FabSwingers.com forum: Could you

By *hrista Bellend OP Woman
over a year ago

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Sexually and Emotionally share a partner with others

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Yes. Though depending on the partner, no. If I have the feels, I know I'll struggle to share. Even if sharing makes them happy, I'd attempt to but I know eventually it wouldn't work.

Always a case of never say never but the odds are stacked against this one, always a chance...

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Sexually and Emotionally share a partner with others"
not a partner that i loved...... So no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No probably not.

If I was in a committed relationship and we loved each other I'd want to be the only one.

I realise how hypocritical that is.

I admire couples with such strong relationships to share each other but I would feel far too vulnerable..I'd overthink. I'd get jealous and every insecurity I have would become even bigger .

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Of course

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Sexually? Sure. Have at it. I mean millions of partners, no. Not at all. We wouldn't be compatible with how we do things.

Emotionally? Yes. But... and this is something I've been talking about just last night, it was a difficult conversation. As long as I'm not made to feel like I no longer matter. Like they'd rather spend time with others. Like I'm not worth basic respect.

I don't have the ability to give more than three people that emotional deep bandwidth but different dynamics can fulfill me still.

I'm happy for other's happy but not if it starts dimming my light repeatedly. And my friends are bored of me crying over thoughtlessness. That's when I step away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexually, I demand it.

Emotionally, I don't do emotions so they can have all these.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"Yes. Though depending on the partner, no. If I have the feels, I know I'll struggle to share. Even if sharing makes them happy, I'd attempt to but I know eventually it wouldn't work.

Always a case of never say never but the odds are stacked against this one, always a chance... "

Just to add to this, I'd love to say I could. Seeing the strength of bond and connection of some couples in here that are beyond dedicated to each other but also so very open about sharing, that is something special.

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By *pentoall555Man
over a year ago

benfleet

Don’t think I can

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

Sexually, yes.

Emotionally, no.

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By *pentoall555Man
over a year ago

benfleet

Don’t do emotions?

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By *ilverfox for youMan
over a year ago

Hull

sexually yes, emotionally no,we all have our needs . but as we all know sex is just sex to a man

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Yes, but only in certain ways that apply equally to both of us. I wouldn't be comfortable with her just going out and seeing guys (not that she wants to), but we've had sex with other people next to each other and it's been very enjoyable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I already do

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By *eliciousDiva69Woman
over a year ago

Schitts Creek

"Sexually and Emotionally share a partner with others"

Yes, because I believe it’s possible to love more than one person at a time. D x

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Sexually for sure

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Sexually, yes.

Emotionally, yes. (Isn't that what friends are)?

Both together, no

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

No.

I would be a nightmare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexually yes

Emotionally no

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Sexually, yes.

Emotionally, yes. (Isn't that what friends are)?

Both together, no"

Same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sexually and Emotionally share a partner with others"

Honestly No I dont think I could

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

"Sexually and Emotionally share a partner with others"

sexually, sure, it's hot

emotionally, not quite so much, spark and compatibility matter but thats as far as it goes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexually yes.

Emotionally, I'm not sure. It's hard not to get invested into people especially in a fwb arrangement but there needs to be boundaries somewhere. There's certain things I'd only lean on my partner for and I'd want him to do the same with me.

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By *elboy1957Man
over a year ago

Weston-super-Mare

Lot of guys on here saying no, but are looking for couples??

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By *aggonerMan
over a year ago

for a penny

Sexually, yes

Emotionally, if it’s their partner, yes.

This assumes the sharing is equal and open.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Lot of guys on here saying no, but are looking for couples??"

A lot of singles men and women wouldn't swing with a partner.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Yes both.

If we had that quality of relationship. All the mushy shit I always bang on about.

I get loads of compersion from sharing it's awesome sauce.

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By *aggonerMan
over a year ago

for a penny

"Sexually, yes.

Emotionally, yes. (Isn't that what friends are)?

Both together, no"

What do you mean by both together?

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

Have done sexually. Never again.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Sexually, yes.

Emotionally, yes. (Isn't that what friends are)?

Both together, no

What do you mean by both together? "

I'm not interested in my partner being sexually and emotionally involved with someone else and I wouldn't want that for myself either.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Never having done it in a long-term relationship capacity I guess I can't really say.

Physically I don't think I would have a problem as lot as there was a lot of communication.

Emotionally I'm not sure about really. I suppose it would depend on what sort of capacity it was in.

No relationship is ever the same so I think it all comes down to the connection and how safe I feel with them

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By *ancpl05Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend

Absolutely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexually, yes definitely. Ideally I'd like to be in a stag/vixen dynamic.

Emotionally, I think so. But as Meli said, I'd want to remain important and special to my partner. And vice versa.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Sexually definitely, emotionally definitely not.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Yes. Absolutely happily.

