calling someone a cunt

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By *unCycleGymRepeatMan
over a year ago

Greater London

"Explain the logic of asking if you can ask a question…

I don’t get it.

Surly you’d just ask…

Or at least give more detail on the topic you want ask about.

Thursday conundrums. "

1. It's a way of trying to get a conversation started

2. Trying to be polite and courteous without wishing to offend anyone

3. Also trying to ensure the recipient has time and wants to engage

In daily life, I do normally use it to ask someone I am unfamiliar with to see if there was scope for a further conversation.

I.e. Would you mind if I asked you a question please?

Sure

What kind of hobbies and interests do you have, apart from fab?

Does not usually work with fabs messaging system though very well.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

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This one is my pet hate

So irritating. The reason for their message is usually nothing to do with the question they want to ask, they’re just trying their luck to get any sort of response. Same as when they say ‘We spoke a while back how are you?’ (Never spoken to them before in my life), or deliberately call you by a different name as they think you’ll respond and correct them

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Ha... So true lol. I don't mind that so much though.

It's 'If I tell you something will you promise not to get upset?'.

How can I promise you that without knowing what it is?

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By *hatMinxOverThereWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way

I get this all the time. It’s frustrating. I sometimes reply ‘you just asked one’.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Asking if you can ask a question is asking a question.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

Just answer the question.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

It actualy should be, can I ask you anything? which would open a discussion.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

I ignore those messages, either just ask your question or don't

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By *cottish8282Man
over a year ago

fife

"It's a bit like saying "with all due respect" before calling someone a cunt

I am guilty of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Double argh. Deleted immediately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To get a response, to engage you.

Also and I'm taking this from a thread way back it's this....

'this Is a socially accepted way to ease into something that might be a personally awkward question. By asking a non question, the asker is being passively defensive. They are defending themselves from potentially negative reactions to the real question by posing an easy lead in, if the answer is ‘no’ they’re not the one being impolite, after all asking if you can ask has to be polite?!

By getting a ‘yes’ to this polite lead in question, you are already predisposed to positively answer the following question because you’ve have already partially agreed to it.’

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I find this exceedingly creepy for some reason

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I find this exceedingly creepy for some reason "

On here, yes. If you agree to the question, it's usually something hideous and disgusting, like "can I shit in your mouth while playing the bagpipes"

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

They just did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll be removing this from my copy/paste message now then. Thanks everyone

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

"I find this exceedingly creepy for some reason

On here, yes. If you agree to the question, it's usually something hideous and disgusting, like "can I shit in your mouth while playing the bagpipes"

Exactly that.

Can’t believe people actually play the bagpipes

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

"Double argh. Deleted immediately. "
That explains all my messages to you then.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

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"I find this exceedingly creepy for some reason

On here, yes. If you agree to the question, it's usually something hideous and disgusting, like "can I shit in your mouth while playing the bagpipes"

Hahahahaha so true!

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By *ice_couple2012Couple
over a year ago

Leicester

"I find this exceedingly creepy for some reason "

^this

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By *elinda BeaverCouple
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Just why?!?!

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By *hil39Man
over a year ago

Dagenham

"It's a bit like saying "with all due respect" before calling someone a cunt

crying with laughter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is absolutely disgusting.

It's "may I ask you a question?"

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"I find this exceedingly creepy for some reason

On here, yes. If you agree to the question, it's usually something hideous and disgusting, like "can I shit in your mouth while playing the bagpipes"

That is hideous!!! Urgh.

I mean, who plays the bagpipes anymore?!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I find this exceedingly creepy for some reason

On here, yes. If you agree to the question, it's usually something hideous and disgusting, like "can I shit in your mouth while playing the bagpipes"

That is hideous!!! Urgh.

I mean, who plays the bagpipes anymore?!

Exactly. The bagpipe playing is of much greater concern to me, in that scenario

#Str@ngledCats

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By *ARKblondeCouple
over a year ago

london

"I find this exceedingly creepy for some reason

On here, yes. If you agree to the question, it's usually something hideous and disgusting, like "can I shit in your mouth while playing the bagpipes"

Can I just check what the answer was? Asking for a friend

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

If someone says can I ask a question I sometimes say yes, but I may not answer it, and if it's sexual I'll ignore it.

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

Suppose asking for a shag is out of the question then

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Explain the logic of asking if you can ask a question…

I don’t get it.

Surly you’d just ask…

Or at least give more detail on the topic you want ask about.

Thursday conundrums. "

Let me guess, it’s always single guys you’ve never met?!

I imagine it’s a way of appearing non-confrontational, inoffensive - ‘I’m in your hands’ kinda thing. Giving you the option of responding or not, especially before they take time to write out a long, thoughtful and sincere question about whether you’d let them come round for 3.5 minutes because they’re bored and horny in their hotel room.

I guess it usually means they’re building up to a leading question that isn’t just ‘what’s your favourite colour’ and they want to prep the ground.

Naive tactic and I’d be tempted to answer with a question and see how long you can string it out.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I find this exceedingly creepy for some reason

On here, yes. If you agree to the question, it's usually something hideous and disgusting, like "can I shit in your mouth while playing the bagpipes"

Can I just check what the answer was? Asking for a friend

We said: only on the fourth Tuesday in February

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my inbox, if I ever feel like living dangerously and saying go right ahead and ask, the questions are always totally bizarre

One involved eyelids. And dongs. And… rubbing…

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I find this exceedingly creepy for some reason

On here, yes. If you agree to the question, it's usually something hideous and disgusting, like "can I shit in your mouth while playing the bagpipes"

I've noticed this too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And the same people then say ran out of messages.. just ask your question bro.

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By *ister_ee_1981Man
over a year ago

Sunniest Exeter...

I get that it is a polite move and and attempt to get a conversation started, but ultimately pointless. As someone stated above, it can simply be answered "no"

Anyway chances are neither this message nor "the actual question" will get answered, so it's an exercise in futility.

Better to send one message (if you are still messaging people) and get ignored, but it least you took your shot.

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By *hatMinxOverThereWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way

I’ve had 5 of these since I posted in here earlier

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