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"Vs a meet travelling to you? I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you. Why is that? It irks me a bit. " Hello. I have a car  | |||
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"I would happily travel if anyone actually asked me to meet "Hi. | |||
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"Been a while since I’ve been on a train. Why not live a little and fly to a sunny destination " Have you seen the cost of a tram fair and the chances of it cancled or a strike!!! Sod that, I’ll drive.  | |||
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"I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you. Why is that? It irks me a bit. " I’ve felt that before - that I’m always the one doing all the travelling. Maybe it’s all in the eye of the beholder and it’s not a gender thing after all? Maybe we all end up feeling a little bit put upon sometimes? I’m not complaining. I love to travel. To take a wee road trip or jump on a plane. And I’m lucky (lucky, lucky, lucky) that I find people who want to meet. But recently one amazing woman has made the trip to meet me. And is offering to do so again. And while it shouldn’t matter, at all, I was actually quite touched. It felt good. | |||
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"Vs a meet travelling to you? I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you. Why is that? It irks me a bit. " It's you. If someone is worth meeting do it Even if it means in the middle somewhere | |||
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"I would happily travel if anyone actually asked me to meet "I can hop onto a tram… | |||
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"I would happily travel if anyone actually asked me to meet
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"I don't mind traveling. I would feel bad if someone travelled far to see me incase I'm not what they expect! I once went to London on a whim though " Manchester isn’t that far… | |||
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"I don't mind traveling. I would feel bad if someone travelled far to see me incase I'm not what they expect! I once went to London on a whim though " I heard Manchester is easy to travel to | |||
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Oh don't tease a girl "Teasing is something that I’d rather do in person | |||
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"Vs a meet travelling to you? I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you. Why is that? It irks me a bit. " I would quite happily travel if it was easier for the other person | |||
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"I don't mind traveling. I would feel bad if someone travelled far to see me incase I'm not what they expect! I once went to London on a whim though " That was brave. I have to make sure that I have my passport if I go south of the river. Whilst last time I went north of the border I had to get medicines to protect me from dengy, malaria, Japanese B encephalitis cos you can never get enough protection from those midges (not midgets).  | |||
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"Vs a meet travelling to you? I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you. Why is that? It irks me a bit. " Will.always, travel, sadly no longer accommodate due to family illness, and living arrangements but always used to accommodate before and will do in the future | |||
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"I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you. Why is that? It irks me a bit. I’ve felt that before - that I’m always the one doing all the travelling. Maybe it’s all in the eye of the beholder and it’s not a gender thing after all? Maybe we all end up feeling a little bit put upon sometimes? I’m not complaining. I love to travel. To take a wee road trip or jump on a plane. And I’m lucky (lucky, lucky, lucky) that I find people who want to meet. But recently one amazing woman has made the trip to meet me. And is offering to do so again. And while it shouldn’t matter, at all, I was actually quite touched. It felt good." Maybe not a gender thing. Interesting to find out on this thread. Just sometimes irks me as feel like I'm driving over to go jump on his cock and he's just sitting there waiting but often find they won't do it back.
Now if a man doesn't drive and it's quite far fair enough. I'm cool with that. But when they have a car I just thing it's nice if its 50/50.
I haven't always encountered this but it's been common.
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"Vs a meet travelling to you? I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you. Why is that? It irks me a bit. " It’s not you it’s the town
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I think when you get to a certain age as a single guy with your place it’s just nicer and easier to have women come to stay with you or get away for a weekend in a nice hotel | |||
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"Just sometimes irks me as feel like I'm driving over to go jump on his cock and he's just sitting there waiting but often find they won't do it back.
Now if a man doesn't drive and it's quite far fair enough. I'm cool with that. But when they have a car I just think it's nice if its 50/50.
I haven't always encountered this but it's been common.