So long as I'm safe and secure in how they feel about me and my place in their lives, I outright prefer my partners to have other partners

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Yup

LvM

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Sexually and Emotionally share a partner with others"

I believe so, but have never had the opportunity to find out. As others have said, I’d struggle if i suddenly felt disregarded. And I suspect some of my insecurities may come racing to the surface.

But, I would like to find a fwb on fab with whom I could start a couples profile. I appreciate that is far easier said than done but, under those circumstances, I’d have to share and find out how i feel.

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By *hiversMan
over a year ago

Dinas Powys

"Yes. Absolutely happily.

So long as I'm safe and secure in how they feel about me and my place in their lives, I outright prefer my partners to have other partners

This. As long as everyone is on the same page it can work.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I honestly don't think so sexually or emotionally doubt I'd even be here but I am single exploring something that I'm not sure I would otherwise

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Sexually, yes definitely. Ideally I'd like to be in a stag/vixen dynamic.

Emotionally, I think so. But as Meli said, I'd want to remain important and special to my partner. And vice versa."

A stag/vixen dynamic sounds really hot! It's something I'd like to explore. I'm just not vixen material.

There's a lot to be said for feeling important/special and that remaining. I think if you want successful poly relationships, you need to ensure that happens.

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"Sexually yes

Emotionally no

This.

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

Talk about things.

Anything is possible but what if it looks like you'll lose if you don't let them have what they want?

If I was put in that situation I'd let them go. But that's just me I'm sure your different x

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

Sexually - yes I could share or be shared

Emotional - if in a relationship with them, then no I couldn't. Friends/fb/fwb then yes I can and do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexually - yes

Emotionally - no, I don’t think I could. Not beyond just a friendship.

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

NG 21

"Sexually and Emotionally share a partner with others"

Sexualy, no problem at all

Emotionally, no way. As soon as emotions come into things it's time to stop.

Touch wood it never has

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Don't do emotions with partners but sexually for sure x

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Yes it feels quite normal to and reduces the pressure from having to be their everything.

I’ve never done it with a live in partner, but can’t see why I would have an issue as long as she respected our space / hone. I have with other mens live in partners and it really is the ideal poly setup to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexually more than emotionally I think maybe. But then I get all emotional if I know about their sexual so maybe not no

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

It depends on the partner, and our relationship.

I’ve been in swinging relationships and non-swinging ones. They’re different. I think I would struggle to turn one into the other. My hat is off to those who manage that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sexually, yes definitely. Ideally I'd like to be in a stag/vixen dynamic.

Emotionally, I think so. But as Meli said, I'd want to remain important and special to my partner. And vice versa.

A stag/vixen dynamic sounds really hot! It's something I'd like to explore. I'm just not vixen material.

There's a lot to be said for feeling important/special and that remaining. I think if you want successful poly relationships, you need to ensure that happens."

Why're you not vixen material?

Most of the "options" for dating I see are with men who already have a primary partner or are in an open relationship. My experience tells me that wouldn't be enough for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sexually and Emotionally share a partner with others"

What do you mean by sharing emotionally?

Do you mean emotionally you're OK with sharing them?

Or that your ok with them feeling emotional about someone else?!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

Yeah I couldn't

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Sexually, yes definitely. Ideally I'd like to be in a stag/vixen dynamic.

Emotionally, I think so. But as Meli said, I'd want to remain important and special to my partner. And vice versa.

A stag/vixen dynamic sounds really hot! It's something I'd like to explore. I'm just not vixen material.

There's a lot to be said for feeling important/special and that remaining. I think if you want successful poly relationships, you need to ensure that happens.

Why're you not vixen material?

Most of the "options" for dating I see are with men who already have a primary partner or are in an open relationship. My experience tells me that wouldn't be enough for me. "

Ah because I'm not a vixen to put it simply. There's a particular image it conjures in my mind and I'm far from that. Happy but also, not a vixen.

I think dating someone who is already in a relationship must be difficult. Especially if you know you need/want more. There's definitely an increase in men in poly dynamics isn't there?

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

"It depends on the partner, and our relationship.

I’ve been in swinging relationships and non-swinging ones. They’re different. I think I would struggle to turn one into the other. My hat is off to those who manage that."

simple answer, given the right circumstances, Yes.

but there had to be 3way communication and respect all round.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sexually, yes definitely. Ideally I'd like to be in a stag/vixen dynamic.

Emotionally, I think so. But as Meli said, I'd want to remain important and special to my partner. And vice versa.

A stag/vixen dynamic sounds really hot! It's something I'd like to explore. I'm just not vixen material.

There's a lot to be said for feeling important/special and that remaining. I think if you want successful poly relationships, you need to ensure that happens.

Why're you not vixen material?

Most of the "options" for dating I see are with men who already have a primary partner or are in an open relationship. My experience tells me that wouldn't be enough for me.

