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Have you ever felt used on a meet?

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By *he love cats OP   Couple
over a year ago

South Wales

Have you ever gone on a meet and felt used by others? Were they just using you to fulfill their fantasies and they didn't seem to care about you with your own feelings and needs.

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

Yes that's what a fuck and go is, but we are using each other to scratch an itch

I save feelings for fwb's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, because for me, any sex outside of a committed relationship is casual.

Even guys I speak to for months, it's still just sex at the end of the day.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Not on a meet where we've had sex. On socials I get a feel for the people who don't see me as an individual and we don't take things further.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

All the time, it's absolutely terrible to get nothing but sex and orgasms

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Several of my early meets I got a distinct impression from the host/hosts of "we've cum now, so fuck off home, not interested in whether you've finished". These days I'd rather not meet than meet up with anyone who just wants to use me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. We make it clear we’re not interested in a connection or anything other than sex.

Are we the users?

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By *escourtesMan
over a year ago

hereford

if your just meeting for sex, its really just like people who meet to play tennis, isnt it?

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Yes

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yeah, it happens. I've learned to vet better

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've only ever had one spur of the moment meet in all my time here.

We had only chatted the day before and I was on my way somewhere the next morning when I got a message asking me to call to her hotel room because she was horny.

It wasn't out of my way so I decided to try something completely different that I'd never done before.

Less than 20 mins after going to her room she got a call from her friends in the next room inviting her for breakfast.

She was naked and satisfied and I had remained fully dressed throughout.

I was back in my car 30 mins after leaving it and didn't feel used at the time and didn't have any regrets.

She messaged that night to thank me and then blocked me which could have been for any number of reasons but at that point I did think I had been used.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I'm cool with that.

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By *he love cats OP   Couple
over a year ago

South Wales


"No. We make it clear we’re not interested in a connection or anything other than sex.

Are we the users? "

We have only met couples up until now so the dynamics are similar, but we are now thinking of meeting singles too and wanted to see how they felt about the situation, the last thing we would want them to feel is used by us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll tell you if I ever get a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. We make it clear we’re not interested in a connection or anything other than sex.

Are we the users?

We have only met couples up until now so the dynamics are similar, but we are now thinking of meeting singles too and wanted to see how they felt about the situation, the last thing we would want them to feel is used by us."

We make it clear very early on and if they’re uncomfortable with that then we wouldn’t meet.

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Use me away to your hearts content

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have, more than once.

Whilst I guess we are all using each other for sex in some way, I like to think it should be enjoyed by both parties.

I've had meets where I've switched off and just let the guy get on with what he wanted, then left.

Last time I felt like that I put stop to meet and left. Needless to say I didn't get a veri off that guy haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a previous profile there was a lady who used to come to mine in the way home from friends about 10 pm once a week, she would arrive make herself a flask of coffee for the drive home and give me a balls deep blowjob and then leave, there was a transaction of coffee for blowjob, god I miss those nights :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People use us for our cracking humour

F

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People use us for our cracking humour

F"

Let me know when the humour starts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People use us for our cracking humour

F

Let me know when the humour starts "

It'll start as soon as you walk through the door

F

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Not really no is a two way st my sister knows I'm here! Most family do ! She said once men are only after 1 thing! I said yes so am I lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People use us for our cracking humour

F

Let me know when the humour starts

It'll start as soon as you walk through the door

F"

Are you a lot more funny looking in real life?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. We make it clear we’re not interested in a connection or anything other than sex.

Are we the users?

We have only met couples up until now so the dynamics are similar, but we are now thinking of meeting singles too and wanted to see how they felt about the situation, the last thing we would want them to feel is used by us."

Just make sure to communicate your desires to the single person, as long as they know in advance then it's all good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People use us for our cracking humour

F

Let me know when the humour starts

It'll start as soon as you walk through the door

F

Are you a lot more funny looking in real life? "

We are. Our face pictures on here are heavily edited

F

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People use us for our cracking humour

F

Let me know when the humour starts

It'll start as soon as you walk through the door

F

Are you a lot more funny looking in real life?

We are. Our face pictures on here are heavily edited

F"

If I’m honest I only looked at the vulva pics.

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By *unx2019Couple
over a year ago

Moray

Hate to say it but think we just used guys on first few meets, sorry guys

These days get guys more involved with what they want as much as we want. Usually plenty of discussion before meet then fun in the bedroom. Also learnt not to pressure anyone either, if things happen they happen but if not then plenty of other fun to have

Lxx

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We certainly know we could be (or more specifically Hannah could be, because most guys have no interest in me) but we have been able to avoid that sort of situation so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Abso fucking lutely

I'm on here to try and find FWBs and this means doing the "friends" bit too and building a rapport between meets.

I've had a couple of people promise me a fabulous time doing a mix of play and socialising but once they had came it was like "bye Michaela, see you"

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By *he love cats OP   Couple
over a year ago

South Wales


"Abso fucking lutely

I'm on here to try and find FWBs and this means doing the "friends" bit too and building a rapport between meets.

I've had a couple of people promise me a fabulous time doing a mix of play and socialising but once they had came it was like "bye Michaela, see you" "

So sorry to hear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People use us for our cracking humour

F

Let me know when the humour starts

It'll start as soon as you walk through the door

F

Are you a lot more funny looking in real life?

We are. Our face pictures on here are heavily edited

F

If I’m honest I only looked at the vulva pics."