Can leave you feeling like you're not worth the effort. "Personally quite surprised that they will not travel to you - seems quite lazy.  | |||
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"Vs a meet travelling to you? I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you. Why is that? It irks me a bit. " Well they don't know where you live its a mystery but yes i always travel its the gentlemanly thing to do | |||
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"Vs a meet travelling to you? I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you. Why is that? It irks me a bit. It’s not you it’s the town
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I think when you get to a certain age as a single guy with your place it’s just nicer and easier to have women come to stay with you or get away for a weekend in a nice hotel "Oi don't slag this town off its OK you know. (she's says while trying to move out of town )
Do you ever think it might give off an expectation that they come to you? Almost like a 'if you want me you have to come to me'
And why is your place nicer? I'm curious why theirs wouldn't be. | |||
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"I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you. Why is that? It irks me a bit. I’ve felt that before - that I’m always the one doing all the travelling. Maybe it’s all in the eye of the beholder and it’s not a gender thing after all? Maybe we all end up feeling a little bit put upon sometimes? I’m not complaining. I love to travel. To take a wee road trip or jump on a plane. And I’m lucky (lucky, lucky, lucky) that I find people who want to meet. But recently one amazing woman has made the trip to meet me. And is offering to do so again. And while it shouldn’t matter, at all, I was actually quite touched. It felt good. Maybe not a gender thing. Interesting to find out on this thread. Just sometimes irks me as feel like I'm driving over to go jump on his cock and he's just sitting there waiting but often find they won't do it back.
Now if a man doesn't drive and it's quite far fair enough. I'm cool with that. But when they have a car I just thing it's nice if its 50/50.
I haven't always encountered this but it's been common.
Can leave you feeling like you're not worth the effort. "So in humble opinion, life is all about reciprocation, if I was feeling like I'm not worth the effort, then it's up to me to xhamge things, so that I do feel like I'm worth the effort....I only have power over the things that I do... | |||
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"Just sometimes irks me as feel like I'm driving over to go jump on his cock and he's just sitting there waiting but often find they won't do it back.
Now if a man doesn't drive and it's quite far fair enough. I'm cool with that. But when they have a car I just think it's nice if its 50/50.
I haven't always encountered this but it's been common.
Can leave you feeling like you're not worth the effort.
Personally quite surprised that they will not travel to you - seems quite lazy. "I had one guy I travelled to several times. He came here once. Then when I invited him again he blew me out saying it was too far and said I could go to him. I axed that playmate because of it. Can't people take it in turns and play fair | |||
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"And why is your place nicer? I'm curious why theirs wouldn't be. " Well it can't be his place in Nottingham, so i assume they like to go to Dubai for the shopping  | |||
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"I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you. Why is that? It irks me a bit. I’ve felt that before - that I’m always the one doing all the travelling. Maybe it’s all in the eye of the beholder and it’s not a gender thing after all? Maybe we all end up feeling a little bit put upon sometimes? I’m not complaining. I love to travel. To take a wee road trip or jump on a plane. And I’m lucky (lucky, lucky, lucky) that I find people who want to meet. But recently one amazing woman has made the trip to meet me. And is offering to do so again. And while it shouldn’t matter, at all, I was actually quite touched. It felt good. Maybe not a gender thing. Interesting to find out on this thread. Just sometimes irks me as feel like I'm driving over to go jump on his cock and he's just sitting there waiting but often find they won't do it back.
Now if a man doesn't drive and it's quite far fair enough. I'm cool with that. But when they have a car I just thing it's nice if its 50/50.
I haven't always encountered this but it's been common.
Can leave you feeling like you're not worth the effort.
So in humble opinion, life is all about reciprocation, if I was feeling like I'm not worth the effort, then it's up to me to xhamge things, so that I do feel like I'm worth the effort....I only have power over the things that I do..."Change it how? | |||
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"Usually been half way. I’ll travel an hour tops " I travel for how long is needed. | |||
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"And why is your place nicer? I'm curious why theirs wouldn't be. Well it can't be his place in Nottingham, so i assume they like to go to Dubai for the shopping " | |||
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"I had one guy I travelled to several times. He came here once. Then when I invited him again he blew me out saying it was too far and said I could go to him. I axed that playmate because of it. Can't people take it in turns and play fair "Well done on the axing (having watched Grace last night, wondering where you disposed of the body?) I was more than happy to go to my playmates, after all they were playing with me - and as one of my former colleagues said "you're never going to find two women who would be stupid enough to sleep with you" (slightly harsh, but...) | |||
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"And why is your place nicer? I'm curious why theirs wouldn't be. Well it can't be his place in Nottingham, so i assume they like to go to Dubai for the shopping "Dubai Huh  | |||
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"I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you. Why is that? It irks me a bit. I’ve felt that before - that I’m always the one doing all the travelling. Maybe it’s all in the eye of the beholder and it’s not a gender thing after all? Maybe we all end up feeling a little bit put upon sometimes? I’m not complaining. I love to travel. To take a wee road trip or jump on a plane. And I’m lucky (lucky, lucky, lucky) that I find people who want to meet. But recently one amazing woman has made the trip to meet me. And is offering to do so again. And while it shouldn’t matter, at all, I was actually quite touched. It felt good. Maybe not a gender thing. Interesting to find out on this thread. Just sometimes irks me as feel like I'm driving over to go jump on his cock and he's just sitting there waiting but often find they won't do it back.
