FabSwingers.com forum: No new winks, no new fabs.

By *iddlesticks OP Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

Join the no new club.

Although I’m going to show off because I’ve had some messages from lovely people.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

I have once or twice seen screenshots from Fab friends who are women. Mountains of yellow, hundreds of unseen Fabs, winks, etc...it's like a different world. As busy and frantic as a Japanese pinball parlour.

My own Fab experience is far more soothing. A Trappist monk would find it unusually peaceful.

Though, like you, I am lucky enough to get some beautiful messages from beautiful people.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I have once or twice seen screenshots from Fab friends who are women. Mountains of yellow, hundreds of unseen Fabs, winks, etc...it's like a different world. As busy and frantic as a Japanese pinball parlour.

My own Fab experience is far more soothing. A Trappist monk would find it unusually peaceful.

Though, like you, I am lucky enough to get some beautiful messages from beautiful people."

I’d much prefer this. A couple of messages from beautiful people over hundreds of messages from vile humans which I end up bulk deleting and probably miss the beautiful ones. You’re lucky

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I will be honest I have received 2fabs today. Which is very unusual,no winks or messages though

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

The only day I get fabs is Thursday

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By *egoMan
over a year ago

Preston

I’ve had a quiet week, mental the other week though. Three separate meets, in a week. Taking this years total to three….

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

well I am owner and president of teh "Pinky nomates society" and the "Single mans saddo nobodylovesmeeverybodyhatesme group".

I am the only member as noone likes me!

you are all free to join and you dont have to like me to join,

In fact its better if you despise me. you get free entry if you hate me.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

"I’ve had a quiet week, mental the other week though. Three separate meets, in a week. Taking this years total to three…."
Stop bragging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only Fabs I get are covered in hundreds and thousands

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By *egoMan
over a year ago

Preston

"I’ve had a quiet week, mental the other week though. Three separate meets, in a week. Taking this years total to three….Stop bragging "

Sad isn’t it, the amount of no shows, horrible people etc. and good, reliable folks nothing.

I think it was zero last year too. Maybe one.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

My own Fab experience is far more soothing. A Trappist monk would find it unusually peaceful.

Though, like you, I am lucky enough to get some beautiful messages from beautiful people.

I’d much prefer this. A couple of messages from beautiful people over hundreds of messages from vile humans which I end up bulk deleting and probably miss the beautiful ones. You’re lucky

Oh, I wasn't being self-pitying. I think a typical woman's experience on here would drive me mad, and I honestly don't know how you put up with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend to get fabs and winks but rarely get messages for some reason

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

My own Fab experience is far more soothing. A Trappist monk would find it unusually peaceful.

Though, like you, I am lucky enough to get some beautiful messages from beautiful people.

I’d much prefer this. A couple of messages from beautiful people over hundreds of messages from vile humans which I end up bulk deleting and probably miss the beautiful ones. You’re lucky

Oh, I wasn't being self-pitying. I think a typical woman's experience on here would drive me mad, and I honestly don't know how you put up with it."

Ahh I know you weren’t. It is a pain even with filters sky high but it is what it is, no point moaning. Boys will be boys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My own Fab experience is far more soothing. A Trappist monk would find it unusually peaceful.

Though, like you, I am lucky enough to get some beautiful messages from beautiful people.

I’d much prefer this. A couple of messages from beautiful people over hundreds of messages from vile humans which I end up bulk deleting and probably miss the beautiful ones. You’re lucky

I couldnt cope with it if it was mental like that, I love being fabbed, winked and messaged but if it was all consuming I would hate it

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

My own Fab experience is far more soothing. A Trappist monk would find it unusually peaceful.

Though, like you, I am lucky enough to get some beautiful messages from beautiful people.

I’d much prefer this. A couple of messages from beautiful people over hundreds of messages from vile humans which I end up bulk deleting and probably miss the beautiful ones. You’re lucky

Oh, I wasn't being self-pitying. I think a typical woman's experience on here would drive me mad, and I honestly don't know how you put up with it.

Ahh I know you weren’t. It is a pain even with filters sky high but it is what it is, no point moaning. Boys will be boys

x "

And to add to this, is it a man thing. For us women who are looking for women it’s no different than it is for men who are looking for women. Maybe twice a year if that I’ll get a message from a woman

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By *hinstrapMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

I must be president of the no new winks or messages club.

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By *iddlesticks OP Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

My own Fab experience is far more soothing. A Trappist monk would find it unusually peaceful.