You need to learn your anatomy, they were my testicles

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By *amantha TSWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

I've been used plenty of times in the past for people wanting to tick a box. Nowadays I'm more selective with meets, means a lot less play but I'd rather have quality over quantity thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People use us for our cracking humour

F

Let me know when the humour starts

It'll start as soon as you walk through the door

F

Are you a lot more funny looking in real life?

We are. Our face pictures on here are heavily edited

F

If I’m honest I only looked at the vulva pics.

You need to learn your anatomy, they were my testicles "

Picture tip: Don’t tuck them between your legs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been used plenty of times in the past for people wanting to tick a box. Nowadays I'm more selective with meets, means a lot less play but I'd rather have quality over quantity thanks x"

Exactly this, I'm not here for them to tick a box, plenty will and that's good for the, then I get the old story of "you haven't met in ages" well that's because 1 I'm a single guy and 2 I'm not a box tick.

I'm cool with it though

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Nope never and not expecting it

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I’ve had meets where I felt used. Only there to scratch an itch for the woman or couple concerned.

It’s always been pretty clear from the start that’s what was happening though. And I’ve gone along with it of my own free will.

It’s not something I’m interested in any more.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Yes ,years ago. When i first met .

I always chat a good while & meet only socially first now.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

No but, I live in hope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only once, it was with a woman of African disposition, she was very attractive and well spoken, we met after exchanging a flurry of messages and flirts...now, I never go into any meet with expectations but I also don't go into a meet expecting to asked if I could lend £100 either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. When they drop the ‘I’m a nice guy’ act the second sex begins and start re-enacting porn like a moron.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I get that it's just about sex, but I like to ensure my partner has as good a time as I do. If I have a partner who doesn't give a damn for my pleasure and is just using me as a sentient flashlight that's when I tend to feel used.

It's only happened once on here, so I'm more discerning now about the people I meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I don't think I have. There were a couple of unsatisfactory meets when I first joined, before I figured out what I actually needed, but I didn't feel used. We were both there for sex and that's what we both got.

Nell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People use us for our cracking humour

F

Let me know when the humour starts

It'll start as soon as you walk through the door

F

Are you a lot more funny looking in real life?

We are. Our face pictures on here are heavily edited

F

If I’m honest I only looked at the vulva pics.

You need to learn your anatomy, they were my testicles

Picture tip: Don’t tuck them between your legs."

So how many times have you wanked over my balls?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"No. We make it clear we’re not interested in a connection or anything other than sex.

Are we the users?

We have only met couples up until now so the dynamics are similar, but we are now thinking of meeting singles too and wanted to see how they felt about the situation, the last thing we would want them to feel is used by us."

I think most are aware that it's mutual fun and as long as everyone is left satisfied then it's a good meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever gone on a meet ……"

Good question!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not by the meet, but by the husband who put me there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes especially in the early days now it seems less so

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South

Yes, usually when they fall asleep after they cum.

It sort of felt like “let yourself out and don’t let the door hit you on the way out” situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Giving someone an orgasm during a massage then they feel guilt ridden because they suddenly remembered they are married

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Yes I have and it wasn't a nice feeling.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Once in a club a guy wanted me to wank him off with my stocking feet. Did the deed he went red and scuttled off whilst I put my heels back on. No big deal I was in a club and I was a little bit tipsy.

I’ve never had the issue as I generally only go with admirers or couples in which we agree in advance what we will get up to. So far I’ve not been used.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually never.

I've always just had a great time and hopefully they did too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever gone on a meet and felt used by others? Were they just using you to fulfill their fantasies and they didn't seem to care about you with your own feelings and needs."

I met a MF couple over a year ago who were looking for someone who matched my description near perfectly. I messaged and we agreed that I would meet them at a set time.

I turned up early and waited 40 minutes past the set time because they weren't ready. I was on their main road, but not near their main gates because I wasn't allowed to park too close. I had travelled far otherwise I would have left after 15 minutes.

The whole thing was filmed m, faces included, but I never got a copy that. Never got a verification back after leaving them one.

I know young guys have a reputation so I did my best to break that stereotype but I felt strange after that

I no longer make people a priority if they only treat you like an option. Haven't met a couple since.

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By *amantha TSWoman
over a year ago

Swindon


"I no longer make people a priority if they only treat you like an option."

I get the occassional "We've been let down, fancy coming over?" message. That's when you know it's pointless and you're just there for their needs. I want to be the first option (and ideally only option for that evening), not a fallback!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once, many years ago, yes.

It was a couple (both married but not to each other) and I distinctly got the impression that they met up with me so they'd have somewhere to fuck

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

When I've been using them as well. One nighters and clubs. Not wanting anything more than just the shag at the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately yes. I met a woman and we had a great time, then I met her as part of a couple (with her real life partner) and her entire personality changed, not in a good way. She was quite rude and said you're our toy, you're the extra part and you're here for us. Wasn't a fan..

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By *lubchuckerMan
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

Yeah but only the once but they won't get the chance again even thought they keep wanting a repeat.

Its not happening

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

Yes we are all here to meet and have sex (hopefully) but I think even on short meets (or longer) people can make you feel used ...

It's the actions, tone of voice that can make all the difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. We make it clear we’re not interested in a connection or anything other than sex.

Are we the users? "

No because you've made it clear. Using someone, in my experience, means promising or overselling someone something, and then not delivering what was promised once they're satisfied.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Had quite a few meets that left me feeling used and dirty, thats why I am more selective with who I meet now.

