FabSwingers.com forum: At What point

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Does enough become enough? When the Accusations become enough despite there being no proof, just what she suspects is the truth?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who's she?

What are the accusations?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Need a whole lot more context and information to make an informed and reasonable answer to that.

So many little details that can sway what the answer may actually be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Does enough become enough? When the Accusations become enough despite there being no proof, just what she suspects is the truth?"

The wife accusing me of Cheating on her by watching porn or chatting to Women...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does enough become enough? When the Accusations become enough despite there being no proof, just what she suspects is the truth?

The wife accusing me of Cheating on her by watching porn or chatting to Women..."

Well, you are on here actively looking to meet. She may have a point...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Does enough become enough? When the Accusations become enough despite there being no proof, just what she suspects is the truth?

The wife accusing me of Cheating on her by watching porn or chatting to Women...

Well, you are on here actively looking to meet. She may have a point..."

somehow I expected that to come up.. but am I actually actively looking? All im doing is having a good ole perv and labour through the Forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ermmmm are you actually asking this question on fab while actively looking on here to cheat

I'm siding with wifey

Mrs C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does enough become enough? When the Accusations become enough despite there being no proof, just what she suspects is the truth?

The wife accusing me of Cheating on her by watching porn or chatting to Women...

Well, you are on here actively looking to meet. She may have a point...

somehow I expected that to come up.. but am I actually actively looking? All im doing is having a good ole perv and labour through the Forums."

Behind your wife’s back….

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

If you’re on here without the wife knowing, you’re cheating.

Take some accountability.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

It's for you to set your boundaries in a relationship.

If you aren't willing to compromise then tell her that clearly so she can make a decision.

Otherwise you will have perpetual conflict.

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Oh man, it’s time to have a proper adult conversation with your wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does enough become enough? When the Accusations become enough despite there being no proof, just what she suspects is the truth?

The wife accusing me of Cheating on her by watching porn or chatting to Women...

Well, you are on here actively looking to meet. She may have a point...

somehow I expected that to come up.. but am I actually actively looking? All im doing is having a good ole perv and labour through the Forums."

Yes.i saw your bio before you changed it and you were clearly looking to meet.

If you wanna cheat, then cheat, that's your choice.

But lying and making out it's all in their head is just plain cruel.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Probably your wife feels you're hiding things from her, when you don't know exactly what's going on your mind tends to fill in the gaps.

Have a chat with her. Show her fab, reassure her of your intentions, genuinely, don't fudge it and try to have an open conversation.

Good luck

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Yes.i saw your bio before you changed it and you were clearly looking to meet.

If you wanna cheat, then cheat, that's your choice.

But lying and making out it's all in their head is just plain cruel. "

No time for gaslighting narcissists grrrr.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"Does enough become enough? When the Accusations become enough despite there being no proof, just what she suspects is the truth?

The wife accusing me of Cheating on her by watching porn or chatting to Women...

Well, you are on here actively looking to meet. She may have a point...

somehow I expected that to come up.. but am I actually actively looking? All im doing is having a good ole perv and labour through the Forums.

Yes.i saw your bio before you changed it and you were clearly looking to meet.

If you wanna cheat, then cheat, that's your choice.

But lying and making out it's all in their head is just plain cruel. "

Yeah dude if you are doing that it's called gaslighting and it's not a cool thing to do to anyone let alone someone you care about.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Does enough become enough? When the Accusations become enough despite there being no proof, just what she suspects is the truth?"
whats happened you haven't mentioned the crux

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does enough become enough? When the Accusations become enough despite there being no proof, just what she suspects is the truth?

The wife accusing me of Cheating on her by watching porn or chatting to Women...

Well, you are on here actively looking to meet. She may have a point...

somehow I expected that to come up.. but am I actually actively looking? All im doing is having a good ole perv and labour through the Forums.

Yes.i saw your bio before you changed it and you were clearly looking to meet.

If you wanna cheat, then cheat, that's your choice.

But lying and making out it's all in their head is just plain cruel. "

Ohhhh lalaaaaa

BUSTED

Nice one

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Does enough become enough? When the Accusations become enough despite there being no proof, just what she suspects is the truth?

The wife accusing me of Cheating on her by watching porn or chatting to Women...

Well, you are on here actively looking to meet. She may have a point...

somehow I expected that to come up.. but am I actually actively looking? All im doing is having a good ole perv and labour through the Forums."
yes but just doing that is viewed as cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can try and defend it all you like. You are on a swinging site end of.

Your saying your just talking to people, where is the line though? Your conversations are purely platonic then and you have no thought of meeting at all.

Even if you are just talking why come on a swinging site to do it. There are other ways to make platonic relationships if that's what your seeking.

It's never a physical act it's the lieing and the deceit that kills people more.

I'm not judging your choice to be here, lots of people have there reasons but you asked a question about her accusing you of cheating when is it enough.

Maybe you don't class it as cheating she obviously does or at least has a hige issue wuth it. Everyone has different opinions on what is and what isn't. If they do not marry up then that is a big issue.

How would you feel if you found out she was doing the same?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"Does enough become enough? When the Accusations become enough despite there being no proof, just what she suspects is the truth?

The wife accusing me of Cheating on her by watching porn or chatting to Women...