Now if a man doesn't drive and it's quite far fair enough. I'm cool with that. But when they have a car I just thing it's nice if its 50/50.
I haven't always encountered this but it's been common.
Can leave you feeling like you're not worth the effort.
So in humble opinion, life is all about reciprocation, if I was feeling like I'm not worth the effort, then it's up to me to xhamge things, so that I do feel like I'm worth the effort....I only have power over the things that I do...
Change it how? "So this is only for me remember... so if I was feeling like I wasn't like I wasn't worth the effort, through meets or any area of my life...I'd have to look at why is that, what am I doing to facilitate how I'm feeling, am I put all thr effort in, am I jumping at there word etc...all that stuff... as what I've come to learn over the years, it's not actually what others do. It's the meaning I attach to what they do...so if I'm feeling a certain way, it's uo to me to accept thr responsibility of my feelings and put a diffrent course of action in so that I don't feel the same.... | |||
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"Meet guys who aren't so far away so it's less of an issue?" The age old thing of fab is the ones that match tend to be the other end of the country and just not doable. But even so, when you have preferences and kinks it's about who rather than where isnt it. I guess it depends on what you seek. I'll travel for the right person that matches what I'm after. I'm just curious I guess as to why others wouldn't do it back. Like going Dutch on socials. Meeting halfway etc. When it progresses to a stage where you continue to meet up surely sharing travel is a thing? | |||
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"Meet guys who aren't so far away so it's less of an issue? The age old thing of fab is the ones that match tend to be the other end of the country and just not doable. But even so, when you have preferences and kinks it's about who rather than where isnt it. I guess it depends on what you seek. I'll travel for the right person that matches what I'm after. ….." Can I copy this to my profile? | |||
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"I would happily travel if anyone actually asked me to meet "Cant believe people don't ask you,your pics are stunning | |||
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"Meet guys who aren't so far away so it's less of an issue? The age old thing of fab is the ones that match tend to be the other end of the country and just not doable. But even so, when you have preferences and kinks it's about who rather than where isnt it. I guess it depends on what you seek. I'll travel for the right person that matches what I'm after. ….. Can I copy this to my profile? " Of course. | |||
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"We always travel because we would never have anyone back to our place." I do at first but after establishing a good level of trust they'll get an invite to mine. Maybe by doing it at first I set an expectation without realising it. | |||
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"I don't mind traveling. I would feel bad if someone travelled far to see me incase I'm not what they expect! I once went to London on a whim though " • That would explain the amount of orphaned whims languishing in London.  | |||
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"Meet guys who aren't so far away so it's less of an issue? The age old thing of fab is the ones that match tend to be the other end of the country and just not doable. But even so, when you have preferences and kinks it's about who rather than where isnt it. I guess it depends on what you seek. I'll travel for the right person that matches what I'm after. I'm just curious I guess as to why others wouldn't do it back. Like going Dutch on socials. Meeting halfway etc. When it progresses to a stage where you continue to meet up surely sharing travel is a thing? " I wouldn't expect any kind of progression if the guy was a distance away. I guess for lots of people, distance and regularity are not easily managed bedfellows due to the other demands of life | |||
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"Meet guys who aren't so far away so it's less of an issue? The age old thing of fab is the ones that match tend to be the other end of the country and just not doable. But even so, when you have preferences and kinks it's about who rather than where isnt it. I guess it depends on what you seek. I'll travel for the right person that matches what I'm after. I'm just curious I guess as to why others wouldn't do it back. Like going Dutch on socials. Meeting halfway etc. When it progresses to a stage where you continue to meet up surely sharing travel is a thing? I wouldn't expect any kind of progression if the guy was a distance away. I guess for lots of people, distance and regularity are not easily managed bedfellows due to the other demands of life " Guess it also depends on how we all define progression. It could be someone you see every so many weeks or months and know it's that and only that. Yet you'll still meet up, hang out and end up naked and discover more about each other each time. Even if it's been weeks in between. | |||
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"I don't mind traveling. ... I once went to London on a whim though • That would explain the amount of orphaned whims languishing in London. "I think travelling on a whim is often cheaper than on a train, but then it is the question of when you get to the big smoke, where do you leave it, and how do you know it will still be there when you get back.  | |||
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"I don't mind traveling. ... I once went to London on a whim though • That would explain the amount of orphaned whims languishing in London.
