FabSwingers.com forum: safe sex / gum clinic

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Following in from a recent thread 'am I in trouble' there is something that confuses me. If everyone practices safe sex Why then state that they get checked out @ the GUM clinic every cpl of weeks/months?

If it was 'that safe' why bother ?

And yes I am blonde lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The unknown element of maybe a condom splitting and the other person not being as honest as they claim to be?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Because condoms aren't magic. They prevent diseases a large percentage of the time, but some split, some slip off, some are just crap. Regular testing as well as wearing condoms is the way to go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got checked last week and always play safe . Its just peace of mind for me

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Because the only 100% safe sex is no sex at all..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I practice safe sex... on occassions I have had a condom split or come off.

In order to be safe as well as sensible I get checked every 6 months depending on how active I have been

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Following in from a recent thread 'am I in trouble' there is something that confuses me. If everyone practices safe sex Why then state that they get checked out @ the GUM clinic every cpl of weeks/months?

If it was 'that safe' why bother ?

And yes I am blonde lol

Oral!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was 'that safe' why bother ?

And yes I am blonde lol

Because no sex is 100% safe, no condom is 100% reliable and not everyone is 100% truthful..these are just some of the reasons that I will always get checked on a regular basis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because the only 100% safe sex is no sex at all.."

How did you know what my sex life is like lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because the only 100% safe sex is no sex at all..

How did you know what my sex life is like lol

Mine too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Its a a hypothetical question that I just wanted answered. The blonde bit was a joke ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If it was 'that safe' why bother ?

And yes I am blonde lol

Oral!"

I used to sell flavoured lube to girls to mask the taste of condoms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was 'that safe' why bother ?

And yes I am blonde lol

Oral!

I used to sell flavoured lube to girls to mask the taste of condoms

Aside from condoms splitting the majority I know do oral unprotected and that is still a risk.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

As with everything on here.... I believe about 50%.. the rest is for effect, to impress, reassure, empty a scrotum or get a clit flicked...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As with everything on here.... I believe about 50%.. the rest is for effect, to impress, reassure, empty a scrotum or get a clit flicked..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because a condom isn't 100%

I've seen someone make the point before that if ur in a group situation and a guy fingers one gal then another straight after without hand washing then is that not risking passing something from one gal to the next?

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

I go because condoms aren't 100% safe and I dont practice safe oral sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Playing devils advocate here ... So oral sex isn't as bad as no condom sex ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Because a condom isn't 100%

I checked some threads to see if anyone had made this point before. And I've only been using the forums for a couple of months

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

"Playing devils advocate here ... So oral sex isn't as bad as no condom sex ? "

Its not as risky, but I wont play if I have a sore or ulcer in my mouth, as the risk of catching something is higher.

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By *mileyBWoman
over a year ago

Northwood

Because using condoms is safe but not 100% just the same as they're only 99 % effective against pregnancy. That and the fact that other areas of the body come into contact with each other and secretions.... vulva, pubis, mouth, throat etc.

To list but A few conditions, wart virus, human papilloma virus, herpes, gonorrhoea, chlamydia, HIV, Hep B & C, etc etc and a full sexual health check would include blood tests, urine, anal, mouth, vaginal penile and mouth/ throat swabs.

Unless we do regular checks we don't know if we're likely to pass anything on. But remember .... Your sexual health check results are only good until the next time you play and results are certainly no passport that you have nothing as it often takes months before some diseases are traceable. It's all about early detection and prompt treatment to minimise long term damage caused from lack of treatment.

A sexual health check every sixth this or certainly annually is a wise precaution if you care about your own health and the health if any potential partners.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It was mentioned on the thread about waiting 2 weeks. Is that long enough ?

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

"It was mentioned on the thread about waiting 2 weeks. Is that long enough ? "

you wait 2 weeks after the last time you have intercourse, to give any STI's a chance to develop. My clinic usually suggests a week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As with everything on here.... I believe about 50%.. the rest is for effect, to impress, reassure, empty a scrotum or get a clit flicked..."

I'm in agreement with View. Some would have you believe they get tested every other day.

