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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How do you feel about your forum usage?

Does it enhance your fabs experience?

Or do you wish you could stop using them…?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums make me laugh at times, infuriate me at times, sat on the naughty step at times, a mixed bag...thr forums pass a frw hours. Have met and talk to some great people who I more than likely would not have connected with otherwise..

I'd certainly get more work done if I put the forums down for a bit..

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

I enjoy the forums it definitely enhances my fab experience, I would one day like to meet a few forumites in the flesh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of people would prefer that I left

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I enjoy them! Like to get involved x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the forum. It’s a good distraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums are probably the part keeping me on the site thus far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m always on the forum, either reading what is going off in the world or spouting my own nonsense and hoping it sticks somewhere, it’s like I can gently let off steam by asking complete strangers about life’s inner workings, sooth my soul you all do :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a distraction.

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

Lots of good people here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a lot of people would prefer that I left "

I think a lot of people are confused by you to be honest. I know I am.

Is the grumpiness just a game? Are you actually looking for someone? I honestly can’t tell. Sometimes you are hilarious and other times I think if you’re that unhappy here…. Join mumsnet or something

Me being honest

I quite like you -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a lot of people would prefer that I left "

Also this is complete nonsense, wonko you need one of those special icons next to you like twitter blue tick to let everyone know you are lord of the fora

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london

To be honest I only really use the forum, it’s a great way to interact.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

If it wasn't for the forums I probably would have gotten bored and left ages ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're a good time killer when bored. Which is often.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

I'm a fan. I go through phases of posting more or less, but overall a big plus for me. Have definitely made some friends I wouldn't have otherwise (mainly as they'd never appear in local updates etc).

Have met a few and always love putting a face to their Forum personality!

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By *hatMinxOverThereWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way

I enjoy them a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it, in the past I've left it to F, most people have been warm and welcoming, although I'm yet to dish out my sarcasm, but it will come.

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

I love the forums it shows that there's a community on fab away from the nuisance messages we have to deal with.

There's none of that here

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

I enjoy them.

Which is just as well...

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

Peaks and troughs for me. Mostly enjoying them currently but can also go weeks without being interested in any threads

If it wasn’t for the forums I may have missed out on meeting some fantastic people and having some wonderful experiences

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I like the forum most of the time, good entertainment

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"I enjoy them a lot. "

Good to see you back minxy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy spending time here, using it for general chit chat and hopefully being a voice of reason when things gets heated. I probably do spend too much time here though

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

I seldom use them.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

I don’t use them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don’t use them "

Pants on fire

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

The forums and club events are the main reason we're here. I don't tend to venture out of the Lounge much though. It all gets a bit graphic for me in some of the other forums.

J

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By *ritishguyMan
over a year ago

chatburn

When bored or people like you don't let people with hidden pictures message I have a look. Shame I can't message you directly though xx

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By *hatMinxOverThereWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way


"I enjoy them a lot.

Good to see you back minxy"

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When bored or people like you don't let people with hidden pictures message I have a look. Shame I can't message you directly though xx"

If I had a profile of hidden photos, I doubt you’d have been interested…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you feel about your forum usage?

Does it enhance your fabs experience?

Or do you wish you could stop using them…?"

1 .Nope

2.tbh l pay the forums very little or no attention , they're just the same meat with different gravy , in other words the same questions or topics but by different people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How do you feel about your forum usage?

Does it enhance your fabs experience?

Or do you wish you could stop using them…?

1 .Nope

2.tbh l pay the forums very little or no attention , they're just the same meat with different gravy , in other words the same questions or topics but by different people."

And yet here you are. Interacting…

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'd probably not be on here if it were not for the forum. But I do have moments, or phases of disinterest or simple reminders why I do take breaks and why it's not the perfect place.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"When bored or people like you don't let people with hidden pictures message I have a look. Shame I can't message you directly though xx

If I had a profile of hidden photos, I doubt you’d have been interested…"

If I had a pound for every wink and message from blank profiles I have ignored I'd be able to buy a top of the range sex doll

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

They are the main reason I am online so much.

I don't know if that is always a positive!

I do have some lovely virtual friends and a few have become real ones, so on balance I am a fan xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you feel about your forum usage?

Does it enhance your fabs experience?

Or do you wish you could stop using them…?

1 .Nope

2.tbh l pay the forums very little or no attention , they're just the same meat with different gravy , in other words the same questions or topics but by different people.

And yet here you are. Interacting… "

There was a question that was asked so I gave my tuppence worth , that's all , it was a very good question, so take a bow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a few day hiatus and wasn't gonna come back but there's too many lovable people still here damn it amongst the odd ass

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Had a few day hiatus and wasn't gonna come back but there's too many lovable people still here damn it amongst the odd ass"

I knew you'd miss me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a few day hiatus and wasn't gonna come back but there's too many lovable people still here damn it amongst the odd ass

I knew you'd miss me "

Couldn't end on that tragic boing could I?

That would be like if batman didn't come back for Dark Knight Rises

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"amongst the odd ass"

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums amuse me. Or at least, I amuse myself on the forums.

Also, I get to do flirting at scale and distance

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

Not everyone is a pleasure to engage with....

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Mix of both lots of great people use them so carnt keep away

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Had a few day hiatus and wasn't gonna come back but there's too many lovable people still here damn it amongst the odd ass

I knew you'd miss me

Couldn't end on that tragic boing could I?

That would be like if batman didn't come back for Dark Knight Rises"

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

I've enjoyed the forums since I joined Fab. Made some wonderful friends too from them.

XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a lot of people would prefer that I left

I think a lot of people are confused by you to be honest. I know I am.

Is the grumpiness just a game? Are you actually looking for someone? I honestly can’t tell. Sometimes you are hilarious and other times I think if you’re that unhappy here…. Join mumsnet or something

Me being honest

I quite like you - "

I like to keep people guessing

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I enjoy the forums, I go through stages though sometimes I'm just not bothered and don't look, other times I enjoy it, we've met some great people through the forums.

