FabSwingers.com forum: can you love someone

By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

In a none loving way lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you mean as in a best mate kind of way without physical stuff -

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Yes I think so. I tell my best mate I love her all the time but not in a relationship/sex etc kind of way x

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"you mean as in a best mate kind of way without physical stuff - "

yes but with the physical stuff as well lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

guess so - but then the boundary might get a tad blurred

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you mean as in a best mate kind of way without physical stuff -

yes but with the physical stuff as well lol"

No. I honestly believe that Best Friends + Sex is the formula for finding yourself in a relationship before you know it.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I think you can love someone and have sex with them but not feel romantically in love with them. I think we end up using words like "fond" in order to avoid using the "l" word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I think you can. I don't do romantic love (long story many reasons) but I love my bestie lots and we have been known on a few occasions to have a little bit of naughty fun. Its a different kind of love and I don't equate feelings to sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer care deeply about someone more than love x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course you can. Love is an emotion that you feel for anybody that makes you feel like you need them in your life. Love has nothing to do with sex. I love my mum, my sister and my dog but I wouldn't sleep with them. Every girl I've ever loved and had a sexual relationship with is no longer around. But every friend or relation that I love still is.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"you mean as in a best mate kind of way without physical stuff -

yes but with the physical stuff as well lol"

I suppose so - never really thought about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would people say that there is a divisable line between someones partner and their best friend?

Am the only soppy git that believes that your partner is also the person with whom you would share that bond the closest?

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

yes i think you can,i care very much for a person i used to meet,but i wasnt in love with them

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

"yes i think you can,i care very much for a person i used to meet,but i wasnt in love with them "
and i love my ex Husband but im not in love with him,if that makes sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also how often - writing this without a lot of thought as dashing out in a min - if it was a very occasional occurance then its possible - if regular then id say its more than it may seem -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ancient greeks had 4 words for love, describing different kinds of love, i think they were pretty clever!

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well i just told someone i loved them in a none loving way and i think they understood what i ment

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

well there are different kinds of love

love for your children

love for your parents

love for your friends

so why not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In a none loving way lol"

as friends yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there is a difference in 'loving' someone and being 'in love' with them.

Ya know German really is an easier language

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there is a difference in 'loving' someone and being 'in love' with them.

Ya know German really is an easier language

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once the L word comes up your on a slippery slope if you don't want to go there its best avoided.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would people say that there is a divisable line between someones partner and their best friend?

Am the only soppy git that believes that your partner is also the person with whom you would share that bond the closest?

I agree with you, my other half is my best friend

I wouldn't be where I am or who I am without him, I tell him everything and I know he does with me xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that yes you can love someone without or with intimacy, it is a bond that forms over time and can't be replaced, someone you know inside out...

Hence so many marriages fail imo

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

yes, I love Rupert Penry Jones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And to add to that, they are a soul mate, nothing more and nothing less.

You want them in your life, but can be comfortable and yourself around them, love though is a complex word...and means different things to everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In a none loving way lol"
..Yes in the same way we love our friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Once the L word comes up your on a slippery slope if you don't want to go there its best avoided."

Sometimes it can't be helped and peoples emotions get involved no matter how hard they try to fight it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In a none loving way lol"

Yes, you can... I have recently lost my best friend and it has killed me inside ... I am still not sure what to think or how to feel .... As they were only a friend, but I know right now my world is upside down, and I know deep down I loved as I would a brother....

xxx

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i love you all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well there are different kinds of love

love for your children

love for your parents

love for your friends

so why not"

Yep, would agree with that.

Personally, I think the 'l' word is much misunderstood, along with the 'r' word.

So there's love.....and love.....and love......and then there's also a loving relationship!

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

You can say ' I love you' or ' I'm in love' with you. Two different phrases with two different meanings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is love?

Declaration of feelings

A reason to fight for a relationship

A reason to end a relationship

A state of mind

Or something else

I have no idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In a none loving way lol"

Sure! Nuns do it with Jesus all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

theres a difference between loving someone and being inlove with someone, i love many people im inlove with noone

I think you can love someone your close to and physical without being inlove with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first ever fb we started spending alot of time together this is going back 4half years ago and we ended it as I started developing feelings we remained friends and I love him now as a friend last year we played and the sex was fantastic every bit if him knew every bit if me and hey he remembered l the best buttons I still love him as a friend and the dynamics of the friendship have remained unchanged

On the other hand I totally love my other male friend in a way that befits a family member again we started out as fb now however the thought of going there is so unbelievably wrong on every level were so close he feels like a brother

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

"Is love?

Declaration of feelings

A reason to fight for a relationship

A reason to end a relationship

A state of mind

Or something else

I have no idea"

I think can be any of the above!!

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