FabSwingers.com forum: Visiting a club

By *wlsxxx OP Man
over a year ago

rotherham

Hi just after a little bit of input as not sure what to do. My wife passed away and i want tk now start enjoying life again. So thought as i was on here id think of going to one of the swingers clubs but not sure if i could go into one alone. Now i know and understand alot dont want single men to meet on here but is this the same in these clubs. Would i stand out as id alone. Also would i be better visiting one before and talking to the owner. Lots of questions or do you thinki should stay clear..thanks if you can help

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

I'm sorry for your loss OP.

It's definitely less intimidating to go at a quiet time, have a look around and get a feel for the layout. It's a bit like going into any bar or nightclub where you don't know anyone. If you wouldn't be good at starting to chat to people there, then you will probably feel uncomfortable in a swingers club too.

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By *wlsxxx OP Man
over a year ago

rotherham

Thankyou I've still not found time to venture to one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

HI, I'm sorry for your loss.

I lost my wife in 2015 and that was just the beginning of a downward spiral for me.

Fast forward to 2019 and I met my current best (sex) friend (Sexy BBW Bi Woman). She isn't interested in clubs (or at least clubs close to home). So I can't sign up with her as a couple. I am in the same situation as you.. not all clubs want to take on more single male members (apparently).

As previously suggested - I "too" would like to visit at a quieter time - because firing up the conversation isn't the easiest thing for me to do.

Good luck with everything in the future - I hope things start to pick up for you!

I'm also happy to chat too!

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Being someone who has/does go to clubs alone I think there are a some factors to consider. Speaking to the owners, doing your research and getting a feel for a place first is important.

First of all no clubs are the same. Not just in terms of format and style but in terms of vibe and the crowd that attends. Also it can depend on what night you go.

What are you wanting out of the club experience? To me personally clubs are more than just a sex venue. There a great place to meet people, catch up with freinds, find company, have a few laughs, drink, relax and maybe use the spa facilities (if they have them). Again some clubs are more social than others and your personal aims be suited to some clubs over others. Personally I like a relaxed, sociable, dress down club and find the rest sorts it's self out naturally.

Clubs can be a challenging place for a single male. Which is daunting. However a lot of what makes them challenging (or not) is you, your expectations and how you conduct yourself. There are always those guys in a club that don't seem to be having a good time and those that just seem to rock it. Holding a smile, being a gentleman and sociable is always a great start.

I don't think there is a way to tell if clubs are or are not for you without going. You just really can't tell. My advice would be do your research, find a place that looks good to you and try it. Hopefully you'll love it. If not I'd definitely suggest trying again. Maybe a different club or night. No club nights are the same.

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