Mrs

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By *illan-KillashMan
over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"How do you feel about your forum usage?

Does it enhance your fabs experience?

Or do you wish you could stop using them…?"

I've only recently joined Fab so my forum "contributions" are still quite lite.

Initially not much traction, less than I thought from the first thread I started. (Introductions)

I'm plugging away in the Lounge and appreciate it takes a while to be part of the furniture. This isn't my first Internet forum rodeo.

Avoiding Politics and Virus forums like my life depends on it. Them mofos are crae crae.

At least the Lounge seems (kinda) sane.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"How do you feel about your forum usage?

Does it enhance your fabs experience?

Or do you wish you could stop using them…?"

I go through phases with the forum. It pretty much is my fab experience now, and I've only met people I've interacted with on the forum really. So no locals... and local is pretty much 50 miles plus for here

I probably spend too much time on here sometimes, but then I can and do go months without logging in when I get irritated.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

They're the only part of the entire site that I actually use.

I don't message or search profiles and only come on to use the forums.

I log in a dozen times a day for 5 mins at a time so max an hour a day.

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By *ussexboxMan
over a year ago

Ferring

The forum is my main way of interacting with people and meeting as it is a better way of saying hello than my profile in a sea of available better looking and bigger membered males

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Enjoy forums its interesting and dispointing in what threads take off and others that don't those that

Ingnite so much passion and other that

Are simple fun. And mainly talking shite .

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

I the forum

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I like it. Made some good friends and good meets from it

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

They're an amusing way to pass the time when I'm at home

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

I post every now and again but the breaks from them are getting more attractive tbh

Marc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lot of ass kissing, and not the good kind.

It's interesting how much people give away about themselves though. Yes, I notice things.

I tend not to meet forum guys though, odd exceptions are occasionally made. Very occasionally.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.

I enjoy it. For all the occasional negativity that can happen, if I didn't enjoy it I wouldn't keep returning to them.

I find them fascinating in a busman's holiday sort of way as well.

But most importantly, I love the wonderful people it's brought into my life and continues to do so.

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By *red333Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

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By *red333Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"How do you feel about your forum usage?

Does it enhance your fabs experience?

Or do you wish you could stop using them…?"

its an extension of me doesn’t add or take away

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I don’t post or engage nearly as much as I used to.

It’s both encouraging and disheartening as to how short the collective forum memory is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you feel about your forum usage?

Does it enhance your fabs experience?

Or do you wish you could stop using them…?"

Feel quite good about usage

People are people made some good friends on hear gents as well as lady’s

No I like the forums a bit like life

Weird and wonderful

Sometimes down right ahhhh what’s the point it is what it is

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

Yea i enjoy it...often really entertaining. But also so much, how can i put it, 'brown nosing', ie the same people responding to the same people and up each others arses

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I wouldn’t be here much without the forums.

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By *hortarseWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk

I come and go on the forum's over the years.

Made few great friends that still see and speak to. Just not connected to anyone that's using the forum's at the moment.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I like the forums, part of the reason I stay. Had some lovely chats with people who I might not necessarily meet due to distance.

I think my first social was actually thanks to the forums.

I must say, they're a lot more pleasant in the last couple of days since the departure of a certain member(s).

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria


"How do you feel about your forum usage?

Does it enhance your fabs experience?

Or do you wish you could stop using them…?"

For some reason, I read that as: "How do you feel about your forum sausage?"

Weirdly, it doesn't alter my answer: Probably a bit too much and, whilst it almost stops coming on here being entirely fruitless, I'd like to use it more satisfyingly.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I very rarely post now as its the same topics hashed to death or more often than not, if an interesting one gets posted then it's derailed by inane comments that are irrelevant to the OP x

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I used to use the forums a lot. To the point where it almost felt like an adiction.

I've had quite a break from the forums and now I'm just dipping in and out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It makes no difference to me. (Male)

I suppose the people I do speak by the odd DM is exclusively on the forum, that might change.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Dear Rêd,

Occasionally I feel somewhat self-conscious about my 'fora omnipresence', and that I need to curb my schoolboy giddiness and enthusiasm.

However, I take much delight in interacting with those forumites with whom I've become acquainted, befriended and met in person. It was the Fab Forum that made it happen and "enhanced my fab experience".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest the forums are the main reason I log in

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Dear Rêd,

Occasionally I feel somewhat self-conscious about my 'fora omnipresence', and that I need to curb my schoolboy giddiness and enthusiasm.

However, I take much delight in interacting with those forumites with whom I've become acquainted, befriended and met in person. It was the Fab Forum that made it happen and "enhanced my fab experience"."

Your giddiness and enthusiasm is wonderful, Nero. Never lose that x

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

I really enjoy them, which was unexpected when I joined the site. They really let you connect better than just putting up a profile.

I may be a bit addicted.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

It really depends on the day, sometimes I have a lot of fun and feel engaged with the forum - other days I feel like there is no point it posting on a thread at all because of various reasons. It is pretty much like everyday life I just get to think about boobs and boing videos more

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"It makes no difference to me. (Male)

I suppose the people I do speak by the odd DM is exclusively on the forum, that might change. "

Woody did you have to re-define yourself as a male in this post?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the range of perspectives you find in the forums.

Sometimes I think wtf? and maybe that's enough internet for today.

Other times it's very entertaining.

usually it's somewhere in between.

I don't have any fab derived experiences, unless you count a couple of socials, so I only stay for the forums and the very few, but highly select, forumites that I chat to.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

There's some funny stories and confessions.

Gets tedious the endless couples moaning about*everyone

Guys moaning about everyone

Women moaning about couples

Rate my profile zzzzzzzxx

Who's got the biggest... whatever

I could go on.......

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I log into the forums more than I use any other aspect of the site. I enjoy them and reading people's views on subjects even when I don't agree with what is being said. I don't post as often as I used to anymore.

