FabSwingers.com forum: Married/attached

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I can totally understand why many people rule out engaging with married or attached men, but some people say they actually like it when the guy is attached ... If love to understand more about what's behind that if anyone can tell me

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's unlikely to become a pest in the way single guys can

Some people get a kick from thinking they're getting one-up on someone - the oblivious partner

It makes them feel like they're doing something daring and risky

Just some thoughts

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people may have seen such behaviour patterns in adults as a child and are simply replicating them

Others may have previously been cheated on by a partner and now take some kind of perverse pleasure in helping others do the same

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Other people's property, st*len bikes ride faster etc.

Probably.. dunno, depends on if they're into attached folk (with permission) or attached folk (don't ask questions), I guess.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Other people's property, st*len bikes ride faster etc.

Probably.. dunno, depends on if they're into attached folk (with permission) or attached folk (don't ask questions), I guess."

"St*Len bikes ride faster" . Love that

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you - great insight xx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I like it. Borrowing hothusbands is a kink of mine. Sending him home for her to smell and lick me off him in reclaim sex is hot

I'm not bi, but she is, so it's a healthy compromise between the three of us

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like it. Borrowing hothusbands is a kink of mine. Sending him home for her to smell and lick me off him in reclaim sex is hot

I'm not bi, but she is, so it's a healthy compromise between the three of us

Fantastic

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aveonMan
over a year ago

Dartford

Thing I hear most often is that there is less follow on hassle meeting attached people

Often harder to arrange a meet as they can’t easily always get away from the partner for fun, but they are out for fun and nothing else, and don’t want any follow on hassle

To me this makes most sense overall, easy going fun, not after a relationship or hassle afterwards

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thing I hear most often is that there is less follow on hassle meeting attached people

Often harder to arrange a meet as they can’t easily always get away from the partner for fun, but they are out for fun and nothing else, and don’t want any follow on hassle

To me this makes most sense overall, easy going fun, not after a relationship or hassle afterwards "

Yea I can see that. Makes sense

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

However many people don't like it and it can be tough here for guys

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"However many people don't like it and it can be tough here for guys

"Tough" .... That's an understatement hey?!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"However many people don't like it and it can be tough here for guys

"Tough" .... That's an understatement hey?!"

You just have to accept it

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"However many people don't like it and it can be tough here for guys

Great profile, enjoyed reading it and I hereby claim my haribo. You ought to do ok!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aveonMan
over a year ago

Dartford

"However many people don't like it and it can be tough here for guys

This is also true

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As an attached man, for the ladies and couples I have met their simple outlook to this that they know what I am looking for and have no hidden agendas plus I am going to be discrete and not in invade thier privacy.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Yes I've had this experience. And yes it was with my partner's awareness, before I am crucified.

My former boss, very career driven woman, dedicated to her passions. Didn't want casual sex, wanted intimacy but found single guys would get too attached and it would eventually annoy her.

Married guy was perfect for her needs. Got intimacy without having to worry about managing relationship complications.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I’m always surprised how many women who say they won’t meet married men or cheaters end up asking to meet me. They all have their own different reasons, but it sure does happen a lot.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

"I’m always surprised how many women who say they won’t meet married men or cheaters end up asking to meet me. They all have their own different reasons, but it sure does happen a lot."

Its hard to maintain principles when you're a cock hungry whore

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I’m always surprised how many women who say they won’t meet married men or cheaters end up asking to meet me. They all have their own different reasons, but it sure does happen a lot.

Its hard to maintain principles when you're a cock hungry whore

This

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ust a little bit moreWoman
over a year ago

kendal

They're less likely to become an annoying needy pain in the ass!

And Thier need for discretion is high, so they're hardly likely to be talking about what they are doing with others!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I’m always surprised how many women who say they won’t meet married men or cheaters end up asking to meet me. They all have their own different reasons, but it sure does happen a lot.

Its hard to maintain principles when you're a cock hungry whore

You called?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ildmanYorksMan
over a year ago

Doncaster & Bembridge

"I’m always surprised how many women who say they won’t meet married men or cheaters end up asking to meet me. They all have their own different reasons, but it sure does happen a lot.

Its hard to maintain principles when you're a cock hungry whore

Mmmm, hello!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I like the turn this thread has taken …

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *onkeyandBonesCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

We are happy to meet a married/attached man, afterall we are not here to judge someones personal circumstances.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People's circumstances are their own and I am not judgemental, I would meet/have met married and attached and it can be a beneficial arrangement for all because often you're on the same page

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Power I'd say. The idea that although he's married and made vows never to have sex with someone else they're so irresistible that he's prepared to risk it?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

[Removed by poster at 15/04/23 10:06:19]

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

"I’m always surprised how many women who say they won’t meet married men or cheaters end up asking to meet me. They all have their own different reasons, but it sure does happen a lot.