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By *N4funCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

We had a second meet and arranged to go bowling and a meal to start the evening off. We ended up stung for the bowling and the meal. Then they left Fab only to rejoin a bit later with a similar name

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By *ittle Miss BipolarWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

Christ, I've felt used in chat. Spunk n go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People use us for our cracking humour

F

Let me know when the humour starts

It'll start as soon as you walk through the door

F

Are you a lot more funny looking in real life?

We are. Our face pictures on here are heavily edited

F

If I’m honest I only looked at the vulva pics.

You need to learn your anatomy, they were my testicles

Picture tip: Don’t tuck them between your legs.

So how many times have you wanked over my balls? "

No comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I have felt used, and one, not so long ago

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By *anted by NightMan
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"Yeah, it happens. I've learned to vet better "

This

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By *bwlady123Woman
over a year ago

private

Yep met a few guys who was just focused on their pleasure not both of ours. All chat about how much they will do to be then ends up quick fuck and they are gone.

Don’t let that happen anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, a couple of times but I've got a thick skin now

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By *omtom21100Man
over a year ago

Fareham/Portchester

Yes, one meet, I just felt used and nothing more than a gap filler at the end….. it was great

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By *inkyfun2013Couple
over a year ago

lewisham

I quite fancy being used. Mr K.

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Yup, many times. But I've also used people similarly many times.

That scene doesn't really float my boat any more, the last one just left me shaking my head at myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only just joined Fab, but I've met men before who promised a great deal but once they'd got what they wanted, we were done. So yeah, I felt used.

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By *leasure Hunter400Man
over a year ago

Bucks

Yep - and I love it. If she’s happy then I’m happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only just joined Fab, but I've met men before who promised a great deal but once they'd got what they wanted, we were done. So yeah, I felt used. "

Didn't you get what you wanted tho?

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

I used to get used a lot all due to my massive willy not anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only just joined Fab, but I've met men before who promised a great deal but once they'd got what they wanted, we were done. So yeah, I felt used.

Didn't you get what you wanted tho?"

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only just joined Fab, but I've met men before who promised a great deal but once they'd got what they wanted, we were done. So yeah, I felt used.

Didn't you get what you wanted tho?

Nope"

Not even remotely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only just joined Fab, but I've met men before who promised a great deal but once they'd got what they wanted, we were done. So yeah, I felt used.

Didn't you get what you wanted tho?

Nope

Not even remotely?"

Unfortunately not. I guess I picked badly.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

A few times. When it’s just a shag it’s not so bad, but feeling used by someone who I should have meant more to, really hurts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only just joined Fab, but I've met men before who promised a great deal but once they'd got what they wanted, we were done. So yeah, I felt used.

Didn't you get what you wanted tho?

Nope

Not even remotely?

Unfortunately not. I guess I picked badly. "

We live and die by choices, what appears right can often be wrong

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

No luckily....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only just joined Fab, but I've met men before who promised a great deal but once they'd got what they wanted, we were done. So yeah, I felt used.

Didn't you get what you wanted tho?

Nope

Not even remotely?

Unfortunately not. I guess I picked badly.

We live and die by choices, what appears right can often be wrong"

I think it maybe appears right if you really want it to I felt stupid more than anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only just joined Fab, but I've met men before who promised a great deal but once they'd got what they wanted, we were done. So yeah, I felt used.

Didn't you get what you wanted tho?

Nope

Not even remotely?

Unfortunately not. I guess I picked badly.

We live and die by choices, what appears right can often be wrong

I think it maybe appears right if you really want it to I felt stupid more than anything. "

May I suggest not picking on guys called "Stupid"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only just joined Fab, but I've met men before who promised a great deal but once they'd got what they wanted, we were done. So yeah, I felt used.

Didn't you get what you wanted tho?

Nope

Not even remotely?

Unfortunately not. I guess I picked badly.

We live and die by choices, what appears right can often be wrong

I think it maybe appears right if you really want it to I felt stupid more than anything.

May I suggest not picking on guys called "Stupid" "

I shall do my best here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only just joined Fab, but I've met men before who promised a great deal but once they'd got what they wanted, we were done. So yeah, I felt used.

Didn't you get what you wanted tho?

Nope

Not even remotely?

Unfortunately not. I guess I picked badly.

We live and die by choices, what appears right can often be wrong

I think it maybe appears right if you really want it to I felt stupid more than anything.

May I suggest not picking on guys called "Stupid"

I shall do my best here! "

But from what read that isn't the problem

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By *m_hardMan
over a year ago

Swaffham

It does happen, fortunately rarely, that upon meeting you encounter a person who is significantly different from how they portrayed themselves to you on Fabs. Invariably, this type is selfish and unconcerned with acting inconsistently. It can make you feel used, when you realize that you were conned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Abso fucking lutely

I'm on here to try and find FWBs and this means doing the "friends" bit too and building a rapport between meets.

I've had a couple of people promise me a fabulous time doing a mix of play and socialising but once they had came it was like "bye Michaela, see you"

So sorry to hear. "

Exactly this.

I've met a number of men (not all from here either) as soon as they have cum, they just get dressed and leave me hanging. Last bloke I met, he came and laid back and I looked at him and said "I'm not done, you better help" (he did)

Its happened so much I rarely meet anymore x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve learnt to stay away from those type that are all about themselves, we are all here for the same reason it should not be one sided, I find this disrespectful, I no longer entertain these type of people

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By *ornyscot777TV/TS
over a year ago

SCOTLAND

Yip, cum and go!