I have met people that I got chatting to because of their posts on here and I met my Fwb because of them as well.I do find them a handy way to see people's personality and whether or not I want to interact with them more outside of the forums.

They do seem to ebb and flow though and sometimes seem tedious with the same things being rehashed all the time on here. But I still find myself logging to have a look most days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s enhanced my fab adventure as people tend to be chatty and interactive and approachable …

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

I love it here. I think my favourite fabbers are those I’ve met via forums.

If I were to suddenly leave fab then I would genuinely struggle to leave the forum.

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree


"Dear Rêd,

Occasionally I feel somewhat self-conscious about my 'fora omnipresence', and that I need to curb my schoolboy giddiness and enthusiasm.

"

Don’t you dare!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to pop in and out of the forum's. Inked doesnt use them at all but i love a good chat

(Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the moment it's actually been nice to be back and be myself again. And be welcomed like I was by a few people and not have anything held against me. And have people genuinely pleased to reconnect.

I realised how I lost parts of me and that was a little saddening.

I felt like crap last week or so though so forum usage was quite high.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At the moment it's actually been nice to be back and be myself again. And be welcomed like I was by a few people and not have anything held against me. And have people genuinely pleased to reconnect.

I realised how I lost parts of me and that was a little saddening.

I felt like crap last week or so though so forum usage was quite high. "

I for one like having you here.

And the idea of you on my face but we will go one step at a time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It makes no difference to me. (Male)

I suppose the people I do speak by the odd DM is exclusively on the forum, that might change.

Woody did you have to re-define yourself as a male in this post? "

I might have to do that on my profile too. Just to make sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At the moment it's actually been nice to be back and be myself again. And be welcomed like I was by a few people and not have anything held against me. And have people genuinely pleased to reconnect.

I realised how I lost parts of me and that was a little saddening.

I felt like crap last week or so though so forum usage was quite high.

I for one like having you here.

And the idea of you on my face but we will go one step at a time"

What he said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve not long started using the forums but I enjoy them. I’ve met some lovely people from here who I speak to regularly. Although it can be quite a distraction sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At the moment it's actually been nice to be back and be myself again. And be welcomed like I was by a few people and not have anything held against me. And have people genuinely pleased to reconnect.

I realised how I lost parts of me and that was a little saddening.

I felt like crap last week or so though so forum usage was quite high. "

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"At the moment it's actually been nice to be back and be myself again. And be welcomed like I was by a few people and not have anything held against me. And have people genuinely pleased to reconnect.

I realised how I lost parts of me and that was a little saddening.

I felt like crap last week or so though so forum usage was quite high. "

I did tell you that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy the forums, I enjoy doing my own thing. I know I'm not popular because I say what I think but heck, that's me. Not here to be part of a popularity party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I enjoy the forums, I enjoy doing my own thing. I know I'm not popular because I say what I think but heck, that's me. Not here to be part of a popularity party "

Power to the people sister....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I enjoy the forums, I enjoy doing my own thing. I know I'm not popular because I say what I think but heck, that's me. Not here to be part of a popularity party

Power to the people sister...."

Power to me, fuck the people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I enjoy the forums, I enjoy doing my own thing. I know I'm not popular because I say what I think but heck, that's me. Not here to be part of a popularity party

Power to the people sister....

Power to me, fuck the people "

Thats the intention well some of the people not all the people

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South

I like the witty repartee that the forum brings

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"It makes no difference to me. (Male)

I suppose the people I do speak by the odd DM is exclusively on the forum, that might change.

Woody did you have to re-define yourself as a male in this post?

I might have to do that on my profile too. Just to make sure.

"

I’m pretty sure

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby

I love it and it's definitely enhanced my experience at a time I felt quite low at the lack of messages I used to receive. I've had chats with and met some amazing people off the back of them and even though I might not agree with everyone, the benefits of using them far outweigh the negatives. I could do with using them less during work though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you feel about your forum usage?

Does it enhance your fabs experience?

Or do you wish you could stop using them…?"

I'm ok with my usage. I can put my phone down and leave it for hours unless there's something that interests me, then I'll read a fair few threads.

It has enhanced my experience as I never used the forums til last year as I was nervous about coming across like a pleb til I read the comments and saw there's other plebs too! And some of the things....I laugh! I have to Google it! It's educational lol

I don't tend to get overly annoyed with certain threads however

I did just post, I wasn't nice, I feel awful being mean

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"I enjoy the forums, I enjoy doing my own thing. I know I'm not popular because I say what I think but heck, that's me. Not here to be part of a popularity party

Power to the people sister....

Power to me, fuck the people "

Weren't you part of queenies gang during that era?

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

I love the fora. I can't use them at work and am very rarely alone during the rest of the time, so I tend to rather binge when I can. But some of the most beautiful, fascinating, complex, human people I've ever known mingle here. It really is a forum in the original sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you feel about your forum usage?

Does it enhance your fabs experience?

Or do you wish you could stop using them…?"

For me the best part of the site on a few levels.

Quickly see if you have a similar mindset to someone you like

Wider access for people to see and learn about me

Fun

Addictive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I enjoy the forums, I enjoy doing my own thing. I know I'm not popular because I say what I think but heck, that's me. Not here to be part of a popularity party

Power to the people sister....

Power to me, fuck the people

Weren't you part of queenies gang during that era?"

Nope

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

trouble most likely, or creating it :)


"How do you feel about your forum usage?

Does it enhance your fabs experience?

Or do you wish you could stop using them…?"

its pretty much my reason for being here just now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I'm only here to use the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I enjoy the forums, I enjoy doing my own thing. I know I'm not popular because I say what I think but heck, that's me. Not here to be part of a popularity party

Power to the people sister....

Power to me, fuck the people

Weren't you part of queenies gang during that era?

Nope"

Decisive response if not a little direct lol

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By *eorge1949Man
over a year ago

BroadwayWR11

It makes me smile, the number of attention seekers in plain disguise!