Its hard to maintain principles when you're a cock hungry whore

Thats just it, its women (or men), without principles meeting women (or men) without principles

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I can totally understand why many people rule out engaging with married or attached men, but some people say they actually like it when the guy is attached ... If love to understand more about what's behind that if anyone can tell me "

In my experience op I’ve found the married ones to be more respectful and nicer overall. They’re not usually looking for a relationship which suits me fine and they’re more likely to only want to meet one person which also suits me. I don’t look for them and wouldn’t meet someone who is just “doing it for the thrill”. It’s always depended on the circumstances. As I said though this is just my experience, I can’t speak for others.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a child of parents with multiple affairs. Infact I knew off and was bullied into keeping quite for one parent.

I don't condone cheating, at all. I don't understand it, and I won't be part of hurting someone else.

If the relationship is open and everyone is aware then yes I am happy to engage with partnered people.

The type of play I like requires trust, if he is lying to the woman he plays house with. He will lie to me.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like the turn this thread has taken …

Yes indeed - cock hungry whore has appeared!!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Power I'd say. The idea that although he's married and made vows never to have sex with someone else they're so irresistible that he's prepared to risk it?"

This is good - quite a sexy thought too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you - I like your understanding of this xxx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am a child of parents with multiple affairs. Infact I knew off and was bullied into keeping quite for one parent.

I don't condone cheating, at all. I don't understand it, and I won't be part of hurting someone else.

If the relationship is open and everyone is aware then yes I am happy to engage with partnered people.

The type of play I like requires trust, if he is lying to the woman he plays house with. He will lie to me. "

This is correct answer, one would think. That's what got me thinking about the different reactions to the situation.

Than you xx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I like my partners to have other partners. It gives me some security that they're not going to try to overtake my whole life and that I don't have to be anyone's everything.

Previously I avoided married people like the plague, but one of my current partners there was just too much chemistry to ignore, and with the full enthusiastic consent of his wife I very much enjoy the relationship we have.

I don't want anything to do with people who lie and go behind the backs of the people they supposedly care about though.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Power I'd say. The idea that although he's married and made vows never to have sex with someone else they're so irresistible that he's prepared to risk it?

This is good - quite a sexy thought too "

I worked with a woman who found this power trip quite sexy. She used to phone the men's wives afterwards too. In the way that natural justice often works her husband had multiple affairs once she got married.

I just think that people should do what they need to get through life but lessen the impact on others as much as possible

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"Power I'd say. The idea that although he's married and made vows never to have sex with someone else they're so irresistible that he's prepared to risk it?

This is good - quite a sexy thought too

I just think that people should do what they need to get through life but lessen the impact on others as much as possible "

Gosh that brought back old memories. We had a married boss that did that power trip to the younger lads in the warehouse, she'd pick and choose who she would have for lunch. The lads loved it though and used to discuss, what they got up to, with everyone else in the warehouse

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"However many people don't like it and it can be tough here for guys

"Tough" .... That's an understatement hey?!"
well it was but some do ok

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

I have permission to play and am looking for couples to hook up with (although my profile does include single women). This is because I've told my wife I'm not looking for 'another woman' in our relationship, rather a couple to be friends with where I'm not seen as a threat to their marriage and they aren't seen as a threat to mine. My wife seems quite comfortable with that, just need to make it happen...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm M/A it's for me an escape from reality to meet up with or just chat to people in the same boat or the same mindset

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Of the people we’ve been lucky enough to share our sexual relationships with so far we haven’t really noticed significant differences between genuinely single or attached.

We certainly don’t seek to have either for those specific reasons, it’s all about the individual.

If we get the right feeling about a person their relationship status is unimportant.

Having said that, the married men/women do in general seem to be more considerate lovers.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm M/A it's for me an escape from reality to meet up with or just chat to people in the same boat or the same mindset "

Same for me but we are seen as the spawn of Satan by certain people on here.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Of the people we’ve been lucky enough to share our sexual relationships with so far we haven’t really noticed significant differences between genuinely single or attached.

We certainly don’t seek to have either for those specific reasons, it’s all about the individual.

If we get the right feeling about a person their relationship status is unimportant.

Having said that, the married men/women do in general seem to be more considerate lovers."

This is a lovely insight too - thanks

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uperFabMan
over a year ago

near

Im attached, and will always say this at the start of chatting, I did meet a lady on an old profile, she didnt mind because being discreet was important, and someone attached wouldnt go chatting about this.

Besides, everyone has reasons for being on here.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread