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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

..silences.

Do you feel the need to talk constantly when in company?

Or do you stfu and relax in companionable silences?

Why does it seem OK to say to someone 'you're quiet' and not OK to say 'can you stop talking please'

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Oh I love a comfortable silence but that tends to be with people I know better or am naturally comfortable with anyway

They do say silence is golden

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By *ixieAndHerKingCouple
over a year ago

Debauchery

Oh I don't need silence to talk constantly....

Cherry x

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Oh I don't need silence to talk constantly....

Cherry x "

This is true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can and do ask people to stop talking if it’s too much. I even cut contact with someone who just never ever stopped, even to the point he would just carry on talking over me when I tried to get a word in.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I’m better at listening, really.

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By *elinda BeaverCouple
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

I just like to sit and look at people. I don't want to talk!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I allways feel the need to fill a silence! And I know I'm annoying but still do it! X

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’m extremely shy so if sat with someone I don’t know or have just met I’m usually sat in silence inwardly panicking that I should be saying something and then panicking about what I should talk about. It makes me all hot and clammy just thinking about that!!

I tend to gravitate to chatterboxes because they do all the heavy conversation lifting and they don’t make you feel awkward.

Two introverts and you can cut the air with the silent panic of neither speaking. There’s nothing comfortable about that I can tell you!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

If I'm drinking I'm a chatty, sober I like the silences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really depends on the company.

In groups I can be quiet. One on one, if I'm nervous I probably talk too much.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Silence and be silent is my comfortable zone because my eyes and ears they always have teach me big lessons

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Depends on the situation, but I like people who don’t feel the need to break a silence. I like silence it’s nice. Sometimes me and the mrs just sit in the car saying nothing, enjoying the peace.

The

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Just the feeling of the bubble really isn't it.

If you have that bubble together it doesn't really matter.

You could be anywhere, although it should be noted that certain behaviours can lead to criminal charges.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just like to sit and look at people. I don't want to talk! "

Yeah I kind of feel like this.

I mean, I've done a lot of talking, about all the things.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Sure, keeping the conversation going. If I wanted silence I wouldn't be with them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I allways feel the need to fill a silence! And I know I'm annoying but still do it! X"

It's not always annoying..actually welcome at times..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love quiet. I get overly chatty when I'm nervous, but I don't feel awkward at all during stints of silences.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m extremely shy so if sat with someone I don’t know or have just met I’m usually sat in silence inwardly panicking that I should be saying something and then panicking about what I should talk about. It makes me all hot and clammy just thinking about that!!

I tend to gravitate to chatterboxes because they do all the heavy conversation lifting and they don’t make you feel awkward.

Two introverts and you can cut the air with the silent panic of neither speaking. There’s nothing comfortable about that I can tell you!

"

I think I'm shy or nervous with some people and with others I feel completely at ease to be myself..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Silenta is golden. My neighbour Keeps say the area is too quiet. Should I host a gangbang to create a bit of noise?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Silenta is golden. My neighbour Keeps say the area is too quiet. Should I host a gangbang to create a bit of noise? "

I feel like this sometimes about my neighbourhood. It's eerie how quiet and still it is at times..

Maybe build up to the gangbang with an alternative tea party first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Silence I'm good with.

The breathing noises, I am not good with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One on one or small groups and i love chatting and drawing shy types out of their shell a bit with lots of open ended chat and banter.

Large groups where it feels competitive and gets louder and louder is when I clam up.

E

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Silence I'm good with.

The breathing noises, I am not good with. "

Silent sex party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Silence I'm good with.

The breathing noises, I am not good with.

Silent sex party "

I'll accept growling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pinning someone down, telling them their pleasure will stop if they utter a single moan or sound. Perfect squirmation silence

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

God no I love silence.

There’s nothing nicer than being quiet with someone.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"I allways feel the need to fill a silence! And I know I'm annoying but still do it! X

It's not always annoying..actually welcome at times.. "

I know I'm annoying though my kids say to me christ sake has no one spoke to u at work today?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

There's nothing better than just being able to enjoy someone's presence without the need for there to be any words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a big talker. Silence doesn't bother me, but I can feel when someone isn't comfortable with my disinclination to fill it. The poor loves.

Nell

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By *iger1980Man
over a year ago

cambridge


"There's nothing better than just being able to enjoy someone's presence without the need for there to be any words "

This. Definitely this.

Not many luxuries in life like space, time and silence, got to enjoy it.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

When you're sitting with a companion, enjoying a drink, chatting and it leads to a pregnant pause that dovetails into a comfortable silence, that's when our senses heighten: you can feel the aura, interpret body language that would otherwise be indistinguishable and, for me in particular, really take in the other person's scent or cologne.

Talking and listening is fine but I equally discern more during those mutually quiescent moments!

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't usually feel the need to fill silence but it can be awkward sometimes.

This morning I was with some friends one of who just kept flaming talking, a combination of nerves and a need to unload I think. I left eventually because I might as well not have been there.

Conversation is about listening as much as talking

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"..silences.

Do you feel the need to talk constantly when in company?

Or do you stfu and relax in companionable silences?

Why does it seem OK to say to someone 'you're quiet' and not OK to say 'can you stop talking please'"
can i fall asleep?

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