FabSwingers.com forum: What has defined you

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To be the person today...what drives you, moulded you into the person you are.

Mine is a long tale of betrayal, lies, injustice and untrust.

But what about you?

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

The bloody minded determination to be who I want to be, not what anyone else deems I should be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defiance, stupidity and a lifetime of dealing with human nature

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Life and common sense.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

An absolute shit show of a life, terrible childhood and a lot of motivation to do things differently.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Independence and a take no shit attitude.

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

"An absolute shit show of a life, terrible childhood and a lot of motivation to do things differently.

Mrs "

Snap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For too long I let the wrong things define me:

Career

Shame

Fear

Finances

Only relatively recently have I learned to redefine me in terms that are more positive. Its a work in progress, but the journey is interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"An absolute shit show of a life, terrible childhood and a lot of motivation to do things differently.

Mrs "

This unfortunately.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Having to be an adult when still a child and always being the strong protective and supportive one in the room.

Then despising all that before realising I could do it on my own terms.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"To be the person today...what drives you, moulded you into the person you are.

Mine is a long tale of betrayal, lies, injustice and untrust.

But what about you?"

Coming through meningitis at 4 being deaf because of it and learning to walk again. Getting through years of bullying and more has turned me into a fighter that takes no crap from anyone

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Life

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

My experiences and expanding knowledge.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Life experiences

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"To be the person today...what drives you, moulded you into the person you are.

Mine is a long tale of betrayal, lies, injustice and untrust.

But what about you?"

Very little in the way of identifiable occurrences/behaviours. Just life, I suppose.

I wish I had been given an autism assessment as a child, but even without one I can now identify traits and adjust.

Probably a lack of female influence at home. If I’d had a long term partner living with me I would probably be a very different person.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't think one thing has defined me

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

I define myself by being who I want to be and acting as I want to act despite attempted outside influences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting up and fighting back every time I've been knocked down. Never give up and that's the single biggest message I've instilled in my kids.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Everyday was a learning curve and that was before a relationship then learnt something else which I didn't want to

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"To be the person today...what drives you, moulded you into the person you are.

Mine is a long tale of betrayal, lies, injustice and untrust.

But what about you?"
God........ Praise be the lord

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

Mostly a lot of accidents

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Parents and up bringing (plus I am pig headed and hate injustice)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A hard life, having to do things by myself and not relying on others, gave me high levels of resilience, focus and achievement. Clean living and living everyday to the full and enjoying life. No issues or regrets.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

There's no single event or experience

I wouldn't give something or someone that amount of hold over me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyday, every person you meet and every experience changes you and shapes who you are in the current day. Growth is an important part of life and the only way to survive is to adapt.

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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago

your wildest dreams,

"Having to be an adult when still a child and always being the strong protective and supportive one in the room.

Then despising all that before realising I could do it on my own terms."

Exactly this, couldn’t have put it any other way

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

vision

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"But what about you?"

Winging it, mostly. With a huge amount of support and love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of hurt,pain & I find it hard to trust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I worked (work) very hard not to how I was brought up.

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By *im RoyleCouple
over a year ago

chester

A shit childhood! Ruined

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sheer determination, a few questionable decisions and lots of winging it

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

All of my life experiences as a whole, beginning with parents who gave tough love, but taught me independence and tenacity by allowing me to make my own mistakes, but making sure that I owned the consequences and learnt from them. Later in life, refusing to let negative experiences and people make my cynical and jaded, to appreciate the small things and look for the silver lining in every cloud.

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By * Le ShhhhhMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

What has defined me and shaped me to grow is my main focus….. my best friend, my rock, my saviour!!….

My wife!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All of my life experiences as a whole, beginning with parents who gave tough love, but taught me independence and tenacity by allowing me to make my own mistakes, but making sure that I owned the consequences and learnt from them. Later in life, refusing to let negative experiences and people make my cynical and jaded, to appreciate the small things and look for the silver lining in every cloud. "

Love this

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

I had what i thought was a wonderful childhood but guess it wasn't so wonderful, i have formed my life as it is now, very little influence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many years of trying to live up to others expectations and believing other people's opinion of me and my life.