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By *ttis669Man
over a year ago

Warrington

Not going to lie, I'd love to be used like that on a meet, a pillow princess or couple that uses me to get themselves off and I'm made to leave sounds great!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not going to lie, I'd love to be used like that on a meet, a pillow princess or couple that uses me to get themselves off and I'm made to leave sounds great! "

If that’s your thing then great but personally myself I have needs to be met too

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By *an de LyonMan
over a year ago

welling


"Have you ever gone on a meet and felt used by others? Were they just using you to fulfill their fantasies and they didn't seem to care about you with your own feelings and needs."

What’s a meet??

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By *ttis669Man
over a year ago

Warrington


"Not going to lie, I'd love to be used like that on a meet, a pillow princess or couple that uses me to get themselves off and I'm made to leave sounds great!

If that’s your thing then great but personally myself I have needs to be met too "

It can take me quite a while to reach an orgasm, and turns me on so much to hear others enjoy it, dont get me wrong I wouldn't dislike it if I was to reach an ending too, but I wouldn't be unhappy about just being used for theirs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not going to lie, I'd love to be used like that on a meet, a pillow princess or couple that uses me to get themselves off and I'm made to leave sounds great!

If that’s your thing then great but personally myself I have needs to be met too

It can take me quite a while to reach an orgasm, and turns me on so much to hear others enjoy it, dont get me wrong I wouldn't dislike it if I was to reach an ending too, but I wouldn't be unhappy about just being used for theirs "

Yes if that’s agreed but when they turn up and don’t reciprocate it’s a piss take

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By *sianflower77Woman
over a year ago

Emerald City

I’ve definitely met some men where as long as they’re satisfied they didn’t give a toss about my needs. Absolutely felt used hence why not met anyone since 10 months ago. It puts you off giving genuine people a chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve definitely met some men where as long as they’re satisfied they didn’t give a toss about my needs. Absolutely felt used hence why not met anyone since 10 months ago. It puts you off giving genuine people a chance."

There's a distinct difference between "scratching an itch" and being a dickhead. The dickheads don't understand they can scratch the itch without being a dick.

Unfortunately there are too many people like that, male and female alike.

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By *uby StarCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Thankfully no. I'm very selective and ensure we are on the same page in wants/needs before doing anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever gone on a meet and felt used by others? Were they just using you to fulfill their fantasies and they didn't seem to care about you with your own feelings and needs."

Okay. Used in what way? Sexually? Probably not as much as I think I was, I enjoyed it, they enjoyed it (maybe….. ) but was the sex isn’t really why I would feel used by some people? No, sometimes it’s other ways what can make you feel like that.

Sometimes my friendliness can be easily mistaken for an easy manipulation. It’s happened in real life, I don’t want that to happen in fab. so I try to make sure people can’t use me for their selfish benefits. Filters and lots of talking.

But sexually? Sure, if you use me, can I use you? call me……

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By * Le ShhhhhMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Have you ever gone on a meet and felt used by others? Were they just using you to fulfill their fantasies and they didn't seem to care about you with your own feelings and needs.

Okay. Used in what way? Sexually? Probably not as much as I think I was, I enjoyed it, they enjoyed it (maybe….. ) but was the sex isn’t really why I would feel used by some people? No, sometimes it’s other ways what can make you feel like that.

Sometimes my friendliness can be easily mistaken for an easy manipulation. It’s happened in real life, I don’t want that to happen in fab. so I try to make sure people can’t use me for their selfish benefits. Filters and lots of talking.

But sexually? Sure, if you use me, can I use you? call me……"

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss


"Have you ever gone on a meet and felt used by others? Were they just using you to fulfill their fantasies and they didn't seem to care about you with your own feelings and needs.

Okay. Used in what way? Sexually? Probably not as much as I think I was, I enjoyed it, they enjoyed it (maybe….. ) but was the sex isn’t really why I would feel used by some people? No, sometimes it’s other ways what can make you feel like that.

Sometimes my friendliness can be easily mistaken for an easy manipulation. It’s happened in real life, I don’t want that to happen in fab. so I try to make sure people can’t use me for their selfish benefits. Filters and lots of talking.

But sexually? Sure, if you use me, can I use you? call me……"

^^ what he said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Abso fucking lutely

I'm on here to try and find FWBs and this means doing the "friends" bit too and building a rapport between meets.

I've had a couple of people promise me a fabulous time doing a mix of play and socialising but once they had came it was like "bye Michaela, see you"

So sorry to hear.

Exactly this.

I've met a number of men (not all from here either) as soon as they have cum, they just get dressed and leave me hanging. Last bloke I met, he came and laid back and I looked at him and said "I'm not done, you better help" (he did)

Its happened so much I rarely meet anymore x"

I know how you feel. The last chap I met (from another site) finished and then immediately put his clothes back on. He hasn't even attempted to help me come too. We were in his hotel room. I felt disposable and used. Not worth it.

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours


"Abso fucking lutely

I'm on here to try and find FWBs and this means doing the "friends" bit too and building a rapport between meets.

I've had a couple of people promise me a fabulous time doing a mix of play and socialising but once they had came it was like "bye Michaela, see you"

So sorry to hear.

Exactly this.

I've met a number of men (not all from here either) as soon as they have cum, they just get dressed and leave me hanging. Last bloke I met, he came and laid back and I looked at him and said "I'm not done, you better help" (he did)

Its happened so much I rarely meet anymore x

I know how you feel. The last chap I met (from another site) finished and then immediately put his clothes back on. He hasn't even attempted to help me come too. We were in his hotel room. I felt disposable and used. Not worth it."

