FabSwingers.com forum: Validation

By *hrista Bellend OP Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Do you trust other peoples validation of others, or do you like to make your own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather make my own decision

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Do you trust other peoples validation of others, or do you like to make your own

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verifications no I'd rather find out for myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have our own experiences of people so I prefer to take people at face value.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I like to make my own decisions.

However, I'm not going to pretend I'm not aware of what other people have said before that point or that it could colour my perceptions along the way.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I prefer to make my own mind up

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

Depends how much I know and trust the person and their opinion.

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

we paint images of ourselves for others to believe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make my own decisions.

I take most of what I see on here with a great, big pinch of salt

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Validation?

Erm. I'd rather take people as they are. My experiences of them could be wildly different from another's - I think people respond to others differently, there's our confirmation bias so certain traits are highlighted more and others overlooked.

So I might find someone an absolute joy, another might find that same person saccharine and dull.

I'll listen to a few very close friends. I'll still form my own opinions.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Do you trust other peoples validation of others, or do you like to make your own

Some.

Depends on the person of course. There are those whose opinions I value and those I couldn't give a flying fuck about.

Everyone has an opinion about someone and it can be based on everything from a pure, honest viewpoint to one that's determined by a specific agenda. Sometimes people opinions of others seem to change with rhe wind depending on who's asking for said opinion. There's a lot of two faced bitchy people out there in the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s like hearing a film is shit. And then you catch it on dvd and it’s actually pretty good in your opinion. You then wonder why you listen to reviews and you could have enjoyed it in the 90s.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Internal locus of evaluation for the win.

Also a select few people who take the time to fully get to know me and whose judgment I consider sound.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

As soon as someone says something looks good on me I know it looks terrible and it'll probably never be worn wear it again - or used for mucking around.

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By *omeoplaysMan
over a year ago

London / Hertfordshire

Always best to make your own decisions. Message and speak to them see how they are. You can always tell a fake from a mile away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I read someone writing a graphic novel, I’ve already made my mind up.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'll take some people's opinions into account, but verify with my own observations.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I always like to make my own mimd up ,sometimes peoples reasons for disliking someone are petty .

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By *eliciousDiva69Woman
over a year ago

Schitts Creek

"Do you trust other peoples validation of others, or do you like to make your own

No because I think we are different depending on who we are with and the energy they give you, so would rather form my own views.

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

If I trust the person telling me/know them well then I will take on board what they tell me about someone else.

Especially, if I've not met them yet in person to make my own mind up.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I'll listen to others opinions but ultimately it's my own validations that matters.

Mrs

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

I prefer to make my own decisions

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

Here’s an example of trusting someone else’s opinion, just to counter the general vibe of the thread.

A good friend of mine from here asked me to meet her and a friend with benefits for a threesome. Now, I don’t know the guy from Adam. Never met him, never heard of him. But I trust my friend completely. And I was comfortable trusting her judgement - and her taste in partners. So I said yes.

I guess that’s a bit deeper than just trusting what you read in a verification …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I much prefer to make my own decision

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

I take as I find.

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By *UFSWoman
over a year ago

belfast

My only stipulation on verifications is that they have at least two from different people,saying they are genuine,I will make my own mind up after that

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"If I trust the person telling me/know them well then I will take on board what they tell me about someone else.

Especially, if I've not met them yet in person to make my own mind up. "

Yeah. Exactly that.

A while ago you told me the OP of this very thread is a one of the Good Ones™. I trust you, so that’s good enough for me.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Interesting one. I think we all take on others' opinions to a greater or lesser extent. It's whether you trust your own judgement, and of the person offering the opinion, which will make the biggest difference surely?

Mrs TMN x

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I never rely on other people's opinions.

In the little world of fab validation is like oxygen for some amd and I don't feed that.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Judge people as i find! Someone may dislike someone, But others may like them that's life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always make your own mind up. I often use the trip advisor analogy. Even the ‘best’ hotels in the world will get mostly glowing reviews but a few one star reviews because someone didn’t like the way the toilet flushed or the shower head was at the wrong angle.

So take other people’s opinions with a pinch of proverbial salt and ‘suck it and see’ for yourself (pun fully intended).

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

"If I trust the person telling me/know them well then I will take on board what they tell me about someone else.

Especially, if I've not met them yet in person to make my own mind up.

Yeah. Exactly that.

A while ago you told me the OP of this very thread is a one of the Good Ones™. I trust you, so that’s good enough for me.

The OP is an absolute Diamond that's why, everyone should meet her!

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By *eliciousDiva69Woman
over a year ago

Schitts Creek

"If I trust the person telling me/know them well then I will take on board what they tell me about someone else.

Especially, if I've not met them yet in person to make my own mind up.

Yeah. Exactly that.

A while ago you told me the OP of this very thread is a one of the Good Ones™. I trust you, so that’s good enough for me.

The OP is an absolute Diamond that's why, everyone should meet her! "

Never a truer word spoken boo!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I always make my own mind up.

I trust my own judgement over a stranger's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe the arse lickers are always right.

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By *hrista Bellend OP Woman
over a year ago

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"Interesting one. I think we all take on others' opinions to a greater or lesser extent. It's whether you trust your own judgement, and of the person offering the opinion, which will make the biggest difference surely?

Mrs TMN x"

You are right Mrs TMN x I had the wool pulled over my eyes recently and I guess I am questioning my own judgement of people and the positive opinions others had of them. Its hard to get off the distrust roundabout

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I base my judgements on what I see over what I hear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to make my own. I will listen to trusted people's experiences and keep them in mind but I still like to work someone out for myself.

Pxx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I trust my closest friends but generally I judge on my own interaction with the person

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock

Only as a reference, then I take everyone as how I find them, how that are with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d rather make my own mind up on people

Mrs

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By *aulliverpoolMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I find that people who are fully verified here can still be timewasters

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

We always stick with wait until they are stood there in front if us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always make my own decisions.

When did you ever see a veri that reads;

'I met X, who was late and I almost didn't recognise her/him as the photo on fab must have been taken 20 years ago. No conversation, dull as ditchwater and actually smelled a bit funny. Wouldn't touch with yours'

This was my first veri.....

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Yes but only the people who have more than two vowels in their first names.

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