Though, like you, I am lucky enough to get some beautiful messages from beautiful people.

I’d much prefer this. A couple of messages from beautiful people over hundreds of messages from vile humans which I end up bulk deleting and probably miss the beautiful ones. You’re lucky

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By *ntman83Man
over a year ago

Walsall

Very rarely get anything so appreciate when I do

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"well I am owner and president of teh "Pinky nomates society" and the "Single mans saddo nobodylovesmeeverybodyhatesme group".

I am the only member as noone likes me!

you are all free to join and you dont have to like me to join,

In fact its better if you despise me. you get free entry if you hate me."

I’d like to take this opportunity to point out that Mr Pink is in fact a genuinely nice bloke with actual social skills and everything, despite these protestations to the contrary.

So I’m barring him from membership of his own Billy No-mates club on the grounds that he’s actually a good guy to have a couple pints with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very rarely get anything so appreciate when I do"

Totally agree

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"well I am owner and president of teh "Pinky nomates society" and the "Single mans saddo nobodylovesmeeverybodyhatesme group".

I am the only member as noone likes me!

you are all free to join and you dont have to like me to join,

In fact its better if you despise me. you get free entry if you hate me.

I’d like to take this opportunity to point out that Mr Pink is in fact a genuinely nice bloke with actual social skills and everything, despite these protestations to the contrary.

So I’m barring him from membership of his own Billy No-mates club on the grounds that he’s actually a good guy to have a couple pints with."

Poor guy. All he had, melted away like tears in rain.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

It's a hard knock life...

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No new winks. But I’m afraid the mrs joined a fab a picture game. So I have those. You’re more than welcome to share them with me.

The mr

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Poor guy. All he had, melted away like tears in rain."

Tough love, my Elephantine friend. I’m harsh but I’m fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had few nice fabs today off some women

Had two winks which is unusual for Sunday

No messages though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Join the no new club.

Although I’m going to show off because I’ve had some messages from lovely people.

Shameless ploy for attention xx

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By *iddlesticks OP Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"Join the no new club.

Although I’m going to show off because I’ve had some messages from lovely people.

Shameless ploy for attention xx"

Damn you foiled my plan. Hello by the way

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Three months since I last got a message, four months since I last got a wink, and no idea how long it’s been since my last Fab.

Two people viewed my profile yesterday though, so that’s quite exciting!

I really do think it’s a case of the grass being greener on the other side. Men can’t appreciate the absolute deluge of shit women face, and women rarely understand just how grinding prolonged lack of interest can be.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I go through these quiet periods where everyone I’ve been talking to privately has graduated to WhatsApp or something instead. So that keeps pinging instead of me getting that yellow message box on Fab. It’s a little more … insistent, shall we say.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Join the no new club.

Although I’m going to show off because I’ve had some messages from lovely people.

I have no new fabs because I have turned them off - it stops me fretting about whether I get them, how many, which pics etc.

When I get a wink I always look at the profile to see if I’m interested, but it’s rare that I am. So getting no winks is really not a thing for me.

This year I have had some wonderful messages from some wonderful people. They’re pretty much all from forumites and I like that. It means I’m interacting with people in whose lives and thoughts I’m interested.

I’ve pretty much ceased all proactive searching and messaging. I’ve found my equilibrium on Fab and I’m very happy. It can be an unsettling place until one finds that (I believe).

It’s been months since my last fab meet, but I’ve stopped using that as a metric for success.

I shan’t be joining the ‘no new’ club, Fiddles. But I wish you all the best in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just the way I like it

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By *aggonerMan
over a year ago

for a penny

I’ve had a few fabs though I don’t know who from.

I followed up the only wink I’ve had from a lady who said she wanted to chat but I get no more that two word answers to my messages.

Forum games are good though.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I average less than one message a month and often go 2 or 3 months without a single message.

I can't remember the last time I've had double figure fabs on a new pic. The vast majority get 4 or 5 at most so luckily I don't post them for fabs.

I have a very small circle of fab friends, probably less than 10, and half of those have never once fabbed any of my pics.

I'm not particularly prolific on the forums and therefore not well known.

I've mentioned before about experimenting on a fabathon thread once where I fabbed and winked every single woman and couple on the thread that filters allowed and didn't get one fab or wink in return which proved that many people join those threads with no intention of actually taking part and just want to be on the receiving end.

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts

Can't say I envy the deluge the woman face, just a few nice geniune MSG's or fabs would be nice.

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