This is why I stopped using dating sites and started seeking men with lots of veris on here. Life is too short to spend it being sexually frustrated because of ignorant men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes that's what a fuck and go is, but we are using each other to scratch an itch

I save feelings for fwb's "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever gone on a meet and felt used by others? Were they just using you to fulfill their fantasies and they didn't seem to care about you with your own feelings and needs."

Some will only do to you,what you allow them to do unto you!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes feeling used can be an additional thrill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Several of my early meets I got a distinct impression from the host/hosts of "we've cum now, so fuck off home, not interested in whether you've finished". These days I'd rather not meet than meet up with anyone who just wants to use me."

All a state if mind really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. We make it clear we’re not interested in a connection or anything other than sex.

Are we the users? "

Theres only 2 giver n taker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. We make it clear we’re not interested in a connection or anything other than sex.

Are we the users? "

The brain and mind is far cleaver than we think it is.

Sure only sex, it is what you want it to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if your just meeting for sex, its really just like people who meet to play tennis, isnt it?"

How is tennis played? Really played? How is all this likened to tennis??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not on a meet where we've had sex. On socials I get a feel for the people who don't see me as an individual and we don't take things further. "

This

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"Have you ever gone on a meet and felt used by others? Were they just using you to fulfill their fantasies and they didn't seem to care about you with your own feelings and needs."

Of course us guys are just stunt cocks for couples mainly. Single women it's usually different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only ever had one spur of the moment meet in all my time here.

We had only chatted the day before and I was on my way somewhere the next morning when I got a message asking me to call to her hotel room because she was horny.

It wasn't out of my way so I decided to try something completely different that I'd never done before.

Less than 20 mins after going to her room she got a call from her friends in the next room inviting her for breakfast.

She was naked and satisfied and I had remained fully dressed throughout.

I was back in my car 30 mins after leaving it and didn't feel used at the time and didn't have any regrets.

She messaged that night to thank me and then blocked me which could have been for any number of reasons but at that point I did think I had been used. "

Mind over matter!

The mind is more complex than we give it credit for!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Abso fucking lutely

I'm on here to try and find FWBs and this means doing the "friends" bit too and building a rapport between meets.

I've had a couple of people promise me a fabulous time doing a mix of play and socialising but once they had came it was like "bye Michaela, see you"

So sorry to hear.

Exactly this.

I've met a number of men (not all from here either) as soon as they have cum, they just get dressed and leave me hanging. Last bloke I met, he came and laid back and I looked at him and said "I'm not done, you better help" (he did)

Its happened so much I rarely meet anymore x

I know how you feel. The last chap I met (from another site) finished and then immediately put his clothes back on. He hasn't even attempted to help me come too. We were in his hotel room. I felt disposable and used. Not worth it.

This is why I stopped using dating sites and started seeking men with lots of veris on here. Life is too short to spend it being sexually frustrated because of ignorant men"

Tbh I don't think it's the site (although I've only just joined this one). It's the boundaries we keep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've sometimes declined a play meet with men not because I didn't find them attractive, but because I felt they might get too attached to me, not in the busy of walking out over other people's feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not really no is a two way st my sister knows I'm here! Most family do ! She said once men are only after 1 thing! I said yes so am I lol x"

Glad you corrected her!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only once, it was with a woman of African disposition, she was very attractive and well spoken, we met after exchanging a flurry of messages and flirts...now, I never go into any meet with expectations but I also don't go into a meet expecting to asked if I could lend £100 either "

Money asking is rife!! Dont put up with the abuse!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Giving someone an orgasm during a massage then they feel guilt ridden because they suddenly remembered they are married "
..wtf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever gone on a meet and felt used by others? Were they just using you to fulfill their fantasies and they didn't seem to care about you with your own feelings and needs.

I met a MF couple over a year ago who were looking for someone who matched my description near perfectly. I messaged and we agreed that I would meet them at a set time.

I turned up early and waited 40 minutes past the set time because they weren't ready. I was on their main road, but not near their main gates because I wasn't allowed to park too close. I had travelled far otherwise I would have left after 15 minutes.

The whole thing was filmed m, faces included, but I never got a copy that. Never got a verification back after leaving them one.

I know young guys have a reputation so I did my best to break that stereotype but I felt strange after that

I no longer make people a priority if they only treat you like an option. Haven't met a couple since."

London ting

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By *tsJustKateWoman
over a year ago

London


"Have you ever gone on a meet and felt used by others? Were they just using you to fulfill their fantasies and they didn't seem to care about you with your own feelings and needs."

Yes, but why is that a bad thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunately yes. I met a woman and we had a great time, then I met her as part of a couple (with her real life partner) and her entire personality changed, not in a good way. She was quite rude and said you're our toy, you're the extra part and you're here for us. Wasn't a fan.. "

Cat fight lol meeeeow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah but only the once but they won't get the chance again even thought they keep wanting a repeat.

Its not happening"

Always look at peoples actions!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It does happen, fortunately rarely, that upon meeting you encounter a person who is significantly different from how they portrayed themselves to you on Fabs. Invariably, this type is selfish and unconcerned with acting inconsistently. It can make you feel used, when you realize that you were conned.

"
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People only do to you,what you allow them to.

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By *enerifehotwifecplCouple
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Surely everyone is using each other - sexually speaking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not going to lie, I'd love to be used like that on a meet, a pillow princess or couple that uses me to get themselves off and I'm made to leave sounds great!