Ah because I'm not a vixen to put it simply. There's a particular image it conjures in my mind and I'm far from that. Happy but also, not a vixen.

I think dating someone who is already in a relationship must be difficult. Especially if you know you need/want more. There's definitely an increase in men in poly dynamics isn't there? "

I don't have a particular image in my head.I don't know I am vixen material either. I know a couple on F-Life who have that dynamic and it appeals hugely! I don't know if I believe that many guys are really poly on apps like Feeld. Few of them link to their partner and I have my suspicions!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexually yes.

Emotionally? Ah, But sex involves emotions anyway.

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By *ergeantrecklessMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Don't think so, to share sexually is to allow your partner to fulfill potential fantasies as it would for yourself but to share emotionally I think would be crossing a line.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"Sexually, yes.

Emotionally, yes. (Isn't that what friends are)?

Both together, no"
this.. I couldn't have an intimate relationship with someone I have feelings for and share their feelings as well. But sexually.. not an issue x

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

Id have to experience it and be able to rationalise that it was something that someone I care deeply about wants to experience… or needs…the physical side - is easy its what we do here all the time .. I’d have to see I guess

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By *quirtyndirty!Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Sexually yes. Emotionally no.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yes to both

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

" Ah, But sex involves emotions anyway.

Does it? ...says who?

... only if you pin emotions to the activity surely?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Sexually yes.

Emotionally? Ah, But sex involves emotions anyway.

Not for me it doesn't! X

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

I’m not really sure, emotionally I’m going to say no. I fall deep when I’m in love. Sexually more likely as I’m a believer in exploring sexuality. And I’ve always wanted to do that with someone.

It’s a grey area I guess and the stars really have to align for both of you.

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By *inks_apeyCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

" Ah, But sex involves emotions anyway.

Does it? ...says who?

... only if you pin emotions to the activity surely?

I agree... sex to me is void of emotion fun times yes but not tugging on the old heart strings as such. Now making love is a different matter.

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By *inks_apeyCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Should actually answer the question too for me sexually yes emotionally no. Obviously from a relationship prospective that is, FWB would be different. Kinks xx

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By *hrista Bellend OP Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"Sexually yes.

Emotionally? Ah, But sex involves emotions anyway.

Romantic emotions Woody. Knowing that another man loves your partner as much as you do and that she loves him as much as she does you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Ah, But sex involves emotions anyway.

Does it? ...says who?

... only if you pin emotions to the activity surely?

I agree... sex to me is void of emotion fun times yes but not tugging on the old heart strings as such. Now making love is a different matter.

Kinks

I do didn’t say tugging in heart strings.

Emotionless sex doesn’t grab my attention. Fun and laughter is an emotion. Desire is an emotion. Lust..,etc.

anyone tells me they have sex without emotions and I picture someone who closes their eyes and waits for it to be over. *just my opinion.

Maybe I word things simply when I say sex involves emotions.

But I keep reading sex is just sex. What does that mean?

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Nope to both for me. That just ain’t how I roll.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sexually yes.

Emotionally? Ah, But sex involves emotions anyway.

Romantic emotions Woody. Knowing that another man loves your partner as much as you do and that she loves him as much as she does you

Ah, romance. Yes sure, if she wanted to be wined and dined and treated like a desired lady.

But if your talking about love! That’s something altogether different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could share sexually yes.

Emotionally upto a point yes, I have Emotional connections with a lot of people and i believe you can love more than one person at a time but I don't know if I would like a poly arrangement I think as long as it didn't overshadow my relationship with them then yes.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

There’s a Venn diagram somewhere with three circles labelled ‘sex’, ‘romance’ and ‘love’. I could place everyone I’ve ever had sex with in one or two of those circles. I could probably count on the fingers of one hand the people I’d place bang in the middle, fulfilling all three.

Erm. I guess what I’m saying is that I see sex, romance and love as separate things with fuzzy boundaries.

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By *ycanNightsMan
over a year ago

Workington

Yes to both.

Probably if you asked me this 15 years ago ...I'd have said no the emotionally part.

But long as you are secure in your relationship / dynamic and still treating each other like they are a priority. And both happy with the situation....why not

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By *hrista Bellend OP Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"Sexually yes.

Emotionally? Ah, But sex involves emotions anyway.

Romantic emotions Woody. Knowing that another man loves your partner as much as you do and that she loves him as much as she does you

Ah, romance. Yes sure, if she wanted to be wined and dined and treated like a desired lady.

But if your talking about love! That’s something altogether different. "

Yep love Woody. Knowing that she has loving feelings for someone else and he has them for her. But you trust that when she tells you that she loves you, she means it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can share my FB sexually and Emotionally with a guy. But with a woman I struggle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexually yes

Emotionally no.

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