It makes me smile, the number of PC people so far up their own orifice that all daylight and other points of view are excluded!

It makes me smile when someone tries to inject some much needed humour and others 'take offence'!

In the grand scheme of things it makes no difference anyway because nobody takes any notice of anything anyone says and in a day or two everything moves inexorably down the page and disappears into it's rightful place in oblivion so who really cares anyway?

That is just my own point of view, other perspectives are available - with or without irony - with or without being serious - with or without empathy!

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

I'm getting back into posting more after a while of not really bothering ( due to a few idiots )..

Glad I did too chatting to some more lovely peeps ..

On a whole if I hadn't found the forum all those years ago my life would be very very different now ..

Actually changed my life for the better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I enjoy the forums, I enjoy doing my own thing. I know I'm not popular because I say what I think but heck, that's me. Not here to be part of a popularity party

Power to the people sister....

Power to me, fuck the people

Weren't you part of queenies gang during that era?

Nope

Decisive response if not a little direct lol"

Problem with it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I enjoy the forums, I enjoy doing my own thing. I know I'm not popular because I say what I think but heck, that's me. Not here to be part of a popularity party

Power to the people sister....

Power to me, fuck the people "

You tryna fuck?

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"I'm a fan. I go through phases of posting more or less, but overall a big plus for me. Have definitely made some friends I wouldn't have otherwise (mainly as they'd never appear in local updates etc).

Have met a few and always love putting a face to their Forum personality!"

I get withdrawal symptoms when you haven't posted for a while, YOLO.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"Dear Rêd,

Occasionally I feel somewhat self-conscious about my 'fora omnipresence', and that I need to curb my schoolboy giddiness and enthusiasm.

Don’t you dare!!!!"

Noted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I enjoy the forums, I enjoy doing my own thing. I know I'm not popular because I say what I think but heck, that's me. Not here to be part of a popularity party

Power to the people sister....

Power to me, fuck the people

Weren't you part of queenies gang during that era?

Nope

Decisive response if not a little direct lol

Problem with it?"

Absolutely not the exact opposite in fact

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It makes me smile, the number of attention seekers in plain disguise!

It makes me smile, the number of PC people so far up their own orifice that all daylight and other points of view are excluded!

It makes me smile when someone tries to inject some much needed humour and others 'take offence'!

In the grand scheme of things it makes no difference anyway because nobody takes any notice of anything anyone says and in a day or two everything moves inexorably down the page and disappears into it's rightful place in oblivion so who really cares anyway?

That is just my own point of view, other perspectives are available - with or without irony - with or without being serious - with or without empathy!"

Alright, thanks George

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't contribute anywhere near as much as I used to

They keep me amused though

I don't use them for meets though I have met a few forumites socially

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

i like the forums sometimes can get a little heated most of the times its good fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I enjoy the forums, I enjoy doing my own thing. I know I'm not popular because I say what I think but heck, that's me. Not here to be part of a popularity party

Power to the people sister....

Power to me, fuck the people

You tryna fuck? "

Always boss, always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I enjoy the forums, I enjoy doing my own thing. I know I'm not popular because I say what I think but heck, that's me. Not here to be part of a popularity party

Power to the people sister....

Power to me, fuck the people

Weren't you part of queenies gang during that era?

Nope

Decisive response if not a little direct lol

Problem with it?

Absolutely not the exact opposite in fact"

Thank you

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

They are good fun on the whole and sometimes uou even learn a lot. Totally not keen when people take things too far, make things too personal or become abusive to others. Also not keen on comments based solely on political dogma (of any persuasion) rather than fact, common sense or even just human kindness and understanding for mankind .

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By *eorge1949Man
over a year ago

BroadwayWR11


"

Alright, thanks George

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You're very welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined Fab I didn't go on the forums at all. But I've found that they are a really good way of finding your people here - I've made a number of friends because we've commented on the same topics and realised we had a lot in common. So the forums have definitely enhanced my Fab experience, without question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I enjoy the forums, I enjoy doing my own thing. I know I'm not popular because I say what I think but heck, that's me. Not here to be part of a popularity party

Power to the people sister....

Power to me, fuck the people

You tryna fuck?

Always boss, always "

Cool cool

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I read them when I am bored.

I have learned many things from the forums in years gone by, many things having nothing to do with sex, but nowadays it’s just dozens and dozens of threads that have no sense of substance started by the same 5 people or so.

Almost makes me miss the clique creating threads and kissing each others’ arses. Almost.

*yawn* I also have TikTok to fight boredom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If not wasn't for the forums I probably wouldn't use fab

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby


"I read them when I am bored.

I have learned many things from the forums in years gone by, many things having nothing to do with sex, but nowadays it’s just dozens and dozens of threads that have no sense of substance started by the same 5 people or so.

Almost makes me miss the clique creating threads and kissing each others’ arses. Almost.

*yawn* I also have TikTok to fight boredom "

Why does everything need to have sense or substance? What's wrong with people getting caught up in a fun or random thread that takes away how shit the world is for a little while?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I read them when I am bored.

I have learned many things from the forums in years gone by, many things having nothing to do with sex, but nowadays it’s just dozens and dozens of threads that have no sense of substance started by the same 5 people or so.

Almost makes me miss the clique creating threads and kissing each others’ arses. Almost.

*yawn* I also have TikTok to fight boredom

Why does everything need to have sense or substance? What's wrong with people getting caught up in a fun or random thread that takes away how shit the world is for a little while?"

Isn’t that what fabs is, after all…? Escapism.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

Mostly fun - hopefully I don’t spoil it for others with my comedy gold!!

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"I read them when I am bored.

I have learned many things from the forums in years gone by, many things having nothing to do with sex, but nowadays it’s just dozens and dozens of threads that have no sense of substance started by the same 5 people or so.

Almost makes me miss the clique creating threads and kissing each others’ arses. Almost.

*yawn* I also have TikTok to fight boredom "

I kinda get what you mean but it’s easy enough to bypass those threads and there’s usually a couple of interesting or thought provoking ones if you dig a bit.

I don’t have any other social media or a television but I do listen to the wireless a lot and the forums are handy to dabble in whilst doing so.

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

The forums are the only part of the site I currently use at all. They provide a bit of light relief and human interaction at times when I am bored of my own company and all other social media has to offer is pictures of what people had for dinner.

K

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"...I kinda get what you mean but it’s easy enough to bypass those threads and there’s usually a couple of interesting or thought provoking ones if you dig a bit."

That's easier said than done.

There are an inordinate amount of hackneyed topics that are indeed worth staying clear of, in addition to avoiding the architects of those topics, who thrive by ejaculating their banality and smegma all over the fora every other hour on the hour.

Personally, there's only so much I can take of: wet finger in my bum; rate my cock; what's the temperature in your armpit; taste my semen; which famous meteorologist would you like to fuck?; fingernail Friday; sniff my knickers whilst chatting to my mother in law; lick my exhaust pipe whilst I whistle to Rule Britannia... ...

The worse part is that they get spewed all over the Lounge where, instead, they should be under the Swingers section. I mean, can you imagine me talking about chess clubs and embroidery in the Swingers section? I would be ejected from there in no time.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I can take or leave the forums. The site and the forums are two separate things. Sometimes they are good but it is not really what the site is about for me and there are too many copy cat style threads now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined about 2 months ago they seemed fresh and quite interesting / invigorating.

Roll forward a couple of months and I just find them quite boring now. It seems to be, mostly, the same old threads being regurgitated periodically or nonsense threads.

I’m not saying they are all bad. Indeed I am sure many enjoy them and find them fulfilling. Just for me I am using them less and less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At the moment it's actually been nice to be back and be myself again. And be welcomed like I was by a few people and not have anything held against me. And have people genuinely pleased to reconnect.

I realised how I lost parts of me and that was a little saddening.

I felt like crap last week or so though so forum usage was quite high.

I for one like having you here.

And the idea of you on my face but we will go one step at a time

What he said."

It's much better when you say it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At the moment it's actually been nice to be back and be myself again. And be welcomed like I was by a few people and not have anything held against me. And have people genuinely pleased to reconnect.

I realised how I lost parts of me and that was a little saddening.

I felt like crap last week or so though so forum usage was quite high.

I did tell you that"

Yes you did.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"...I kinda get what you mean but it’s easy enough to bypass those threads and there’s usually a couple of interesting or thought provoking ones if you dig a bit.

That's easier said than done.

There are an inordinate amount of hackneyed topics that are indeed worth staying clear of, in addition to avoiding the architects of those topics, who thrive by ejaculating their banality and smegma all over the fora every other hour on the hour.

Personally, there's only so much I can take of: wet finger in my bum; rate my cock; what's the temperature in your armpit; taste my semen; which famous meteorologist would you like to fuck?; fingernail Friday; sniff my knickers whilst chatting to my mother in law; lick my exhaust pipe whilst I whistle to Rule Britannia... ...

The worse part is that they get spewed all over the Lounge where, instead, they should be under the Swingers section. I mean, can you imagine me talking about chess clubs and embroidery in the Swingers section? I would be ejected from there in no time."

I can’t disagree with your observations, there are certain threads/OP’s that I bypass.

When I can’t see anything worth getting into I just take the opportunity to logout.

I am guilty myself of making some fairly puerile comments on what are otherwise serious/sensible threads so I can’t throw too many stones

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"...I kinda get what you mean but it’s easy enough to bypass those threads and there’s usually a couple of interesting or thought provoking ones if you dig a bit.

That's easier said than done.

There are an inordinate amount of hackneyed topics that are indeed worth staying clear of, in addition to avoiding the architects of those topics, who thrive by ejaculating their banality and smegma all over the fora every other hour on the hour.

Personally, there's only so much I can take of: wet finger in my bum; rate my cock; what's the temperature in your armpit; taste my semen; which famous meteorologist would you like to fuck?; fingernail Friday; sniff my knickers whilst chatting to my mother in law; lick my exhaust pipe whilst I whistle to Rule Britannia... ...

The worse part is that they get spewed all over the Lounge where, instead, they should be under the Swingers section. I mean, can you imagine me talking about chess clubs and embroidery in the Swingers section? I would be ejected from there in no time."

You’re just here for JJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At the moment it's actually been nice to be back and be myself again. And be welcomed like I was by a few people and not have anything held against me. And have people genuinely pleased to reconnect.

I realised how I lost parts of me and that was a little saddening.

I felt like crap last week or so though so forum usage was quite high.

I for one like having you here.

And the idea of you on my face but we will go one step at a time

What he said.

It's much better when you say it. "

Ouchhhhhh

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By *rtic explorerMan
over a year ago

ring road bristol

I dabble on it. If it was a little more user drive and you could follow threads you had an interest in, I might use it more

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London


"Dear Rêd,

Occasionally I feel somewhat self-conscious about my 'fora omnipresence', and that I need to curb my schoolboy giddiness and enthusiasm.

However, I take much delight in interacting with those forumites with whom I've become acquainted, befriended and met in person. It was the Fab Forum that made it happen and "enhanced my fab experience".

Your giddiness and enthusiasm is wonderful, Nero. Never lose that x"

I agree with Red, Nero!

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By *osey WalesMan
over a year ago

Surrey

The forums, in general are a great read. If only I could muster the courage to contribute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The forums, in general are a great read. If only I could muster the courage to contribute "

Ah just do it! The worst that can happen is people have their cyber pitchforks and get you blocked and banned by telling teacher!

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I like to input into the forums most days. Great place to share thoughts, ideas and humour.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I find them fun. Although the swingers forum is mostly men wanting men, and I feel the virus forum has run its course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they could be more inclusive

What I see a lot of is banter between established users and pointed responses i.e. only really interacting with those we might be interested in meeting

I understand this and I 'get it'

However, having been here 10 years+ now and left and re-joined more times than I care to mention, this time round, the insular nature of the forums seems notably starker than I remember

I'm not finger pointing, I'm not calling 'clique', but I do think that they can appear a little unfriendly

I don't mean unfriendly as in nasty or rude, but I feel a lot of contributions get lost or ignored and that, in itself, can come across as hostile over a period of time

I think it definitely helps if you have tits and a fanny.

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By *valanche1001Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I enjoy the forums more than most aspects of the site these days. I get a damn sight more interaction than just messaging folks.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I’m ok with with it, it’s 95% nonsense but the 5% is worth it. It’s a good filter / block tool. Around half my fab meets cone through through so yes it enhances.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"I think they could be more inclusive

What I see a lot of is banter between established users and pointed responses i.e. only really interacting with those we might be interested in meeting

I understand this and I 'get it'

However, having been here 10 years+ now and left and re-joined more times than I care to mention, this time round, the insular nature of the forums seems notably starker than I remember

I'm not finger pointing, I'm not calling 'clique', but I do think that they can appear a little unfriendly

I don't mean unfriendly as in nasty or rude, but I feel a lot of contributions get lost or ignored and that, in itself, can come across as hostile over a period of time

I think it definitely helps if you have tits and a fanny. "

Yeah you definitely get more post replies if you're a sexy female.

If you're not a female you just have to get stuck in I think. People who jive with your outlook will take notice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think they could be more inclusive

What I see a lot of is banter between established users and pointed responses i.e. only really interacting with those we might be interested in meeting

I understand this and I 'get it'

However, having been here 10 years+ now and left and re-joined more times than I care to mention, this time round, the insular nature of the forums seems notably starker than I remember

I'm not finger pointing, I'm not calling 'clique', but I do think that they can appear a little unfriendly

I don't mean unfriendly as in nasty or rude, but I feel a lot of contributions get lost or ignored and that, in itself, can come across as hostile over a period of time

I think it definitely helps if you have tits and a fanny. "

How do you think the 'established users' became established? they put the effort in to reply to one another, then someone posted on their post, then someone posted on their post and so on and so on. Sometimes comments are missed, sometimes you can comment and five posts later a more 'established user' will say the exact same thing and you think you were ignored, but it's not done on purpose or malicious and a light hearted call out of 'i said it first lol' brings you into the thread. The only way to have some fun or discussion is to join in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think they could be more inclusive

What I see a lot of is banter between established users and pointed responses i.e. only really interacting with those we might be interested in meeting

I understand this and I 'get it'

However, having been here 10 years+ now and left and re-joined more times than I care to mention, this time round, the insular nature of the forums seems notably starker than I remember

I'm not finger pointing, I'm not calling 'clique', but I do think that they can appear a little unfriendly

I don't mean unfriendly as in nasty or rude, but I feel a lot of contributions get lost or ignored and that, in itself, can come across as hostile over a period of time

I think it definitely helps if you have tits and a fanny.

How do you think the 'established users' became established? they put the effort in to reply to one another, then someone posted on their post, then someone posted on their post and so on and so on. Sometimes comments are missed, sometimes you can comment and five posts later a more 'established user' will say the exact same thing and you think you were ignored, but it's not done on purpose or malicious and a light hearted call out of 'i said it first lol' brings you into the thread. The only way to have some fun or discussion is to join in! "

As I said, I'm not new here

Previously, I have experienced more of a community / friendly welcome and experience

I don't feel it this time round

It is interesting that after a couple of months here, it has taken a potentially contentious comment to receive even an acknowledgement of existence by more than one person

That, in itself, is telling

Being ignored is tiresome

I guess I am projecting that feeling onto other blokes that might give the forums a chance, only to be persistantly ignored and go back to general site usage

As I said, it is wearing

I haven't been here a week

I'm not using the forum to get laid

I'm using them to converse

When the conversation is one way, it becomes a pointless exercise

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"I think they could be more inclusive

What I see a lot of is banter between established users and pointed responses i.e. only really interacting with those we might be interested in meeting

I understand this and I 'get it'

However, having been here 10 years+ now and left and re-joined more times than I care to mention, this time round, the insular nature of the forums seems notably starker than I remember

I'm not finger pointing, I'm not calling 'clique', but I do think that they can appear a little unfriendly

I don't mean unfriendly as in nasty or rude, but I feel a lot of contributions get lost or ignored and that, in itself, can come across as hostile over a period of time

I think it definitely helps if you have tits and a fanny.

How do you think the 'established users' became established? they put the effort in to reply to one another, then someone posted on their post, then someone posted on their post and so on and so on. Sometimes comments are missed, sometimes you can comment and five posts later a more 'established user' will say the exact same thing and you think you were ignored, but it's not done on purpose or malicious and a light hearted call out of 'i said it first lol' brings you into the thread. The only way to have some fun or discussion is to join in! "

I have to disagree to some extent. This is my fourth profile in six years but the first in which I've posted on the forums and have done for more than 3 years.

I started by posting only in the Irish forum and it took a few months before anyone acknowledged any comments I made.

Buoyed by that I decided to post in the lounge. I stuck to my guns and posted on 6 or 8 threads a day for 18 months before a single word I said was acknowledged.

That was because there was a very obvious "crew" at the time, thankfully most of whom are no longer here.

It wasn't a perception on my part that people were deliberately being ignored because one of the "ladies" made the odd snide comment along the lines of "did someone hear that?", "What was that noise?", "I think there's a mouse squeaking in here".

Stupid inane comments that did nothing to encourage newbies to get involved.

Then there were established forum celebs who are called out in every obituary thread when someone asks who we miss most on the forums.

Some of those didn't take kindly to other guys starting fun and original threads.

I can think of at least a dozen threads that I've started over the years that gained no traction at all with less than 10 replies and within an hour of posting one of the celebs had created an identical thread to which all the usual suspects came out in support.

I wasn't surprised but when they started posting similar threads in the Irish forum where they had never been before it was pretty obvious they were huffing and measuring their dick.

The forums are inclusive up to a point but they can also be very exclusive both in the minds of those who are deliberately excluding and the minds of those being ignored.

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By *illan-KillashMan
over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"I think they could be more inclusive

What I see a lot of is banter between established users and pointed responses i.e. only really interacting with those we might be interested in meeting

I understand this and I 'get it'

However, having been here 10 years+ now and left and re-joined more times than I care to mention, this time round, the insular nature of the forums seems notably starker than I remember

I'm not finger pointing, I'm not calling 'clique', but I do think that they can appear a little unfriendly

I don't mean unfriendly as in nasty or rude, but I feel a lot of contributions get lost or ignored and that, in itself, can come across as hostile over a period of time

I think it definitely helps if you have tits and a fanny.

How do you think the 'established users' became established? they put the effort in to reply to one another, then someone posted on their post, then someone posted on their post and so on and so on. Sometimes comments are missed, sometimes you can comment and five posts later a more 'established user' will say the exact same thing and you think you were ignored, but it's not done on purpose or malicious and a light hearted call out of 'i said it first lol' brings you into the thread. The only way to have some fun or discussion is to join in!

As I said, I'm not new here

Previously, I have experienced more of a community / friendly welcome and experience

I don't feel it this time round

It is interesting that after a couple of months here, it has taken a potentially contentious comment to receive even an acknowledgement of existence by more than one person

That, in itself, is telling

Being ignored is tiresome

I guess I am projecting that feeling onto other blokes that might give the forums a chance, only to be persistantly ignored and go back to general site usage

As I said, it is wearing

I haven't been here a week

I'm not using the forum to get laid

I'm using them to converse

When the conversation is one way, it becomes a pointless exercise

"

I'm new to the Fora, so I can't attest to the past.

But I can definitely see where you're coming from.

Forums in general are hard to break into as a newbie. I'd love to get more involved and appreciate the only way to do that is be more involved.

At the moment, I don't have the time for the level of input that's required. I understand the dynamic, forums aren't new to me. But can see how someone new to forums might feel.

Maybe if I thought back to my first venture into forums I probably felt the same, an ignored newbie, looking in at the cool kids and being invisible.

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle somewhere


"How do you feel about your forum usage?

Does it enhance your fabs experience?

Or do you wish you could stop using them…?"

I only use the forums on fab but I have cut back on my usage of them recently due to being busy.

They can be fun sometimes and not so fun at other times. If it’s not fun I take a break

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
over a year ago

your head

I use them at the moment as something to do and read while I have the time. I go through phases of being on and off here. There can be some fantastic discussions on here but there used to be more. I miss those. My usage doesn't bother me, when I'm bored, I'll stop.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

“It wasn't a perception on my part that people were deliberately being ignored because one of the "ladies" made the odd snide comment along the lines of "did someone hear that?", "What was that noise?", "I think there's a mouse squeaking in here".

Wow, RB! That sounds fucking awful. I’m surprised you stuck around if that’s the way people behaved. I wouldn’t have.

I’ve only been a forum poster for around 6 months but have found them very welcoming and fortunately not seen any of that cuntish behaviour.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"“It wasn't a perception on my part that people were deliberately being ignored because one of the "ladies" made the odd snide comment along the lines of "did someone hear that?", "What was that noise?", "I think there's a mouse squeaking in here".

Wow, RB! That sounds fucking awful. I’m surprised you stuck around if that’s the way people behaved. I wouldn’t have.

I’ve only been a forum poster for around 6 months but have found them very welcoming and fortunately not seen any of that cuntish behaviour."

I've said it numerous times before that if I was getting a similar response in the Irish forum I would have given up completely but there was such a contrast I could see that it wasn't me or my comments that were the issue so I said fuck it, I'm going to keep posting even if it's just to piss some people off.

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By *illan-KillashMan
over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"I think they could be more inclusive

What I see a lot of is banter between established users and pointed responses i.e. only really interacting with those we might be interested in meeting

I understand this and I 'get it'

However, having been here 10 years+ now and left and re-joined more times than I care to mention, this time round, the insular nature of the forums seems notably starker than I remember

I'm not finger pointing, I'm not calling 'clique', but I do think that they can appear a little unfriendly

I don't mean unfriendly as in nasty or rude, but I feel a lot of contributions get lost or ignored and that, in itself, can come across as hostile over a period of time

I think it definitely helps if you have tits and a fanny.

How do you think the 'established users' became established? they put the effort in to reply to one another, then someone posted on their post, then someone posted on their post and so on and so on. Sometimes comments are missed, sometimes you can comment and five posts later a more 'established user' will say the exact same thing and you think you were ignored, but it's not done on purpose or malicious and a light hearted call out of 'i said it first lol' brings you into the thread. The only way to have some fun or discussion is to join in!

I have to disagree to some extent. This is my fourth profile in six years but the first in which I've posted on the forums and have done for more than 3 years.

I started by posting only in the Irish forum and it took a few months before anyone acknowledged any comments I made.

Buoyed by that I decided to post in the lounge. I stuck to my guns and posted on 6 or 8 threads a day for 18 months before a single word I said was acknowledged.

That was because there was a very obvious "crew" at the time, thankfully most of whom are no longer here.

It wasn't a perception on my part that people were deliberately being ignored because one of the "ladies" made the odd snide comment along the lines of "did someone hear that?", "What was that noise?", "I think there's a mouse squeaking in here".

Stupid inane comments that did nothing to encourage newbies to get involved.

Then there were established forum celebs who are called out in every obituary thread when someone asks who we miss most on the forums.

Some of those didn't take kindly to other guys starting fun and original threads.

I can think of at least a dozen threads that I've started over the years that gained no traction at all with less than 10 replies and within an hour of posting one of the celebs had created an identical thread to which all the usual suspects came out in support.

I wasn't surprised but when they started posting similar threads in the Irish forum where they had never been before it was pretty obvious they were huffing and measuring their dick.

The forums are inclusive up to a point but they can also be very exclusive both in the minds of those who are deliberately excluding and the minds of those being ignored."

The best advice I've seen on an Internet forum was "don't be a cunt". Seems some people didn't get that memo.

Snide comments like that are often fobbed of as "banter". Yup. Absolutely fucking hilarious. Not.

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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago

Fairytale Wood

If I'm on, more likely to be in chat. But i do scan forums occasionally and if there is a thread that interests me, i have a read maybe comment if i think i have something of value to contribute. Mostly i don't give them much heed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They can sometimes be entertaining and always eye-opening as to what people are really like, regardless of what is claimed on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think they could be more inclusive

What I see a lot of is banter between established users and pointed responses i.e. only really interacting with those we might be interested in meeting

I understand this and I 'get it'

However, having been here 10 years+ now and left and re-joined more times than I care to mention, this time round, the insular nature of the forums seems notably starker than I remember

I'm not finger pointing, I'm not calling 'clique', but I do think that they can appear a little unfriendly

I don't mean unfriendly as in nasty or rude, but I feel a lot of contributions get lost or ignored and that, in itself, can come across as hostile over a period of time

I think it definitely helps if you have tits and a fanny.

How do you think the 'established users' became established? they put the effort in to reply to one another, then someone posted on their post, then someone posted on their post and so on and so on. Sometimes comments are missed, sometimes you can comment and five posts later a more 'established user' will say the exact same thing and you think you were ignored, but it's not done on purpose or malicious and a light hearted call out of 'i said it first lol' brings you into the thread. The only way to have some fun or discussion is to join in!

I have to disagree to some extent. This is my fourth profile in six years but the first in which I've posted on the forums and have done for more than 3 years.

I started by posting only in the Irish forum and it took a few months before anyone acknowledged any comments I made.

Buoyed by that I decided to post in the lounge. I stuck to my guns and posted on 6 or 8 threads a day for 18 months before a single word I said was acknowledged.

That was because there was a very obvious "crew" at the time, thankfully most of whom are no longer here.

It wasn't a perception on my part that people were deliberately being ignored because one of the "ladies" made the odd snide comment along the lines of "did someone hear that?", "What was that noise?", "I think there's a mouse squeaking in here".

Stupid inane comments that did nothing to encourage newbies to get involved.

Then there were established forum celebs who are called out in every obituary thread when someone asks who we miss most on the forums.

Some of those didn't take kindly to other guys starting fun and original threads.

I can think of at least a dozen threads that I've started over the years that gained no traction at all with less than 10 replies and within an hour of posting one of the celebs had created an identical thread to which all the usual suspects came out in support.

I wasn't surprised but when they started posting similar threads in the Irish forum where they had never been before it was pretty obvious they were huffing and measuring their dick.

The forums are inclusive up to a point but they can also be very exclusive both in the minds of those who are deliberately excluding and the minds of those being ignored."

Nail on the head springs to mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think they could be more inclusive

What I see a lot of is banter between established users and pointed responses i.e. only really interacting with those we might be interested in meeting

I understand this and I 'get it'

However, having been here 10 years+ now and left and re-joined more times than I care to mention, this time round, the insular nature of the forums seems notably starker than I remember

I'm not finger pointing, I'm not calling 'clique', but I do think that they can appear a little unfriendly

I don't mean unfriendly as in nasty or rude, but I feel a lot of contributions get lost or ignored and that, in itself, can come across as hostile over a period of time

I think it definitely helps if you have tits and a fanny.

How do you think the 'established users' became established? they put the effort in to reply to one another, then someone posted on their post, then someone posted on their post and so on and so on. Sometimes comments are missed, sometimes you can comment and five posts later a more 'established user' will say the exact same thing and you think you were ignored, but it's not done on purpose or malicious and a light hearted call out of 'i said it first lol' brings you into the thread. The only way to have some fun or discussion is to join in!

As I said, I'm not new here

Previously, I have experienced more of a community / friendly welcome and experience

I don't feel it this time round

It is interesting that after a couple of months here, it has taken a potentially contentious comment to receive even an acknowledgement of existence by more than one person

That, in itself, is telling

Being ignored is tiresome

I guess I am projecting that feeling onto other blokes that might give the forums a chance, only to be persistantly ignored and go back to general site usage

As I said, it is wearing

I haven't been here a week

I'm not using the forum to get laid

I'm using them to converse

When the conversation is one way, it becomes a pointless exercise

"

I'm not new to the site, 3 profiles in 8 years but the forums I've only been posting for about 8 months because I felt I wasn't cool enough so i never tried so i do understand where you are coming from, i can only say from my experience. and you wrote

"It is interesting that after a couple of months here, it has taken a potentially contentious comment to receive even an acknowledgement of existence by more than one person"

I don't have a clue what that means lol I am a 5 year old and need things simplified lol

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

If it wasn’t for’um I wouldn’t come back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you feel about your forum usage?

Does it enhance your fabs experience?

Or do you wish you could stop using them…?"

You were correct with what you said .. you you were

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it wasn’t for’um I wouldn’t come back."

Same for me ...

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

We like them.

It's also a good insight into people's personalities.

Mr M can be an antagonist at times but then he does like a good wind-up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How do you feel about your forum usage?

Does it enhance your fabs experience?

Or do you wish you could stop using them…?

You were correct with what you said .. you you were "

Ok. Excellent.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"If it wasn’t for’um I wouldn’t come back."

We don't deserve you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it wasn’t for’um I wouldn’t come back."

If it wasn’t for’me….I wouldn’t log in either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Let’s just tip this over into closed

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"Let’s just tip this over into closed"

What, now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let’s just tip this over into closed

What, now?"

I work for tips.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who's going to have the last word??

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8


"Let’s just tip this over into closed"

Oh, go on then

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I dunno, seems a little... Clique™-y in here.

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just click reply

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