From the lack of understanding that is evident from some forum postings I am sceptical on the regularity some people say they go to the clinic, that's if they go at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well I think everyones been honest and upfront with their posts. And maybe your right about not everyone has checks as frequent as some may say but its hightlighted the subject of safe sex and maybe those who don't go as often as they should might think differently.

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

I lot of people seem to be under the impression that 'practicing safe sex' is all about getting checked every 2,3,4,6,12 months..all that means is your safe after the event..it has nothing to do with 'practicing safe sex'..

The only way is to either abstain or make sure your prospective partners are free of any nasties...which is nye on impossible unless you know and trust the other party 100%

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well this isn't the place for Monogomy is it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be nice if I had a sex life pmsfl

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

"Well this isn't the place for Monogomy is it lol "

Nah...your better off looking on the Carpentry forum for that sort of stuff

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Not everything that everyone claims is true

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By *mileyBWoman
over a year ago

Northwood

"It was mentioned on the thread about waiting 2 weeks. Is that long enough ?

you wait 2 weeks after the last time you have intercourse, to give any STI's a chance to develop. My clinic usually suggests a week."

But that doesn't work with Bloid burned viruses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because a condom isn't 100%

I checked some threads to see if anyone had made this point before. And I've only been using the forums for a couple of months "

Maybe it was on another site forum.. That's irrelevant.. Is it not a valid point?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Peace of mind for me,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also the one std a condom can't protect u from is gential warts as on guys the form on the scrotum also n as it passed on by sexual contact remember condoms don't cover that area better to be safe than sorry. Also people can have the virus for up to 3 months before physical signs show

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Because a condom isn't 100%

I checked some threads to see if anyone had made this point before. And I've only been using the forums for a couple of months

Maybe it was on another site forum.. That's irrelevant.. Is it not a valid point?"

Yes very much so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not everything that everyone claims is true

How sad that dodging peoples lies and the games they play has become one of the fundamental rules of swinging.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Apparently once you start calling your shag a 'friend with benefits' it becomes safe sex... with or without.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Not everything that everyone claims is true

How sad that dodging peoples lies and the games they play has become one of the fundamental rules of swinging.

I thought it always was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not everything that everyone claims is true

How sad that dodging peoples lies and the games they play has become one of the fundamental rules of swinging.

I thought it always was."

I've been in the scene 15 years - it wasn't always like this.

Anyway, Im guilty of de-railing a thread. As you were!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Not everything that everyone claims is true

How sad that dodging peoples lies and the games they play has become one of the fundamental rules of swinging.

I thought it always was.

I've been in the scene 15 years - it wasn't always like this.

Anyway, Im guilty of de-railing a thread. As you were!

Hasn't it always been the case of taking responsibility for your own sexual health and NOT taking the word of someone else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not everything that everyone claims is true

How sad that dodging peoples lies and the games they play has become one of the fundamental rules of swinging.

I thought it always was.

I've been in the scene 15 years - it wasn't always like this.

Anyway, Im guilty of de-railing a thread. As you were!

Hasn't it always been the case of taking responsibility for your own sexual health and NOT taking the word of someone else?"

If you read the "am I in trouble" thread evidently not.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"It was mentioned on the thread about waiting 2 weeks. Is that long enough ?

you wait 2 weeks after the last time you have intercourse, to give any STI's a chance to develop. My clinic usually suggests a week.

But that doesn't work with Bloid burned viruses "

My GUM clininc said its 3 months (

) for that so suggested 3 monthly check ups are the best and glove up in between. Unfortunately getting tested does not stop you from catching the damn things but at least you can then get treated.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Not everything that everyone claims is true

How sad that dodging peoples lies and the games they play has become one of the fundamental rules of swinging.

I thought it always was.

I've been in the scene 15 years - it wasn't always like this.

Anyway, Im guilty of de-railing a thread. As you were!

Hasn't it always been the case of taking responsibility for your own sexual health and NOT taking the word of someone else?

If you read the "am I in trouble" thread evidently not."

There have always been idiots too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well apparently there were 500.000 new cases of STD's reported last year and that's only them that got tested. What about all those who don't ?

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