If that’s your thing then great but personally myself I have needs to be met too

It can take me quite a while to reach an orgasm, and turns me on so much to hear others enjoy it, dont get me wrong I wouldn't dislike it if I was to reach an ending too, but I wouldn't be unhappy about just being used for theirs

Yes if that’s agreed but when they turn up and don’t reciprocate it’s a piss take "

People place people in boxes! Does it not go on here?? Even though its so called about sex. If only it was that simple.

Has anybody noticed whats really going on? A pattern behaviour over all.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Yes

It all happened because he touched us here… and here… the bum hole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve definitely met some men where as long as they’re satisfied they didn’t give a toss about my needs. Absolutely felt used hence why not met anyone since 10 months ago. It puts you off giving genuine people a chance."

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By *hill1965Man
over a year ago

Camberley

One of my early meets was a total one sided affair, but since then we’re all in it for ourselves and you just have to “ride” the wave!!

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By *ammerandthongsCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

Oh please

Amy

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By *odders88Man
over a year ago

Northampton

Anyone want to use me go ahead, I cost no more than a cup of tea…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever gone on a meet and felt used by others? Were they just using you to fulfill their fantasies and they didn't seem to care about you with your own feelings and needs.

Of course us guys are just stunt cocks for couples mainly. Single women it's usually different. "

Why is it different with single women??

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham


"Have you ever gone on a meet and felt used by others? Were they just using you to fulfill their fantasies and they didn't seem to care about you with your own feelings and needs."

Yes and I love it!

That is why I go to meets, to be used!

The feeling of having been used is what I get out of the meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve definitely met some men where as long as they’re satisfied they didn’t give a toss about my needs. Absolutely felt used hence why not met anyone since 10 months ago. It puts you off giving genuine people a chance."

Think back have you done that to some men.

The ones whom you may fancey more,may not fancey you. And the ones whom fancey you more you dont feel the same towards them!!

All food for thought,

Irony not many will take accountabilty for their own very actions,yet will look for weekness in others!!

We all got alot to really learn much coz we were not show way of behaviour towards ourself and towards others at large.

" its called ( BS ) = Belief Stystem " we are what we was taught from childhooh. And not taught rather.

Yet we do not correct those very patterns and keep going, unlsefishly demanding thinkng this world and people owe us anything.

Just a view point and observation really,

Be like water.

Many wont agree. Look at the bigger picture beyond yourself????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not by the meet, but by the husband who put me there"

have you spoke to hubby?? Or easier to lay it on here,behind his back.

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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood

Met a lady once. Who definitely was more into the waiter than me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve definitely met some men where as long as they’re satisfied they didn’t give a toss about my needs. Absolutely felt used hence why not met anyone since 10 months ago. It puts you off giving genuine people a chance.

Think back have you done that to some men.

The ones whom you may fancey more,may not fancey you. And the ones whom fancey you more you dont feel the same towards them!!

All food for thought,

Irony not many will take accountabilty for their own very actions,yet will look for weekness in others!!

We all got alot to really learn much coz we were not show way of behaviour towards ourself and towards others at large.

" its called ( BS ) = Belief Stystem " we are what we was taught from childhooh. And not taught rather.

Yet we do not correct those very patterns and keep going, unlsefishly demanding thinkng this world and people owe us anything.

Just a view point and observation really,

Be like water.

Many wont agree. Look at the bigger picture beyond yourself????"

So do belief systems mean we have to behave in a certain way, do they really dictate our behaviors. Can they be challenged, and new ones adopted along the way, through new evidence being shown to us. Then new beliefs of self being instilled. Or are we permanently conditioned through nature, the things we see, thr things we are told from a young age. Is it a self fulfilling prophecy, im told so I must be...bit of food for thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a club yes. Doesn't feel good at all xx

Mrs C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely everyone is using each other - sexually speaking?"

Direct & indirect = the whole world at large is at play with us and without us.

Bigger picture playing out daily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve learnt to stay away from those type that are all about themselves, we are all here for the same reason it should not be one sided, I find this disrespectful, I no longer entertain these type of people"

Seek what type is oneself.

Giver / taker.

Hunter / hunted.

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

Yea....used and abused like a well worn durex....other brands are available...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely everyone is using each other - sexually speaking?"

Sometimes and probably most of the time. But also, I think this is why people call things ‘connections!’ more like two. Things coming together (excuse the pun) rather than a one way thing, and taking something like a robbery. That person can feel like they took something from them without leaving anything for them. *if that makes sense. Feeling used.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Met a lady once. Who definitely was more into the waiter than me. "

Did you pay in full??

When peoples actions speak so loudly of what they really are!

Many still sit there and hand themselves over for mental abuse!!

If you had done that with a waitress??

What would the outcome have been??

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

The wording is important as it adds colour but fundamentally. Isnt that what every meeting is about? Doing it because we want something? Unless its a charity meet and people are doing things for others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve definitely met some men where as long as they’re satisfied they didn’t give a toss about my needs. Absolutely felt used hence why not met anyone since 10 months ago. It puts you off giving genuine people a chance.

Think back have you done that to some men.

The ones whom you may fancey more,may not fancey you. And the ones whom fancey you more you dont feel the same towards them!!

All food for thought,

Irony not many will take accountabilty for their own very actions,yet will look for weekness in others!!

We all got alot to really learn much coz we were not show way of behaviour towards ourself and towards others at large.

" its called ( BS ) = Belief Stystem " we are what we was taught from childhooh. And not taught rather.

Yet we do not correct those very patterns and keep going, unlsefishly demanding thinkng this world and people owe us anything.

Just a view point and observation really,

Be like water.