I think travelling on a whim is often cheaper than on a train, but then it is the question of when you get to the big smoke, where do you leave it, and how do you know it will still be there when you get back.
"• Pilferers, squanderers and vagabonds exist wherever you go. A whim will find its sanctuary. Apologies OP, I didn't mean to de-rail your thread. Sometimes I get carried away on my own private Whimsical Express. | |||
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"Usually been half way. I’ll travel an hour tops " How often not how long. Do pay attention…. | |||
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"Usually been half way. I’ll travel an hour tops I travel for how long is needed. "I don’t | |||
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"Usually been half way. I’ll travel an hour tops How often not how long. Do pay attention…. "Oh! . Always then. Nobody comes to my house. | |||
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"Vs a meet travelling to you? I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you. Why is that? It irks me a bit. " If I was in a situation where we was to meet, I would always suggest a mutual distance depending on distance of course. Or I don’t mind travelling | |||
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"I would happily travel if anyone actually asked me to meet
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Oh don't tease a girl
Teasing is something that I’d rather do in person "I'd much rather you did it in person too | |||
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"I used to travel but not any more for various reasons. Most people will have experienced how traveling and distance can equate to expectation but it's usually in regard to the traveler having those expectations. My experience has been the reverse. I've driven 3½ hours each way to a meet only to be told afterwards that as I'd done it once there was nothing stopping me from doing it on a weekly basis. An attitude like that was one of the main barriers to repeating the trip. I'm not currently meeting and haven't met anyone new in 3 years but my policy is that anything more than an hour is an immediate no unless they are prepared to meet halfway. " Wow, being told that would have me axe them. And just stick with the better attitudes. | |||
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"I used to travel but not any more for various reasons. Most people will have experienced how traveling and distance can equate to expectation but it's usually in regard to the traveler having those expectations. My experience has been the reverse. I've driven 3½ hours each way to a meet only to be told afterwards that as I'd done it once there was nothing stopping me from doing it on a weekly basis. An attitude like that was one of the main barriers to repeating the trip. I'm not currently meeting and haven't met anyone new in 3 years but my policy is that anything more than an hour is an immediate no unless they are prepared to meet halfway. Wow, being told that would have me axe them. And just stick with the better attitudes. " I have no aversion to a little travel. Broadens the mind | |||
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"Usually been half way. I’ll travel an hour tops I travel for how long is needed.
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"Usually been half way. I’ll travel an hour tops I travel for how long is needed.
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Fair enough. "I wasn’t being rude there. That came across a bit abrupt | |||
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"I don't travel but I had soneone come from North Wales to meet me by public transport too for an hour and included a hotel stay. Wasn't a fan of that, was A LOT of pressure
I hope at least he did something fun in London the next day!"Exactly this... So much pressure, especially just for a social! | |||
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"Vs a meet travelling to you? I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you. Why is that? It irks me a bit. " I guess I have quite a traditional approach to this, insofar as I will always offer to do the bulk of travelling. If it’s a social, I find people are most receptive to somewhere neutral and equidistant, but that depends on where we both live, whether they drive or have trains/buses available etc. Being single, I can always accommodate so meets often end up being at my place. But I will always offer to travel because I want whoever I’m meeting to have the choice. I’d definitely feel guilty if I was never travelling, especially if it was a long way. | |||
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"I don't travel but I had soneone come from North Wales to meet me by public transport too for an hour and included a hotel stay. Wasn't a fan of that, was A LOT of pressure
I hope at least he did something fun in London the next day!
Exactly this... So much pressure, especially just for a social! "Constantly surprised by distances people are prepared to go though. I travelled 40 mins once that was enough! | |||
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"Vs a meet travelling to you? I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you. Why is that? It irks me a bit. " Maybe they just want to show you their extensive collection of human skin lampshades. And by "show you" I mean add you. Do you have tattoos? | |||
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