Well, you are on here actively looking to meet. She may have a point...

somehow I expected that to come up.. but am I actually actively looking? All im doing is having a good ole perv and labour through the Forums.

Yes.i saw your bio before you changed it and you were clearly looking to meet.

If you wanna cheat, then cheat, that's your choice.

But lying and making out it's all in their head is just plain cruel. "

I didn't see the profile, so can't comment either way on that.

But I agree, pretty much with what most have said. Be open and honest, she clearly has good reason to suspect such things - she is valid in her feelings about it regardless of if she is wrong in your intentions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do not gaslight her into thinking it's all in her head. I've had it done to me and it's absolutely soul destroying. I actually thought I was loosing my mind.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Talk to her. About why she feels like she does. Not to make her stop. To find out why she feels this way.

She must really be hurting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know how it looks but I have never made it an issue, and she is welcome to do her own perusing, and I've commented that she can also do so. She is her own person.

Since when did talking and looking at pictures become cheating?

I suppose it all boils down to the individuals definition of Cheating doesn't it?

I don't see it as 'cheating' chatting and looking a pictures.

Where as a number of others see it as otherwise.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"Do not gaslight her into thinking it's all in her head. I've had it done to me and it's absolutely soul destroying. I actually thought I was loosing my mind. "

This

I've had it too it's awful would rather Take a beating.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

I think you chances of meeting have vanished. Loads will be pressing the block button on you now.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Does enough become enough? When the Accusations become enough despite there being no proof, just what she suspects is the truth?

The wife accusing me of Cheating on her by watching porn or chatting to Women..."

She's got a point you've been here over a year, don't like the accusations don't give cause for them.

Unless of course your open and she knows about your profile, if your lying you've given cause for it.

Mrs

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
over a year ago

Beverley

You seem like a bit of a dickhead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And like that, he was gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And he left.

That went well

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"I know how it looks but I have never made it an issue, and she is welcome to do her own perusing, and I've commented that she can also do so. She is her own person.

Since when did talking and looking at pictures become cheating?

I suppose it all boils down to the individuals definition of Cheating doesn't it?

I don't see it as 'cheating' chatting and looking a pictures.

Where as a number of others see it as otherwise."

It does in one sense but if your partner has a different perspective of cheating to you then you have an issue.

So either work that out with her or tell her you aren't budging. Simples.

Doesn't matter what anyone else thinks the boundaries of cheating are because they aren't in a relationship with you.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I know how it looks but I have never made it an issue, and she is welcome to do her own perusing, and I've commented that she can also do so. She is her own person.

Since when did talking and looking at pictures become cheating?

I suppose it all boils down to the individuals definition of Cheating doesn't it?

I don't see it as 'cheating' chatting and looking a pictures.

Where as a number of others see it as otherwise."

I didn't see the profile others are saying you've changed

I do know some would regard what you're describing on this thread as cheating.

I also hear, in your description of your wife, someone who feels wounded. I feel for her.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes.i saw your bio before you changed it and you were clearly looking to meet.

If you wanna cheat, then cheat, that's your choice.

But lying and making out it's all in their head is just plain cruel.

No time for gaslighting narcissists grrrr."

Exactly this, looking elsewhere but blaming the wife for accusing him of what he's actually doing

Gaslighting isn't cool, leave her and let her find someone decent.

Mrs

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

And he has deleted his account. Some hate the truth i guess.

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

Another one falls on his sword

But thanks for helping lower the ratio

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

One less numpty to block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

asshole sandwich with a side of gaslighting please

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Kmt I was gearing up for a debate then.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I never understand why cheats get so defensive on here,when thats exactly what they're either doing or looking to do.

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"asshole sandwich with a side of gaslighting please

Ha ha perfect!

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

Awww unlos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

awww i missed the fun

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"awww i missed the fun"
he's creating a new profile or already has one

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"Awww unlos

Am I correct in thinking UNLOS = User No Longer On Site?

If so, am I now in the forum cool kids club?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Awww unlos

Am I correct in thinking UNLOS = User No Longer On Site?

If so, am I now in the forum cool kids club?

This finally makes sense!

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"I never understand why cheats get so defensive on here,when thats exactly what they're either doing or looking to do."

He fell out of the boat and into de nile

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Awww unlos

Am I correct in thinking UNLOS = User No Longer On Site?

If so, am I now in the forum cool kids club?

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lol

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By *andC1000Couple
over a year ago

Ashford

Yes.i saw your bio before you changed it and you were clearly looking to meet.

If you wanna cheat, then cheat, that's your choice.

But lying and making out it's all in their head is just plain cruel.

No time for gaslighting narcissists grrrr.

Exactly this, looking elsewhere but blaming the wife for accusing him of what he's actually doing

Gaslighting isn't cool, leave her and let her find someone decent.

Mrs "

Exactly this. Cruel and selfish. If on here there shouldn’t be any reason to hide anything. You may not necessarily need to do everything together but just keeping each other in the loop should be given in any relationship for both physical and mental well being for both parties.

The minute someone starts behaving suspiciously doubts will more than likely be correct. If your constantly attached to your phone, turning it off, turning away when using it hiding the screen, turning off locations, deleting messages, coming home with stained pants, constantly defensive at any little question chances are she’s right and probably deserves better and someone who respects her.

Probably no bad thing he’s now decided to leave the site, no doubt will be back under a different name or set up on fabguys instead

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