Many wont agree. Look at the bigger picture beyond yourself????

So do belief systems mean we have to behave in a certain way, do they really dictate our behaviors. Can they be challenged, and new ones adopted along the way, through new evidence being shown to us. Then new beliefs of self being instilled. Or are we permanently conditioned through nature, the things we see, thr things we are told from a young age. Is it a self fulfilling prophecy, im told so I must be...bit of food for thought"

Conditioned through nature?? Most or everything we see to date is a programme from childhood good/bad all reactions of what has happned.

How we are reacting now. We most are just surviving at large,in the best way poss. But mostly animalisticly.

Thats when abuse use comes in.most cannot regulate the Trauma coz its way deeper than the eye can see. It has very deep lasting affects, then p

Most play out that grief one to another,esp in sexual relatìnships more hurt/ trauma feelings of wortj,less worth

As the word " FEELING USED " has been expressed by many here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely everyone is using each other - sexually speaking?

Sometimes and probably most of the time. But also, I think this is why people call things ‘connections!’ more like two. Things coming together (excuse the pun) rather than a one way thing, and taking something like a robbery. That person can feel like they took something from them without leaving anything for them. *if that makes sense. Feeling used.

"

All mind food.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Surely everyone is using each other - sexually speaking?

Sometimes and probably most of the time. But also, I think this is why people call things ‘connections!’ more like two. Things coming together (excuse the pun) rather than a one way thing, and taking something like a robbery. That person can feel like they took something from them without leaving anything for them. *if that makes sense. Feeling used.

"

I'd agree with that. I think of being used as someone gaining gratification from me while I get nothing back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The wording is important as it adds colour but fundamentally. Isnt that what every meeting is about? Doing it because we want something? Unless its a charity meet and people are doing things for others. "
.

Greed/selfish/ lust/ desire daily.

Then more complicated layers placed on top by many to complicate the already confused state at hand.

So many are forming the very trends that are erodeing us all slowly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve definitely met some men where as long as they’re satisfied they didn’t give a toss about my needs. Absolutely felt used hence why not met anyone since 10 months ago. It puts you off giving genuine people a chance.

Think back have you done that to some men.

The ones whom you may fancey more,may not fancey you. And the ones whom fancey you more you dont feel the same towards them!!

All food for thought,

Irony not many will take accountabilty for their own very actions,yet will look for weekness in others!!

We all got alot to really learn much coz we were not show way of behaviour towards ourself and towards others at large.

" its called ( BS ) = Belief Stystem " we are what we was taught from childhooh. And not taught rather.

Yet we do not correct those very patterns and keep going, unlsefishly demanding thinkng this world and people owe us anything.

Just a view point and observation really,

Be like water.

Many wont agree. Look at the bigger picture beyond yourself????

So do belief systems mean we have to behave in a certain way, do they really dictate our behaviors. Can they be challenged, and new ones adopted along the way, through new evidence being shown to us. Then new beliefs of self being instilled. Or are we permanently conditioned through nature, the things we see, thr things we are told from a young age. Is it a self fulfilling prophecy, im told so I must be...bit of food for thought

Conditioned through nature?? Most or everything we see to date is a programme from childhood good/bad all reactions of what has happned.

How we are reacting now. We most are just surviving at large,in the best way poss. But mostly animalisticly.

Thats when abuse use comes in.most cannot regulate the Trauma coz its way deeper than the eye can see. It has very deep lasting affects, then p

Most play out that grief one to another,esp in sexual relatìnships more hurt/ trauma feelings of wortj,less worth

As the word " FEELING USED " has been expressed by many here.

"

Nature was meant to be nurture!!!

Past experience plays apart I agree, but what I'm asking is that "feeling used" or to "use" others, is that really down to belief systems as you stated, if so, how does anybody change? It's more than belief systems at play in this arena. It's about validation, affirmation derived through others, if they want me then I must be of worth, have something to offer, kind of thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met a fwb couple once.... all he was interested in was my mrs, totally neglected his partner.

Hence we no longer meet fwb couples unless they have been playing together for a long time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely everyone is using each other - sexually speaking?"

I agree in a way, yes we are all using each other for sex. But also feel both (or all!) involved should enjoy the experience, it shouldn't just be about one person's needs. Then again some like it been all about the other person and are submissive.

So guess it's about understanding what each others needs are and making sure everyone is happy and satisfied

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"Have you ever gone on a meet and felt used by others? Were they just using you to fulfill their fantasies and they didn't seem to care about you with your own feelings and needs.

Of course us guys are just stunt cocks for couples mainly. Single women it's usually different.

Why is it different with single women?? "

Because you're not a stunt cock in that situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely everyone is using each other - sexually speaking?"

I'm not here to use people or be used. I don't think the tens of thousands of people on Fab can all be the same in terms of what they want?

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

Happens to us all.

I know how it feels for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

One meet. The guy never messaged after, so I thought I wasn't his thing. Out of the blue randomly several he'd message and ask if wanted to be part of a planned scenarios involving him and others.

Jusy felt like an extra body free for rent.

I never said yes to any of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Met a fwb couple once.... all he was interested in was my mrs, totally neglected his partner.

Hence we no longer meet fwb couples unless they have been playing together for a long time. "

People do all kinds of weird stuff. All down to non regulated dysfuntional trauma of pasts. No stopping and fixing,yet carry on and cause more damage to self and others.

Protectiom of one's self is worth more than just being available.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely everyone is using each other - sexually speaking?