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

Having a prosthetic eye and getting billed all through school for it, I won't take no shit of anyone now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything that’s good and bad has made me the best version I am today.

But I’d say the biggest is a childhood where I blame someone else, and my adulthood where I’ve only myself to blame.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Gloriously happy marriage, understanding, acceptance, and above all LOVE

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My family and my choices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life ... the ups and downs, the sad bits and the glorious bits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anger.

If I’m angry I have drive and my drive changes things.

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By *bonybucksMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

My mum dying defind me. No more abuse or being put down or made to feel ashamed of not doing this, not doing that. Life is too short to take sh*t from people who don’t value you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anger.

If I’m angry I have drive and my drive changes things. "

This is very much me. I'm at my best when I'm pissed off.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Turn my dreams in reality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For not following the social media tends or media bullshit and for living in a real world and not trusting anyone that say I be your friend whilst holding the set of knifes ready for your back.

Being confident in myself and cocky with it and not let people judge me or run me down

Yes I’m ugly yes I’m not tall 6ft hunk but I’m true to myself and this is me don’t like it fuck off simple rule to go by

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By *elinda BeaverCouple
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"What has defined me and shaped me to grow is my main focus….. my best friend, my rock, my saviour!!….

My wife!!

My life experiences and Him....

Without you being by my side every step of the way, I wouldn't be who I am today.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having to be an adult when still a child and always being the strong protective and supportive one in the room.

Then despising all that before realising I could do it on my own terms."

Pretty much this

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Having my son just before my 16th birthday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The environment I was bought up in, the people that I surround myself with and past experiences.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

"What has defined me and shaped me to grow is my main focus….. my best friend, my rock, my saviour!!….

My wife!!

My life experiences and Him....

Without you being by my side every step of the way, I wouldn't be who I am today.

You two are too cute

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By *929Man
over a year ago

newcastle

My dad taught me pretty much everything worth knowing, he gave me a job when I left school taught me a trade and how to earn a living for myself but more importantly how to act and was someone I could turn to with any problem and wishing 10 minutes of talking to him you would feel everything was great. I’d be completely different person without my dad Wish I’d had him here the last 18 months or so

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Probably the responsibility of having kids, for a long time it drove my decisions more than personal ambition and still does to a degree but less so now

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By *ixed MisterMan
over a year ago

London

Sadly pain and loss has moulded me a lot through the years and taught me many useful things as well, but the main thing is the core values that my parents and nan drilled into me as a youngester.

The combination of the 2 has got me to a place where I'm quite proud of who I have become as a man today.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Life is the decisions we make in the situations we find ourselves.

Some little French dude with a lazy eye said that.

I define myself. Sometimes others try but I was done with that a long time ago.

Love, loss, joy, suffering. Take your chance and roll the dice or hide behind a rock till it all goes away.

Learn from the past but don't let it define you. That's probably how I see it.

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

"For not following the social media tends or media bullshit and for living in a real world and not trusting anyone that say I be your friend whilst holding the set of knifes ready for your back.

Being confident in myself and cocky with it and not let people judge me or run me down

Yes I’m ugly yes I’m not tall 6ft hunk but I’m true to myself and this is me don’t like it fuck off simple rule to go by "

Being 50 its easy to buck the social media trends ...19 a little less so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kindness, compassion, love and the willingness to pass it forward, unless I'm at work then you're all cunts

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

A since of duty honesty and family together with life of experiences and the love of women .

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Sence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is complex and thats what makes them who they are.

My experiences of early life/childhood, relationships whether family,friendships or of the romantic sort have impacted my life. How I've come to terms and accept all, defines me.

Despite all my hardships, I'd still find time to sit and listen to someone when its needed, provide practical or financial help when I've been able to. Do whatever I can to help if I'm able to, despite it very rarely being offered to me. I like to make a difference no matter how insignificant it is to me, may be opposite for someone else. That kindness has been abused however.

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