FabSwingers.com forum: Your place or mine?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I can accom, I'm single and live alone, but I've noticed recently that profiles I've talked to that also say they can accom expect any meet to be at mine.

Do people automatically expect the other person to be the accomodater? It doesn't bother me that much but it is a niggle, two profiles in the past week saying the to meet at my place and making an excuse why they can't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a hotel.

Staying in a nice hotel is half the reason I meet guys FFS, I don't want someone's dodgy bed linen. I want clean and crisp!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer hotels too.

Neutral ground and there's just something better about hotel sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I usually accommodate but I prefer that. I will go to someone else's house once I feel more comfortable. Usually after a few meets.

The people that I have met, have been pretty flexible and left the decision upto me.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I prefer hotels, we can't accommodate because of the little ones but I'd rather a hotel then someone else's house.

Mrs

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

"Always a hotel.

Staying in a nice hotel is half the reason I meet guys FFS, I don't want someone's dodgy bed linen. I want clean and crisp!

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And you never get a pillow mint at someones house. I might offer you a slice of toast and a glass of water, just because I'm romantic like that.

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By *urve_your_enthusiasmWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

"Always a hotel.

Staying in a nice hotel is half the reason I meet guys FFS, I don't want someone's dodgy bed linen. I want clean and crisp!

Or find out what they have under the bed. Like knives. #truestory

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Seems hotels might be a future option, I get the cleanliness thing, I've been to at least one other persons place where I felt the need to put rubber gloves on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always offer a hotel, but both my past fwb wanted to meet at their houses. Suits me..

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I can accom, I'm single and live alone, but I've noticed recently that profiles I've talked to that also say they can accom expect any meet to be at mine.

If you can and are happy to accommodate then I'm confused as to why it's an issue?

No travel, all you need to do is a quick vacuum and tidy up, make sure there's nothing that would put anyone off (crusty socks by the bed, unflushed loos, weeks old cat litter trays) and you're good to go.

And if they don't show up for whatever reason you're not left hanging around outside someone's house or a hotel, you've wasted time, fuel and money getting there and the bonus is you've a tidy house/flat too! Winner!!

If we could accommodate we'd be meeting more regularly but we can't. So we have the joys of travel and club entry fees to look forward to when meeting.

Make the most of being able to host as so many people in your position can't/won't. It puts you in a more favourable position when others are looking for company.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always a hotel.

Staying in a nice hotel is half the reason I meet guys FFS, I don't want someone's dodgy bed linen. I want clean and crisp!

And you never get a pillow mint at someones house. I might offer you a slice of toast and a glass of water, just because I'm romantic like that."

I hope you don't eat that toast in bed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Always a hotel.

Staying in a nice hotel is half the reason I meet guys FFS, I don't want someone's dodgy bed linen. I want clean and crisp!

And you never get a pillow mint at someones house. I might offer you a slice of toast and a glass of water, just because I'm romantic like that."

Alexa add mints to shopping list...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can accom, I'm single and live alone, but I've noticed recently that profiles I've talked to that also say they can accom expect any meet to be at mine.

If you can and are happy to accommodate then I'm confused as to why it's an issue?

Not an issue, a niggle. You would think being able to accom would be a bonus, but it's not that big a bonus. Be nice to get the message "cone over to mine".

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

To be honest I prefer a neutral venue.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Definitely hotels

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By *otmyrealname99Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Neutral venues ftw. Maybe accommodate later for the right person but not straight away

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By *ommyTighMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It may not be an excuse re them not accommodating but more that they can accommodate- sometimes! And those times may vary.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"Seems hotels might be a future option, I get the cleanliness thing, I've been to at least one other persons place where I felt the need to put rubber gloves on. "

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

"Always a hotel.

Staying in a nice hotel is half the reason I meet guys FFS, I don't want someone's dodgy bed linen. I want clean and crisp!

Hotels or clubs for me. Too many weird people on here that gave creepy behaviour both women and men .

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By *ove2pleaseseukMan
over a year ago

Hastings

"Always a hotel.

Staying in a nice hotel is half the reason I meet guys FFS, I don't want someone's dodgy bed linen. I want clean and crisp!

I like hotel as well just leave the wet patch behind your not spurting in my bed

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By *aptain VMan
over a year ago

Birstall, Leicester

I prefer any where relaxed....

Hotels are good neutral locations but nothing better then home comforts

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

It depends, hotels or club meets just safer and easier to a point, then only a stronger connection gets invite to my home...

...a lot of communication has had to happen before going to a guy's place as well

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

"It depends, hotels or club meets just safer and easier to a point, then only a stronger connection gets invite to my home...

...a lot of communication has had to happen before going to a guy's place as well

See I just simply don’t want strangers in my personal

Home. That’s for friends / family / partners

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

I don't accom as I had couple of things taken

Was years ago now though

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Hotel for me, neutral ground,

At least until you can say you know the person,

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

"I don't accom as I had couple of things taken

Was years ago now though "

Yeah thieving happens I had that before as well and two weird stalkers one a possessive guy and the other a crazy woman

Lesson learned don’t accommodate strangers

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

"I don't accom as I had couple of things taken

Was years ago now though

Yeah thieving happens I had that before as well and two weird stalkers one a possessive guy and the other a crazy woman

Lesson learned don’t accommodate strangers

Complete setup. Was kept busy while it happened.

You live and learn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always a hotel.

Staying in a nice hotel is half the reason I meet guys FFS, I don't want someone's dodgy bed linen. I want clean and crisp!

Somebody mentioned crisp

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon

Or actually in a rship but don't want people to think that so always suggest yours. Have seen this before too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm heartily fed up of people asking me "do you accom?" when it's clear in my profile that I don't. And when I reply "no, but your profile says you do", they always have some excuse.

People are the problem.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I think some profiles put can accomodate,but actually can't.

In the past ive had this ,i could accom & they said they could,yet they pushed to come to mine.Or a lomg lost relative would suddenly turn up to visit just before we due to meet.

It increases their chances if people think they accom.

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By *uzySuzyCouple
over a year ago

Lytham St Annes

Good hotels can be v nice to enjoy private no rush hook ups

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Do like a nice hotel but prefer to spend quality time together at home regularly .and weekends away love a cottage for weekend or a week .

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Wherever they prefer.

I do appreciate if someone is comfortable inviting me to their home though.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I don’t accommodate (I live with my mum and my kids) so if it were to be regular shenanigans then they would have to accommodate or we’d have to go half on a hotel.

Hotel meets I could only afford once a month cos I’m not Rockefeller.

Depends on individual circumstances I guess, which can be tricky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OI dont get meets so its not a dilema i have to deal with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t expect others to be able to accommodate.

However I’ve had other couples get shitty because we won’t.

I have said , i don’t know why you think it’s ok to think I’m bringing strangers into my house or bedroom whilst I’ve got young and older kids in my house.

Some have said they don’t know why that’s a problem ffs

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By *hiversMan
over a year ago

Dinas Powys

"Hotel for me, neutral ground,

At least until you can say you know the person, "

This, first meet normally a hotel unless we've at least had a social first.

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