I'm not here to use people or be used. I don't think the tens of thousands of people on Fab can all be the same in terms of what they want?"

Yea you have a point. Its giver and taker, one has to seen where you are om that spectrum.

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By *red333Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

No never

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire


"Met a fwb couple once.... all he was interested in was my mrs, totally neglected his partner.

Hence we no longer meet fwb couples unless they have been playing together for a long time.

People do all kinds of weird stuff. All down to non regulated dysfuntional trauma of pasts. No stopping and fixing,yet carry on and cause more damage to self and others.

Protectiom of one's self is worth more than just being available.

"
this is true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes

One meet. The guy never messaged after, so I thought I wasn't his thing. Out of the blue randomly several he'd message and ask if wanted to be part of a planned scenarios involving him and others.

Jusy felt like an extra body free for rent.

I never said yes to any of it. "

Strange powerplay game.

Mis communication is a huge fault within most if not all of us. And we tend to assume atimes.

If only we could mind read.

But actions show alot of what many are thinkng deep dowm inside.

Protect your own very self worth and know your own value.

Then again somebody compatible may present themselves, but because of those past experiences we tent to close up shy awaÿ. And become cold,stern and distant.

We dont wish to go through hurt again emotional pain is very deep.

Be like water.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I have been used a couple of times by couples, to fulfil their fantasies. It felt great and can't wait to be used again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As many of my meets have been short one offs with the guy leaving as soon as he has cum, could say I have been used on most meets.

Usually not an issue as some will say that's what a sissy is for, to be used. But now and then would be nice to have continuity so could build up trust and try more over time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who knows what Soul- ties are?

Pair bonding?

Shared info DNA via sexual intercoùrse?

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Who knows what Soul- ties are?

Pair bonding?

Shared info DNA via sexual intercoùrse? "

I have no soul so no dramas there.

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

Yes lots and lots of times it's pretty normal for a cuckold

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who knows what Soul- ties are?

Pair bonding?

Shared info DNA via sexual intercoùrse? "

My soul got traded with the devil many years ago...now I'm just an empty hollow vessel

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Who knows what Soul- ties are?

Pair bonding?

Shared info DNA via sexual intercoùrse?

My soul got traded with the devil many years ago...now I'm just an empty hollow vessel "

The blokes in the wrong place for deep & meaningful, spiritual connections imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who knows what Soul- ties are?

Pair bonding?

Shared info DNA via sexual intercoùrse?

My soul got traded with the devil many years ago...now I'm just an empty hollow vessel

The blokes in the wrong place for deep & meaningful, spiritual connections imo "

Why you swearing at me, talking bout deep &meaningful shit...I just want epic shit..and not the ones I flush

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who knows what Soul- ties are?

Pair bonding?

Shared info DNA via sexual intercoùrse?

I have no soul so no dramas there. "

Souless is easier!! Carry on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who knows what Soul- ties are?

Pair bonding?

Shared info DNA via sexual intercoùrse?

My soul got traded with the devil many years ago...now I'm just an empty hollow vessel "

Empty is easier,float far away,and never return.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who knows what Soul- ties are?

Pair bonding?

Shared info DNA via sexual intercoùrse?

My soul got traded with the devil many years ago...now I'm just an empty hollow vessel

The blokes in the wrong place for deep & meaningful, spiritual connections imo "

Really?? You only see what you want to see. The eyes are open and heart closed.

Keep going your doing just fine!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who knows what Soul- ties are?

Pair bonding?

Shared info DNA via sexual intercoùrse?

My soul got traded with the devil many years ago...now I'm just an empty hollow vessel

The blokes in the wrong place for deep & meaningful, spiritual connections imo

Why you swearing at me, talking bout deep &meaningful shit...I just want epic shit..and not the ones I flush "

Good come back. Some soul right there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who knows what Soul- ties are?

Pair bonding?

Shared info DNA via sexual intercoùrse?

I have no soul so no dramas there. "
.. no drama!! You sure? Lol

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By *empted23Couple
over a year ago

countryside


"Yes. When they drop the ‘I’m a nice guy’ act the second sex begins and start re-enacting porn like a moron."

Yes this as we approach our first meet is exactly what I’m trying to Vet out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. When they drop the ‘I’m a nice guy’ act the second sex begins and start re-enacting porn like a moron.

Yes this as we approach our first meet is exactly what I’m trying to Vet out "

How are your vetting skills?

Should be real life skills of approach in person.

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By *empted23Couple
over a year ago

countryside


"Yes. When they drop the ‘I’m a nice guy’ act the second sex begins and start re-enacting porn like a moron.

Yes this as we approach our first meet is exactly what I’m trying to Vet out

How are your vetting skills?

Should be real life skills of approach in person. "

Luckily my vetting skills are significant

I’m a sceptical analytical pessimist

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

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Yep! One guy has the excuse of a friend was locked out after I made him cum. He didn’t date about my enjoyment. He messaged me a year or so later on a new profile, asking to meet, I said you’ve already disappointed me once why would I want it again?

I’ve also met a couple where it was obvious she was doing it for him. Again no care for my enjoyment

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By *eastXMan
over a year ago

London

Ofc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who knows what Soul- ties are?

Pair bonding?

Shared info DNA via sexual intercoùrse?

My soul got traded with the devil many years ago...now I'm just an empty hollow vessel

The blokes in the wrong place for deep & meaningful, spiritual connections imo

Why you swearing at me, talking bout deep &meaningful shit...I just want epic shit..and not the ones I flush

Good come back. Some soul right there! "

Don't need your approval....

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